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00:02:22Brian Atlasfurther Ado we're going to have the guests introduce themselves so please tell us your name age location and occupation go ahead hi um my name is
00:02:31Female Panel (mixed)Rogue I'm 32 years old um I am a student going into Radiology I also um work at a
00:02:39Female Panel (mixed)plastic surgery office I do only fans um and I also teach pole dancing that's a new thing I had to add that on there so
00:02:49Brian Atlasyeah can you um and you're 32 right yes okay uh did you get your bachelor's degree I'm working on that now I have my associates in science did you say where
00:03:00Female Panel (mixed)you're from Reno Reno sorry REO go ahead um hi I'm Maya I'm 24 I live in California but I moved from Michigan a few months ago and I do only
00:03:13Brian Atlasfans and I would love to take a PO dancing class from you I'm so bad at it you said you're uh 34 is that correct 24 oh 24 my mistake my mistake and you said you're from
00:03:25Female Panel (mixed)Michigan you said okay and what's the what kind of content you do on o I do anything you ask me to do okay myx okay
00:03:35Female Panel (mixed)bye all right uh what about you hello my name is Sienna and I'm 21 years old and I live in Torrance California and I'm currently a student
00:03:46Female Panel (mixed)at El Camino College all right sorry your your age again 21 years old 21 okay uh what are you studying um you can go ahead Mort
00:03:55Female Panel (mixed)just go ahead well um I'm just kind of finishing all the like just grab it just grab it go ahead I'm just finishing all the iessi requirements requirements first
00:04:07Female Panel (mixed)for me to be able to like go into my major which is most likely going to be psychology okay all right what about you uh hi I'm Kiki I'm 20 years old I live
00:04:19Female Panel (mixed)in Los Angeles and I'm currently a student I study digital marketing all right uh welcome what about you I'm Melissa I'm from Los Angeles California
00:04:28Female Panel (mixed)I do social media coordinating and what was the other question I'm from
00:04:38Female Panel (mixed)LA and sorry age again 20 23 23 okay and you're from La mhm okay uh school at all um I went to massage therapy school I'm a certified massage therapist all right
00:04:50Female Panel (mixed)are you doing that for work or not currently um right now I'm a social media coordinator for a nail company okay did you ever do that that as a profession massage yeah yeah well I went
00:05:03Madisonto school I practiced for a bit but my job takes up most of my time all right are you ever going to go back to it or possibly okay all right what about you hey I'm Madison I'm from San Francisco
00:05:14MadisonCalifornia I do only fans I teach Pilates and I also work in a dental office and I'm 35 years old all right any schooling or anything like that yeah
00:05:26AlexisI have multiple Associates degrees in in what in Natural Science and dental hygiene okay all right what about you I'm Alexis I'm 23 I live in Los Angeles I'm a flight attendant and a
00:05:38Brian Atlasbartender all right you said 23 right yes all right how long youve been a flight attendant for for a year and a half and do you do uh International what kind of flights international but mostly
00:05:50Brian Atlasdomestic mostly domestic okay what about you hi I'm Giana I'm 18 I'm from Los Angeles and I'm a model all right uh welcome welcome all right uh Andrew what about you what kind
00:06:04Brian Atlasof model uh I do runway and print modeling okay all right uh that's everybody's introduction we're going to go around
00:06:15Brian Atlasthe table once more what's everybody's relationship status so uh are you single talking St situationship married whatever it is if you're single how long
00:06:25Brian Atlashave you been single and what's the hold on let me take yeah we might have to uh figure that out Andrew is
00:06:36Andrew Wilsonechoing Andrew is Echo is it bad chat is it bad we're testing out a different audio thing hang on sometimes it sounds like I'm echoing for just a couple of seconds and then the echo will go away
00:06:50Andrew Wilsonokay that's just the way that Discord works so cuz I did hear a bit of an echo uh right at the beginning but it it should be fine now okay
00:07:01Brian Atlaswe I'm going to step away for a moment to go figure that out in just a moment um but for now we'll just get everybody's relationship introductions go
00:07:10Female Panel (mixed)ahead um I am a bisexual polyamorous person so I have a boyfriend currently looking for a girlfriend and I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years okay is this the longest
00:07:23Female Panel (mixed)relationship you've ever had no my longest relationship was seven years and I was married before all right what about you I'm single and I've been single for two years all right longest
00:07:34Brian Atlasrelationship two years was that the relationship that ended two years ago no all right uh the most recent relationship that ended two years ago who broke up with who I broke
00:07:47Brian Atlasup with him and then the two-year relationship your longest relationship who broke up with who I broke up with him okay and then uh you've been single for 2 years uh what's during that 2 your
00:07:59Female Panel (mixed)period what's the longest period of time you were seeing anybody in any capacity I've gone a few months with like one or two people but I've mostly just been
00:08:11Brian Atlaslike I don't know I've just been at home with my cat mostly I've just been on my own on my own little thing okay um are you C currently uh is there any guy in
00:08:22Female Panel (mixed)the picture currently in any fashion there's not a single person so there's multiple people I don't know no I don't even talk to anybody right now okay so
00:08:34Female Panel (mixed)you just have you just invite them over you guys well actually I met a nice Cowboy like a week ago and I do have a crush on him but we're not like seeing
00:08:42Female Panel (mixed)each other okay so yeah all right uh and then what about you um I'm single and I've been single since November
00:08:53Brian Atlas8th so like three three weeks yes okay longest relationship two and a half years is that the one that ended three weeks ago yes all right who
00:09:05Female Panel (mixed)broke up with who um I'll just give a simple answer I I was the one that ended it officially like even though
00:09:15Female Panel (mixed)we it was on and off for the last few months and um after that it was like we were there either exclusive or something
00:09:24Female Panel (mixed)but yeah I ended it for the time being um yeah I'm the one that did that okay and um let's see huh yeah
00:09:37Female Panel (mixed)that's fine what about you uh I currently have a boyfriend and yeah okay uh how long you been in a
00:09:47Female Panel (mixed)relationship uh we just started dating she's she's she's like I'll love you she has the glow
00:09:59Brian Atlasuh sorry you said how you said how long uh like a month if that so one month uh longest relationship I was on and off with
00:10:08Brian Atlassomebody for 5 years okay when did that like end end um couple months ago couple months ago like three months ago no I don't know like just a couple months
00:10:19Brian Atlasokay and then you said you've been in a relationship for one month yeah how long did you know this guy prior though um we met at La fashion week actually okay so
00:10:31Brian Atlasyou guys just we just met yeah okay uh so what was the period of time between the end of your fiveyear relationship and then meeting this new guy well it's
00:10:41Female Panel (mixed)really complicated because um so obviously I was dating that guy like officially the my ex for a long time uh then we broke up like we broke up and we were like kind of just more like friends
00:10:55Female Panel (mixed)honestly it's kind of a situation where you meet somebody really young not really young but like you meet that you date and then you'll love each other as friends forever and you can't accept the fact that like you shouldn't be
00:11:05Female Panel (mixed)together but you're still good friends um so he's been my friend forever uh but I feel like I've been single in my heart for a very long time but him and I would still hang out um as friends my ex um
00:11:17Female Panel (mixed)like until a couple months ago really but yeah I've been single like single single for like maybe two years so him and I would just like hang out I see
00:11:26Brian Atlassingle single for uh like two years two years okay then I have a boyfriend all right uh what about you single all right how long you been
00:11:37Brian Atlassingle for a month longest relationship four years is that the one that ended a month ago sure is have you ever been on and off again with the fouryear guy yes what's the longest period of time
00:11:51Brian Atlasyou've been off with him 5 months when's the last time you spoke to him yesterday did you see him in person no no when's the last time you saw him
00:12:01Female Panel (mixed)in person a month ago a month ago why did you speak to him yesterday um because I needed him to get out my apartment you guys still live together no I moved out a month ago but you said
00:12:13Female Panel (mixed)you need him to he's he was in my apartment I moved in with my sister he broke into your apartment no we were living together as of yesterday no I moved out last month when we broke up moved in with my sister oh and we've
00:12:26Brian Atlasbeen broken up for this month but it's your apartment is my apartment wait and this is four four years that's your longest relationship right but it was on again off again on again off again for four years how many
00:12:38Female Panel (mixed)times was it off and on like three three times and then going back to you really quick you said you were your 5 year was countless how many times literally countless off and on
00:12:48Female Panel (mixed)like countless countless times like we uh yeah we just we uh we met when we were 14 so it's kind of crazy more than more than 10 yeah more maybe I don't
00:12:59Female Panel (mixed)know we more than 50 we've been I don't know um we dated like solidly for like 2 years I want I don't really know it's been forever I'm 20 I was 14 that's crazy I'll just say I'll say like 10
00:13:11Brian Atlasplus then and for you it's three um you guys uh are in the process of breaking up I need to get up for a little bit so perhaps you can do a bit of an extended
00:13:20Brian Atlasexplanation of your relationship uh so the nature of the breakup why you're breaking up with him he was living the the living situation if you can go into
00:13:30Female Panel (mixed)that yeah so he is an addict so obviously I wouldn't deal with that I tried to get him keep him clean for 4 years but that didn't work out so this last time he relapsed I was like yeah no
00:13:43Female Panel (mixed)this isn't going to work I got to do me period go girl was he was he an addict when you met him um not that I was aware I wasn't aware he was an addict not to
00:13:54Andrew Wilsonthe extent that he was how many times did he relapse m three three times huh mhm over how many
00:14:04Andrew Wilsonyears four over four years what kind of uh what kind of drugs was he on
00:14:12Female Panel (mixed)fentel oh jeez yeah that's crazy damn okay uh well hopefully you leaving him shakes
00:14:24Female Panel (mixed)him out of that he was uh he was floting it up huh mhm that's none of my business though um what do you mean it was none of your business it's not my concern anymore oh
00:14:35Brian Atlasanymore okay uh when you guys had originally met was he using not that I was aware of were you
00:14:43Brian Atlasguys both using no you you're not doing any drugs or anything like that okay um so you guys had the parment together mhm
00:14:54Female Panel (mixed)but it were you living there and then he moved in with you we moved in together last last year and then when we broke up it was my apartment it's all in my name and then um he moved back in like a few
00:15:06Brian Atlasmonths ago when we got back together was he paying you rent yeah okay but initially when you guys moved even then it was in your name mhm okay um so you're trying to get him evicted or
00:15:19Female Panel (mixed)what's the no he's gone now oh he's just willingly leaving thank God yeah uh but I mean technically he was a tenant right so technically California protects people who are staying in a house for
00:15:30Brian Atlaslike over 30 days or if they pay money but so he uh he willingly left cuz he wanted them out yeah okay um how soon into the relationship did
00:15:41Brian Atlasyou learn that he was an addict uh I want to say like five months five months in M it got progressively worse
00:15:49Brian Atlasprogressively worse in so far as like the types of uh yeah substances or yep okay and uh
00:16:00Female Panel (mixed)were there any concerns that early on about the longevity longevity of the relationship or um definitely it crossed my mind but at at that point in time I
00:16:10Female Panel (mixed)was young and dumb blind so I didn't see it as much of a problem until it got really
00:16:18Brian Atlasbad okay and uh how did you guys meet Instagram Instagram okay you slid into his DMS nope he slid into my DMs he slid
00:16:28Female Panel (mixed)into your D okay rapper maybe no way SoundCloud rapper stop he was on Spotify I'll give him
00:16:40Brian Atlasthat um how many face tattoos did he have none neck tattoo no penis tattoo no oh okay it was on his belly don't know him
00:16:51Brian Atlasthat all right that's cool I'm waiting to find a guy with one of those that's a thing it was cute so I guess two final questions then you guys were on went on three separate
00:17:03Brian Atlasbreaks right yeah okay uh were did you guys remain loyal during those breaks like did you date other people there was well this last time yes you were dating some someone else and yeah cuz it was 5
00:17:14Female Panel (mixed)months we were apart so yeah okay and then were you still involved with that new guy when he came back or how did that work um a little bit because I was unsure of where if we were going to
00:17:26Female Panel (mixed)continue talking I didn't really want to but but he kind of finessed I'm not going to lie but yeah I was still talking to the guy the last guy I was talking to okay until we made it
00:17:37Brian Atlasofficial sure and um um you've been single for one month any rebound no nothing not yet not yet
00:17:48Madisonokay all right what about you I am married uh my longest relationship is my marriage and it's been 17 years W well we've been taking together
00:17:59Andrew Wilson17 years you haven't been married 17 years did you say did you say that you were uh on only fans though correct do you do content with your husband yes I
00:18:10Andrew Wilsondo okay and so he's so so he's on only fans as well yes okay and do you do other types of uh of that kind of work
00:18:21Andrew Wilsonum you mean like in the adult industry no he should though yeah he really should he's gifted we love that word do you do do you do
00:18:32Madisonany other types of content like uh with other people besides each other um we always work together or myself just with other females um we work with other couples but we don't do stuff like
00:18:44Madisoncompletely separate like where the other one isn't there at all even if they're not in the scene they're like in the room maybe holding the camera or adjusting the lighting so it's always a
00:18:52Andrew Wilsonteam effort so do you do like do you do like BB BBG and B G content it's more like bgbg type stuff like couple
00:19:04Madisonswaps okay do you shoot content with other men only in the form of another couple but not single men you're poly correct um not exactly I mean we play
00:19:15Madisonwith other people together but we don't date yeah you can go a swinger I guess uh Rogue you're Paulie you're a swinger or um I'm I would say paully okay yeah
00:19:26Brian Atlascuz I would be dating like I want to date another girl uh so how long married uh 8 years 8 years together
00:19:33Brian Atlas17 uh and so you guys met hold on when I was 18 18 like high school trying to do the math High School sweethearts or um my high school
00:19:45Madisonsweetheart I was just about to graduate from high school but he's older than I am so yeah he was like uh
00:19:54Brian Atlas26 what you met wait did you guys meet when you were 18 though yeah I was 18 you were 18 when when you met yes
00:20:02Brian Atlasokay huh um and then uh he hey 18 you know uh okay and then how soon into the
00:20:14Madisonrelationship were you guys I guess engaging in orgies or whatever um that started in like 2020 so it's in it's long-term scheme of things it's
00:20:26Brian Atlasrelatively recent for us so you guys were mon for the first uh essentially 13 years of your relationship no cheating no no opening of okay and then who
00:20:38Madisonbrought up who brought to who that you guys wanted to uh I guess open things up um I think it was like a really slow conversation we both were kind of into
00:20:49Madisonthe idea that just like evolved over time and ultimately we both decided we wanted to have a threesome with a girl but didn't really know where to start so it was a lot of talk for a long time so I guess the idea started more maybe like
00:21:01Madison2017 so like 3 years before we ever actually acted on anything and then Co hit and we're like f it let's hit Tinder world's ending let's just do it how long
00:21:12Brian Atlashave you been doing sex work uh since 2021 so you know like a year and a half no no like stripping before that or anything like that okay so you went pretty much right into the o is that
00:21:22Brian Atlascorrect yeah any sort of um like sugar daddy stuff or anything no okay all right uh and uh but you'll NE you've never done a scene with another man
00:21:34Brian Atlasabsent your husband correct okay uh what about you mik in Mike I'm single I've only been in two relationships one
00:21:43Alexissituationship that felt like a relationship but two real ones um the first one lasted four years uh we were all through high school together and
00:21:54Alexisthen uh my second boyfriend was um I met him through bumble okay uh so you've been single for how long damn um since 2020 since 2021 so
00:22:05Brian Atlasthree years there you go longest relationship four years four years is that the one that ended three years ago no the four-year relationship who ended
00:22:15Alexisit uh me the one that ended three years ago who ended it no the oh uh that one he did all right M okay uh Gianna what
00:22:26Female Panel (mixed)about you single um last relationship was a few years ago and it was like about a year or so all right uh so you've been single
00:22:37Brian Atlasfor three years you said yeah about okay so you're 15 mhm okay uh ended one year ago uh any
00:22:48Brian Atlasguys currently in the picture no nothing no zero zero last time on a date few months ago last time hanging out with a man with either romantic and
00:22:59Brian Atlasor sexual interest few months ago few months ago sell bit for how long didn't you say a month ago a minute yeah yeah is oh so you did hang out with somebody a month ago where there was a
00:23:12Brian Atlasunless you [ __ ] a guy with zero that you had zero romantic or sexual interest in which I suppose happened was it a woman could have been a was it a woman it wasn't no huh okay
00:23:24Alexisand um what else oh what about you uh any guys in the picture right now currently anything no nothing no nobody nothing no
00:23:35Alexisjust um you know whoever I want to hit up for some fun in that moment but that's it when the last time you did that last week okay and is this like a sneaky link like you've seen them
00:23:47Alexispreviously I've known him for like two years already um yeah we're just good F buddies how often do you guys um link
00:23:57Alexishow often not that often because he just moved to uh California he used to live in Chicago we met in Vegas during EDC weekend okay and we just talked ever
00:24:09Alexissince like he's cool he's really cool audio why don't I date him I know he's he's just I don't
00:24:18Alexisknow do I want not hubby material no M I feel like he still has a lot to learn just banging material just banging material he's really good at that's
00:24:29Brian Atlasall Damian and the audio mixer scroll it over and enable the twitch alerts I think that's or
00:24:38Brian Atlaswait hold on hey chat tell us if you you get uh tell us if you get echo on this metr donated
00:24:48TTS Voice$200 men delete your of accounts let's send the simp demic we control the power to return the world to a functioning
00:24:57Female Panel (mixed)order this needs to be pushed more can I say something to that sure um you you donated $200 just to say that and like
00:25:06Female Panel (mixed)you could get so much for $200 on off or you could just not spend the $200 so I'm just saying she's like a
00:25:15Brian Atlassubscribe 200 is a lot just to say that I mean he he had a uh he had a windfall recently with Doge
00:25:26Andrew Wilsonand pepe and uh Shea enu Andrew sounds like seems like you might have a response here thank you Metro mat by the way yeah why would you want to go and subscribe to nasty prostitutes on only
00:25:38Female Panel (mixed)fans like why would he want to do that broke that's that's super gross or he could just not I mean that I wasn't saying actually I did say that I guess but I wasn't saying like it's this or
00:25:49Andrew Wilsonthis but like $200 to say something is crazy $200 to support the the type of content that you like to support where people can have conversations from all over the world it's very interesting
00:25:59Andrew Wilsonthey enjoy that but then to kind of uh immediately assault the value structure by saying oh no you should go watch prostitution that just seems kind of counterintuitive right no you're right you're right
00:26:13Female Panel (mixed)yeah that's it that's all you guys got that's all I got if you want to if that's how yeah you can spend your money however you want whether it be only fans or well it seems like uh a lot of people
00:26:25Female Panel (mixed)spend a lot of money on only fans like porn all that is a billion doll industry so I mean it seems like a lot of people like it if there wasn't a demand for it it wouldn't be around Mill yeah millions
00:26:37Andrew Wilsonand millions it's true who here does o I'm not sure that it's a like a a great statement though to say that well because lots and lots of people do bad things and that means
00:26:48Female Panel (mixed)that we should continue to perpetuate bad things seems what would you um sorry um what would you constitute as something that's bad though well here let's just see if we can't uh let's just
00:27:00Andrew Wilsonsee if we can't break it down so we'll start with me right so I smoke cigarettes I'd say that that's probably bad for instance if my kid came to me and said hey Dad can I have a smoke I'd
00:27:10Andrew Wilsonbe like uh no you can't have a smoke okay smoking's bad I probably shouldn't smoke right I'm trying to quit that kind of thing so let me just ask you if you're I don't know 18-year-old daughter came to you and said hey mom thinking
00:27:23Female Panel (mixed)about being a prostitute on the internet would you be like oh okay sounds good I'd be like it paid my way through college so well I do think that smoking has like a actual physical harm on your body I do
00:27:35Female Panel (mixed)it too so like whatever but like that has an actual I mean I'm not saying that sex work can't have a physical harm on your body cuz it can but um I wouldn't tell any of my children to do any of that stuff just saying I'd let them just
00:27:48Female Panel (mixed)do what they want if they came to me at 18 and said hey Mom I want to join only fans I would say you know what here's a list of reasons why you know it might not be the best idea a here's a list of reasons why I found it like why I liked
00:28:01Andrew Wilsonit and did it for this long and I let them make their own decision cuz they're 18 I would agree with that yeah I know that they can make their own decision nobody's saying that they can't do that adults can make their own decisions the
00:28:12Andrew Wilsonquestion is use the adviser right so me as the adviser and the advisor role I can point to behavior I have that's probably not pristine and say you know I would advise you not to do that it's probably not the best idea can't stop
00:28:24Female Panel (mixed)you from doing it but I would advise you against it would you advise your daughter would you advise your daughter against it um I no I wouldn't advise I wouldn't advise her against or to do it
00:28:35Female Panel (mixed)I would just say here's my experience take what you will like I've had good and bad experiences if this is what you would like your experience to be then like you're 18 you're of age make your own decisions I'll just tell her what my
00:28:46Andrew Wilsonexperience is I feel like only fans is only but she's looking for advice sco to the table she she's like Mom I'm conflicted what should I do I feel like if you're conflicted you shouldn't do it say right about go to therapy talk to
00:28:59Female Panel (mixed)somebody about it they're talking to me yeah she's talking to me and and I'd say hey here's I told you what I'd say to her I would say just going to give her a neutral take I would say if you're conflicted don't do it she an adult can make her own decision it is not
00:29:11TTS Voicesomething that anybody should just jump into lightly I agree but however it's not something that's causing physical harm Metro donated $200 chair two you literally sell yourself for McDonald's sometimes less
00:29:24Andrew Wilsonso tune in all right why is the why is the standard here this idea of only physical harm right nobody's saying that this
00:29:35Andrew Wilsoncould that this causes direct physical harm though I'd argue it can um but rather there's no Society that's made better anywhere on planet Earth with the usage of rampant prostitution there's
00:29:48Andrew Wilsonnot a single Society can point to that's made better because of that and there's never going to be one that you can point to that's made better because of that I mean so if we collectively are making decisions as a society for what we want
00:29:59Andrew Wilsonto see in it I think that it's pretty obvious that uh because the overwhelming amount of trafficking human trafficking that comes with uh sex work which is it's overwhelming the evidence on behalf
00:30:12Andrew Wilsonof that and this is only in countries which legalize it it's pretty obvious that it's something that collectively people should be pushing back against right um I would argue that
00:30:23Female Panel (mixed)decriminalizing things helps with that like just for an example the weed nobody buys weed from drug dealers anymore they go to the store it's regulated it's safer and then just buying off the
00:30:35Andrew Wilsonplaces that have criminalized prostitution have less human trafficking than places that have legalized prostitution but do they have statistics on rape and if rape has increased oh my God bro you guys do not listen sorry to
00:30:45Andrew Wilsonthe [ __ ] pre-show information holy [ __ ] don't don't just use sa please it just stands for sexual assault just use sa instead it's because we're on uh we're on YouTube we want to comply
00:30:56Brian Atlaswith the terms of service so I got that's all I had to say all right I'm just moving on onwards then Karina you got a you're below the threshold but you got a DM out
00:31:11TTS Voicewhatever whatever fan donated $200 har F buddy is a great lay but not husband material and guys are totally cool with that but women get mad when we
00:31:22TTS Voicesay 304s are not wife material and don't deserve long-term commitment what's 304s oh I don't get mad when people say that if that's who's this who's this
00:31:34Female Panel (mixed)directed to to me to you yeah do you have a response or uh I don't know I'm reading I'm trying to proc I think y'all can talk I think the person who has the best answer for this would be Madison
00:31:46Female Panel (mixed)cuz she's been in the longest relationship at this table and she does only fans what do you feel like this has changed your relationship at all with your it has made it better it's enhanced it we were exploring new things and it's
00:31:58Madisonbeen a [ __ ] ton of fun and I challenge Andrew on the fact that sex work is inherently bad I agree it certainly can be bad human trafficking is horrible and certain people maybe are very desperate and do it for the wrong reasons and do
00:32:11Madisonput themselves In Harm's Way but that doesn't mean that's how everybody's going about doing it and that is an all-encompassing Truth for all sex work you me show you how divisive this is
00:32:21Andrew WilsonI'll explain so when you say things like when you're talking about harm people tend to only look at harm from their own personal metric of what they think would or wouldn't be harmful they never really
00:32:33Andrew Wilsonexternalize how the things that they do affect other people so for instance I find it harmful that you call yourself married that's not a marriage that's an Abomination from my from my perspective
00:32:44Andrew Wilsontotal Abomination is not a marriage it's a joke right but think about this you might not like from your perspective you think that's really harsh or that's mean or that's this or that's that but isn't
00:32:56Andrew Wilsonit harmful to the value structure of the millions of men who think like me that you would cheapen and destroy the thing that we sanctify that much by calling it marriage like and he just don't care
00:33:08Andrew Wilsonright cuz from your perspective well I'm not touching you I'm not touching you it's similar to when uh you of girls will wear crosses inside of your porn
00:33:18Andrew Wilsonshoots and it's like uh okay well let's just take the very symbol of this entire religion and pervert it to the maximum extent right and and we're supposed to just be like oh well that's okay we're
00:33:31Andrew Wilsonjust pushovers and doormats right it's like so anytime you're talking about harm you seem to only internalize it you never extend it out to how it actually does affect other people well I'm not a bible thumper so I don't believe in
00:33:43Andrew Wilsonthings being all holy and sacred see what I mean you're internalizing you only look at it from the prism of self Kate now you're interrupting me I was in the middle of my argument yeah I'm just explaining
00:33:54Madisonreal quick though that that that's going to my point that's all but go um marriage can mean a lot of different things to different people and we stood in front of our family and friends and committed Our Lives to each other and we
00:34:06Madisonget to pick the terms on how that turns out and if we're both consenting adults and are completely happy with it more power to us I don't need God or whoever you believe in to agree with that
00:34:18Andrew Wilsonbecause to me that means nothing yeah but and I don't wear cross in my own you see how this makes this makes my point for me that when you think about things like harm or the principle of of what you're doing in society you think of it
00:34:31Andrew Wilsonfrom the position of yourself only from the position of you well I'm not hurting anybody not doing anything wrong we're too consenting adults should be able to do whatever we want it's like okay but what about the greater duties that happen inside of society or forming
00:34:44Andrew Wilsonsocieties towards things that we want to see for future Generations which we do have a duty for we do have a duty to do this so the idea here is like sure you can say whatever you want you can say
00:34:55Andrew Wilsonthis is a legitimate marriage this is uh this is a thing which is uh true and proper and it can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people it's like that's fine but let's not pretend that it's not a complete and
00:35:06Andrew Wilsontotal assault on the values of millions of people who consider it to be an Abomination and that that's just dismissed because you just don't agree with those values and it's like okay well that's not really you taking into
00:35:18Madisonaccount a harm principle that's just you taking into account the me principle it's all about me and what I want well I think maybe actually we're doing the world to service by showing them that there are alternative Lifestyles
00:35:30Madisonavailable and maybe that'll make you even happier than the one that Society set you up to believe that you had to have yeah and I would argue that Christianity can be very any horrible person on
00:35:42Andrew Wilsonplanet Earth can make the same argument you know like a drug addict can be like hey you know what all I'm doing is showing future generations and the people around me that hey being a drug addict is just an alternative lifestyle
00:35:54Andrew Wilsonman and it could even be a better lifestyle than the one you're currently in bro literally anybody could make uh could make that argument for any value structure that they want and so what we do is we take a holistic approach we
00:36:06Andrew Wilsonlook at society as a whole we go is this really good for it or is it really bad for it and any category you put uh only fans of pornography into it's basically
00:36:17Andrew Wilsonalways bad for it very few yields of good most people come out of it or damaged right the mental illness rates are over the top the amount of STDs are
00:36:26Andrew Wilsonover the top uh it it's it promotes a a lifestyle which is completely self cystic or self-absorbed where you become the center of the universe there's no greater duties to society or to family
00:36:38Andrew Wilsonit's not it's not a good lifestyle to promote never has been so you think well this is an attack on my values or what I believe it is but to be fair right the the very fact that people engage in it
00:36:50Andrew Wilsonis an assault on the values of millions who think like me it's like why is the harm only just one-sided that's what I never understood it's like it's very I agree the harm is dual sided and I think
00:37:02Madisonthat a lot of your values are harmful to society and that's the beauty of America we all get to have our opinion our freedom to follow whatever religion we want to or no religion at all and you get to have your values and I can have
00:37:14Madisonmine and I would also argue that sex workers are very safe because the amount of testing and prevention and conversations that take place over the average hookup in the regular dating
00:37:25Andrew Wilsonworld makes it a lot safer can let me let me respond to both hang on hang on before you get in let me respond to both the arguments and you can jump in the first one is like okay if that's what
00:37:35Andrew Wilsonyou value in America that you can kind of do as thou Wilt because uh because right now you're allowed to then you better value the rest of what America is which is the value of the vote and the
00:37:46Andrew Wilsonfact that Millions more people begin thinking like me as they get absorbed with degeneracy all around them than like you and what we do is we vote out things like abortion and we vote out things women's rights and we vote out
00:37:58Andrew Wilsonthe things that you find really precious because you insist on promoting the most degenerate [ __ ] possible so if that is the case then you can't cry over spilled milk when the other when the pendulum
00:38:10Andrew Wilsonswings back and people snatch that away from you you I don't have anybody to blame except American values at that point and then over to kind of the second call argument here it's like yeah
00:38:22Andrew Wilsonyou can say that the values and structures that I have you don't like or you think that they're harmful because uh well you know after all you're basically just giving a a graduated sexual education course to uh to anybody
00:38:35Andrew Wilsonwho wants to jump in on it but I can point to a society where abstinence was the order of the day not very long ago and almost every woman got married when they were a virgin and there was no STD rates and divorce was very very very low
00:38:47Andrew Wilsonso thank you for improving that Society thank you for improving it look around isn't it way better it's way better isn't it said nobody anywhere ever better for for us I mean you have back
00:38:58Female Panel (mixed)then you had wives that were on qu your statistics like the statistics you're saying like you're not actually like first of all first of all this is a different one but like sex
00:39:09Female Panel (mixed)work there's girls who give $5 Sixx on the street okay yeah I I bet that the STD rate higher is higher with that there's girls who do uh tip picks and
00:39:22Female Panel (mixed)only fans there that's not there's no correlation sex work is so Broad and so you saying like the I don't know STD rate with is higher with girls who do only fans we all get tested we all porn
00:39:35Andrew Wilsonwe all get tested we don't shoot with anyone who doesn't get you like for me to read off the stats of how much higher it is with people who engage in sexual
00:39:43Andrew Wilsonin any type of uh sexuality on camera be it only fans with BG or uh or nonb content or with just regular prostitution it or with just regular
00:39:55Female Panel (mixed)corn it is significant iFly higher than the societ it was how long ago than it was how long ago before there was all this database to put into
00:40:07Andrew Wilsonstatistics what do you well we've been keeping track of things like STDs for a long long time of course we know what these know these wait wait hang on we know what these rates were pre-
00:40:18Andrew Wilsonlegalization of uh of what we would considered degeneracy or uh when they began to rule that uh you know corn was protected under the First Amendment so this this very idea that you have
00:40:30Female Panel (mixed)that we just don't know is absurd we do know we we do know we know exactly how low they were and they were a lot lower there's no doubt about it well can't you just say that that would just be the general promiscuity of the of society
00:40:42Female Panel (mixed)because I doubt that when somebody goes to uh a testing clinic and they say oh you have this they're like oh I'm an only fans Creator like I don't they don't ask you that yeah no no no
00:40:52Andrew Wilsonactually they do ask you that there's especially if you go into fre especially I mean there's certain but hang on hang on I'm going to tell you they do indeed ask you that yes you're like boxing her
00:41:04Andrew Wilsonoff can you give her space all you need to do is take x amount of a sampling from an industry and test it to get a really good idea of how prevalent it is in that industry in comparison to the general population but the general
00:41:16Andrew Wilsonpopulation doesn't get tested nearly as much as only fans and sex hang everybody stop hold on
00:41:33Female Panel (mixed)go ahead yeah anyway I I'll let you um I'll let you respond I promise well the general the general public doesn't get tested nearly as much as we do so the numbers are going to be
00:41:45Andrew Wilsondifferent so you I'll tell you what why don't you go ahead and make your argument and then when you're done give me like the high sign or the signal and then I'll make the argument I just did okay we'll do it again so I can hear it
00:41:55Female Panel (mixed)this time go ahead um this this isn't really about the only fans this is just kind of um something that wait wait hang on can can before you jump in can I just finish with her I'm almost done we're
00:42:07Female Panel (mixed)almost done I think of course can you just repeat what you just said so that I understand what you just said um the general population doesn't get tested nearly as much as people in the industry
00:42:19Female Panel (mixed)do before I got into the industry I didn't get tested at all and same with all my friends who aren't in it and that is just a fact but like so yeah I mean numbers might show higher because we're
00:42:30Andrew Wilsonthe ones getting tested yeah that would be called that would be called a sampling bias and so inside of a study you take a sampling bias and you do what's called a compensation for a sampling bias that's
00:42:42Andrew Wilsonliterally what you it's called a control that's how you do a controlled study so if you have a sampling bias where one particular demographic of a population is tested more heavily than another you would create an offset for the purpose
00:42:53Brian Atlasof that study that's literally how that's done so that which what you're talking about there is easily accounted for okay I actually have some thoughts on the whole STD thing so um I think it
00:43:06Madisonwas your position you said that the STD rates are lower among sax workers what's your position I didn't state that there were any I wasn't quoting any statistics I just said that I feel that it can be safer because people are more
00:43:18Madisonconscientious about testing and using protection and having those conversations that many people would think is uncomfortable In the Heat of the Moment you got to talk about all that stuff before before you start filming yeah so a couple things and then I'll know what your position is your
00:43:30Female Panel (mixed)position that the STD rate is lower among no I literally actually don't know the rates I'm just saying that like I don't know I I know that before I got in the industry versus now I get tested
00:43:43Andrew Wilsonwell so here's here's kind of the I guess the line of the conv just as of 20 2011 just to just to tell you um the studies found that goria rates alone
00:43:53Andrew Wilsonwere 64 times higher than the general population and 18 18 times higher than Los Angeles County which is considered one of the most promiscuous in the world
00:44:04Andrew Wilsonuh for residents 18 to 29 so 18 times higher than the most promiscuous County they could find and uh 64 times higher than the general population so yeah I would say
00:44:16Andrew Wilsonum they're higher they're a lot higher yeah but that statistic is 2011 that was 14 years ago yeah yeah but do you want to see what what it's like in modern times even it's not any better I mean I
00:44:27Andrew Wilsonwould like to know just education a study from 2023 I have no problem saying I'm wrong well it's not going to be from 2023 likely but probably 2021 2022 you wouldn't see a huge fluctuation in a couple years specifically usually like
00:44:39Female Panel (mixed)when I look up things like the latest one will be 2023 2024 I'm not disagreeing with that either um may I speak on the the other thing no not yet not not the of an STD of STDs yeah hold
00:44:51Brian Atlason just a sec so I guess the confusion here is that I believe Andrew cided well one of the I guess downfalls of sex the sex work industry is the higher incidence rate of
00:45:02Brian AtlasSTDs both of you kind of argued that well this this really isn't the case um although it is there's studies to back this up and then further I mean you guys mentioned testing you guys are both doing only fans do you shoot in the
00:45:14Female Panel (mixed)traditional you shoot in the traditional porn industry correct mm no you don't no you've never I don't tra traditional porn industry I don't shoot mainstream porn
00:45:26Brian Atlasmainstream porn I don't shoot mainstream por no you only do only fans I only do only fans same with me I mean we do a bit of research on the panelist beforehand you can look it up I've never
00:45:37Brian Atlasdone any mainstream for and I don't know who you were seeing but it wasn't me I promise okay but you've done collaborations with other people and it's been distributed on their platforms only on only fans on your only fans or
00:45:49Brian Atlasother my only fans and other people's only fans but never mainstream porn you can't find any of my videos on like PornHub H okay um but you do shoot me uh scenes with
00:46:00Brian Atlasmen correct yes okay and my I perhaps you guys can inform me on this is there uh only fans does not compel you to get tested correct no but we are just but
00:46:12Madisonyou guys do it just do it of course I wouldn't shoot with anybody who doesn't have you guys ever not done testing before shooting I've never not in my life and we also use protection in
00:46:22Female Panel (mixed)addition to testing really I don't I mean a lot of but if if somebody shows me a clean test within x amount of days and I show them a clean test in x amount of days we're good to shoot M and so uh
00:46:34Female Panel (mixed)these tests though they're not full panel test they are full panel test no they're not uh do they test for herpes and HPV yes they do they don't yes they do no they don't they don't test for
00:46:44Brian Atlasherpes typically the ones that I do test for it really yes you have to ask for it but they can I don't know what you're talking about well my understanding when we've had plenty of only fans girls and people in the tradition porn industry
00:46:57Brian Atlasthey typically are not testing for herpes even in the general population if you go to like a doctor and you ask for an STD test they're not testing you for herpes like you need to specifically ask
00:47:07Brian Atlasfor this it's a bit more complicated of a uh thing to do so totally is and I we still I mean if you want next time you get up like you can show me your most recent sdd test I'd be curious to see if it includes herpes but totally do it
00:47:20Brian Atlassure it could be the case you've gotten a you got a full panel STD test my understanding though we've had a lot of people in the tradition porn industry and this carries on into the uh only fans industry because there's a bit of
00:47:31Female Panel (mixed)crossover there uh herpes is pretty prevalent in the traditional porn industry in fact they don't really herpes is prevalent in the entire world it's 5% or like what is it one in five
00:47:41Female Panel (mixed)people have herpes and it actually only tests positive like not only but like it's it's very rare that it tests positive if you don't have an active outbreak do you test positive for herpes
00:47:51Andrew Wilsonnever tested positive for herpes oh okay I've never had an outbreak also so h well there's a difference I mean doesn't that just mean you may have it but you don't know that's how it's like with all
00:48:03Female Panel (mixed)of us there hold on there's sure but I mean there would be a risk assessment difference but also you can only really contract herpes if somebody's having a breakout well it's it's very and they
00:48:13Brian Atlascan also take antivirals yeah I mean there's hsv1 there's hsv2 there's uh like oral herpes gal her is this sort of thing but people can be like pre
00:48:24Brian Atlassymptomatic so there might not even be like a ongoing outbreak but it's the beginning of one and it's like at a very small micro level and you can still contract it also condoms don't really help when it but this also like with
00:48:35Female Panel (mixed)anyone you have sex with to be honest and so yes like but I I sex workers have a higher uh partner count though than the general public I've had lower partner accounts since I've been in sex
00:48:47Female Panel (mixed)work but yes I know most sex workers might but yeah I don't know I'm very careful now I just I if you I don't I won't have sex with a random person if they don't show me a full panel test so yeah I understand that um that due to
00:48:59Andrew Wilsonthe nature of that industry many people would want to take additional precautions like I get it I understands like any job right if you were a welder you would definitely want to wear a welding gloves and a and a mask and this
00:49:11Andrew Wilsontype of thing because this was the like an occupational hazard uh but here's the thing even if you wear welding gloves and a welding mask and you're a welder you still have a higher chance of
00:49:22Andrew Wilsongetting a welding burn than somebody who doesn't Weld and that's the Point hang on hang on so the whole the whole point here is just to say that even if it were the case even if it were
00:49:34Andrew Wilsonlet's just granted for the sake of argument that sex workers had less STDs than general population which is not true but let's just assume for a second it was I can I have a sure Surefire 100%
00:49:45Andrew Wilsonway that you can avoid STDs can you think of what it could be don't have sex yeah it's pretty simple right complet in arguable logic isn't it uh going over to you you had uh maybe something on the
00:49:58Female Panel (mixed)STD thing and then something unrelated go ahead um I don't I just it was like a stupid
00:50:06Female Panel (mixed)thought no say it well I um I guess when he mentioned the garia and everything I actually like agree that you like that
00:50:18Female Panel (mixed)in hookup culture that like I think it could be encouraged to also like not give what I don't want to say the head am I allowed to say that yeah you can
00:50:31Female Panel (mixed)say that um I think it should be encouraged not to like you know immediately give head the first time that you see someone just because you know you again like it could be gona
00:50:43Female Panel (mixed)could be you know a multitude of of things and um usually people don't really care about that because it's just head and then they'll use a condom after when they're doing it but I just think
00:50:54Female Panel (mixed)that in both ways sometimes it could be avoid did I know maybe it's less fun but what was your other thing oh about divorce I think you had something else you wanted to jump in on that was that was it about that one
00:51:07Andrew Wilsonand then just like divorce I was just going to say something I just I was going to ask him a question sometimes too like these these combos can get kind of heated or this type of thing it's perfectly okay for you to to uh to jump in with your thoughts and things like that we don't want you to feel
00:51:19Andrew Wilsondiscouraged from doing that he get you literally told her to stop yeah until we were done with our section may I and now you're telling her to jump in may I ask about I was telling her to jump in with her thoughts now the conversation we
00:51:30Female Panel (mixed)were just having was done go ahead um just about divorce I understand from your point of view that divorce rates have gone up higher and that sort of
00:51:39Female Panel (mixed)thing um when divorce rates were lower do you think that
00:51:48Female Panel (mixed)uh domestic am I allowed to just like domestic domestic stuff was less talked about but still occurring and that it
00:52:00Female Panel (mixed)would have been better I mean not that a high divorce rate is good but I'm saying that if you need to get out of it and it's not you're not so before I have Andrew answer this question what do you
00:52:11Brian Atlasthink were the rates of domestic violence uh in years past like do you think it was like orders of magn on that okay so I'm not going to say something I
00:52:22Brian Atlasdon't know of but I'm just I'm just but the implication here is that like well back in the day like domestic violence the rates of domestic violence getting divorced was kind of looked down upon in
00:52:32Female Panel (mixed)some families and some religions which I understand but um if now it's kind of more of a common thing that you know to hear about divorce how about this
00:52:43Brian Atlasinstead of that of the mar of the divorce rate that currently exists what percentage would be attributed to domestic violence I'm not sure what do you think
00:53:00Brian Atlasin in just our country yeah currently currently sure yeah I don't you you can you don't need to be precise like it's
00:53:10Brian Atlas1373 you could say I think it's less than five I think it's less than 10% so divorces due to domestic violence yeah
00:53:18Brian Atlasum my very uneducated guests might be 30% 35% 35% so the in and this would this also apply to uh relationships too
00:53:30Female Panel (mixed)the domestic violence rate in all relationships is 3 I was saying marriage no just marriage just a guess I would assume that the rates have actually gone down significantly considering that there would be penalization for doing
00:53:43Female Panel (mixed)things it is a federal offense and I I believe so a battery maybe not federal but a battery is still you actually can't get certain jobs with background checks if you have like offended people in such manners I mean battery has and
00:53:55Female Panel (mixed)Andrew perhaps you can jump in on this uh battery has always been a crime uh regardless of it being a crime or not it still does inhibit your ability to get a job if you have a serious background check maybe you have you know a serious
00:54:07Female Panel (mixed)job and they kind of look that up like that will inhibit you getting a job and I think more recently especially with like current movements I would definitely assume that the abuse rate it's not completely down but I would assume that it's significantly decreased
00:54:19Female Panel (mixed)with the amount of awareness ever since the 1970s if I'm not mistaken divorce has become a little bit more mainstream kind of after the whole you know 1950s nuclear family and then the 1970s with kind of like the sexual Revolution
00:54:31Andrew Wilsonbleeding into the 80s and now we it's because of no fault divorce pardon me it's because of no fault divorce so you used to have to be able to you used to have to show cause for why you wanted to get a divorce now you don't have to do
00:54:44Female Panel (mixed)that there's no there's no it's no fault so you you don't have to show any cause you can just get a divorce for whatever reason you want yeah yeah but there also was a law back in the day where you couldn't beat your wife with a stick bigger than your thumb so I didn't think
00:54:56Female Panel (mixed)they really gave much of a crap about women being beaten their marriages oh yeah where was that law I mean I've I've heard about it oh well then I that makes
00:55:06Andrew Wilsonit true I mean hey you have the computer it was it it's always been foundationally considered criminal to abuse or beat your wife inside of the
00:55:16Andrew WilsonUnited States um I will grant that um that due to the modern duth model of DV um that a lot lot of people get arrested when they probably shouldn't for things
00:55:28Andrew Wilsonthat already were considered unlawful such as battery uh salt things like that those already were illegal before any DV laws ever were put in place so I mean I don't even know why we have them they
00:55:39Andrew Wilsondon't even make sense they already were crimes so it's it's never made much sense it's just like an additional punishment for some reason uh added to this even though these were already criminal
00:55:50Madisonactivities I don't know what the actual statistics are on any of this either but even if you are going to pull up something that says it's like more common now or whatever I would argue that that's just because it went unreported a lot more before a lot of
00:56:02Madisonwomen were stuck in marriages had no other choice had no Financial Resources they were fully dependent on their husbands and they just took it because they had no other option well I mean that's awful convenient but I can just make the argument the other direction do
00:56:14Andrew Wilsonsaying the exact same thing if we just go off of well I think it was more common it was just unreported right it's like that's that's an unfalsifiable model you can just say that about literally anything you want
00:56:26Andrew Wilsonto oh yeah there was just as many let's say um lgbtq people in 1915 as there is now it just wasn't reported it's like that's that's an unfalsifiable position