35 w/ CRAZY Standards?! REFUSES TO SETTLE?! Obese Girl WILL NOT Date Obese Man?! | Dating Talk #267
Date: 2025-11-03
Duration: 8h 07m
Guests
Brian AtlasIdentified Speakers
SPEAKER_02Victoria Buma(guest)
SPEAKER_04Felicity(host)
SPEAKER_05Sabrina(guest)
SPEAKER_06Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_08Leana (Finland)(guest)
SPEAKER_09Sophia(guest)
SPEAKER_10Laura(guest)
SPEAKER_11Paige Hamilton(guest)
SPEAKER_12Maria Porcha(guest)
Key Moments
00:05:27
IntroAll 7 guests + Felicity introduce themselves
00:15:36
ControversyVictoria's 'Hitler always peaked my interest' TikTok played and discussed
“Hitler always peaked my interest okay.”
00:21:53
RelationshipFull relationship status round-table
00:32:15
Key MomentVictoria reveals she just started dating Noah (a Marine fan of the show) literally yesterday. He sends $200 super chat.
01:02:00
ControversyBrian confronts Sabrina about expecting fit men while being ~40% body fat herself
01:47:40
ControversyLaura openly admits to being 'slightly misogynistic' toward women
02:41:28
ControversyMaria names Europe, America, Asia as countries (all wrong), then Tokyo, Paris
02:44:05
ControversySabrina cannot name the continent she lives on for several agonizing minutes
05:24:55
Key MomentBrian expects women to do his laundry first visit, sparking show's biggest debate
06:00:01
QuoteVictoria: 'If willing to sleep with a man, should be okay folding his laundry'
06:27:00
Key MomentBrian counsels Paige about being mouthy to husband, quotes Proverbs 21:19
07:51:00
AgreementEvery woman chooses to give up voting over being subject to military draft
Topics Discussed
00:05:27
Guest Introductions
Maria (27, model/psych student from LA), Leana (36, Finnish mechanic born in Jerusalem), Victoria (19, controversial social media), Laura (31, unemployed Calabasas), Paige (32, married mother from NY), Sabrina (35, data analyst), Sophia (18, history student).
00:15:31
Victoria's Hitler Video
Victoria's TikTok about Hitler 'peaking her interest' played. She explains she studies historical figures. Leana (born in Jerusalem, Jewish) says she wasn't offended.
00:21:53
Relationship Status Round
Maria single 2 years. Leana in 7-year relationship. Victoria just started dating Noah yesterday. Laura single 4 years. Paige married 10 years (both virgins). Sabrina never >6 months. Sophia never dated.
00:58:18
Sabrina's High Expectations Debate
Sabrina won't date obese men despite being ~40% body fat herself. Brian challenges the double standard. Extended debate about asymmetry in attraction.
01:16:08
Laura's Anti-Wealth Stance
Laura finds extreme wealth 'gross' and 'disgusting.' Believes money corrupts people. Wants to live on a ranch in Texas.
01:47:40
Laura's Self-Described Misogyny
Laura admits to being 'slightly misogynistic.' Believes men are stronger, smarter, faster. Critiques the Whatever podcast.
02:41:28
Felicity's Trivia - Countries and Continents
Maria names Europe, Asia, Tokyo as countries. Sabrina cannot name the continent she lives on for several painful minutes.
02:50:20
Minimum Income Requirements
Maria: $300K. Leana: average. Victoria: $100-150K. Laura: no minimum. Paige: $85K. Sabrina: $80K. Sophia: $100K.
02:57:00
Man vs Bear Question
All women ultimately say man. Paige hesitates due to trust issues from absent father.
04:08:15
Body Count Reveal
Maria <5. Victoria 1 (one non-consensual). Laura refuses (implied 20+). Sophia 0. Paige 1 (husband only). Sabrina refuses.
04:48:02
Self-Rating Looks
Maria 10, Leana 6, Victoria 6, Laura 6, Paige 5, Sabrina 5, Sophia 3-5. AI age/gender filters shown.
05:24:55
The Laundry Debate
Major debate: should women do a man's laundry first visit? Victoria: 'if willing to sleep with him, should fold his laundry.' Laura eventually concedes after boyfriend/girlfriend.
06:06:01
The Bow Expectation
Brian shows ex bowing video. Most initially refuse but say yes for 'the perfect man.'
06:25:16
Paige's Marriage Advice
Brian reads Paige's notes about being mouthy to husband Skyler. Quotes Proverbs 21:19. Gives Skyler Hamlet quote as rhetorical weapon.
06:55:00
Brian's Anti-Marriage Stance
Brian refuses to marry: divorce risk, alimony, 80% of divorces initiated by women. Would only marry a billionaire woman. Would be stay-at-home dad.
07:46:00
Women and the Draft
All women choose to give up voting rights rather than be subject to military draft.
Transcript
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05:54:25
Brian Atlascare of the children. We're having a population collapse. Women are clearly not having children. That's because men don't want to marry
05:54:37
Laurawomen because they No, they they No, no, no, they don't >> No, no, no, no, I'm not saying it's the man's fault. They don't want to marry women because they're all [ __ ] everybody. Excuse my language. >> the laundry.
05:54:49
Laura>> don't do anything for them. They don't offer anything to them. I'm telling you this. >> about? So, so the woman should start doing laundry. Absolutely. >> On the first time at the house. >> On No, not at the not the first time at the house, but they need to do more.
05:55:01
Brian AtlasThey need to offer more and they need to be more >> time. Let me ask you a question. If a woman did do it, like let's just talk about practical reality.
05:55:13
LauraDo you think it's going to hurt her to do it? Um not it won't hurt her, but it's just going to be
05:55:24
LauraI I think that's awkward. I think it's a little bit degrading. Like oh, I'm here for the first time and I'm cleaning up his house. Like I I don't know. I just don't think So, I need to give my life for a girl I'm on a first date with.
05:55:36
Brian Atlas>> No, you don't. You don't need to give my life. You said men should protect. On a first date. It doesn't say that anywhere. I said men should protect. >> Well, no, I asked you. No, yeah, I >> On a first date.
05:55:48
LauraI wouldn't. If I was a man, I would I would run if there was a shoot if if I was at a restaurant and a shooter came in and he took a bullet for me on a first date, I would think woah.
05:56:00
Brian AtlasWoah, that's wild. I would never expect that in a million years. Okay, you I do recall, I don't know if it was you, maybe somebody else said something along the lines of I asked, should a man be willing to provide and protect on the
05:56:11
Brian Atlasfirst, second, third date and you did say you did answer in the affirmative. Whether that means taking the bullet for you, maybe not not to that extent, but there's this idea, at least with the
05:56:23
Brian Atlassidewalk rule, that that's an extension of men should sacrifice their life for a woman, basically. Oh, if a car comes barreling down the road and you
05:56:33
Brian Atlasknow, goes onto the sidewalk, the man should be closer to that so he gets hit instead of the woman. We actually >> If I got to [ __ ] die for a chick,
05:56:45
Leana (Finland)yeah, she should do my laundry. Yeah, she should cook and clean. I don't know if you guys have a saying like this, but we have a saying in Finnish. Naiset ensin vaikka heikoille
05:56:54
Leana (Finland)jäille. That means women's first uh women first even to thin ice. To what? Thin ice. Thin ice? Yeah.
05:57:06
Leana (Finland)What do you mean? I don't get it. Like women should be first, but it's added even to go on to ice that is thin. Oh, >> Oh, it's a joke.
05:57:17
Brian AtlasSo that they can fall through the ice. I I think I get it. Um Okay. Where were we? I don't know. >> [snorts and laughter]
05:57:28
Laura>> Y'all crazy, man. Y'all crazy. [ __ ] It's She says it's insane. She says it's insane. Oh, the bowing. To expect somebody I mean, chat, come in. Do you expect somebody to do your laundry on a first
05:57:41
Brian Atlas>> They do. I'm sorry, they do. Oh, no, no. The question I was asking was would it hurt the woman? And like if we're talking about the most effective strategy for a woman to take
05:57:54
Brian Atlaswhen dating, like it's definitely not going to hurt. In fact, the guy could be like, oh, wow, wifey material. Boom. So if you're a woman struggling to get a
05:58:04
Brian Atlasguy, oh, no. Take 20 minutes to do And and even if the the gesture would be appreciated. Some guys might be like, nah, you don't have to do that. Don't worry about it. But if you just say
05:58:16
Brian Atlasthe first time you're at a guy's house, you're sitting there, you're talking, you just make the gesture. And look, if he takes you up on it, you do it. But you make the gesture and you just say
05:58:29
LauraHey, um is there anything I can help you out with around the house while I'm here? Let's say the guy You're spending time together. I'm getting to know him. I'm not going to Oh, no. You can take a
05:58:39
Brian Atlas30-minute break. Maybe he can keep you company in the laundry. No, you can What? [snorts] They they are they understand when I talk about it more. >> [laughter]
05:58:50
Felicity>> Um it's like context. Like if you see some dishes in the sink, you're like, oh, do you need help with That's what I said that I would do that. some laundry, do you want me to Do you want some help with that? You want to You're The guy is
05:59:03
Leana (Finland)going to work. He's starting his laundry. He's starting his laundry. I got to be nice and dainty and feminine. Like, oh, do you need some help with Oh, yeah. Do you want me to get on my hands and knees?
05:59:14
LauraGod, no. Girl, it's just like you'll take his But that's the way No, [ __ ] no. Oh my god, no, no, no, no. That's what that sounded like, but Have you ever had [laughter] a
05:59:25
Brian AtlasHave you ever had a one-night stand? Yes, in my When Well, yeah, when I was 20, you know. But like, have you ever and maybe even not a one-night stand, but
05:59:37
Brian Atlaseven a guy who you went on to date for a period of time? Like, did you ever go back to his place the same first date? No, like go on a date A one-night stand would be like you sleep with them the
05:59:49
Brian Atlasfirst time and that's it. You don't see them again. And then the the follow-up question there was like you could sleep with a guy the first date, but then you continue dating
06:00:02
Brian Atlashim. That can happen, too. I have never done that. But you have had a one-night stand where you sleep with the guy and I never talked to him again. How many You've You said you've done that a couple times.
06:00:14
Laura>> one time. One time. Okay. Well, Okay. I did Well, maybe there's two of >> Okay, there's two. Before 20. No, no, no, no, no.
06:00:26
Brian Atlas>> So, but my point is They were all very young. And I it's I get I'm getting the impression, to be fair to you, you don't do that anymore, right? You don't You haven't had a one-night stand in a while, right? I get you don't do that
06:00:38
Brian Atlasanymore. But women will What's confusing to me, I I feel like it's almost wholesome. The first time a girl comes over to my house, I want her to fold my laundry. The first
06:00:48
Brian Atlastime y'all go to a guy's house, he wants to blow his load in your face. Wow. He wants to come inside you. He wants to So like, I almost and many of you oblige
06:01:01
Brian Atlasthem. So, many women oblige men in in this. So I'm like, you'll let a guy come in the back of your throat, but I'm [ __ ] Mr. Wholesome over here.
06:01:12
Brian AtlasLet's do some laundry. I'm the bad guy, but y'all y'all be choking on dick. Y'all be You Y'all be letting some dude balls deep, sometimes without a condom.
06:01:23
Brian AtlasAnd I'm the [ __ ] bad guy? I'm the bad guy. I want to I expect a woman to do laundry. But but y'all be dealing with dudes who expect to be balls deep in
06:01:34
Brian Atlasyour [ __ ] I think it is Y'all expect a guy to be you you're going to be [ __ ] gagging on his [ __ ] And I'm the bad guy here? I'm the
06:01:46
Laura[ __ ] bad guy. Not the first time that you go over to their house. Again, Hold on. Maybe three months in. >> dick the first time they go to guys' house. Let's be for I'm thinking more like the first time I go to his house
06:02:00
Victoria BumaYeah. No, if you're willing to sleep with a man, you should be okay with folding his laundry. I I'm sorry, but that's the truth of it. I think we all have this warped I don't know if you're trying to argue otherwise, but if you're
06:02:11
Brian Atlasready to sleep with a man, you should have no problem folding his laundry. >> Wait, that's actually a really good point you made that I actually haven't like exactly thought of it in that way.
06:02:21
Brian AtlasBut like, there will be women who are so down to like give suck a guy's dick, have sex with him, let him like they'll [ __ ] without they'll [ __ ] raw, [ __ ] without a condom. But they draw the line like they
06:02:34
Brian AtlasNo, won't do the laundry, but will That's That's almost weird to me. Yeah, it's warped because they think it's empowerment. >> Like, shouldn't it be like No, no, no. I won't [ __ ] you. I'm not going to [ __ ] you yet, but sure. Like, I'll help you
06:02:46
Lauraout around the house. Like, shouldn't that be the order of operations? >> both when the time is right, not the first time going over there. Question for you. Which would come first?
06:02:58
LauraBJ or Or doing their laundry? >> Which would come first? No, it's No, it's probably it's probably laundry.
06:03:10
Laura>> Really? Or sex, potentially. It's not >> Sex first, laundry after. But not raw. Never been on birth control in my life. Never been pregnant. Good times.
06:03:22
Brian AtlasGood times. Um where were we? Did we do the bow? Oh, wait, chat's sold on. Sorry, chat's. Uh okay. Sorry for the delay, boys. Hey, uh what the hell here? Oh my god. Why does it keep It always has to It
06:03:35
SPEAKER_00reloads for some reason. Kind of frustrating. Pasty George donated $70. Brian, these women who refuse to do the laundry or
06:03:45
SPEAKER_00even the dishes are why many Western men are done with them. They expect so much from good men, but offer little to nothing in return. Well, how does I'm just curious. Like, how does he know that majority of
06:03:58
FelicityWestern men are done with this? And it's like if a Marriage rate, divorce rate. If if a woman from an Asian country was like, I want to marry an American man, they'd be like, oh, you're such a gold digger. But he's also like saying, oh, you
06:04:10
SPEAKER_00passport bros, you should go get an Asian lady in some other country. I don't know. Kind of hypocritical. Pasty George donated $70. So, according to Chairful's
06:04:22
SPEAKER_00views, men are a disposable commodity. If that is the case, then what made women so highly valued? Why are men viewed as less than women?
06:04:34
LauraAccording to me, men viewed as less than women. Apparently, I'm a misogynist according to Brian. I don't know what you're talking about. I never said I wasn't >> you were a misogynist. No. You said I said I've been called that. Okay,
06:04:46
Laurawhatever. Um I've been called misogynistic, but um I never said that women were valued higher than men at all, ever. And
06:04:58
Brian Atlasmaybe he needs to listen to the podcast a little. And again, >> [laughter] >> Okay. Um let's see here. We have a few more. One sec.
06:05:11
SPEAKER_00Thank you, Pasty George. Appreciate it, brother. Pasty George donated $70. More and more Western men are now realizing that women expecting you to pay for the first date,
06:05:22
SPEAKER_00pick them up, and drop them off at home is entitled and quite sexist, especially when they're not trans.
06:05:32
SPEAKER_00Yeah, I guess. >> Okay. Okay. I don't even go on dates, so yeah, not expecting any of that. Pasty George donated $70. Chairful,
06:05:43
SPEAKER_00degrading? What makes you think that many Western women are so high value that any little thing, such as doing laundry or dishes, would degrade them?
06:05:52
LauraAre they holy and levitating? On a first time over, I don't think they should be doing the laundry. Let's play the bow video. Let's play it
06:06:05
Brian AtlasSo, you think the bow the laundry's crazy? Check this [ __ ] out. This is a tutorial I recorded uh of my ex-girlfriend to show to future
06:06:15
Brian Atlasgirlfriends. Oh. Yeah. Okay, go ahead. Boom. Huge bow. Do you see the bow? She has to bow. She has to bow every single
06:06:27
Brian Atlastime I come home. Greet me at the door with a bow. Laundry. Throw it on the bed. Dinner ready. Dinner has to be ready.
06:06:35
Brian AtlasGet home from a long day at the podcast. Cracks open a beer for me. Yep. She's beautiful. Yeah, you know. Um Why isn't she doing laundry?
06:06:47
Brian Atlas>> her, though. I I had to dump her. >> Why? Um >> wasn't hot enough. >> was Yeah, it was a little the temperature was bad on it. Play the bow part.
06:06:58
Brian AtlasBow. Boom. Pause. You see the depth. You see the submissive hand posture. This is my expectation. I expect a girl to bow. Going around the table, would you bow for a man?
06:07:10
SPEAKER_07Hire a maid. Huh? Hire a maid. You said no. No, she hire a maid. What about you? Depends on the man, but the man I have, yes. >> Your your current boyfriend, yes. Yes. You would do it? Okay, challenge for
06:07:23
Victoria Bumayou. Hit give him a bow next time you see him. What about you? Uh it's hard because I don't know how my dad will feel about me doing that, but also trying to say like if I really did
06:07:36
Victoria Bumarespect this man, I don't know if I'll necessarily bow, but I will uh well, I will certainly submit to him. I just don't I I think bowing is a little it's the the situation seems strange, but
06:07:49
Brian Atlasyeah. Well, [clears throat] I mean uh culturally it might seem a bit eccentric. It might be a bit unorthodox.
06:08:01
Brian AtlasBut in terms of the actual you know, the actual action itself, it's completely benign. It's anyone can do it. It's effortless. It's
06:08:11
Lauratakes 3 seconds. But why do you want that? I'll get into that, but would you bow for a man? Probably not. Um I thought did you
06:08:23
Laura>> give him a hug. I'd give him a kiss. I'd make him dinner. >> It would be something that would be pleasing to him. Would you do it? Um I don't
06:08:35
Brian AtlasI don't know. I don't think so, but maybe. I thought but didn't you agree with me that women should be submissive? Yeah, I mean the whole rest of the video totally fine, normal, but >> Not the bow though. The bow was a little weird.
06:08:49
LauraI yeah, again, I don't know what my dad would think about that either. I think he would think it's absolutely ludicrous. Uh what would your dad think about all the whatever you've done? What do you think? If my husband asked, I'd
06:09:00
Sabrinasay yes. Yes? Yeah. I mean I I agree that it is a bit strange to be honest, um but if it was,
06:09:09
Brian Atlasyou know, my man, my dream man, I wouldn't Well, no, let's not do that yet. I will ask about the perfect man if that changes anything. No, no, no. But
06:09:21
Brian Atlasuh the It's strange. >> You can envision yourself realistically being married someday, right? And I assume this man isn't going to be perfect, right? >> No.
06:09:34
Brian Atlas>> you eventually end up with. If that man, your husband, asked you to do it, do you do it? Not the perfect man, not the ideal man, the man you end up with. I mean, just because of how strange it was, I'm not
06:09:45
Brian Atlassure, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't be submissive to him to do other things, but bowing, I think it's just >> he overtly asks you to do the bow. do it. >> Yep.
06:09:57
Brian AtlasAnd you said you would be submissive, so Bowing though, that's I it's just strange to me. I understand it's strange, but it it doesn't hurt it
06:10:05
Brian Atlasdoesn't hurt you. It's not immoral, so do you do it?
06:10:13
SabrinaWell, obviously it doesn't hurt me, but it it puts me in a position where it's just strange. Like even, you know, it's just strange. Well, I mean, we can extend this out to like other areas of
06:10:25
Brian Atlaslife where you might encounter something strange. Like me me, for example, I think if you're with someone who you otherwise get along with and they're you're attracted to them and you like
06:10:36
Brian Atlasthem and there's good personality, but they have like a harmless sexual kink. I think instead of like making fun of them for it or thinking it's weird, I think if it's like, "Hey, this is something that turns them on and it's not like
06:10:47
Brian Atlasstrange or harmful any any sort of way." I think in furtherance of being a good partner, probably just engage in their kink or whatever. >> what it is. It's a kink that you're making her bow?
06:10:59
Brian Atlas>> sit No, I'm sit I'm talking about something separate. I think there are certain things where you could you could be like, "Well, this is a bit unusual. This is a bit strange, but it doesn't
06:11:09
Brian Atlashurt me and it it is pleasing to my partner. Why wouldn't I do this thing?" Okay. I mean, it doesn't seem like it's degrading
06:11:21
Brian Atlas>> example, if I was I'll give you an example. Okay. >> I might think it's a bit peculiar Yeah. >> if, you know, I was um dating a girl and she wanted to a couple
06:11:32
Brian Atlastimes during sex, she wanted to meow. Like she she's not full-blown furry, but she's like, "You [laughter] know what? I just I wanted like purr and meow a few
06:11:43
Brian Atlastimes." I wouldn't and I cared about this girl and she was my girlfriend and I loved her. I wouldn't be like, "What the [ __ ] is wrong with you, weirdo?" I'd be like, I care about this person. They have like a little interesting kink or whatever.
06:11:58
Sabrina>> [laughter] >> It doesn't hurt me. Who knows? Maybe I might be into it later. Sure, babe. Whatever. Go ahead. Bowing is kind of like showing like honor. Yeah. [laughter] Kind of. So that's why No, but it's not in a bad way. It's not
06:12:11
Sabrinain a bad way. It's not in a bad way. Like obviously I would honor my husband, but How can it be a bad way to honor your husband? Like anything. >> that way, but it's just he's expecting
06:12:22
Sabriname to bow to him. It's just I don't know. It just it just feels strange. But I'm trying to understand like like if it's >> expecting. Maybe he just means as like a can you bow? Like if your husband was
06:12:33
SPEAKER_01like, "Can you bow?" Like I feel like we most of us would just be like, "Okay." And then we'd bow. Yeah. >> Yeah, yeah. But I don't Maybe I'm just not understanding like >> think I would I don't think I would fall in love with somebody who expects a bow.
06:12:44
Laura>> Uh that's a Here and there. Here and there. That's a cop out. That's a total cop out. >> But here and there, if he were like, "Can you bow this week?" Or like, you know,
06:12:56
Sabrina>> Let's finish up with you though. So no, is it no? You wouldn't bow? I mean, I I want to say no, but I just don't want it to make it sound like I wouldn't you know. >> If you love him, he means a lot to you
06:13:08
Brian Atlasand you really want it, you'll do it. Yeah, like if I really love him if I wanted to. >> If my husband asked me to, yeah. Yeah. Based. W. Okay. There you go. Uh and by the way, uh is everybody here Christian?
06:13:20
Brian AtlasMaybe she's the only [ __ ] Christian one because uh submit onto your Wait, wait, how's it go? [ __ ] uh submit onto your husbands as you would onto the Lord. Um like a
06:13:31
Brian Atlasbiblical Christian marriage, like the husband's the head of the household. You you defer to him. You're submissive to him. Again, within the purview of like uh Christian ethics, Christian morality, if
06:13:43
Brian Atlashe asks you to start start being a a prostitute, of course you're not going to be submissive to your Christian husband if he wants you to start an OnlyFans. No, that's in contravention of Christian uh Christian morality, Christian ethics,
06:13:56
Brian Atlasbut uh I don't know. Your husband I just I guess it's Somebody in my Discord put it really well. I think it's uh
06:14:07
Brian AtlasHer name she always changes her username, so I'm trying to wrote um she wrote that uh if you will do one really easy, effortless, completely benign thing just
06:14:20
Brian Atlasto make your man happy, regardless of how silly silly it is. And it's like you won't do it. You won't do it. Um question though, for the perfect man, perfect man. It's not just
06:14:33
Brian AtlasLook, in life we're not going to get perfect. We're not going to get the perfect life. We're not going to get the perfect career. We're not going to get the perfect spouse, husband, wife, whatever. They're going to annoy us in some way or
06:14:46
Brian Atlasanother. They're not going to be as tall. They're not going to have as much hair as you'd like. They're not going to what whatever. They're not going to be every every single thing that you want. You might really love them and they might be fantastic. You're not going to
06:14:58
Maria Porchaget the perfect person. For the perfect man, do you bow? Sure. For the perfect man, you do it. I mean, it would have to be like role-playing or whatever. Like not like a everyday thing.
06:15:09
Victoria Buma>> Everyday thing? No. Still Okay, perfect man? Still yes. Perfect man, do you bow? >> said that whole thing about submitting to your husband, I'm going to have to say
06:15:20
Laura>> Uh I changed your mind. Okay. Um so if perfect man, yes. Perfect man, do you do it? For the perfect man, I'd do anything. The perfect man, do you do laundry first time you go to his house? >> Well, I don't know he's perfect yet first time I go to his house. You
06:15:33
Brian AtlasThere's so much more to >> In the hypothetical, you know he's perfect. Yes. Yes, you do. Okay. >> But he's But he's not around, so All right. Perfect man. >> He's my husband, yes. Perfect man, would
06:15:45
Brian Atlasyou do it? Yes. Yes, she does the bow. You do laundry also for the perfect man? >> I have done that before. Okay, what about you? Perfect man, I think yes. Okay. Again, I don't know so much laundry. >> Okay, so I'll focus on you for a little
06:15:58
Brian Atlasbit. No, focus on me. Hell yeah. >> I'm trying to think. Perfect man. Um How about this?
06:16:07
Brian AtlasDo you give up your career for the perfect man? Yes. Uh okay. Give up your career for the perfect man? Gosh, that's a hard one. Uh cuz I I really like
06:16:20
Victoria Buma[ __ ] talking and everything like that. So [laughter] um Yeah, you have to get you have to uh you do like social media. To get the perfect man. Um By the way, the perfect man could be like a billionaire, so it's like
06:16:34
Brian AtlasYou have to delete social media, no social media. All gone. Do you give it up for the perfect man? Um
06:16:51
Victoria BumaUm You would rather be alone >> let her answer. Let her answer. If he yeah, if he took care of my family cuz a lot of what I do is because I want my family to be safe and I want Well,
06:17:02
Victoria Bumathat sounds bad. I want to be big enough or I want to start something big enough where I can um have have my family safe and I can take care of them. It's so if that man can do
06:17:14
Maria Porchathat, then I I would be more than happy to give it all up. So, yes. You said you'd give up your career? Yes. >> Social media, too? I mean, if it can't be like oh, we can't do couple stuff on it and like family stuff.
06:17:26
Brian Atlas>> You can't have any social media? I guess like bye. Bye. You give up give up perfect or give up career for perfect man? >> Of course, I'd give up career, I'd give up social media. Just say yes or no.
06:17:38
Brian AtlasYes. Absolutely. How about this? Perfect career or perfect man? So, it's not just giving up your career, which for most people won't have the perfect
06:17:52
Maria Porchacareer. Whatever the perfect career is, you have two options. Perfect career or perfect man, which do you pick? I guess the the perfect man because
06:18:04
Brian Atlas>> Yeah. Perfect man. >> Perfect man? Perfect man. I'd do it for my husband currently. Perfect man. Perfect man. >> Okay. All right, kind of reasonable here. Um I don't know if I have anything else on
06:18:17
Laurathe laundry thing. Uh please. Yeah, why laundry? Why did you choose laundry over like sweeping or watering his plants? Like those are things that I might actually do.
06:18:30
Brian Atlas>> They can do that, too. >> Over laundry. I Wait, hold on. I feel like like dragging around the hose and like holding like holding the hose, which I mean, it's it's like a few Your hands get tired
06:18:42
Lauraafter a while. Yeah. Like holding up the hose, that's It's 5 lb, but you do it for 30 minutes, then How large is your lawn? No, I [gasps] was saying like your house plants.
06:18:55
Brian Atlas>> it It's a It's a process. So, anyways, Wow. >> Uh don't don't get too excited. Um I'm not. Good for you. Thank you. Appreciate it. Uh yeah, it's like
06:19:07
Brian Atlasuh what's it called? I I feel the yeah, like cleaning, I feel like that's a bigger ask than laundry. But that's something that I would do before I would do laundry. >> gloves on. Like you got to clean the toilet. That's worse than
06:19:21
Laura>> Okay. >> [laughter] >> No one said anything about toilet cleaning over laundry, but I'm saying like tidying up the kitchen or doing some dishes. It's just >> I'd rather do laundry, to be honest. >> are things that I would do before I would do laundry. >> have to get wet,
06:19:35
FelicityYeah. >> laundry's better. >> so into it. Okay. >> Really? You like touching all the dirty food? I just do I do dishes. >> chunks of food on the plate. When you have to clean the drain as well. That's the worst.
06:19:48
Laura>> I'd rather do laundry. >> Um let's see here. >> You want to touch his dirty boxers and his Well, you're not You have to direct wipe his ass correctly. Yeah. >> [laughter] >> What?
06:20:00
Brian AtlasSomebody I Um You know what though? I I could have gone crazy with this [ __ ] I could have been like she's got to churn butter. Oh my god. >> Churn butter? I'm down with that.
06:20:13
Brian Atlas>> [laughter] >> She If she won't, find someone who will. If she wanted to, she would. Like make me a quilt. Make me some [ __ ] moccasins. I have
06:20:24
Lauradone so much laundry for my ex. I used to go down three flights of stairs, no elevator, to do his laundry. >> Like knit Knit me a cardigan. Knit me a cardigan. If she isn't Amish,
06:20:39
Brian AtlasI don't know. She's not the one. It's some Karate Kid [ __ ] though. It's like Mr. Miyagi, I train her so that she's ready
06:20:49
Brian Atlasfor the All Valley Karate Tournament. Yeah, that's what I think I deserve because Never mind. >> Because you have a large backyard. Uh because I'm a king. What I I actually live in an an apartment. I'm just kidding. Um
06:21:03
Brian Atlas>> [laughter] >> Uh what if let's see. Hm. Felicity knows. Okay. Don't worry about it. Um Let's see if there's anything else. Oh,
06:21:15
Brian Atlasno. Women women will poke the back of their throats with an boy's pecker but won't cook for a billionaire?
06:21:27
Brian AtlasLet that sink in. Let that sink in. Not for Not us. Uh okay, here. We have Do we have some more chats? I feel like Pasty George here is going to murder me. He's going to shank me next time he sees me, man.
06:21:40
SPEAKER_00>> [laughter] >> Get to my freaking chats, Brian. Pasty George donated $70. Great point from chat three about the one-night
06:21:50
Victoria Bumastand. She is based on that. Thank you, Pasty George. We love you. She loves you long time, Pasty George. Long time. >> [snorts]
06:22:04
Brian Atlas>> I don't really >> a button for that? I swear I do. Wait, hold on. It's going to be delayed, but [ __ ] >> Pasty George donated $70. Western marriage is a humiliation ritual where a
06:22:15
SPEAKER_00man has to bend a knee and offer his life to a woman and is at her mercy because she can, at any time, divorce him and take all his hard-earned money.
06:22:27
Leana (Finland)Your man >> Oh, me so horny. Me love you long time. Jeez. I am too young for this like movie [laughter] clip, but it's You have the army man, so you should know it. Look up
06:22:38
Brian AtlasFull Metal Jacket. All right, guys. I'm going to start a goal in the YouTube section for super chat. Uh 50 super chats, yellowing up,
06:22:51
Brian Atlaswe have 1 hour. I will wear a kilt next episode if we hit this goal. I'm starting the goal now. What is a kilt? The Scottish It's like a skirt.
06:23:06
Brian AtlasAre you going to wear underwear? No, you can't with a kilt. >> Sorry, hold on. Not Wait, [ __ ] I got to revise that [ __ ] I can change it. Nobody sent a super chat yet, remove. >> [laughter]
06:23:18
Brian Atlas>> I I resent Send it. We're sending it. Uh you know what? Uh Brian will wear a kilt to the debates next week. >> a kilt during Actually, it would kind of be funny to
06:23:32
Brian Atlasdo it with Andrew here. >> Yep. Yeah. An episode in November to I reserve the right to not have it be the Andrew episode, but I'm a nice guy. Maybe I'll do it. I might do it during Andrew's episode.
06:23:45
Brian Atlas>> here? Let's We need to see what he thinks. >> Brian will wear a a kilt during an episode in November. 50 super chats, 10 and up. Send that [ __ ] boys.
06:23:57
Brian AtlasThat was [snorts] kind of I know. I did I did that I did it intentionally. Okay, Felicity. That [ __ ] was intentional. >> Letting your gay side slip out again. Word. True. It's true. He likes to do
06:24:10
Brian Atlashis gay impression. >> I have a great gay voice. >> He does, you know. >> But a kilt is not gay. No, I'm Yeah, we're not saying the kilt is gay. The kilt is actually like gigantically Are you Irish? Are you Irish?
06:24:23
Brian Atlas>> Scottish, you mean? Uh Scottish. >> Wow, that was really insensitive to the Scots. Can you please issue an apology? Scots, are you Scottish? No, I don't think so. Why do you have a kilt?
06:24:34
Brian AtlasI don't yet, but I might [ __ ] buy one so I can do the the thing. Nice. I want you to look in the camera though and [ __ ] apologize for being a racist. Is that racist? Yeah, she used thought he
06:24:46
Felicitywas Irish. That shit's racist, bro. >> They kind of look the same, no? Oh, what? Don't they? There's a cultural difference between The people just drink too much. >> Ireland is a
06:24:58
Brian Atlas>> [laughter] >> Ireland is its own island, son. I'm Irish. Okay, Felicity. I am. >> All right. All right. Um was there anything else on the bowel thing? I don't know.
06:25:10
Brian Atlas>> No. There is stuff There's more notes though. We have some notes from Hold on. Where are we? We did Laura. Um
06:25:21
Brian AtlasYou said you want to bring back celibacy, your final note. You You also You I feel like you're partially based though. You want to bring back celibacy and shaming and not celebrating hoe behavior.
06:25:34
LauraAre you celibate? Yeah. >> For how long? A year and a half. Damn. Almost a year and a half. Good for you. Mhm. 16 months. Are you waiting until marriage? I haven't really
06:25:48
Laurauh decided that. I don't think so, but I intend that the next person that I sleep with is going to be my husband. So, >> But you you won't wait until marriage, is that correct? >> I I don't think so.
06:26:00
Brian AtlasUm but I >> Okay. intend for the next person to be sure. >> Right, you want the last guy to be your last. I see. The next guy to be the last. >> till marriage. Fair to say?
06:26:12
Brian AtlasProbably not. It's really hard. It's really hard. Well, what if he doesn't want to >> [laughter] >> Whatever. Um Going to page You write you have serious daddy issues. In 10 seconds or less,
06:26:26
Paige Hamiltontell me why. Um because I didn't know him till I was nine and I never even saw a picture of him and then he moved in with us and he was a total jerk face. >> Uh hide the this thing. Okay. And he was just a real [ __ ] for
06:26:39
Paige Hamiltonum 10 years of my life and then when he left, the last words he said to me were go burn in hell, I never loved you, you [ __ ] [ __ ] Okay. That can definitely cause daddy issues. That can do that.
06:26:51
Paige Hamilton>> have to say he's reached out recently and he does seem like a changed man. And it's been put on my heart to forgive him, which is hard, but I'm hoping someday I can. So you the big thing I wanted to talk to
06:27:04
Brian Atlasyou about, I wish I got into it earlier cuz it's the sort of tail end of the show. You say you you've been married to your husband for a while. Uh you say
06:27:16
Brian Atlasyou're by no means perfect. We bicker like a lot, but we get over it so fast. Uh how does your husband feel about that?
06:27:27
Paige HamiltonHe when he he knows I have a big mouth. He's always known I had a big mouth. I think it's something he's just tolerated. I'm by no means like a jerk. Like I don't name I try my best not to name call. I try to be really
06:27:38
Paige Hamiltonrespectful. And um ten I tend to like storm off and then like two minutes later, "Okay, I'm sorry. I was being kind of crazy." And he always accepts my apologies, which is nice. >> Okay. Um
06:27:50
Brian Atlasyou wrote that uh you you also write related to this you're pretty mouthy sometimes and your husband is more quiet. Um
06:28:01
Brian AtlasWhen you say you're pretty mouthy uh can you give us some examples of how you might mouth off to him? Like pretend I'm your husband right now. Um if he Like role play it I guess. >> gosh. If you snapped at me I'd be like,
06:28:14
Brian Atlas"Can you not talk to me like that? Like who do you think you are? Like He does that or you? >> I do that. Or I'll be like >> So he's you're saying he's mouthy to you kind of or >> if he snaps or he's in a bad mood, you
06:28:27
Paige Hamiltonknow. Or I um I'm trying to think if we like role play. Uh he forgets things a lot, which I should let it go more, but I don't. So I'll be like, "Oh my gosh, I can't believe you forgot this. Like you don't even care. If you cared you wouldn't
06:28:40
Paige Hamiltonforget." And then I have to step back and remind myself like he's a busy guy. He does a lot for us. So what are some things that he might forget? Like he forgot to pick up something at during an errand? >> He like oh he'll go out to like pick up dinner or something and he'll have to
06:28:54
Paige Hamiltoncall me like three times like, "What do you want?" And I'm like, "You know what I want. I get the same thing every time for 10 years." >> Say it how you would say it when you're being pretty mouthy. I'd be like, "Oh my goodness. Like don't you care about me? Like if you cared about me you would
06:29:07
Paige Hamiltonknow my order." Yeah. I said person I know. I said I I have to step back and I have to apologize and I have to be like, "I'm sorry." I have a terrible
06:29:17
Brian Atlasmemory and I can tell you from the heart that it's never because I didn't care. I appreciate you saying that. And I'm sorry, Skyler. You also wrote You also
06:29:28
Brian Atlaswrote related to this you are by no means meek. You definitely talk back to your husband too much. Yeah, I do. You even wrote we aren't even getting along that well right now, but there there's no hint of a separation or breakup cuz you guys trust
06:29:41
Brian Atlaseach other and remain close. Um you also never withhold sex and you often encourage sex. Um
06:29:51
Brian AtlasSo hold on. Uh I want to give you a call to action okay that I hope your husband and maybe you'll have some benefits with the kids too might appreciate
06:30:03
Paige Hamiltonthat could fundamentally change and improve your relationship. Stop being mouthy. I [clears throat] know. I always say it to him too. If I Skyler will never hit me cuz he knows I'll hit back. Like
06:30:16
Paige HamiltonWhoa. I wasn't talking about that. >> I'm just saying but like I'm always very much like, "Oh, don't come at me cuz I'll come at you." But like I I like I have worked on anger issues. I have not I don't yell. I don't scream. I don't get loud, >> [clears throat] >> but I I'm a little mouthy.
06:30:29
Brian AtlasYeah, stop being mouthy. Yeah. I'm mouthy too, but I can't help it. Oh boy. You can help it. You can help it. Um I can't help it, but um
06:30:39
Paige Hamiltonshow I don't know. You got to show him deference and respect. Yeah, I've noticed recently especially because since I became disabled he does so much for us and I feel a lot of guilt about like of the things I can't do
06:30:51
Brian Atlasanymore. So a lot of times I'll start to get mouthy and I say, "Wait. He didn't mean it like that. He's doing his best." But >> But I'm not perfect. No no sarcasm. No cattiness.
06:31:03
Brian AtlasCut the rebelliousness. Be pleasant entirely. Drop it entirely. I think look you cuz you said he was quiet. So I mean maybe I am
06:31:16
Brian Atlasmisunderstood cuz you said he would sometimes snap at you. Yeah, I definitely like he is quiet and I definitely overpower the conversation sometimes. Yeah. >> Yeah, cuz like I think a lot of men they'll be in the doghouse if they try
06:31:28
Brian Atlasto call out their girlfriends or wives on this. Like a lot of men just end up broken. Like it's crushing to a man to date a woman who's like
06:31:38
Brian Atlassnappy with you. And a lot of men I got to be look uh they they don't want to create friction. A lot of men don't want to create conflict.
06:31:49
Brian AtlasEspecially you guys been together for 13 years, married for 10. You got kids. A lot of men just in that situation like it's one thing you've been dating some chick for six months and she mouths off to you man I'm
06:32:00
Brian Atlasshe's [ __ ] dumped. But he can't just when you're married when you got kids uh you can't that's that's not really an option. I mean it is technically an option, but you can't really bring it there.
06:32:12
Brian AtlasUm I mean I would I would correct my girl, but if it continues and she's mouthing off to me goodbye. Yeah, he definitely shuts down and that's when I'm like I've gone too far. I need to >> That Well yeah, that's what was going
06:32:22
Brian Atlasthrough my mind when you said he's a bit quiet. Like a lot of guys they don't they don't uh call it out. They don't call it out cuz it's just going to create more friction and I
06:32:33
Brian Atlasthink a lot of men's approach I don't think it's the right approach, but they'll do this happy wife happy life thing, but it's got to be happy spouse happy house because it's not just the wife that
06:32:45
Brian Atlasmatters. Both of y'all matter, but I think a lot of men they they uh they'll uh they didn't call it out in the beginning and now it's just an established
06:32:57
Paige Hamiltonbehavior. Yeah, it definitely became established and now I have to do the work to not do it so much. And like I said since I've been sick I'm in this new role, which has actually been like really eye-opening. Like I said I am far
06:33:09
Laurafrom perfect. I mess up every day, but I I'm absolutely trying. I always tell people like try to act like it's your first year even when it's your 10th year because your first year you were on your best behavior. You were
06:33:21
Brian Atlasyour sweetest. You were your most patient. And yeah, just But but a lot of men will will kind of be doormats a little bit with some of this [ __ ]
06:33:32
Brian AtlasThey they'll uh and like I'm not fully blaming them because there comes a point in a relationship
06:33:43
Brian Atlaswhen it's like you you you feel like your role as a man is just to like avoid friction and avoid uh tension and be the peacekeeper.
06:33:57
Paige HamiltonBut I don't know. If I'm trying to From what I from what you've told me I can share something. You got to stop stop that [ __ ] >> Um I also too I was um I'll share a little
06:34:09
Paige Hamiltontoo much, but I I was diagnosed bipolar a couple years back and I am totally yes I I'm on medicine and so things are going in the right direction. And it just it explained a lot. It really did. I had a crappy childhood. What can I
06:34:21
Paige Hamiltonsay? And it's coming out, you know, with some issues, but you know, and I but like I said I'm I'm really trying to do better and I take a medication and things are going really well. So and I'm
06:34:31
Paige Hamiltonsorry, Skyler. Um I hope later we can kiss and make up and At least you're self-aware. That's big. That's huge. Yeah, you're aware. Yeah, I
06:34:42
Brian AtlasI once I start doing it I'm like, "Wait. Don't do this." I mean at at least at least it's good I mean it's not good that you're doing it, but you said that two minutes later
06:34:53
Brian Atlasyou come back and you apologize. That's you shouldn't do it in the first place, but at least it's like You shouldn't >> you know, you're not letting him sit in that [ __ ] for like three hours and No.
06:35:05
Paige HamiltonNever. I I don't ever shut up if that's not obvious and I I like I even when I'm mad at him I'm like, "Hey, how are you talking to him? Like and I'm like just cuz I'm talking to you doesn't mean I'm I'm not mad at you." But I can't help it. I can't help but talk to him. But it
06:35:18
Brian Atlasit's Proverbs 21:19. Better to live in the desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife. >> Oh man. So do nag him? No. Actually Okay, I do a little bit. Well with the like the errand you said he forgets
06:35:31
Paige Hamiltonstuff. >> That's Yeah, but like yes. I will do that a little bit cuz he's he does forget a lot of things. So the reminders >> his name Skyler? It is. Put some respect
06:35:43
Brian Atlason my homie Skyler. Okay. That was cringe. Sorry. He's probably laughing. He thought it was funny. You thought he was black. >> Put some You know what Skyler Skyler Skyler >> [laughter] >> Skyler
06:35:56
Brian AtlasSkyler. You see it? Do you think he's watching the show? He's probably Is he watching? Skyler. Skyler. >> [laughter] >> Listen to me, bro. Check this [ __ ] out. I'm you're going to put a sound clip on
06:36:09
Brian Atlasyour phone and um it's going to be something like Paige put some respect on [laughter] my boy Skyler. Clip that
06:36:21
Brian Atlas[ __ ] Skyler. Every time she mouths off at you, Skyler. If she mouths off at you, just play the clip. Be like, "Look, Brian. Hey, it's out of my hands, Paige.
06:36:33
Paige HamiltonBrian said to cut the [ __ ] okay? So we got to listen to uh you know, the podcast host. You got to listen to the podcast host." >> I don't think I nag him cuz I'm not like, "Oh, you could clean that better." Or you could do this. I'd never do that. I like I try to like I'm always like, "I'm proud of you. You're doing so much
06:36:47
Brian Atlasfor our family." >> I'll give you another one, Skyler. I rebuke ye in the name of Okay, clip that [ __ ] too. If she starts mouthing off,
06:36:58
Brian Atlasuh and then you can also do uh Oh, here's another one. Here's a good one. The lady doth protest too much, methinks. That's my favorite.
06:37:10
Brian Atlas>> Whenever she's being [ __ ] mouthy, I'll do it one more time in case you >> [laughter] >> The lady does Wait, hold on.
06:37:21
Paige HamiltonNow the pressure's on. I don't know if I should say this. The lady doth protest too much, methinks. He's really good at impressions, so I'll probably just start saying that and it's going to make us laugh so hard. So actually, thank you.
06:37:33
Brian Atlas>> Hamlet? Is it Hamlet? I don't know. Um Skyler. Just say that [ __ ] If she's being mouthy, just be like, "The lady doth protest too much." Something like that. Um
06:37:46
Brian Atlas>> [sighs] >> Is that Shakespeare? Can anybody Nick, Google it. >> The lady doth protest too much? I don't know. Whatever.
06:37:56
Brian AtlasUh anyways, yeah, just cut that [ __ ] out. You know, for for the for the for Skyler. It's Hamlet. Am It is Hamlet. Oh my god. [ __ ] slam dunk. From the Queen
06:38:08
Brian Atlas[laughter] Gertrude. Mhm. [ __ ] nailed that [ __ ] Hamlet. Oh my god. Do you guys What do you guys think? That's like a food or something? What? >> We had to read Hamlet back in the day.
06:38:19
Brian Atlas>> Just kidding. I'm just joking. Okay, anyways, where were we? Uh let's see. Some of your other notes, though. Um Let's see. Uh shh I'm remembering everything I
06:38:33
Brian Atlaswrote to you. I'm like, "What's coming next?" You know. When did you do it? >> You said you disagree with some of the roles in a marriage that come up on the show. We kind of talked about that, though. Like the Like I just think >> disagree?
06:38:47
Brian Atlas>> partnership than >> Ew, partnership? Gross. Wait, didn't you say that it's been the best it's ever been now that you've >> It Yeah, you're right. You're right. You're right. Yeah, [ __ ] that [ __ ] Um
06:38:58
Brian Atlaspartner? Oh my god, partner. Come on. We really are like best friends cuz we grew up together. >> think women really want partnership. Is that not what a marriage is? No, it's not partnership. The man has his roles. What's wrong with gender
06:39:13
Paige Hamiltonroles? >> Oh, yeah. I just didn't know. I was genuinely asking. >> Partnership would it mean that I mean, it depends how you >> reality, I could be like the you're one if you're looking at it through scripture, you know? So it's not even a partnership. Like you're just one.
06:39:25
Paige Hamilton>> Yeah, you also wrote that uh if you're lonely, get a Here, tell us the cat thing. The cat thing? Oh, if you're lonely, get a cat. Um >> Yes. What's the rest? Keep going.
06:39:37
Brian Atlas>> just don't ride any random dick? You said just don't just hop on top of a random dick. Or better yet
06:39:48
Brian Atlasopen Oh, open a Bible. Yes. Sorry. Uh you said there are so many ways to not have sex, right? >> Get pregnant. >> Get pregnant, yeah.
06:40:00
Brian Atlas>> Take some responsibility, be safe, plan Okay. Yeah. >> You say a two-parent household is typically always better. Mhm. Okay. Um you say men should help with chores.
06:40:11
Paige HamiltonI'm not his mom. I I don't I think obviously like the things I do do, he can expect me to do, but if he needs something else done, it's nice to be asked politely. Don't command me to
06:40:24
Paige Hamiltondo it. Like I mean, he I do almost anything he asks me, honestly. >> I I don't like when women say this, "I'm not his mom." >> I I take that back after hearing your argument earlier about it. >> because it would just basically like
06:40:37
Brian Atlas>> I never thought of it that way about the father thing. If if you're a woman who's going to say, "I'm not his mom. I'm not going to do these things." then you should be prepared for men to
06:40:48
Laurasay, "I'm not your dad. I won't do these things." Provide, protect, pay for dates, etc. I never thought of it like that, but now that makes sense. >> for dates. Okay.
06:41:01
Brian Atlas>> [laughter] >> Please don't date your dad. No, I'm joking. >> to get at I'm joking. It was You know what I'm trying to get at there. It's uh the providing component. Men aren't your dads. Do that [ __ ] yourself. Um
06:41:14
Brian Atlasuh let's see. But I cuz if it makes you his mom to cook and clean and do chores then it makes him your dad to protect and provide.
06:41:24
Brian AtlasUm Let's see. Uh and then like if the women say, "Well, I don't want to do the mom things." and the dad says, "I won't do the the dad things." then what does that
06:41:36
Brian Atlasleave? Companionship and [ __ ] Mhm. There's no roles that we can Whatever. Uh Okay, we did the bear you something about the bear. Final thing for you.
06:41:48
Brian AtlasUh you say women should have all the opportunities of men but the playing field should not be leveled. Oh, so you're talking like firefighters or police or military. The physical
06:42:00
Brian Atlasrequirements should be the same. Yeah. Is that Okay. Absolutely. And if you can't do it, you can't do it. >> you said you've kissed a lot of frogs but you found a good one. You've been dating him for 7 years.
06:42:11
Brian AtlasUh your first relationship was the craziest, a lot of drama, restraining order. Yeah. But then you now friends? Yeah, he's more like a big brother.
06:42:22
Brian AtlasLike a good friend. I see. Okay. >> But nowhere, not in contact like that much. Okay. And you said crazy attracts crazy, so are you crazy?
06:42:31
SPEAKER_00Probably. Okay. Uh we have some chats here. >> Victor donated $70. Chat three, I'm
06:42:41
SPEAKER_00fascinated by Hitler, too. Fascinated why an ass-tastic putrid dictatorial bunnies would seek to wipe out the flowers because reasons. >> Oh my god. A flagrant drug-ridden
06:42:52
Brian Atlaspsychopathic idiotic blowhard. Wow, Victor has a So, there's a couple Streamlabs changes words. Uh it was dictatorial ass would seek to
06:43:03
Victoria Bumawipe out Jewish people. Mhm. Is is what the TTS meant to say. Oh, and he's he's curious why they would do that. Or is that what he was saying?
06:43:14
Brian AtlasWhat was the end where he was insulting somebody? He was talking about Hitler. >> Okay, good. Okay. Because he's a flagrant drug-ridden Oh, okay. Okay. Okay.
06:43:27
SPEAKER_00Joe XD donated $69. The reason men shut down, I know this because it's been me, is because not even our home brings us peace anymore.
06:43:37
Brian AtlasAvoiding you shouldn't be the path of least resistance. Keep that in mind. >> Good point. I think that sometimes, not all obviously not all women do this, but with the nagging and the the the
06:43:48
Brian Atlasmouthing off or whatever, you start chipping away at a guy and you chip away, chip away, chip away and they're like a husk of their empty husk? What's the same? >> Shell. Shell thing.
06:44:00
Brian AtlasMhm. A ho- a hollow shell of their prime? Is that something like that? >> Yeah. >> [snorts] >> Just saying, you know, uh the lady doth protest too much. I bet when he picks me up later, that's
06:44:11
Brian Atlasgoing to be the first thing he says. >> be the first thing he [laughter] says. I've just given him rhetorical weapons to use in your marital disputes. >> [laughter]
06:44:24
Brian Atlas>> It's true. >> Employ them. You must oblige me, Skyler. Employ the the uh employ these tactics in your marriage, I guess. Strategies, marital Okay, whatever.
06:44:36
Brian AtlasUh let's see here. More notes. We have a few more notes. Uno momento. Uh Sabrina.
06:44:48
Brian Atlas35 and you've had terrible luck at dating. Yes. Uh let's see. You've had some bad relationships, a lot of ghosting. Uh you're still single at 35, almost 36. You say maybe You write, "Maybe I'm the
06:45:01
Sabrinaproblem." Maybe you're the problem. Uh Why why do you think that's the case? Well, my last relationships, they broke up with me for the same reasons.
06:45:13
SabrinaSo, I think we kind of touched on it a little bit. I didn't really believe them.
06:45:21
Brian AtlasOkay. Um All right. Um You write although you're an independent working woman, you would like to
06:45:32
Brian Atlaseventually have a man as a partner to grow something to grow with together, be able to provide our rules for the relationship. He's the provider of the family, you're the provider of the household. Yeah.
06:45:45
Brian AtlasDid you say you would do the laundry? I did the laundry. >> you said you I don't know. Whatever. >> No, I did the laundry. Okay, so No, I would bow to the perfect man.
06:45:55
Brian Atlas>> yeah. So So Blake. So No? So You write >> Me? Yeah. >> That's your name, right? Uh I don't know. Isn't your your
06:46:07
Brian AtlasInstagram Oh, yeah. Sorry, no one Okay. Okay, Sophia. Single as a pringle. Yes. Uh you said you were talking to a guy, only a talking stage for less than a
06:46:16
Sophiaweek before you ghosted him because why? His um uncle told my parents it was um So, on the 4th of July, I met this guy and we were just kind of talking. He was
06:46:27
Sophialike super respectful. Like he met my dad, shook his hand. Uh so, then we walked down like to the beach afterwards and then we were just kind of talking. He was my first kiss. Come to find out like 5 days later, his uncle told my
06:46:40
Sophiaparents he was like, "Oh, yeah, no, she needs to stop talking to him because he's going through court for being in a drive-by shooting." >> [gasps] >> Wow. What? Wait, did this happen after? Like
06:46:53
Sophiaor he would he had already been He had already He like he's going through the court system. >> Okay, so he that had already happened >> Mhm. before you met him. Yes, and I had absolutely no idea. He was so respectful.
06:47:04
Sophia>> within a week? We met on the 4th of July and I was kind of at It was like like a party kind Not a party, but it was like like the neighborhoods around and he was just there cuz where where we
06:47:16
Sophiaused to live was just a neighborhood party kind of if that makes sense. Okay. But yeah, so he met my parents talking to them. >> I think he was mixed. Mixed with what? Black, white.
06:47:30
Brian AtlasOkay. >> Pretty sure. That could be kind of romantic though. You tell your kids like, "Oh, yeah, first kiss. Like, you know, he was just kind of like fighting a felony charge or whatever."
06:47:40
Brian Atlas>> He was super respectful. But um He was very respectful though, very respectful. >> But did you talk to him about it or did you drop him immediately when you were >> Dropped him immediately. Yeah.
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Sophia>> But I mean, is he maybe he's like, "I'm innocent." I don't really Yeah, no, I don't care. What? Did you actually His uncle is he's very protective over my sister and I.
06:48:05
SophiaHe We used to live there. >> verify any of this? Like, is there actually a court case? I have no idea. I'm not risking it. I don't care. >> How old is he? 19. He's from Fresno, I think. Was he the
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Sophiashooter? I don't know anything about it and I didn't want to risk it because I trust his uncle like with with my life. >> uncle? Yes. >> Not your uncle? No, his uncle. Very
06:48:29
Sophiaclose with Very close with my family. He was wasted on the 4th and he he was very clear that had he been not wasted Yeah, the uncle was wasted and he was clear that had he not been wasted, he
06:48:41
Sophiawouldn't have let me go down to the beach with his His Wait, why is his uncle [ __ ] him? Oh my god. Like, why is his uncle
06:48:53
Brian AtlasHe's looking out for her. Yeah. But what The guy's trying to date a girl. What? Look, he's he's in a bit of trouble. A bit If he's not an upstanding citizen, I mean. I don't think he had a
06:49:04
Sophiajob. Because the entire like the 3 days we were talking, I was working the whole time and going to the gym and he was just like, "Oh, yeah, I just got done playing video games." And I was like,
06:49:15
Brian Atlas"Oh, I got done at work and at the gym." And so I mean, it's it's good for you, I guess, that you became aware of some of this stuff. I would have maybe verified it though. I mean I just didn't want to risk it cuz I trust his uncle. I don't think he would
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Sophialie. >> know the uncle? Yeah, yeah, yeah. He's He's our neighbor. Yeah, neighbor when we moved here for a very long time. Very protective over my family. Yeah. >> Is the Was he Christian, the guy who you
06:49:41
Brian Atlaswere dating or whatever? Um No, I don't know. I don't think so. >> like you're Christian waiting until You're waiting until marriage, right? >> Yes. So, why go on a date with a guy who you
06:49:53
Brian Atlasdon't even Isn't that important that the guy be Christian? Is that not what a date is for, to find out? Well, did you guys talk at the party? A little bit. Like, "Hey, just curious, are you Christian?" I don't know. To be
06:50:06
Sophiahonest, if he was Christian, I don't think he would be involved in the Well, I said something. I was like "Oh, yeah, like leaving room for God." And he was like, "Well, obviously." And I was just
06:50:18
SophiaYeah. It was fun for the 3 days I was talking to him. It's okay, girl. >> want to risk it. Yeah. Mhm. Well, um >> [snorts]
06:50:31
Brian Atlas>> Honestly though, like for your sake, just to save yourself time. I know sometimes people say, "Oh, the date's just to get to know the person." I think it's fair. You can ask a couple vetting questions before you
06:50:42
Brian Atlasmeet a person for a date. In your case, it's probably a dealbreaker if the guy's not Christian. >> Oh, yeah, absolutely. Yeah, just be like, "Hey, just curious, are you religious? Are you Christian?" Yeah, just ask for moving forward, just
06:50:54
Sophiaask if the guy Oh, yes. >> Yeah, I I don't think that's weird to just be like I want to say like I regret it necessarily, but I probably wouldn't go and do that. First kiss too.
06:51:06
SophiaBut he was very respectful. He was very very respectful. It came out of absolute left field. I was like, "But yeah." We have a chat coming through here.
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Brian Atlasman. Appreciate it. Uh let's see here. All right. Um Sophia, you also write how ridiculous it all seems.
06:52:33
SophiaYou have no experience but strong feelings about dating, I'm assuming. Okay, what's ridiculous? Um oh, I just like talked to my friend because she's very much in the dating
06:52:45
Sophiascene and we're just we're talking about something and she's like, "Oh, love bombing this um like the 3-month rule, that." And like all this stuff and I don't know. Call me old-fashioned or whatever, but it all just seems like
06:52:57
Sophia[ __ ] as hell and I was just like, "Let's go back I just like I want to find my husband, but like I want to like do it. I don't know. It just seems too much to All the games
06:53:09
Brian Atlasthey're ridiculous. It's so stupid. There's all these rules. There's all these texting rules. I don't do any of that. I'm just There's all these rules like I won't do a guy's laundry.
06:53:20
Brian AtlasThese women are [ __ ] playing these games. I won't do his laundry the first time I come over. I won't do it the first time I come over. I didn't say I won't do it at all. It's not a game.
06:53:32
LauraIf anything, you're the game player. You're like testing chicks like, "Oh, is she going to do my laundry when she comes over the first the first time?" Got to stress that. I don't think it's a test. Do you think he's normal?