04:42:49Skyyou're still with him comfortable I wasn't with him okay uh he was the guy that I went on five dates with and on what date did he reveal that right have
04:42:58Skyto know he he didn't unveil that uh until recently he unveiled it like are you still talking I got with him in like
04:43:08Sky2020 and then uh uh since then he's just reached out to me a few times I reached out to him today because I wanted to see
04:43:16Brian Atlashow he's doing but why okay um anyways uh you said you disagree with the hosts dating expectations so what
04:43:26Skyare those so necessarily um when you say the burdens of like
04:43:33Skydating and primarily being on the guy yeah um I think that the guy chooses essentially who he wants to be with and
04:43:45Skythe woman has to like acques to that like a woman does not set the tone of the relationship by being the one that wants
04:43:55Skyto engage like she may desire the relationship but he's the one that ultimately decides okay we're going to be
04:44:06Brian Atlastogether well I don't understand what does that have to do with what does that have to do with uh my dating Expectations dating expectations I think
04:44:16SkyI was saying it along the lines of you were framing it as though men have this
04:44:22Skytremendous burden or this um inequitable burden to date in the dating realm that you know they have
04:44:33Brian Atlasto pursue the woman they have to do do you disagree with that you don't think men have to be initiators and typically
04:44:41Skyhave to I just don't think of it as a burden I of it yeah uh have you ever approached a guy yes yeah several times same do you have any like anxiety when
04:44:53Skyyou do that there's no I mean there's definitely emotions involved but I don't think I think the more that you've done it the less sensitive you are to it sure
04:45:05Karendepends on whether or not you're a submissive woman or a dominant woman cuz if you're an aggressor you're going to go after the guy I go after the guy I don't wait for the guy to come to me but I'm also very particular the type of guys that I like
04:45:16Skyso so you disagree that it's a Burden Burden I don't think I think the phrasing of it being a burden means that
04:45:27Skylike it's a negative experience going into it when in reality how many how many men have you rejected throughout your
04:45:37Brian Atlaslife o I can't no no no let me ask these other girls here how many men would you say you've rejected throughout the course of your life oh thousands yeah probably thousands every every DM you don't respond to if you've
04:45:50Brian Atlashad the dating app every message you don't respond to uh any guys who've ever approached you uh at a bar or a club or
04:45:59Brian Atlasat school whatever it is uh thousands thousands yeah a lot yeah how many times have you been rejected one time one time what about you twice how many how many guys would you say
04:46:13Taviayou've rejected a lot thousands sure thousands maybe hundreds I don't know about thousands um you have you ever been rejected no how
04:46:25Skymany how many uh men have you rejected H my is oh that's right oops uh I've probably rejected around like 20
04:46:35Brian Atlasmen total have you ever been on a dating app oh God you've rejected a lot more than 20 men if you've been on a dating app uh have
04:46:46Brian Atlasyou ever been rejected yes okay how many times at least like 20 okay all right what about you how many times have you rejected men if you include Instagram
04:46:58Brian AtlasDMS and stuff sure yeah Instagram DMS a lot Okay thousands throughout the course of your life thousands I mean maybe if you include the internet yeah include the internet bars clubs men approaching
04:47:10Brian Atlasyou what about you yeah same thousands thousands Madison hundreds uh so if you're a man and say
04:47:21Brian Atlasthat you're and actually I mean a success rate of like 10% of the women you talk to you end up sleeping with that's a very high success rate for a
04:47:31Brian Atlasman how could that not be a burden if you have to talk to 10 women and get you know make an effort make an initiative make an ATT attt who knows how far you
04:47:42Skycould you could take those 10 women on dates even and it not go anywhere how could that not be a burden it's not necessarily a burden I'd say not a
04:47:51Skyburden that's the selection pool you go into dating with the idea that okay this is a potential mate this is a potential but it's not guaranteed but if we're
04:48:02Brian Atlascomparing so we're doing a comparison here between men and women yeah right so the experiences of men compared to the experiences of women if all of these
04:48:12Brian Atlasburdens fall on men approaching carrying the conversation soliciting a first date soliciting the phone number setting up the date carrying and leading the conversation on the date paying for the
04:48:23Brian Atlasdate uh moving things forward physically moving things forward sexually closing the distance Gap going for the kiss etc etc these are all individual points
04:48:33Skywhere men potentially face rejection and women face rejection via like uh their assert of femininity and I don't even
04:48:44Skyknow what that means like okay like say for instance uh you're not as receptive to a move that a guy makes but you're still very much interested in him uh
04:48:56Julietthat could be taken what do you mean yeah yeah you're not making sense CU if I'm interested in a guy I'm not going to reject a move that he makes right and and like when you say you're of of into the mics guys if you're the the assessment of
04:49:08Skyfemininity what is what does that mean meaning like there's certain dating practices that both men and women have to uphold
04:49:35Skyuh [ __ ] my phrasing on this is not great but um
04:49:42Skywomen have to mentally brace themselves for like um responding to men and
04:49:52Skybeing attractive being their idea of what a girlfriend should be um trying
04:50:01Skyto uh forecast his actual um responsiveness to you as a person because uh some times guys will go into
04:50:13Skyrelationships and they look for women that don't show them as much attention um because they want I'm sorry I got to cut you off I don't know what you're can you arrive at the point here like make an actual
04:50:28Bobby Lavenderargument I don't know can I say something sure I think that the counter burden to what you're talking about is
04:50:39Bobby Lavenderlike the the danger of actually dating and going with some guy you don't know like you don't know their intentions and I mean I've had really bad experiences with going on dinner
04:50:50Brian Atlasdates where it didn't actually end in dinner so it's definitely a burden okay so we can talk about these uh I mean I'm
04:50:59Brian Atlastalking about like normal psychology here like I'm not talking
04:51:07Brian Atlasabout yeah okay there's a fear that women have of being assaulted but let's talk about like let's say the girl's normal the guy's
04:51:16Brian Atlasnormal who has the burden there I would say like healthy Dynamics we can talk about like abnormal psychology and people who are [ __ ] up
04:51:27Julietand people who' be inclined to victimize to you let's talk about just otherwise healthy first date definitely it's more on the man I would say because the women I feel at least in my experience and there have
04:51:39Julietbeen exceptions to but overall I don't really have to do anything besides just kind of existing and show up and being basically polite and friendly um and the
04:51:51Julietguy just he's the one who has to kind of convince me to sleep with him yes exactly he does get to decide whether or not we are in a committed relationship for sure but I actually have a fair
04:52:01Julietamount of control over where that goes if the man is truly interested in me in my experience so I mean you guys could be very much right
04:52:13Skyum I mainly just disagreed with the phrasing of it as being a burden um but I can understand why it would be
04:52:22Andrew Wilsonconsidered a burden for men to go through all those lengths and then not and then get rejected well well hang on in this in this case in this context
04:52:33Andrew Wilsonwhen he's saying burden he's not saying burden isn't burdensome necessarily but what the obligation or social obligation of that's that's what kind of that means
04:52:43Andrew Wilsonin that context of Burden who has the burden to pay for the date doesn't necessarily mean that it's burdensome that a man pays for the date but we're just asking who do you think has kind of
04:52:53Karenthe obligation that's that's what that means in that context okay I honestly I think that's something that should be on the rise to change especially with all women talking about oh I want equality
04:53:06Skyand this and then the well if you want equality then pay for half the goddamn date put your card out on the table when it's time to pay instead of go to the bathroom um like most women do in my
04:53:16Skyexperience with dating I've been cons I'm considered a modern woman um I don't necessarily expect the guy to pay for
04:53:24Skythe date um and dates that I've been on I've paid for myself before um but most recently I say was a
04:53:36Skytraditional experience where I went out with a guy and he paid for everything um and he didn't expect me to um how question how many times have you had
04:53:46Brian Atlasthat experience once okay um any women here like have any women here been on like more than one date
04:53:56Brian Atlaswhere the guy took care of everything yes mhm what what do you guys think is more common the man taking care of everything or the woman taking care of everything the man the man I've never
04:54:08Brian AtlasI've never been on a date with a girl I ever could have gone in with the expectation that she was going to pay for the whole thing has never happened in my entire life never it's either split or I pay the the that's it the way
04:54:21KarenI've dated in the past before I was married was if I invite the guy out then I'm going to expect to pay because I invited him I extended the the invitation so if I say hey let's go to a movie or let me take you out to dinner
04:54:34Karenthen I'm going to pay why because I invited him out because I want to that I'm not saying that you know if he decides oh no no let me pay or let me pay for half yeah I'm going to let him because he's taking the initiative to want to do more but that doesn't
04:54:47Karennecessarily mean that everything's always on the guy and I think that's the narrative that should change is that it shouldn't always be on the guy because guys shouldn't necessarily have to be burdened with all of it he just saying as of right now the burden is typically
04:54:58Skyno for sure that's I know I agree with him and burden doesn't even like he was saying it's just it just translate to responsibility well yeah but I don't think even in my experience and this is
04:55:08Skya very unique experience uh the burden of conversation is necessarily on the guy meaning I have to engage intellectually with him uh bring up
04:55:20Brian Atlastopics of conversation keep things interesting and not just you know like kind of if I did what most women do on the first date there would be [ __ ] dead
04:55:32Brian Atlassilence on the first like I'm telling you women are not prepared to carry the conversation on the first date are you some women are some women are good
04:55:43Brian Atlasconversation some women are good conversation however like if I if if I were to like if I were to just be silent and kind of like wait for to see
04:55:55Brian Atlaswhat the woman does it would be really [ __ ] awkward conversationally it would be really awkward here let's play Let's play that we're on a date okay I'm
04:56:04Skygon be a chick Okay Go Okay uh what do you do for work podcaster oh interesting so how long have you been doing that for two years
04:56:14Skytwo years and uh have you ever considered any career changes or nope I like what I do you like what you do I like what I do too do you have who are these girls Brian who are these girls
04:56:27Bobby Lavenderlike that tell me tell me you've never had a conversation like this with a guy I typically am the one rambling yeah the first thing that we talk about should not be like what we do for work
04:56:37Bobby Lavenderto be honest well that's La if you're in La that's that's why my actual interest and like personality and well I mean that takes work that takes emotional
04:56:50Skylabor um I thought we were still having our convers we're going to move on you weren't interested you weren't interested in my conversation uh so you said that when you were 17 you made a Tinder to gain experience with guys
04:57:03Skybecause you didn't get any attention from guys in school in high school yeah you guess you weren't their type even though I went to school with like 7,000 kids I went yeah so I never got
04:57:15Skyapproached by a guy in high school no I'm well I'm more focused on the making a Tinder at 17 well I mean uh isn't that against the rules or that it against the
04:57:26Alyssarules and it's dangerous and it's dangerous but I did it anyway yeah no kidding you're putting you're putting lots of men at risk yeah yeah I mean some states it's IL legal age like I know in Louisiana
04:57:38Brian Atlasyou can be 17 but still it's still I've always been in California anyways um disavow that but you said you believe that you kind of ruined your youthful experience by forcing yourself to
04:57:49Brian Atlasexperiment I think you've always been hypersexual and the fact that I didn't get attention in school made you act out
04:57:55Skyand seek male validation online yes um I think that um me not experiencing like
04:58:05Skyan organic relationship with a guy uh in my youth really informed my relationships with men going into my 20s
04:58:16Skybecause uh I didn't really have any male friends I didn't have any males that were seeking my uh attention um and if
04:58:27Skythey were they weren't making it obvious that they were seeking my attention um so I and I I'm I'm not going to talk
04:58:37Skyabout it because it's TOs um but I've been hypersexual from a fairly young age like I've
04:58:47Skyum I've known what porn was for a very long time and so I knew exactly the the ways around like the body and I
04:58:59Brian Atlaswas very curious to all right okay okay um moving on you said that your main contention with age Gap relationships is that the value of both men and women diminish in societ as they age and
04:59:11Brian Atlaspeople of similar value should be together people that are older cannot sustain themselves as long as the youth can yeah so do you object to age Gap relationships um yes for the most part
04:59:23Brian Atlasokay so is anybody here in an age Gap relationship me what's your what's your relate nine years I'm older oh you're
04:59:30Alyssaolder and you're so you're 45 and he's 3 four 35 3 35 36 and then what about you yeah everyone I've dated except the last
04:59:41Brian Atlasguy I gave a chance has been seven plus years older my husband's 41 okay uh so Andrew is probably Keen to uh weigh in on this but what are your uh I guess
04:59:53Skyyour actual objections to age Gap relationships I express that the value uh that you're going to put in a relationship as you get older is going
05:00:03Alyssato change uh and it's going to be less or more I think it's less we as you get older isn't it wait in the eye of the beholder because I love like some older men let
05:00:15Brian Atlasme tell you I like some young well one of the complaint one of the complaints I hear from younger women like women who are in college 18 19 20 21 is they say these men don't want commitment they
05:00:25Brian Atlasjust want to [ __ ] they're [ __ ] boys uh it seems to me that younger men tend to lean towards not being a little bit
05:00:34Skymore opposed to Commitment than men who
05:00:36Skyare a bit older uh I would disag agree um I think that um younger men are
05:00:50Skyprobably less likely to say that they want a relationship with a girl because
05:01:00Skyum they have nerves about them I don't know I don't know why men or why people think that younger men don't want
05:01:09Skyrelationship ship with women I think it's based on topics like we talked about promiscuity so we're in a culture
05:01:18Skywhere promiscuity is on the rise and um your intentions with somebody may be
05:01:27Skya skew so I in my encounters with men that I've had they're very much open to relationships it's just a matter of
05:01:37Skyposition and place and the person that they're looking for and not necessarily didn't you say you've been single your whole life yes well I mean if you're meeting all
05:01:49Brian Atlasthese men that are open to having relationships what has precluded you from having a relationship I'm not meeting a bunch of men that are interested in me necessarily or okay
05:02:00Brian Atlasthat's fair well let's bring it back to age Gap though so I'm still can you explain a little better kind of your objections there sorry yeah other than it just being icky which but why is it
05:02:11Karenicky yeah why is it icky everyone's of legal consenting age right I I didn't meet my husband when he was in high school I met when he was a grown man
05:02:21Skyum I think does it give you the ick it gives you the ick it gives me the ick it gives you the ick doesn't it because I've always
05:02:32Skyexperienced uh the world where people of a similar age have a similar outlook on life and you once you cross cross a certain
05:02:43Skyboundary threshold that changes and it could take lead to people being taken advantage of um even if they're legal
05:02:54Brian Atlasthese young women are taking advantage of these men with resources they're they're they're fleecing them for money you're right these young women are Predator who's who's taking well in my my instance for example who's taking
05:03:07Karenadvantage of who then am I taking advantage of my husband cuz he's younger or is he taking advantage of me because I'm older um it could be a situation of both of you taking advantage of each other how how is that what do you mean taking
05:03:20Skyhow does that work he's taking advantage of the fact that you're older and you probably have less options Advantage isn't bad what do you mean shots fire first of all wait wait first of all L options for a potential mate that's not
05:03:32Karentrue at all cuz I'm a [ __ ] I'm a I'm a grab okay that's first and foremost secondly just because I'm not years older than my husband does not mean that I have less options if him and I broke up tomorrow or if he died tomorrow trust
05:03:46Skyme I'm going to be riding some dick eventually in a week or two okay but it's it's a matter of my God I'm just basing facts facts are facts okay so do
05:03:57Karenyou think that you would find a man of similar value to him at your age absolutely someone that is your age I don't date men my age why not because I
05:04:09Karendate men that are are younger than me for a particular reason why because they can keep up with me advantage of the age that's your advantage that is that is one down old older men cannot keep up
05:04:20Karenwith someone like me I'm a hyper [ __ ] so if you can't keep up then I have no use for you so there's no Advantage being taken if especially if I'm older you would think that I would be taken
05:04:32Karenadvantage of him right Advantage I mean don't I don't think taking advantage is necessarily I'm not forcing him to have sex with me wants to have sex with me there's no there's no taking advantage of I'm not holding my husband by the
05:04:44Taviaheadage for you because he's younger and you get the sex you want cuz you're crazy in the B you know so it's Advantage and it's not bad right it's not a bad Advantage Advantage but I wasn't carrying his books home for him
05:04:55Alyssafor school at school when he was 17 I wasn't saying that [ __ ] I was just saying I'm in favor of older men obviously but playing de Devil's Advocate it can be the case that
05:05:07Alyssapredatory people pick younger people because they're easier to manipulate and they are naive and they're easier to mold and control that is absolutely a thing but I don't think
05:05:18Alyssayou can say that that's just broadly every Dynamic like that and it's not hang on hang on hang on do you have a study for that do you I have an example
05:05:29Andrew Wilsonthough made claim hang on who made the claim okay so let me let me pull a you hang on you just said I don't think that that's generally what's going on I I don't think it's do you have any
05:05:40Andrew Wilsonempirical evidence to back that up at all she just said she doesn't want to make generalizations because not every relationship that was she literally said I don't think generally that's what's
05:05:52Andrew Wilsongoing on no no no I don't think generally that's what's going on right you don't do you have any empirical evidence whatsoever to support that you generally don't you want me to write you a thesis and come back and tell you I'm
05:06:03Andrew Wilsonnot asking for a thesis I'm asking he there's a reason I'm asking this because earlier you jumped all over Brian hang on let me finish you jumped all over Brian and you were all kinds of
05:06:14Andrew Wilsonupset with him because he was not demonstrating empirical evidence to go with a generalized statement and yet here hang on you made a claim and you said generally I don't think that's
05:06:26Alyssawhat's going on and you also have no empirical evidence whatsoever to back that claim up correct I think it's actually backwards I think y'all were the ones that got upset and like muted me I was like happy to debate it um I
05:06:37Alyssawasn't upset at all like I I like to debate and and further my understanding of things by hearing opposite sides so like I'm not upset just because we may not come to the same conclusion but you
05:06:48Alyssawanted data with any with any topic am I going to just have like the best debate thing prepared like no I would there's some things that if it's being uh presented to you for the first time you
05:07:00Andrew Wilsonmull it over talk in generalities right yeah I mean I'm not going and that's okay to do right and so so maybe asking for empirics when if you're not uh if you're not prepared to have my studies
05:07:11Andrew Wilsonready in a moment's notice if it's okay for you to do then it's okay for us to does that sound fair yeah but sometimes things are like common sense and I'm just saying I don't that's what he say I just genuinely don't think that's the
05:07:23Andrew Wilsoncase but I admit that it's my antidotal experiences sure yeah yeah so I'm just saying that if you know what's good for the goose is good for the gander right so when so instead of like trying to trash us for
05:07:35Andrew Wilsonnot having empirical evidence just remember that you often speak in generality without having any either so yeah I mean yeah sure but if I had like a Jamie I'm sure he could pull up like there's got to be studies on people yeah
05:07:48Andrew Wilsonknow I know what I'm saying generally speaking generally speaking yeah generally do you have a study for if you generally had a Jamie that you would pull up the
05:07:56Andrew Wilsonright oh my God so anyway back to AR when you're talking about the ick the I it gives you the ick me are you talking to me yeah yeah yeah the ick it gives
05:08:08Andrew Wilsonyou the ick you you you wouldn't say though that it's an immoral thing right it's not actually [Music] immoral
05:08:18SkyI oh [ __ ] I think it isn't immoral because it's legal and it's there's no
05:08:29Karenum I haven't I don't think I can make a justification for why why is it icky why do you find it ick why is it what about it is ick what about me having sex with
05:08:39Karena guy who's 36 and I'm 45 what does that what's what's the factor there do you want me to be like no holds bar do it yeah let's go find out let's go um I
05:08:52Skythink it just points to a despiration in both parties for a sense of except you've been you've been single your entire life
05:09:03Karenwhat and I've been married for 10 years to the same guy but continue let's not always get defensive and start like I'm making a point I'm making she's been single her whole life so with what
05:09:14Karenexperience and what you know where with all knowledge do you have on this topic she's an obser okay but earlier we were talking about only fans and you don't have only fans right but you can still have an opinion on it so you don't
05:09:26Skyalways have to have her experience y' be nice be nice I don't know I just like is that not a valid enough reason really I see your I mean that like you can
05:09:37Andrew Wilsonimagine from from a if you were to say take a Conservative Christian for instance and you were to lay all of his moral intuitions on things that gave him the ick and called that moral that that
05:09:49TTS/Donationswould lead to all sorts of things being imoral you probably wouldn't donated $200 so then guys who date older women have mommy issues and are overall weird men generally age like
05:10:01TTS/Donationswine and women generally age like bananas age Gap is perfectly normal when guy is older I would love to see a picture you Mr Mr meall send a picture
05:10:12Brian Atlasshe wants to have carnal knowledge with you you look she wants you romantically and sexually Mr meall but she needs a photo first also not to mention women of
05:10:23Karenmelanated color do not age like bananas thank you very much that is true it is true OB white women age like bananas anybody are you not ugly you're just
05:10:34Brian Atlaspoor no well no Kylie Jen hold on more like plantains yeah yeah like is it not bananas but
05:10:44Karenplantains I don't know okay uh right like for example MD MD's Asian I'm Hispanic and black we we don't we don't age the same we don't age the same oh my God no that's true that there there are
05:10:55Alyssastudies on that that melanin does make you age better that is a real thing about this oh I just made the [ __ ] up white don't blight white don't blight white don't blight you're so stupid what does that mean you know you don't know
05:11:07Andrew Wilsonwhat blight is white don't blight hold on let me Google this [ __ ] just to make sure I'm giving that would be correct the blight yeah like you're talking about blight like lights and [ __ ] like
05:11:18Brian Atlasthat a thing that spoils or damages um uh yeah so we're all spoiled if we're oh my no that's not what I'm saying he he was trying to make a joke
05:11:30Brian Atlasoh okay sorry it's don't it's hard to tell sometimes when I got the joke that yeah okay um I I'm going to move things on a little bit here going to Karin sir
05:11:42Brian Atlasyou said I can personally guarantee that you haven't had any women like me on your show I have no problem in laying into people especially if they're just morons than need to be taken down a peg or two true I know I have some invaluable dating advice and I'll lead
05:11:56Karenwith this one uh never believe your parents or the advice they give you about sex or dating yeah absolutely what that's wild uh yeah because I mean let's go back to back in
05:12:08Karenthe day I'm talking about before the internet I mean I grew up without the internet I grew up without any GPS or anything like that so of course your parents are trying to protect you and tell you certain things about dating and
05:12:21Karentell you who are who and what not to date cuz back in the day for sure they're trying to keep you like for example straight and narrow yeah well not even straight and narrow like culturally a lot of cultures will be like date within your own culture I'm
05:12:34Karennot dating Spanish men because there's some I could be related to one of them I'm not trying to do that but further the likelihood of that happening though I mean it's happened it's happened if you're from a small island it's happened
05:12:46Karenyou've dated a cousin I'm I I haven't but you know if you go if you're coming from a place like Haiti Puerto Rico Jamaica there's been a chance that you dated someone that you're somewhat related to that's it's happened it's
05:12:58Karengoing to happen you know with if you're only staying within your culture and it your culture is literally an island this big the chances of you dating a fourth a third cousin has probably happened okay but how does that apply to parental
05:13:10Karenadvice for because your your parents are going to guide you to do things moralistically as far as like church values things like that you know if you if you grow up religious your parents are going to tell you not to have sex
05:13:22Karenbefore marriage now parents I don't think that's good I'd like to know I I'd like to know what I'm getting into before I marry like I'm not like I made this point earlier today with the girls
05:13:32Alyssawas you you chest out the product before you buy it no my grandmother literally taught us you you Tred the milk before you buy the cow so I don't know who y'all's parents are maybe it's like a Louisiana thing and they're they are
05:13:44Andrew Wilsoncrazy in Louisiana but for the most part A lot of the people that I I've known yeah but that's that's advice towards men they're not supposed to give that advice to women the advice is supposed to be for men you go and you test out
05:13:56Alyssathe cow before you buy the cow cow is female they say go test out the bull she didn't say go test out the bull no no that she actually no she had this thing hanging and it said both thing it said don't buy the pig before you test the
05:14:07Alyssasausage too swear to God it said both things I swear to God I I need to know what kind of sausage I'm getting before I before I buy it Grandma crazy they are the whole family my mom used to tell me if you're ever going to smoke weed just
05:14:19Taviacome to me instead I don't want you smoking cigarettes I'm like damn dude that's crazy if I if I was talking to a guy for like 3 years and then we got married and then we and then we waited to have sex and his and he couldn't
05:14:31Taviaplease me then I would honestly probably end up in a divorce because what what if he was like good to you and every way though but if you couldn't if you couldn't please me sexually that's a
05:14:42Karenhuge Factor like sex is a huge Factor like my grandmother told me if you want to if you want if you want to keep a white guy cup his balls while you're sucking his dick that's what she said oh
05:14:51Taviamy God my most recent that is no lie actually I just I just ran into that that's what grandma said Grandma said I want to know the stat of how many men have affairs on their wives that they
05:15:02Andrew Wilsonmarried in virgins uh it's actually quite low so your chance of divorce Dr ially go down if you get married as a virgin male and a virgin female your chances of stepping outside your marriage go drastically
05:15:14Andrew Wilsondown as well is not a problem anybody at this table is ever going to have but uh it is you know for it that that is what the stats
05:15:25Karenshow okay well so what is wrong though with like parents trying to guide their children in like the right direction sometimes they sometimes parents can guide you in the wrong direction for example if you grow up in a super
05:15:37Karenreligious home and you're taught as a man not to masturbate because masturbating is bad or that you know self-love or self-care is bad that guy is not going to really know what the [ __ ] he's doing later on in life when
05:15:48Andrew Wilsonhe's trying to get involved in a relationship sexually I think people figure it out yeah but I mean that's the point the the whole point is to uh attempt to keep a person chased in order
05:15:59Andrew Wilsonto keep their virtue intact so I mean like from from your perspective I understand what you're saying you're saying look um for me I want sexual Liberation and this type type of thing but I mean for most parents they're
05:16:11Andrew Wilsongoing to want to try to keep you away from a bad crowd they're going to try to keep your virtues intact your reputation intact because that does actually matter in life it is part of success in life is
05:16:22Andrew Wilsonvirtue and that is a thing that used to be part of that whole culture you're talking about pre- internet same culture I grew up in and virtues did matter and you know what here's the thing everyone
05:16:33Andrew Wilsonknew who the skanks were in high school and we didn't treat them that great that's just the truth didn't treat them that great and um yeah yeah they didn't they didn't have it great just saying so
05:16:45Andrew WilsonI understand why parents would lean towards trying to keep those virtues intact for both uh their sons and their daughters it made it makes a lot of sense I mean I'm of the opinion and my
05:16:56Skydad convinced me of this just getting older that the word of your parents is like the word of God and unless they touch you then what okay well we can't get into that
05:17:09Taviawe're not going to get into that on the on the podcast on YouTube I just like don't like the the derogatory words that are used for women that are like to have
05:17:18Taviasex because like there's women like like myself that have been through horrible sexual experiences and that's going to make you act in a way when you're a child and you don't know any better in a
05:17:31Andrew Wilsonway that people could label you but that doesn't Define you as a whole person just because you like well let's um let's Grant it for a second and say say yes that's correct there could be women who have emotional issues due to some
05:17:44Andrew Wilsontype of horrific experiences that they have in their childhood there's plenty of women who have no horrific experiences early in their childhood and are often also promiscuous why can't
05:17:54Taviathose labels be used towards those women I just feel like using like oh those women weren't treated well as an excuse to like it's just for [ __ ]
05:18:05Taviabehavior for I I don't think that's fair to treat some like because what about the men that are whing around how did those men get treated yeah but that's about get stop stop just stop for a
05:18:16Andrew Wilsonsecond you're making a typical what about the mindo argument so let's start let's start first not what about the mindo why is everybody not mad at the men let's start with the first claim
05:18:27Andrew Wilsonwhich I don't like the fact that Society will use and by the way women do this to women far more than men do well the first derogatory thing a woman does to another woman is call her um yeah that's
05:18:40Andrew Wilsonthe first thing that they do they they that's what they do mean so the thing is hang on hang on so the thing is is like yes these things uh the reason that these terms are used you could say
05:18:52Andrew Wilsonstrumpet Lady of the night right whatever you want to say they're pointing out not doesn't have virtue that's what they're pointing out not virtuous and and it's a really easy way
05:19:04Andrew Wilsonto use a word to just go no virtue that's that's why it's used that way
05:19:13Alyssayou stumped you have resp can I Andrew do you hold do you hold the same views towards like do you find men who are have like high body counts less uh
05:19:23Andrew Wilsondesirable or like they have less value do you do it the same way well so so like so look so let's dive into this so there's a little bit of nuance here I think what you're asking me is do I
05:19:35Andrew Wilsonthink that men who are promiscuous also have lower virtue my answer is yes I think that they have lower virtue as
05:19:42Andrew Wilsonwell but not less value in the dating Market it seems that women don't have the same preferences that men do when it comes to a higher body Camp they don't
05:19:54Andrew Wilsonseem to care as much about it in fact they often seem to want to compete for men who have higher body counts because they have women all over them and that's what they're competing over so women don't have to compete for hierarchy but
05:20:07Andrew Wilsonthey do have to compete with each other to grab somebody inside of a hierarchy so that's been General human conditioning so women are always competing with each other so if women see other women gravitating towards a single man they tend to compete more for
05:20:20Andrew Wilsonthat man so it doesn't actually lower their value in the dating Marketplace but I think it lowers their value as far as virtue goes I was just curious your stance on it in general but also women will
05:20:31Alyssacompete for married men too they see a ring on a man's finger them more yes exactly but that's but that's the same thing you're talking about you're saying they're competing with a man who another
05:20:44Andrew Wilsonwoman desires and that makes them gravitate towards that man the same thing happens with women when they're um you know going after single men if they see that he gets a lot of female attention they tend to gravitate more towards him why do you think women are
05:20:57Andrew Wilsonalways out with these ugly ass [ __ ] rock stars right they're always at because they're super desired by other women right even though they're ugly as Sin you know like MC Jagger's not a good
05:21:08Andrew Wilsonguy but he's not he's not having trouble Steven Tyler ugly as Sin Steven Tyler is one of the ugliest men I probably ever seen he looks more like a woman than most women I know yeah but he's not
05:21:20Taviahaving trouble picking up chicks dude Flavor Flav just think they have money but I bet if they were ugly and didn't have money then they probably wouldn't be able to get chicks I don't think so yeah I I well I agree point is why
05:21:34Andrew Wilsonwhether the woman's gravitating towards him because he has money uh or they're gravitating towards him because he's good- looking it doesn't matter the fact that they're gravitating towards him does not seem to be a deterrent from other women it's a deterrent to
05:21:46Andrew Wilsonme yeah I'm I mean I'm sure to some women but generally speaking yeah no I just in in generalities
05:21:55Brian Atlasyeah wow good time to return what did I miss anything interesting I don't know not really uh going back to you you said you're 45 but you look 33 without a
05:22:06Brian Atlasbucket of makeup yeah like when I that's what you were on uh you said you're married but not legally cuz that's stupid yep yeah you did say you were married for 10 years but not legally
05:22:18Karenmarried so within the church or we went to um the little chapel in in Vegas so we just got married for us just to kind of resolidify our relationship and commitment to each other and the reason
05:22:29Karenwhy we didn't do it legally is because I don't need the government tracking every our every move and I'd rather be independent with my own money he has his money if anything where to go sour or South between the two of us he can go
05:22:41Karenhis way I can go my way we live in California where it's divided 50/50 my ambitions and Pursuits with my career could catapult me to be a multi-millionaire and then he's musician
05:22:52Karenand same thing goes for him so why muck up our money together if especially nothing is forever nothing is for certain so I'd rather you know him protect his assets I protect mine yes
05:23:04Brian Atlasnow you said that you're also a recovering sex addict with a high body count mhm uh and you said you didn't give us an exact number but you said it was three three digits is that correct
05:23:15Brian Atlasokay uh you said you were dating strange men long before social media existed this is true you never knew if you would make it home from a date this is true and it was thrilling it was it was because it was a thrilling time it I
05:23:27Karenmean look as as someone who was a sex addict I was involved in a lot of Reckless and very high endangerment situations because of where I came from
05:23:38Karenfrom I suffered through a lot of childhood trauma um things that were categorically like unconceivable for most people I lost both my parents before I finished high school I've been
05:23:48Karenon my own since I was 16 been through it all and with that being said when you get yourself involved I was never into like alcohol I've never been into drugs
05:23:59Andrew Wilsonum none of those things were my vices gambling nothing can we back up just a second in your story um because you you were on your own since you were you're 16 sorry to hear that by the way that's
05:24:10Andrew Wilsongot to suck but thanks you were saying earlier that you think that kids should dismiss their parents' advice but if your parents weren't in your life when you were that young wouldn't you have preferred to have had them around to get
05:24:22Karentheir advice no because my parents were both Reckless people my mother my mother didn't give us any kind of structure she didn't give us any kind of rules if I
05:24:33Andrew Wilsonwas going based off of her actions and things that she was doing um then I I would have just ended up like her and yeah sure but I mean surely you understand that most parents don't do that they're not they they love their
05:24:46Andrew Wilsonchildren they definitely don't let them move out of the house when they're 16 years old and do all this right I mean yeah you're I in a in a perfect world you're absolutely right but when I mean that's most people most people's parents
05:24:58KarenI I think genuinely care about them okay sure you don't think so that's not my that's not been my personal experience so I can't say for everybody else I I know a lot of other people who've had similar experiences to mine
05:25:10Karenwhere their parents weren't necessarily giving them structure and rules and kind of guidelines in life so everyone's journey is different you know and we're yeah I mean I agree with that and I was being a little bit more sarcastic not
05:25:23Andrew Wilsonnecessarily you know if you're if but if you're um if you're raised in a two- parent household generally speaking the outcomes or the things that you might consider good outcomes like higher
05:25:34Andrew Wilsoneducation more stability um you know less priscu things like this uh those are generally considered to be decent outcomes I would say then they tend to go up astronomically if you have two
05:25:46Andrew Wilsonparents in the household for the entirety of the child being in the household so I mean it seems like that's an optimal way to go right I would say it's also nurture versus nature because your environment and where you live and
05:25:58Karenwhere you grow up also have a huge impact on that I I I've found in my personal experience that a lot of people from like bigger cities in like New York I'm from New York originally people more
05:26:11Karenin the city are going to have a completely different type of Lifestyle than someone who grows up in Montana or Colorado even I feel like more of the core like Traditional Values are still
05:26:21Karenin the midwest people attribute a lot more of that in the middle as a I think there's a lot more lawlessness even in those liberal Progressive cities um having a two- parent household still is
05:26:34Andrew Wilsongoing to lead to what are generally considered good outcomes for children I didn't I have the benefit of having that I mean I always grew up in a one person I understand you didn't but why would you prescribe to others not to listen to
05:26:46Backgroundtheir appearance if their outcomes seem to be so much better if they do I was [ __ ] around I mean she's a comedian I'm a comedian I'm a standup ComEd okay so you said you were a sex addict I'd like to get this why women shouldn't be
05:26:57Brian Atlascomedians no I'm kidding I'm kidding I'm joking sorry I like you Andrew you're all right my I'm pretty I'm a likable guy so you said you were sex addict I'd
05:27:08Brian Atlaslike a little more scope on that so uh when you what does that look like for you a sex addict was someone who was reckless in in in Pro promiscuity you
05:27:19Karenknow what I mean like I sleep with the first person who was into me if I was into them obviously like I had my choice in who I wanted to sleep with or to even engage in any kind of sexual activity cuz body count doesn't necessarily mean
05:27:32Karenpenetration for all of them obviously but um with that being said I would I would use sex as my coping mechanism if I was sad if I was depressed if I was
05:27:42Karenangry if I was happy sex was my go-to thing to release that to en height to heighten that like if I had a good show or something I'm going to go [ __ ] somebody because it was a good show if I was depressed about a show I'd go [ __ ]
05:27:55Brian Atlassomebody to make myself feel better that's what that looks like so let's say in a day what's the most amount of people you had sex with in a
05:28:03Karenday o that's a dirty that's a dirty dirty question um I don't know couple maybe two three a day two three what about in like a week what's the most in a
05:28:16Karenweek man I don't know if I if I remember that this was way back in like 2002 2003 give us a a range um in a week I don't know could be anywhere between 5 and 10
05:28:28Karenin a week five and 10 okay what about in the month well if we're if we're taking if we're taking um the most in a month most in a
05:28:40Brian Atlasmonth maybe 15 okay in a month all right I was just trying to get a scope or sense of the uh extent of the sex addiction you said
05:28:50Brian Atlasthat uh if you're a woman under the age of 33 chances are you will think I'm a monster I can't stand the hypocrisy that defin a lot of women under the age 25 they want the world on the silver
05:29:01Brian Atlasplatter but bring absolutely nothing to the table ask any woman under 25 what she wants in Life or from a man and you will find yourself a silent woman your words your words absolutely my words and I stand right by them because if you ask
05:29:14Karena lot of women under the age of 2 what do you want out of life they're going to be deer and headlights and and and and it's I'm I'm no different I know I was the same I
05:29:26Karendidn't know I didn't know what I wanted out of life I didn't know what I wanted out of a life partner I didn't know what I wanted out of my career I I wasn't I was unsure of these things because I wasn't fully developed most of us are
05:29:37Brian Atlasnot fully developed until after 25 26 we haven't figured [ __ ] out yet you said that you're tired of women who have a victim mentality and white women tears yes what do you mean by white women tears white women tears the only reason
05:29:50Karenwhy I use that is because that's synonymous with what the verbage online and what young people are using white woman tears being women who victimize themselves over nothing Example The Girl Who Cried that's white women tears she's
05:30:03Karensting there crying because you asked her a [ __ ] qu you asked her a Define misogyny and she was just like like she was attacked the main
05:30:15Backgroundvictim yeah she acted she straight up acted like Brian sexually assaulted her you say it it's how you said it that's what matters how you said it repeat that I said she acted as if you sexually
05:30:27Karenassaulted her that's that's the look and the fear in her eyes in that that 10-second clip that I watched that's the look that she if you had given her the opportunity to go to the cops to report
05:30:38Karenyes she probably would have you know and said he made me feel unsafe I didn't feel safe around him because he asked me a question you got you speaking of this I've actually never revealed this on the
05:30:48Brian Atlasshow you should have seen the text messages she sent me afterwards oh I want to know oh my you mean DMS why did she had why did you
05:30:58Brian Atlasgive her your number oh I mean it was uh like you know the messages like we do uh through Instagram and yeah no she sent messages after the show like Nick actually I think I showed them to Nick I
05:31:09Karenshowed them to Maddie and she was being ridiculous did they sound like this you attacked me you made me feel uncomfortable and you humiliated me and
05:31:19Karenyou made me feel like I wasn't important and I and my opinion doesn't matter yes he you're right those are those are usually my
05:31:28Brian AtlasDMs not not Brian those are my DMs but yeah she she was uh that's great yeah she I'm trying she wanted us to take the
05:31:39Brian Atlasvideo down but then she also demanded well okay as why woman tears uh so anyways you said you're completely against marriage before 30 and procreation in general I'm sure Andrew
05:31:51Brian Atlashas some thoughts on this although just for the sake of time we can't linger too long but so you're against marriage before 30 right and you're against procreation so having kids I am and I
05:32:03Karenwould say that's more res that opinion is more reserved for this generation for the new generation or like you know the zillennials or whatever you want to call gen z um and the only reason why I say
05:32:15Julietthat is follow me are you okay I'm okay you're okay got like Tanya Harding at table oh okay I'm good yeah all right
05:32:22Karenum you okay you sure yeah thank you I I I I don't I don't like where we're
05:32:30Karenheaded as a society with with all this like the the best word I can use is the snowflake mentality like comedy is gone
05:32:42Karenyou know we can't be funny anymore comedians have a hard time being able to get up on stage and make fun of [ __ ] that everyone can relate to without the fear of being canceled resorted to like self deprecation jokes because you're
05:32:54Andrew Wilsononly allowed to talk about yourself but don't you think that a lot of that is because female comedians only know how to talk about their vagina and that's it I mean I do have a problem with that but I'm not one of them I mean that's like
05:33:05Andrew Wilsonthat's like 99% of female comedians all they do on stage and talk about their vag no it's fair they're they're pretty bad they're pretty notun and they pretty much talk exclusively about their vagina
05:33:17Andrew Wilsonit's very very odd it's a very odd phenomenon I actually didn't believe that until I went through Netflix and started watching female comedians I was like really that's all they talk about all right well I you haven't heard any
05:33:29Karenof my stuff so you know to be fair yeah yeah yeah yeah sure but that's fair I mean yeah you're not wrong there are a lot of women who get up on stage and they talk about is sex and you know how they get men to [ __ ] them and whatnot
05:33:42Karenit's because that's all they can relate to that's all they that's all a lot of them are relating to as far as what they think is funny or what they find yeah but they also me to the entire comedy industry what's that all these female
05:33:53BackgroundComics went through and Meed the entire industry they Meed everybody I mean so I mean say something how in the hell did get canell they did they went through and me tooed the whole comic indry there
05:34:06Backgroundwas a bunch of female comic were going around going oh I was sexually harassed by this guy and this dude jerked off in front of me and after I consented but blah blah blah blah blah blah blah after I consented he asked them and still can
05:34:19Andrew Wilsonhim [ __ ] that's the [ __ ] that bothers me and that that goes back to what I was talking about the victim mentality how are so women ruined comedy is what I'm saying they ruined it they're the tone policers they're the ones who get offended they're the ones who are always
05:34:30Andrew Wilsonwhining about everything they're always crying they can't take a joke nothing's ever funny everyone's always a victim thank you that broad statements of saying men do this and women do that
05:34:40Andrew Wilsonit's just like diversity love diversity see what I mean that's the whole point right the the whole point of why it is that women get so offended you can't even have a
05:34:51Backgroundconversation about General topics when no it's about diversity it's about inclusion it's about us being friends and holding [ __ ] hands and seeing K by us not about any of that [ __ ] jokes are supposed to be funny because they're
05:35:03Brian Atlasa reflection of the truth of reality of society that's what makes them hilarious destroyed all of that they destroyed it sake of time I've got to move things on uh going to my notes Here for Bobby you
05:35:16Brian Atlasuh okay you've been doing o for four years part-time cam girl gaming streamer for two former traveling stripper from when you were 18
05:35:26Brian Atlasto 2020 uh you in an open relationship now for three years on Twitter are you you claim to be married
05:35:37Bobby Lavenderwell you see I'm like you where I don't want to like get legally married but in my heart I'm married and like that's just me I don't want like cuz I'm not religious and I'm also not into the
05:35:49Bobby Lavendergovernment being in my [ __ ] like you know M so I I say I'm married because I have so much faith in my relationship and I think that it will last forever so
05:36:00Bobby LavenderI might as well just go ahead and start saying that he's my husband is it a common law marriage uh well we've only we lived together we moved in immediately um and things have been good
05:36:13Bobby Lavenderlike we literally hardly ever have any kind of fights and when we do we have good commun well how long let's let me try again a different way how long have you been with this guy only three years that's what he said not so not common
05:36:25Brian Atlaslaw because I think that's seven it depends on where you're at I don't know live together I think it's different in every different state so I have no idea yeah you said that you don't identify actually do we show that I don't think
05:36:37Bobby LavenderAndrew is here he he would very much Andrew would very much like to know the status of the armpit hair oh it's alive and well but like it's it's not like I always
05:36:49Bobby Lavenderhave armit hair I do shave sometimes just like you know down there I can you show Andrew there's a little bit of a toilet paper particles from me like
05:36:59Brian Atlaswiping my like sweat in the bathroom nice and uh that's your thing you have the there's a couple photos on your Instagram you got the armpit hair I thought Andrew should know I thought
05:37:11Andrew Wilsonjust so he has a better understanding of the Dynamics going on here uh there it is so what's the dynamic what is that armpit hair well it's kind of well you know like uh you got the armpit hair and the blue hair we might or purple here
05:37:24Andrew Wilsonwhatever color it is you know we might draw some conclusions May perhaps you're one of the free baders you know what I mean like we it they there's kind of a stereotype that goes with the women who
05:37:35Andrew Wilsonhave the colored hair and armpit hair Raging Raging feminist abely SMS like Puli she loves smell like Puli don't you ever say that
05:37:45Brian Atlasabout me not since I was like I'm 20 okay but I used to love pachuli now you do say you don't identify as a feminist you do believe but you do believe in
05:37:57Brian Atlashaving equal rights you have no real issue with patriarchy or more traditional roles men are supposed to lead and protect what you dislike is misogyny sexism and The Who is more
05:38:07Brian Atlaspressed or who is the victim pissing contest it's comparing apples to oranges well I'll play that game men are more pressed than women but I don't really feel inclined to go into it but just
05:38:19Brian Atlasthrowing that out there anyways the argument but I you know I will go into it if you want but eh well maybe later let me get through the notes I have you have a really bad date experience uh for