ALL RAGE QUIT & KICKED OUT?! HATER Came To DESTROY Brian?! HØE PHASE = GOOD?! | Dating Talk 287
Date: 2026-03-23
Duration: 9h 38m
Guests
Brian AtlasIdentified Speakers
SPEAKER_02Julia(guest)
SPEAKER_04Lindsey(guest)
SPEAKER_05Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_07Laetitia(guest)
SPEAKER_08Chris Love(guest)
SPEAKER_09Maria(guest)
SPEAKER_10Lexi(guest)
SPEAKER_11Veronica(guest)
SPEAKER_12Brooklyn(guest)
Key Moments
00:00:11
IntroAll guests introduce themselves. Lexi reveals findom operation with male manager.
01:35:00
Key MomentBrian: do sex workers deserve chivalry? Sparks central debate.
02:14:00
QuoteBrian: 'Women do jack s---. YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING.' on what women bring to dating.
03:17:40
Key MomentMaria drove across states to cheat, turned around at 'Don't commit adultery' billboard
03:43:00
ControversyBrian tells Maria's boyfriend Luke he should dump her
06:47:00
ControversyVeronica cries and rage quits during weight rejection debate
06:51:00
ControversyLindsey confronts Brian and is kicked off - second rage quit
07:08:00
Key MomentJulia's toxic ex: flew out another girl, got her Korean name tattooed on his ribs
08:16:00
Key MomentLaetitia discusses sex addiction history and 3-year celibacy journey
08:47:00
OtherChris Love can't name Canada, continents, or what a nickel is worth in trivia
Topics Discussed
00:00:11
Guest Introductions and Findom
Lexi (18) does findom with male manager making $10K/mo. Brian questions whether it constitutes fraud/sex work.
00:48:40
Relationship Status Round
Chris Love has 12-13 man roster, 5 dates/week, fake boyfriend arrangement. Maria 12 years with Luke. Laetitia divorced, celibate.
01:35:00
Chivalry for Non-Traditional Women
Brian argues sex workers don't deserve chivalry. Women can't articulate what they uniquely bring to dating.
03:15:00
Maria's Heroin Addiction
10-year heroin addiction. Nearly cheated driving across states. Turned around at 'Don't commit adultery' billboard.
04:04:00
Self-Ratings and Looks
Several rate themselves 10. Brian gives 4-6.5 ratings.
04:16:00
Julia's Racial Dating Preferences
Julia (Korean-American) not attracted to Asian men, prefers white men.
05:13:00
Minimum Income Requirements
Lexi $120K. Chris Love $400K-$20M. Maria $50K. Lindsey 'I don't know.'
06:35:00
Weight Rejection Debate / Rage Quits
Veronica cries and rage quits. Lindsey confronts Brian and also rage quits/kicked off. Two walkoffs.
07:08:00
Julia's Toxic Ex Story
Ex flew out another girl day Julia moved in. Got other girl's Korean name tattooed on his ribs.
07:14:00
Hoe Phase Debate
Julia argues hoe phase can be empowering. Laetitia says her promiscuous past wasn't actually empowering.
08:16:00
Laetitia's Self-Improvement Journey
Former sex addict, celibate years working on herself. 'Married herself' 3 years ago.
08:47:00
Rapid Fire Trivia
Chris Love can't name Canada as country north of US. Brooklyn excels.
Transcript
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02:57:45
LaetitiaThat's on women. Not going to lie. And wouldn't that be like more of a conversation and be like because I like I understand that there is a leader, there is followers. I totally get that and I totally like I understand, but
02:57:59
Laetitia>> There is no conversation. >> No, but No, no, no. I'm not saying conversation to agree. I'm just saying like just because as a partner, like for example, marriage is going to be the first step. Well, when you date at first, you don't know what you think
02:58:11
Laetitiaabout marriage. So, later on in the relationship, you're going to start talking about marriage. And then at that moment, it's like, yes, I want to follow, but I also want the discussion to be able to be open to that. And then, okay, we're going to
02:58:23
Laetitiahave kids. Okay, sweet. So, how do you see the future with kids? How do you see school or not? Clearly, yeah, home school is the solution, like, for sure. but it's just all of that shouldn't be a black and
02:58:35
Laetitiawhite again from the husband. It's like, "Well, I don't mind you putting it on the table, but I do mind you not even listening to my answer." And it's like if we disagree, then yes, we need to
02:58:45
Brian Atlassplit. And if we don't if we agree, then cool, let's go for it. Like So, I'm fine with there being an initial conversation. I think in a tiebreaker
02:58:55
Brian Atlassituation where she disagrees, I disagree, I think the man has final say. Okay. Well, do you mean like surgery or like you're saying you wouldn't even want them dressing up as a boy?
02:59:05
Brian Atlas>> socially transition. They can't dress up like a kid. They can't go on puberty blockers. They can't get surgeries, gender-affirming care. None of that. >> like tomboys? Like sometimes
02:59:17
Brian Atlas>> That's different. I mean, yeah, okay, you've got a daughter and she masculine kind of dressing. I mean I mean, I was a tomboy growing up. >> Yeah, me too. And now I'm like such [laughter] a girly girl.
02:59:30
LindseyI think that's different. I don't know like I don't think I, you know, if I What about like a son? Like if he wants to dress up differently. Maybe not like completely change the gender. >> [laughter] >> No, hold on.
02:59:41
Brian AtlasI'm sorry. Oh, no, no, no. So, children are under the authority of their parents. If my son comes to me, by the way, I don't foresee this ever [ __ ] happening. He's like, "Hey Hey Dad, I
02:59:53
Brian Atlaswant to wear a dress to school." No. You're not doing that. You're a little confused, son. >> [laughter] >> You're a little confused. You're going to get [ __ ] bullied.
03:00:04
Brian AtlasUh I'd be curious how he How did you get there? How did you arrive at this desire, son? Yeah, and also like if I had a little girl, like she can dress in like
03:00:16
Marianormal clothes, but if you wanted to put on little boy clothes, it'd be like, "No. Like you're a little girl." True. I don't know. And look, just to be clear, I don't want to
03:00:27
Brian AtlasI I I come off a bit strong rhetorically here. I don't want to suggest that I think women are stupid or anything. I don't. I think women are smart. I think they're But I do think
03:00:38
Brian Atlasthat there is certain narratives in society where it's like it's like, "Okay, it's controlling for the guy to not want
03:00:49
Brian Atlasyou to go to a bar where you could Like I'm not You're saying there's double standards. Well, I guess what I'm saying is like I'm I'm trying to look out for my girlfriend. Like I And
03:01:01
Brian AtlasI've never been the guy like I need to You need to text me, "Where are you at?" Uh let me look through your phone. I've never done that in a relationship. I have trust in my relationships, but there are just certain things I don't want my girlfriend to do. I don't want
03:01:13
Brian Atlasher posting thirst traps on Instagram. Preferably, her [ __ ] shit's private. I don't want a girl who's not really on social media like that too much. I want a girl who's not going to bars and clubs. I don't really drink unless
03:01:25
Brian Atlassomebody does a champagne pop. Mhm. I don't I don't drink at all. I don't do drugs. I don't smoke. Um And so I don't know. It's uh So, if she Yeah,
03:01:37
Laetitiajust like if she casually she has a girlfriend and it's she wants to go out with her girlfriend and they're just going to have a dinner and maybe it's going to end up in a bar. Like if you trust her, is that really an issue? Like Well, it
03:01:48
Brian Atlasit it depends, right? So, like if she gets to go out to Trader Joe's, she wants to go get brunch, she wants to get lunch, dinner, that's fine. But when it becomes, "I want to party."
03:02:01
LindseyYeah, and also like threshold. That's the threshold. Um and so Look A lot of people don't want to accept that though. What do you mean? Like a lot of our generation tries to normalize that.
03:02:13
Lexi>> I think that you should want to go out with your I mean, it it depends on what you like. Like some girls don't like going out. Some guys don't like going out. So, match up with someone who >> Well, what's the point for the guy to go
03:02:24
Lexiout? Like you go out together. I've gone out [laughter] with guys and it's fun. It's I mean, I'll tell you this. It's Have you ever seen fights break out when you go out? Like at the club? >> Yeah, like two Probably guys mostly
03:02:37
Brian Atlasfighting. Maybe some girls, too. >> Not really. You never see street fights? Like outside the club at 2:00 a.m., 3:00 a.m.? Mm No, not really. >> I mean, I can tell you this. When I was
03:02:48
Brian AtlasWhen I was younger, uh when I went out to bars a little bit and also went to college parties. And it was like this big strip uh of just like house parties and there'd
03:02:59
Brian Atlasbe frat parties and just people would be pouring in the streets, right? I would see fights every single night. Every single night. >> like culture No, it's not even the
03:03:10
Brian Atlasfrats. It's just like some drunk dude here, drunk dude here. Uh they're not getting laid. They're frustrated. And so, I see when I would go out to bars and clubs and I'm not like this
03:03:22
Brian Atlasisn't the hood. Santa Barbara is one of the highest cost of living cities in the entire United States. It's like Yeah. It's not like the [ __ ] ghetto. It's not the hood.
03:03:33
Brian AtlasFights breaking out every I saw it all the time. I've been like in a few close calls and stuff. Like with you almost fighting? Like guys kind of pumping up their chest and trying to start [ __ ]
03:03:45
Brian Atlasbut I'm not a Yeah, so I've I've ex- extracted myself from certain situations and but like I've seen it. I've seen it. And um So, you're just not going to go out just No,
03:03:57
Lexiwhat what I'm saying is I think it's actually One, you already got the girl. Why the [ __ ] you going to the club? Just stay home, [ __ ] watch Netflix. Well, that's what you like to do. You know, you like to stay in and people like to go out. Yeah, we can go
03:04:10
LexiLet's go to a Let's do a >> with our girlfriends all together. Let's do a wholesome walk at the beach, me and my girl. Yeah, I'm sure a lot of people like that, too. You can have a mixture. Let's go to the beach. Okay. And then let's watch Netflix and [ __ ] and that's
03:04:20
Juliait. You are a guy's best man. And for his bachelor party, he wants to go to Vegas and go to a strip club. Not your thing. Never would on your own, but this is your best man. You're in this
03:04:31
Julia2-year-long relationship. Like should Would you expect your woman to not be like excited about it, but to be like, "Yeah, you know, go Go have fun." I would expect that. I'm not going
03:04:43
Juliato blow up your phone. I'm not going to make you feel like you're being a shitty boyfriend. Yeah. Uh so, this is what I would do in the situation. I would go to dinner with them. I would smoke a cigar with them.
03:04:55
Brian AtlasI would bow out of going to the strip club with them. Dang, you're a good dude. >> I'm not going to the I wouldn't care personally, but most guys would though. Even if I was single, I probably
03:05:07
Brian Atlas>> trust him. Yeah, I'd let him go. Have fun, man. Yeah, I'm like it's a bachelor party. Like go. I'm going to be honest. I do not trust I would not trust a bachelorette party with [snorts] a male stripper. I'll say
03:05:21
Brian Atlasthat. >> that's a lot. We usually go to female strip clubs at least I've I've talked to some of these male strippers and and bro, [laughter] these chicks Bro, the male strippers will have the [ __ ] in the face.
03:05:34
Brian Atlas>> Yep. Some of the chicks will [ __ ] give them head. Like no. My girl wants to do a bachelorette party, go to dinner, whatever. So, you're not going to let her
03:05:46
Brian Atlas>> a [ __ ] stripper involved, hey babe, go to the hotel. And she should ex- she should respect that. And she should be like, "I understand. I'm doing that." >> What about like a trip to another place
03:05:57
Lindseywith their girls? Like another country. >> Uh spring break, massive yikes, girls' trip. >> break. I mean like for a bachelorette, we decide to go to Italy. That That's a yike. Really? Honestly, it's a yikes. [laughter] To go to Italy with my friends for a
03:06:09
Brian Atlasweek without partying? Girls' trip is definitely a bit of a yikes, not going to lie. >> Wow. Why? Girls' It's just a yikes. >> Well, why? Like what is it you're worried about? I
03:06:22
Brian Atlasdon't know. If I know the girls if I know the girls and they're [ __ ] married, too, Yeah, exactly. That's different. That's a little different. But That's what I mean though. >> on a sing- like she's with me. She's
03:06:35
Lindseygoing out with three girls who are single. That's a yikes. Well, no, cuz one of them is the bachelorette, so we're celebrating a marriage. We wouldn't be going to strip clubs or nightlife or anything. It's literally just like we decided instead of like going to
03:06:48
Lindseynightlife, we have the money to go to another country. So, let's take a trip, you know, instead of doing the nightlife stuff. Let's just go >> If I If I know the girls If you would
03:06:59
Lindseyknow the girls, 100%. If they're your If she's your girl for a long time and she's spending time with them, you would absolutely know. At least like if it were me, you would know all my friends. >> Again, there's certain It would depend
03:07:11
Brian Atlason the circumstances. If I know the you know, what the itinerary is. I'm amenable to it, but my leaning is is
03:07:22
Laetitiaa bit no. That makes sense. >> Cuz that's where trust comes in, too. It's like, "Well, you trust your woman that she's going to be loyal and that she's going to be reasonable." Like even in a strip club, I organized a bachelor
03:07:34
Laetitiabachelorette party for a girlfriend and like yeah, we had a stripper. And everyone is, you know, in like you are you own your own like relationship with yourself in that moment. >> I'm sorry. I don't give a [ __ ] how
03:07:46
Brian Atlas[ __ ] loyal she is. I'm not allowing my girlfriend to be in a situation where another man is waving his [ __ ] in your face. >> not What if we go to a female strip club? The strippers that I hired was like completely for the woman that was bachelor. And he was not putting his
03:08:00
Brian Atlaspenis. Like >> [laughter] >> What about a female strip club? I don't care. Look, if if my girlfriend my If she respects me, it's It's not about trust. If she respects me,
03:08:13
Brian AtlasOkay, you know what? I want to hang out with my ex-girlfriend who's way hotter than you at 10:00 p.m. at night. But don't you trust me? Don't worry. No, we're just friends. Nothing's going to
03:08:23
Lindseyhappen. What about a female strip club? What about a female strip club? Like if we're all women going to a women's strip club? >> It's not different though. Trust is trust. It's either you trust her to do it to have the right reaction or you don't trust her at
03:08:36
Brian Atlas>> curious if gender plays a role. That's I'm just asking that question. >> Where do we draw the threshold of trust? Where is the threshold exist? So, would you be me personally, if my girlfriend is going to hang out with an
03:08:49
Brian Atlasex-boyfriend, um pretty much at any time of the day, I'm going to have a serious issue with that. >> Yeah, absolutely. I'm going to have a serious issue with that. But is But no,
03:08:58
Brian Atlasbut hold on. The argument is trust. So, you would agree with me, is it logically possible that uh your boyfriend or a girlfriend,
03:09:10
Brian Atlaswhatever the situation, could go hang out with an ex with good intentions? Is it logically possible? I don't think so. Hold on, that's not true. It's I'm asking, is it logically possible?
03:09:23
Brian Atlas>> Yes. So, it's logically possible all of you could have a orgy with me after the show. What? Wait, what? Oh my god, when did No, it's No, it's >> [laughter] >> It's logically possible. Do you
03:09:35
Lindseyunderstand what I'm asking? Is it in the realm of possibility? >> It's logically possible. I don't think you understand what I'm talking about. I mean, maybe technically, but >> No, what I'm saying is The question why
03:09:46
Brian Atlaslogically possible. Logically possible. Technically, yes. Could I go over to my ex Okay, I'm dating a girl for 1 year. I have an ex-girlfriend who's way hotter. It doesn't even She could be uglier, it doesn't matter.
03:09:58
Brian AtlasIs it logically possible that I could go over to her house at 11:00 p.m. just as friends, just to hang out? Is it logically possible? >> Yes. Yes. Right. But why would you do that if you care about your girl? No,
03:10:10
Brian AtlasI'm not making an argument that the man should do it. I'm just saying that So, if we're talking about trust, uh the the Oh my god, I don't know. Whatever.
03:10:23
LindseyThat's why I was asking about the gender thing. Like what if they all go to a female strip club? That's why I'm asking. >> It's just like not traditional behavior to even do something like that, you know? And like >> Well, I know a lot of women who do. That's why I'm asking the question. [laughter]
03:10:36
JuliaLike yeah, maybe I trust my boyfriend to go do that, but the fact that he wants to do that, like knowing how it would probably make me feel, like that is the problem. I guess knowing how it would make you feel is
03:10:48
Lindseyreally the park thing cuz I genuinely would not care. I mean, if he doesn't want to, that's great, but like, you know. Like I feel like in my relationships I trust them enough to be like, do what
03:11:00
Lindseyyou want. They typically don't, honestly. But I don't know a single one who has. But still, I'm secure enough in the relationship that it's up to them. They just choose not to. So.
03:11:10
Lindsey>> Exactly, yeah. It's just boundary. Yeah. Everyone has different boundaries. Cuz the person I want and who's right for me is going to, as you said earlier, understand what it is that the boundaries are, especially if we're
03:11:22
Brian Atlasyears in, they know. We have already discussed that. >> Wait, did we get around the table on relationship status? No. Yeah. No, we didn't. [laughter] Okay. Oh, [ __ ] All right. Uh
03:11:34
Brooklynrelationship status? I'm just single. For how long? Um like a year and a half, 2 years. Ever had a boyfriend? Yeah. How long? Like almost a year, not That's your longest relationship? >> Yes, and my only relationship. All
03:11:47
Brooklynright, and that was the one that ended like a 1 to 2 years ago? Yeah. Okay. Uh are there any guys in the picture currently? No. No, nothing? Nothing. Nothing? Literally
03:11:57
Brooklynnothing. Drought? Same. No, I just Right now I'm just focusing on myself. I'm trying to get my school work done so I can transfer next year. I don't want to get my hopes up about anyone, especially if I move away. Are you on any dating
03:12:09
Brian Atlasapps? No, I was for like a month. I just realized it wasn't for me like >> Sure. Okay. Okay. >> [laughter] >> Uh I like to meet someone. >> time you hung out with a guy
03:12:21
Brian Atlasthat you had a an interest in? Um December. Okay. So, 3 months ago? All right. Relationship status? I've been in a
03:12:34
Brian Atlasrelationship for 12 years. 12 years? Okay. Uh I'm assuming it's your longest relationship? Yeah. Uh Have you dated Had any other relationships? Yeah. Um
03:12:47
MariaWell, before this one I was in a relationship for like 3 years, and then before that one I was in a relationship for like almost 2 years. And uh And you're what? You're 34, right?
03:13:00
Brian Atlas>> Yeah. So, you guys have been dating since you were 22. Yeah. >> About. Okay. Um Dating. Awesome.
03:13:09
MariaAnd uh let's see. You are uh but it's been a bit rocky. Is that correct? Uh A little bit. This like past year.
03:13:21
MariaBut um Okay, so yeah, like pretty much like I told you, he's like We've both been bad to each other. I've been bad, and like he's been bad, and um I was like kind of over it, and then he
03:13:34
Mariawas like, this is where people work on the relationship and don't give up on it. And I was like, oh, I hear that. Cuz you know. Um Has it gotten hard before and bad? Uh
03:13:47
JuliaCuz that is true. I mean, are you guys married? No. Okay, but you're 12 years in. I would expect like if [ __ ] got hard. You guys should have got married a long time ago. Never. Y'all should have got married a long time ago, well. >> I don't know who just folds when it gets
03:13:59
Brian Atlashard. I mean I don't know. Yeah, but not married after how many, 12 years? >> was crazy for a long time, too. I can't deny that. Um Wait, really quick. It is a little stuffy in here. Does anybody
03:14:10
Brian Atlaswant a popsicle? Ooh, I please. It's like uh It's like uh pop popsicle? Yes. You two?
03:14:22
Brian AtlasFour? Okay, four four. Okay. Uh Tiffany, can you get four popsicles? I [ __ ] love popsicles. All right, popsicle party. Sorry, guys. It's It's
03:14:33
Lindseyhot in It's been hot. It's hot in California. Well, you're like covered up like insanely covered up right now, so >> [laughter] >> It's been toasty. I'm like, >> [clears throat]
03:14:44
Brian Atlas>> yeah, you're like steaming yourself up. Uh you said you made mistakes or something? Can you tell us? Uh I mean Pretty much my biggest mistake was like
03:14:56
Mariadoing like drugs and stuff, and that put like >> Which Which ones did you did you do? Um the bad ones. >> [laughter] >> Um Which Which ones? Heroin. Heroin?
03:15:07
MariaUh-huh. Oh, [ __ ] But But did you did do anything else like uh I mean, I smoke weed. Like meth? No. You didn't try it like at least once? >> I meth is the only drug I've never tried, believe it or not. So, have you
03:15:20
Lindsey[laughter] done uh her [snorts] her her her? I'm sorry, you got so excited. I love popsicles. >> [laughter]
03:15:33
Brian Atlas>> Um okay. So, How How long were you doing heroin? Uh >> [laughter] >> Like 10 years. Damn. I know, right? I turned out all
03:15:46
Brian Atlasright now. The mic's got [ __ ] a little bit. Actually, can I have you you scoot that way a little bit? Like scoot your chair that way a little bit. And then scoot your mic that way.
03:15:59
LexiYeah, perfect. Perfect. All right, we got [ __ ] Tiffany here. Guys, W's in the chat for Tiffany. W's in the chat.
03:16:09
Brian AtlasShe's the best. >> for for T-dog back there. Uh W's in the chat for our good friend Tiffany. Um
03:16:19
Brian AtlasShe's helping out while Nathan is away on vacation. All right, so how How long did you do heroin for? No way, 10 years. 10 years? Do you have marks? No.
03:16:32
MariaCan you Can I show? I don't think don't Where did you Yeah, you want to see like Where did Where did Where did people usually inject the heroin? >> Bro, I don't know. Like there's crazy
03:16:44
Mariapeople that like do it in their neck. Yeah, I've seen people do it in their toe, but no, not me. Where did you Really? I'm just curious Well, I'm not asking to see your [ __ ] or something. What the [ __ ] >> I mean, I'm not ashamed. I mean, I guess a little bit, but
03:16:56
Brian Atlas>> [laughter] >> In in the the Okay. All right. Hey, whatever it is, what it is. And were were you Did your boyfriend current Did he also No, he didn't. He doesn't use
03:17:10
Mariadrugs at all. >> were just a fiend while in a relationship. Wait, what? Like you were the Wait, okay. fiend, and you and he was sober. Well, I mean, he would like drink and stuff. Like we like smoke weed, you know.
03:17:23
Brian Atlas>> Oh, okay. But didn't you um your relationship's been a bit rocky? Yeah, but it's getting better, I think. >> What What was the thing about the driving somewhere? >> [laughter]
03:17:36
Maria>> Um Yikes. Okay, so like [ __ ] was so bad, right? And um I like drove to go meet this dude, and then I saw this billboard that said,
03:17:46
Maria[snorts] "Don't commit adultery." And I like drove really far away. Wait, can't So, when you say you were driving, you were in the relationship with your current boyfriend. Yeah, and he knows
03:17:57
Mariaabout this. I told him, too. But so, what were you driving to do? Be bad. And meet someone. >> Meet someone, and um but then I was driving there, and I was like super
03:18:10
Mariaclose, right? And then um I saw a billboard that said, "Don't commit adultery." So, I turned around. >> Wow. And how far were you driving? I'm not saying. Come on. No. Come on. No.
03:18:22
Brian AtlasIt was in your notes. Was it? >> [laughter] >> I'm like, uh-uh, we're not >> Think I was under the influence? >> [laughter] >> Come on, spill it. Hold on. You can't say the distance you
03:18:34
Brian Atlasdrove, but you can tell us you were addicted to heroin for 10 years? [laughter] For the better part of a decade? >> almost like a few states away, you know? Driving? Yeah, I needed a little road trip, too. I was like going through it.
03:18:47
Maria>> [laughter] >> You know, I was like, oh, good drive to clear the head, you know. And like, how did you meet this guy?
03:18:57
MariaUm, on the internet. This is how you keep a man for 12 years. You, you know, >> By the way, who chews Who chews an ice cream? You're supposed to It's You're
03:19:09
Brooklynnot supposed to chew bite it. Yes, there's rules. You're supposed I [laughter] have strong teeth. Yeah, it doesn't hurt me. No, it hurts me so bad. Like, I can't do that. Can I have you both scooted into the table a little bit? Um,
03:19:21
Mariaokay. So, you drove How long had you been driving before you decided to turn around? Um, I don't know. Not that long. Like, I
03:19:32
Mariacan't remember. A few hours. Damn. And how did you meet him? Sorry, I forgot the fact. >> internet. On a dating app? Yeah. You were on a dating app? Okay, well, like I can't even like There's so much
03:19:45
Mariato it, you know? Like, [ __ ] was really messed up and then I was like, oh, I think I like I want to leave. And I was like, do I? Let me see what else is out there. Then I was like, huh. >> Sure. [clears throat] You know? And but you told him Was he upset? I'm
03:19:56
Mariaassuming. He was mad, but um, I mean, he also knew he hadn't been treating me really the best, either. And he was like, I kind of get it. He was like, now let's both be nice and move past this and
03:20:09
Brian Atlasstop being shitty. >> But, did he ever cheat on you? No. Did you ever cheat on him? Emotionally, maybe. Well, you didn't actually go and have sex with someone else. >> No. But, you were
03:20:21
Brian AtlasYou were cheating, but you didn't finalize the act, I guess, you know? Yeah, you could say that. >> Like, you didn't [ __ ] but you were flirting with other men and planning planning to I was being faithful. That's
03:20:34
Brian Atlasfor sure. Yeah. >> Mhm. Um, I actually I I think I saw your boyfriend on your Instagram and he's kind of a stud, not going to lie. You think so? [laughter] Feels like we look good together, you know? He's a He's like a handsome guy,
03:20:47
Brian AtlasI'd say. He's a handsome guy. >> You're really pretty. He might mog you. I know. I'm like, girl, you're gorgeous. But, like I get I get I'm curious. Um, that's [ __ ] loyalty, by the way. I
03:20:56
Brian Atlaswish I could find myself a woman who would not that I'm a drug addict, but who would stand by me through 10 years
03:21:06
Mariaof heroin addiction and cheating. But, he's been So, W him, I guess. He's been loyal. >> a good guy. Should have like been nice to stay. He's probably like, yeah, Brian Teller. He's done bad things, too,
03:21:19
Mariaright? Yeah, he's done really bad things, too. And I've done really bad things, but What has he done? >> I'm not getting into it. Oh, okay. He's like, what is like >> He hasn't cheated on you. No, he hasn't cheated. Did he call you a stupid doody
03:21:32
Brian Atlasface? Maybe. Yeah? >> Worse than that, but you know, we won't go there. >> But, was it in response to you [ __ ] cheating on him? >> [laughter] >> No. Okay.
03:21:44
Brian AtlasWas it in response to you like you were supposed to go to his birthday party, but you were like OD'ing on heroin?
03:21:55
MariaDid that happen? Oh, yeah. Definitely been cussed out from my druggies, which is, you know, I get it. >> you ever OD'd? No. What's it Question for you, not I
03:22:07
MariaThe heroin. He's so interested. >> miss it? Do I miss it? Um, no, because it destroyed my life. Do I Has there been a bad day where I'm like, man, I wish I could get
03:22:19
Maria[ __ ] up right now and not be craving it the next day or have it destroy my life? Hell, yeah. Have you ever um, how long you've been uh, sober? Like, I don't know. I don't really keep up with that cuz I think it's like the past and you should like let it go, but
03:22:32
Brian Atlaslike four or five years. >> Okay. Good job. It has been a while, you know? Yeah. Past you question, I've heard with some of these drugs,
03:22:43
Brian Atlasuh, like the the physical experience of it, it's like, uh, can you describe how you feel? Uh, like you don't give a [ __ ]
03:22:54
Brian Atlas>> But, like does it Is it like a good physical feeling? Is it in your brain? Is it both? What is the the feeling? I guess once you're addicted to it, it's a good feeling. But, yeah, like when you do it, it's like, you know, it's like
03:23:07
Brian AtlasLike, you feel Do you feel like a euphoria? [snorts] Do you feel like Do you feel like Yeah, that's what you're chasing the whole time. Is that euphoric feeling you get off the first 10 seconds >> And so, what is the feeling Like, are you just Is it like the happiest you've
03:23:19
Brian Atlasever been? No. Well, [snorts] like but what I'm cuz I've never done heroin or any like drugs like that. So, It's good. But, I guess
03:23:28
Brian Atlasmy question is, though, has it turned down the brightness in your life? Does that make sense? When I was on it?
03:23:39
Brian Atlas>> Well, I feel like, let's say there you did this drug that gives you this this like brain chemistry reaction and like you feel this way when you're on the
03:23:51
Brian Atlasdrug that cannot be replicated in real life. And it feels like, you know, those dimmer switches? Yeah. Does it ever feel like before you did drugs, that after
03:24:02
Mariadrugs, your life doesn't feel as bright as it did before? >> Um, no. Maybe like in the beginning when you're first sober, it might feel that way a little bit, but no. Now I feel
03:24:15
Brian Atlaslike my life is like way better and I'm way more full of life and way more myself and no. Not at all. I don't feel dimmed. You don't feel dimmed? Well, I I under I I guess I could see how your when you are
03:24:27
Brian Atlasthat addicted, you're in a pretty dark place. Like, it's going to have an impact on your health, your relationships, um, financially, I guess.
03:24:37
Brian AtlasAnd then, becoming clean, your your material life circumstances have improved since where you were. But, there I think there's maybe like a brain chemistry component.
03:24:50
MariaI don't know. I'm just curious. >> in the beginning, yeah, you did feel like life was dimmed and like you almost like missed that chaotic lifestyle. Like, oh, life is boring now. Like, uh. But, no, that's like went away for the most part and
03:25:03
Brian AtlasI get where you're coming from, though. >> know. Like, if you've ridden a roller coaster, going down a slide, Yeah. you know, it feels great. Yeah. So, in the beginning of being sober, yeah, it did feel like that. >> Like, think about it. Like, if you were just like smashing out like a 10 out of
03:25:15
Brian Atlas10 baddie, but then you're like have to like chubby chase or whatever. Like, that's downgrade.
03:25:27
Brian AtlasOkay, good talk. >> [laughter] >> All right. Um, let's see. What was the segment? Hey, Tiffany, can you check the Discord to see if they did the Make sure you grab all the batches. Oh, you already did it? Oh, perfect. Cool,
03:25:40
Brian Atlascool. All right. As soon as she's back, we're going to do the next segmente segment. Uh, where do we Oh, the Oh my god. I got to finish the Okay, relationship status. >> [laughter] >> I'm very single.
03:25:53
Brian AtlasVery single. Yes. Ready to mingle? Absolutely. Yes. I'm looking for my forever. Yeah, you wrote in your thing, you wrote very, very, very unmistakably single. What
03:26:07
Lindseydoes that mean? I'm just like, I'm not even really putting myself out there as much as I know I probably should cuz I'm a hermit. So, you know, I just I don't have any rosters. I don't have any guys I'm
03:26:17
Lindseytalking to. I don't I'm just kind of in my little hermit world. So, I've been trying to encourage myself to go out more. How long you've been single for? Uh, since like 2018. So,
03:26:28
Lindseyit's been a long time. Wait, 2018. So, that's like eight years, then. Yeah, yeah, I guess so. Nine, maybe. Uh, Um,
03:26:40
Brian AtlasSo, wait. In the Eight years. past eight years since 2018, have there been any guys in the picture, though? Yeah, I've like definitely talked to people, but definitely not a full-blown relationship. >> was your relationship? Eight years ago?
03:26:53
Brian Atlas>> Was that your longest? >> Yes, and my only one. >> up with who? I broke up with him. Okay. He was abusive. He was abusive. [laughter] Okay. Was he a Amish? No. Cuz cuz you're a Quaker.
03:27:04
Brian Atlas>> Eastern European. Okay. I moved out of my home like very young. >> In the past eight years, what is the longest period of time you've seen a guy? Nine months.
03:27:15
LindseyYou didn't call him your boyfriend? No. What did you call it? Situationship? Talking stage? >> Oh, no, no, no. Just like we were dating, you know? Like, we both had the intention of something serious, but I just I needed to find out more about
03:27:26
Lindseywhat his life trajectory was. It felt a little concerning that he felt very disorganized on what he wanted long-term, but I didn't want to just end things. So, I thought like, if we hang out, we can maybe talk, try to figure
03:27:38
Lindseyout together. Um, but eventually, it just ended up that we were misaligned in futures. Okay. And so, why are you uh, how long ago was this nine-month guy? A year.
03:27:51
LindseyAbout a year ago. >> ago. Mhm. I actually, a year ago is when it like ended. So, I guess technically, two. Okay. So, in the past year, have there been any guys in the picture? No. How long you've
03:28:03
Brian Atlasbeen celibate? Man, I guess, well, I guess almost a year. So, the la- the nine-month guy. Okay. All right. And then, why do you think you're very, very, very unmistakably
03:28:14
Lindseysingle? Again, cuz I don't I don't have any like uh, I'm not I don't have any dudes in my world essentially. So that's why I say I just feel like I know a lot of people who at least are talking to someone or have a situationship. I don't
03:28:26
Lindseyhave any of that. So. Uh what about you? Um I'm single right now. For how long? About a year. Longest relationship? Seven.
03:28:38
VeronicaIs that the one that ended a year ago? No. The one that ended a year ago was like maybe 3 months long. That's my only two relationships that I've had. But I honestly don't know if I really count that one. Sure.
03:28:51
VeronicaUh are there any guys in the picture currently? I just went on a first date like 2 days ago. Can you be a little closer to the mic, please? I just went on a first date like 2 days ago. First date? Is there going to be a
03:29:02
Veronicasecond date? Yes, I think so. Do you want there to be a second date? >> Yeah, I really like him. All right. >> Did you tell him? No. I mean >> god. I [laughter] told him that I had a good
03:29:14
Veronicatime and stuff. Like we've known each other for a couple months now. Like we have mutual friends, but like we both kind of like know that we think each other are cute and like he
03:29:26
Laetitiaasked me out on the date and I said What about you? I'm single. It's been 3 years and my longest relationship was 5 years.
03:29:37
LaetitiaUh no guys in the picture in the past 3 years or so? >> just right after I separated from ex-partner, I met someone for 10 days. It was the best relationship ever.
03:29:49
LaetitiaAnd then I >> Why didn't it work? Because he was just visiting for 10 days and then he went back to his country. And >> distance maybe?
03:29:59
Laetitia>> No. I mean I did that with my ex-husband before like he was American and I was still in France. And so I know it's possible, but this one was just I was working on myself and I
03:30:11
LaetitiaI was in a mindset yeah. It was just not the right timing to have a relationship and I don't think it would have been the right guy. It was just absolutely perfect for what it was and it just
03:30:23
Laetitiaraised the bar of what men can be and what a beautiful relationship can be and I just swore that this is what I'm going to find and and then I had one guy last year
03:30:35
Laetitiaum we met we had a date well we met and then we had a date. I knew he wasn't the one, but I was like I still so want it. So I went for it.
03:30:47
LaetitiaAnd then yeah, no more because I felt 2 days that I'm committed to the next person that I'm going to be with and I am not going to do what I did last year ever again. So yeah. Um and you were
03:30:58
Laetitiamarried just once you said? Yes. >> kids? I do not. The marriage, how long did that last? Um we were together for 3 years and then we decided to get married for me to move in the US and then we
03:31:09
Brian Atlaswere together for 2 years and then we I Oh so you got your you you're citizen of the U- US or My permanent residency. Yes. >> Through the marriage? Through the
03:31:21
Laetitiamarriage indeed. Mhm. I would have not come to the US I mean I had no idea what the US was. >> So are you naturalized? What does that I don't have my citizenship. I have a permanent residency.
03:31:33
Laetitia>> You have perm- okay, I see I see. >> I haven't applied for my citizenship. >> who initiated divorce? Me. Did he pay you alimony? Oh hell no. I was paying for all of it. So no. >> [laughter]
03:31:45
Laetitia>> Like I have been sugar mommy Oh wow. So far. So like yeah. So. Uh so did you pay him alimony? No, we didn't have that. It was just like well life doesn't work out. We just
03:31:58
Laetitiayeah, we just split up. Like I don't think we would have been married if it wasn't for like one of us needed to be in the same country. We met traveling. We traveled a lot together.
03:32:10
Brian AtlasAnd then we had to find a compromise. So. Uh you can hide it, but don't unstar it. Um I was >> to respond to what they said. >> We'll we'll pull it up in a moment. Uh
03:32:21
Brian Atlaswhat about you, Julia? Happily taken. Okay, for how long? Uh sevenish months now. Sev- oh 7 months, okay. And it's a age gap relationship, right? Yes. Uh
03:32:33
Brian Atlaswhat's the gap? Uh 15 years. Okay, so you're 34, he's 49, 50, 49? 48. He's 48. Okay. All right, good times. Um longest relationship? 3 and 1/2
03:32:46
Mariayears. Ever married? No. Any kids? No. >> Anybody here have kids? No. Okay. Anyone else ever married? No. Are you going to marry the guy? What's going on? >> I don't know. That's not what the
03:32:58
MariaY'all been dating for 12 years. Well for 10 of those years she was also do you want kids? You know. Yes. Does he want kids? I don't think so. Well, hold on. That's
03:33:11
Brian Atlasa big thing. >> How is he here? Did he travel with you? No. Here?
03:33:18
Brian AtlasI'm just I was like should we do an intervention or some [ __ ] Should we bring your boyfriends on the show? >> watching. He was like tell Brian let me come. >> [laughter] >> I don't know cuz it's like
03:33:29
Brian Atlas>> Oh god. Well, look. And we won't we're not going to dive too deep, but it's like It's very interesting. >> It seems like you guys have different life goals and ambitions. >> Well, we're like same same, but
03:33:42
Brian Atlasdifferent. >> Same same, but What's that from? Um I don't know. We always say that. Same same, but I think it's The Office. >> yeah. Same same, but wait [ __ ] what's
03:33:53
Brian Atlasthat? I didn't say that. Uh Kevin or Andy says it, does Anyways, whatever. Um
03:34:06
MariaI know. And you really want kids. I mean no, I don't like really want kids. And honestly if I was going to have a kid, it'd have to be like I'm able to like home school them. I'm able soon. I mean
03:34:18
MariaI'm a capable girl, you know? >> No, I'm just you know soon. Yeah, I mean definitely like not 40 like 38. But yeah, that's pretty soon. You're 34. You're 34 currently. Yeah. Um
03:34:29
Maria>> Okay. But you do want kids. I mean it's not going to like destroy me if I don't have a kid, but would I like to have a kid one day like I guess so.
03:34:40
MariaAnd like I guess more recently I have thought about that more and been like yeah, I guess that is something, but like I don't know. Then again I kind of like not having a kid too and being able to do whatever.
03:34:52
MariaBut if I was and I think the main reason I don't want to have a kid right now is because like I don't have a homestead. I don't have a million dollars in the bank to be able to like raise the kid how I want to, you know? Okay. Um Cuz like I
03:35:04
Brian Atlascouldn't send my kid to public school, I don't think. Uh Yeah. Um Yeah. And it what is his position on kids?
03:35:16
Brian AtlasI think he's uh I don't know. I mean when You've been dating for 12 years and you guys don't know? Like this is super fundamental. I mean yeah, I think like he doesn't or
03:35:26
Brian Atlasfor a long time he didn't want kids and then like What does he say why? And what and I didn't mean to interrupt you, but you said you're about to say and then Oh gosh. For a long time he didn't want
03:35:38
Mariato have kids and then Um Do you have like a second >> think like no. I think like things got bad and it was like Oh I do love you. I do want to have kids with you. How old is he? Uh 35. Okay, so you guys are the same age
03:35:52
Juliapretty much. Um >> Yeah. So he does want kids, but not with you. Wait, what? >> No no, I'm not I'm asking that as a question. No. Maybe not with her like 5 years ago, but maybe that's why his mind
03:36:06
Mariahas changed. >> Yeah, maybe. There you go, girl. So he does want kids or he doesn't? I think he's unsure right now. Like no, in the past like we've never been like yeah, we're going to have kids, you know? And then like I don't know. As you get a
03:36:18
Veronicalittle bit older closer to like being out of childbearing age, I guess you think about it a little bit more, you know? You still got a couple years. Becoming a kid is a scary thing. It's like a huge decision. >> Yeah, and like I said like Like I want
03:36:30
Mariato like have my land with a garden and like be set up to where like I could like really raise this kid how I want to, you know? And I'm not that right now. And I'm just like why bring a kid into the world if you're just going to like throw them
03:36:43
Brian Atlasinto some [ __ ] If he said he never wanted children, like would you be okay with that? I mean yeah, I guess. >> So if he definitively said I don't want to have kids,
03:36:56
Brian Atlasthat's not a deal breaker. >> I guess I'd have to think about it, you know? Cuz like I'm like >> it right here on the podcast. Uh >> Time is ticking. >> [laughter] >> No, that wouldn't be a deal breaker. Okay, well then it's not a deal breaker.
03:37:08
LindseyOkay. Um Mhm. Is that like a right now or like forever not a deal breaker? Like let's say you do have all the No, because I consider life of never having kids too, you know?
03:37:21
Brian AtlasBut let's assume the material conditions for raising, you know, let's say your finances were good, his finances were good, you had the farm or whatever. Um Yeah, I think we would both be like yeah, let's have a kid. >> He would be on board.
03:37:34
Brian Atlas>> Yeah, I think he would. >> So you guys are just not in the point in life where you feel financially uh confident I guess you could say. >> I I guess I could do it right now, but I just don't want to. Oh you don't want to have kids. >> Wait, god. Wait, you get what I'm saying? It's like
03:37:48
MariaYeah. >> I mean I could do it right now and be financially okay, but that's I don't want to be having I want to be better off before I have a kid if I did. I know. It's confusing. I don't know. >> Like you make it make sense. But you
03:37:59
Juliadon't want to make it. You want to like You want to feel comfortable. Um okay. Um
03:38:09
Brian AtlasYeah. Mhm. Yeah, you um
03:38:16
MariaAnd like for so long I was so messed up and [ __ ] and I guess it was like I don't know why he even stayed with me for so long, but I guess like kids was like never option cuz like How's the relationship right now? Is it good? Yeah, it's uh
03:38:28
Mariabetter than it has been the past few months and I guess that's mainly because of me finally being like, "Okay, I'm going to quit being a bitch." And cuz like no, for so long I was like, "I'm over I was like, you know, there's too much trauma between us. Like let's be done." And he
03:38:41
Mariawas like, "No, this isn't when you give up." Da da da da da. And I was like, "But it is." And he was like, "No, it's not." So I've been like trying and he's been trying and Have you ever um Mhm.
03:38:59
Brian AtlasYikes. Um would you go to relationship counseling? No, counselors cause more problems. You just need the Whatever podcast. >> That's right. >> I should do a different show where I
03:39:10
Brian Atlasjust give dating advice. Just bring couples on instead. Uh couples therapy, that'd be interesting. >> [laughter] >> I don't know about that. Oh boy. [ __ ] should we call this guy? >> No. Honestly, I think we got to call this dude and be like, "Look, man."
03:39:22
Brian AtlasWe got to call him with permission from both of you and be like, "Yo, what's [snorts] the deal? Are you guys going to you guys going to stay together? What's going on? Do you want to be with this person for the rest of your >> totally wants to be with me forever. He
03:39:36
Brian Atlasdoes not >> do you want to be with him forever? Cuz in your notes it's you're kind of indicating a little bit that the relationship's been rocky at points. You said
03:39:48
Mariayou said the struggle >> I know I was You said the struggle >> been real cuz it has. The stru- the struggle has been real lately. >> Yeah, he would say that, too. I mean, look, people have
03:39:59
Brian Atlasebb and flow in their relationship, but >> I don't know. Is do you guys Is it a dead bedroom? Uh maybe a little here lately.
03:40:10
Brian AtlasLike do you guys [snorts] not Are you not intimate? No, we are. Like have sex, I'm talking about sex. >> Yeah, I know what you're talking about. >> [laughter] >> Well, cuz I asked if it was a dead bedroom and you said a little bit. >> [clears throat] >> Yes.
03:40:22
Maria>> Yeah, I said a little bit here lately, maybe. But like yeah, we still have sex, you know. But like I mean, what do we >> Is it like Like what do you mean >> Not as much as you would like?
03:40:34
Brian Atlas>> guess like we used to have more. It's not been as much lately. Like So like once once a week? Once a month? Mhm, like a few times a month.
03:40:44
Brian AtlasOh, man. Now, do you Does he Well, does he initiate and you turn him down? Mhm, maybe it's happened once or twice. Well, okay, once or twice, whatever. You've got
03:40:56
Maria>> usually like it's like no, I don't like turn him down. Okay, so his Are you saying his desire is also lacking, too? I guess because there's been so many real problems in our relationship lately that we just
03:41:10
Marialike haven't been, you know. [clears throat] Yeah. What are the problems? Just list them out super quick. Um well, the main one was me wanting to be out of the relationship and then Well, that's a pretty [laughter] [ __ ] big I told you that and then he was
03:41:22
Marialike, "No, this is when people keep working on their relationship instead of giving up on it." And I'm like trying to trust my man I've been with for 12 years and I'm like, "Okay, I hear you, you know, like we've been together for a long time. Like do you just give up on this?"
03:41:35
Brian Atlas>> you a question? Throughout maybe more recently, but throughout the course of your relationship, do you feel like he's a bit more invested than you are?
03:41:45
Brian AtlasCuz what you just said is you have had moments that you want out of the relationship. You've had uncertainty and he's the certain one.
03:41:57
Brian AtlasBut my uncertainty only started like How recently? Like 8 months ago. Or wait, maybe a little bit before that, honestly. >> it
03:42:08
Brian AtlasHas it been ongoing? Like it It wasn't just like a week or a day, it's been ongoing for the past year?
03:42:17
Brian AtlasYes. No, you don't have to be ashamed to to say this stuff. We're working through it. Huh. Huh. I don't know. I don't know. >> He's a good-looking dude. He's a good-looking dude.
03:42:32
Brian AtlasI mean, he must really be in love with you. He really likes you. I'm pretty cool. >> But I feel like I'm almost using the word deserve. Me, I
03:42:41
Brian Atlasknow, right? I feel like this guy I I feel like why be in a relationship with somebody who's on the fence? I know, that's what I've told him, too. So you have to
03:42:53
Brian AtlasYou're like trying Wait, are you trying to like convince him to [laughter] not be with you? You're like, "Look, I'm a [ __ ] I used to do heroin. I used to be a [ __ ] Sometimes I still am."
03:43:05
Brian Atlas>> me off of it. He knows. No, I know, but I guess what I'm saying is is like it seems like But it Look, you've been together for so long. You don't know anything else. He doesn't except that
03:43:17
Brian Atlasguy you drove a almost [ __ ] a couple states over, but that's another conversation. It's like you've been together for so long. Like that must be That's going to be hard for both of you to navigate that
03:43:28
Brian Atlaskind of breakup. Um and especially him because it feels like he's more invested than you are and he's trying to he's trying to hold on for dear life this relationship.
03:43:41
Brian AtlasBut I saw the photos of the This guy should be Where do you guys live? North Carolina. He He should be crushing. He should be running through these North Carolina hood rats. I'm telling you. I'm The hood rats Fine, not even the hood rats, the [ __ ]
03:43:54
Brian Atlaswhatever, the the Appalachian Trail or some [ __ ] I'm just saying. I'm just saying, look, you're checked out. Not completely. From from the male perspective, I would
03:44:07
Brian Atlastell If he was my bro, I'd be like, "Look, dude, you're [ __ ] Chad. You're [ __ ] Chad. Is he tall? Is he a tall guy? Are you Do you kind of mog him on the height? Cuz you're tall, right? 5'7". Yeah. So he's like tall guy, he's
03:44:19
Brian Atlasgood-looking. Um I don't know. I'm just This is starting to sound really gay from my part. Like I'm trying to end your relationship so I can get with him. No. That's why you want to call him.
03:44:32
Brian AtlasThat's what this is for. >> [laughter] >> That's why we're here. >> No, but if he was my bro, I would tell him I'd be like, "Look, man, you can't be in a relationship with a girl that's lukewarm about you. Like you got to be with a girl that's like
03:44:47
Brian AtlasI want >> 100% hell yeah. Like And But he Look, you've been together for so long. There's so much investment into the relationship. He was with you through all these bad times. You were
03:44:59
Brian Atlasprobably with him through his bad times. You You guys have probably trauma bonded like insanely. And And like he doesn't know anything
03:45:08
Brian Atlaselse. Like [ __ ] 12 years. Damn, what That was like Was Barack Obama still president? Like he doesn't know anything else. And so I don't know. If I If
03:45:20
Brian AtlasWhat's his name? First name? You don't have to say it. Luke. Luke. Luke. Oh my god. >> Look, Luke. You can keep trying to make it work. And maybe it will work.
03:45:30
Brian Atlas>> He hates me. No, he doesn't. Yeah, right. >> [laughter] >> Be with a girl I I don't know. If I was talking to my bro, I'd be like, "Look, be with a girl that's like
03:45:43
Mariaall in on you." And I feel like you're not >> I was forever and then things were so shitty it just like one day I was like, "Okay, [ __ ] this." And then as soon as I wanted to say [ __ ] this, he was like,
03:45:54
Maria"Oh, I'll never do those things again." And I was like, "Okay. >> [laughter] >> We'll see." Yeah. He wants to hold on. You seem a little checked out.
03:46:06
Brian AtlasShould we This might be a first. Should we call Luke and have him dump her? No. First No. First first No.
03:46:16
Brian Atlason stream. First Whatever first first ever on stream. I'll walk you through it, Luke. I'll walk you through it. Actually, you know what? Luke, do this. We You know what? Just send her a text
03:46:27
Brian Atlasmessage. Be like, "Hey, it's been nice. It's been fun. It's not you, it's me. Really isn't. I just need to focus on myself." That's Luke. Send that text to her that right now.
03:46:42
SPEAKER_01I'm just saying. >> it. I'm just saying, Luke. >> to her till after anyways. Luke. Probably over it anyways. No, I'm kidding. >> [laughter] >> Guys, so mean. I don't know. He is so rude. It's not our business. I'm looking
03:46:54
SPEAKER_01out for my bro. I know, but this is not our business. I'm looking out for my bro. Just let him live his life. I I don't know the guy, but But a lot of nuances.
03:47:09
Brian Atlas>> [laughter] >> Look. Look. She's [ __ ] checked out. >> I'm not comfortable with this. >> Luke Luke deserves to be worshipped.
03:47:20
Brian AtlasLuke needs a woman to worship him. Luke needs a woman who's not going to be like [ __ ] Well, I think everybody deserves I think everybody deserves that. [laughter] I don't even know him. Where's his
03:47:33
Lindseycommon courtesy? Common courtesy. I'm just saying, Luke deserves a woman who You don't know him. who is [laughter] all in I was all in. Yeah, exactly. Everybody deserves someone who's all in. That's the bare
03:47:45
Brian Atlasminimum of a relationship. >> Like you you got to I don't know. >> [laughter] >> I'm just saying. >> like figure it out. I was all in. And if you love him, you may have to end things for him. >> You love that [ __ ] Yeah, I love that [ __ ] >> love that [ __ ] Yeah, I love him.
03:47:58
Brian Atlas>> show that Show him how much What the [ __ ] What the [ __ ] >> The [ __ ] Sorry. Sometimes I'm I shouldn't say it right now, actually. >> Oh, I know what you're saying. What I about to say? Tell me You're You're doing the What was I going to say? Culture appropriation.
03:48:12
Brian Atlas>> [laughter] >> Culture No, so technically Maybe. Technically, I >> over my head. >> It's weird because I I have so much identity confusion because I'm technically African-American. What? You're ginger?
03:48:27
Brian AtlasGinger? >> those as African-American? >> No, I'm technically African-American because So, my my mom was born in America. My dad was born in North Africa.
03:48:37
Brian AtlasSo, technically, if my dad was born in Africa and my mom was born in America technically, I'm African-American. I'm not black. >> Dude, you are. I'm not black. Yes, you are. But, I am African-American.
03:48:49
Brian Atlas>> so. All right. Uh let's do this. >> it feel to you? >> [laughter] >> I love it. I love it. Same. Can't complain. I love it. Um sometimes black people even call me the
03:49:01
Brian AtlasN-word. >> [laughter] >> Like, for example, like Are there You're white, I guess. Like, you're my Caucasian. Like, you're my Caucasian, Brooklyn. You I'm Italian.
03:49:14
Brian AtlasSomewhat That's white. Yeah. Brooklyn, you're my Caucasian. Your friend Lexi also my Caucasian. Yes. But, like, black people sometimes are like, "Brian, you're my I can't say it. You're my
03:49:26
LindseyHere, you fill in the blanks. No, I don't say that. >> Yeah, I don't say that, [laughter] either. I cut it out of my vocabulary. No. It's vo- Yeah, it's like kind of low barrel, honestly. Not the hard R. No, either one. I was raised not to say
03:49:39
Brian Atlasthat. never be like, "Brian, you're my >> No, never. They love it. It's a huge compliment. For what it is Yeah, it is a huge compliment for a lot of dudes. >> For a white man to be called the the
03:49:49
Lindsey>> by a black person Yeah, they say it. >> It's huge props. Yeah, but they have Yeah, but they have to speak that way. >> Especially somebody as nerdy as me. >> I said it to you, I would be purely performative cuz I don't speak like
03:50:00
Brian Atlasthat. But, no. Like, [laughter] also It wouldn't be a compliment to you. I'm not like a str- I'm not street. So, it's like that's even bigger props. Like, I'm not cool like that. I play [ __ ] World of Warcraft. I used to
03:50:11
Brian Atlasplay World of Warcraft. Like, so for a black guy to bestow upon me the respect Anyways, [ __ ] it, whatever. But, I have a question. We have two black women here. I think. Um >> [laughter]
03:50:25
Brian Atlas>> What do you guys think about reparations? What does that mean? I don't know what that Or what do the white people think about reparations? >> know what that Oh, reparations. That's like paying like So, because of slavery and [ __ ] Uh
03:50:37
Brian Atlaslike, we should give money to black people because of the historical Yeah. Honestly, I just I don't know. I'm white. Yeah, I'm just I just don't care. Who's Show of of reparations? You?
03:50:49
VeronicaOh my god, there was an episode in Atlanta about this. It was a crazy episode. >> what do you think? I think that I don't know. I have I have I >> Closer to Mike. Scoot into the table. >> I can speak about that. You can Are you
03:51:02
VeronicaLatina? No. Are you white? I'm Yeah, I'm British. That's my background. Yeah, you can speak about it. Um yeah, I think it's [ __ ] up, but I I
03:51:15
Brian Atlasdon't know. Who's And Julia, you reparations? >> Yeah, I don't think it's unrealistic now. Like, don't you feel
03:51:25
LexiLike, as a white person, don't you feel kind of guilty? I mean, my ancestors slave owners. How do you know? Because they're German. They could have Oh, so they did other bad stuff. So, they did the other
03:51:38
Brian Atlasthings. Terrible [laughter] things. Well, I don't know. Maybe then just as a white person, don't you feel No, do you? I mean, I feel I >> I feel like it should have never
03:51:49
Brian Atlashappened, but that's not That's not like me So, check this out, though. We have some white people here. I've already paid my reparations, but How? having sex with a black woman, but
03:52:01
LindseyWait, what? That was That's my repayment. No, that's [laughter] not Having that You just checked off the list. That's Are you serious? No. >> [laughter] >> You're not I'm a sex worker. That doesn't mean
03:52:14
LindseyYeah, there's no way you did that. No. Well, he probably did do that, but he probably doesn't mean it how he means it. So, anyways Remember [laughter] the setting we are in. Cancel for that one. Remember the setting. I just want to say we do have some white women here. We do
03:52:26
Brian Atlashave some white women here at the table. I would like you guys to go get your purses and pay these two lovely black women. Give them some cash for reparations. What? I'm just kidding. >> [laughter] >> I'm just kidding.
03:52:38
Brian AtlasBut, are you guys down to pay reparations? No. I would feel uncomfortable. Well, that was That's my weird. I just don't give a That was a pretty cringey segment. Anyways, moving on. We have Julia, can you read this one for us,
03:52:50
Juliaplease? Uh chair five is a liar. I've never had any toxic past relationships. Oh, yeah, he was abusive, so I left. Yes. I can explain that, though. >> Thank you, political. Thank you. >> [laughter] >> So, basically, I didn't stay. Like, once
03:53:02
LindseyI saw the first sign of anything, I left. So, that's why I say a majority, like 95% of the relationship was good. He has some mental health issues, like that um stem from like genuine mental
03:53:14
Lindseyhealth issues. And um that turned towards anger issues. But, again, once those signs happen, I did not stay. So, it doesn't really feel fair to say the
03:53:23
Brian Atlaswhole relationship sucked when 95% of it was good, and I chose not to stay. Okay. Um all right. Uh [sighs] I'm trying to think where we
03:53:36
Brian Atlaswere going. The moon. And back. Oh, really quick, on the topic of reparations, um I like to do a segment called the reverse simp. So, you know how men simp on you guys? Like,
03:53:48
Brian Atlasthey'll At least for like the stripper and I guess you, they'll just send you money just cuz you're a woman, basically. Are any of you down? Who has cash? Show of hands. I do, but I'm not doing anything with it. >> [laughter]
03:53:59
Brian Atlas>> Who's down to give me just cash right now? Not my hand. I have 25 cents. >> [laughter] >> I don't have to be your man. I just don't give my money to strangers. Brooklyn? No. >> [laughter] >> That's why I have it. Think about it, Brian. Think about Like,
03:54:12
Brian Atlasit's a bucket list thing. You can be like, "Oh my god, I'm a stripper and I make so much money from women. This one time I went on the Whatever podcast and uh I gave him like 200 bucks." No. Just for the funsies. Not even on my
03:54:24
SPEAKER_00deathbed. No. Rude. Okay, uh we have some chats coming in. TTS. Dickson_Seider donated $100. Holy [ __ ] Ladies, would you date Brian? Oh, boy.
03:54:37
SPEAKER_00On one hand, he is tall, 6'1", blue eyes. That's true. Sometimes funny, successful, but he has a dead-end job and probably autistic. Has a weird liking for big lady asses and a small penis. >> Hold on. Hold on. [laughter]
03:54:51
Brian AtlasThat person >> It's average, okay? It's not small. It's average, okay? Almost burped. That was weird. >> [laughter] >> Okay, I [ __ ] Oh my god, I sh- I wish
03:55:04
Brian Atlasthis came in earlier because I've been kind of a [ __ ] tonight. So, I feel like the girls are going to use that against me. But, okay, going around the table, would you date me? How old are you? I'm 21. You're not. No, I'm kidding. I'm 36.
03:55:17
Chris Love>> I knew it. I was about to say 36. I'm 36. I'm Maybe if you were 21. Okay. Um you said you only like 18-year-olds, so >> Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Hold on. That's [ __ ] crazy. He said 21. >> That's not true. No, no, no. Hold on.
03:55:30
Brian AtlasHold on. I did Let's just be clear. [laughter] I date women, adult women. Yeah, that's what he said. >> older women Oops. I've dated women older than me. I dated when I was a bit
03:55:40
Brian Atlasyounger, a couple years ago. I dated a woman in her 40s. To be fair she was Wasion. Uh to be fair. To [laughter] be fair. She looked really young. Let's just say
03:55:54
Brian Atlasuh Asian women tend to age a bit better. >> Yes. Now, she only had 50% of that going for her, but she was a she was hot. Mhm. She was hotter when she was younger, but Aren't we all?
03:56:06
Brian AtlasYeah. Anyway, um but I'll date I'll date women my age. I'll date women younger. Uh yeah. Younger adult women, just to be [ __ ] clear. Um So, when you said like
03:56:18
Chris Lovedating only 18-year-olds No, I didn't Wait. When did I say that? Would you date an 18-year-old? Yeah, my mom would be like But, you were you were impersonating some kind of guy that you think No, no, wait. I was [laughter]
03:56:29
Brian AtlasThat was when we were having the conversation of like who deserves what, and I was sort of Yes. hypothe- not hypothetical Yeah, it was like, "Well, okay. I only
03:56:41
Brian Atlaswant to date 18-year-old supermodels. Am I going to get it?" I was trying to articulate the point of no, I'm not going to get that. Uh but, okay, so that's a no, Brooklyn.
03:56:51
Brian AtlasUh too old for me. Too old. Okay. You know what? I read at a 12th grade level, though. I don't know if that That's really good, though. >> changes anything. That is good.
03:57:02
LindseyUh me? Yes. Means you don't like him. Yes. Okay, cool. Got you. I got I would have said yes, but because of the you said you don't like emotional conversations, so
03:57:14
Brian AtlasI'd probably be the worst person. I love being deep. Okay, [laughter] fair enough. Fair enough. What about you? What's your zodiac sign? Oh. Uh I'm just going to say no for you, then.