Toxic Man Hating 10/10 "Goddess" EXPLOITS Men? (KICKED) A Wilson REKT Misandrist! | Dating Talk #184

Date: 2024-08-05
Duration: 7h 07m

Identified Speakers

SPEAKER_02Lucy (Luchia)(guest)
SPEAKER_03Kwan(guest)
SPEAKER_04Natalie(guest)
SPEAKER_05Anyia(guest)
SPEAKER_06Courtney / Rihanna(guest)
SPEAKER_07TTS/Donations(audience)
SPEAKER_08Andrew Wilson(guest)
SPEAKER_09Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_13Madison (Maddie)(guest)
SPEAKER_14Gracie(guest)

Key Moments

00:11:21
QuoteLucy describes her findom practice: explains financial domination as a BDSM kink where men get aroused by giving money, and she enjoys watching them hurt themselves and laughing at their humiliation.

I basically play into you know certain Kinks for men and they give me money for it... sometimes it's just the Kink of financial domination which they get off to giving

00:20:00
ControversyAndrew presents the moral equivalence argument: if Lucy's findom of a man teetering on bankruptcy is ethical because he consents, then a 55-year-old man having sex with a low-IQ but legally adult 21-year-old is equally ethical. Lucy initially rejects the comparison but eventually acknowledges the parallel.

imagine this going back the other direction... he's 50 and she's a little bit low IQ but she's a consenting adult... doesn't sound reasonable to you

00:22:47
QuoteLucy reads her own tweet on the show: 'I'm in a shitty mood and I want to take it out on a stupid man. I'm in the mood to cause permanent damage to your bank account and your balls.'

I'm in a shitty mood and I want to take it out on a stupid man I'm in the mood to cause permanent damage to your bank account and your balls

00:25:23
QuoteBrian asks Lucy: if she will be the most beautiful woman on Earth at 56, why would she not take a magic wand that advances her aging 5 years to prove it?

if you think you'll be when do you think the peak is... so if I uh could wave a magic wand that only Advanced your outward physical appearance

00:37:08
QuoteLucy states that men were created only to provide.

men were created to provide that's literally it doesn't matter if you consider yourself a fin sub or not I stand by that

00:47:41
QuoteNatalie explains that losing ~70 lbs on a GLP-1 medication changed the quality of male attention she receives — previously more sexual and less respectful, now higher quality.

before I feel like a lot of it was a lot of male attention that I would get was more from like kind of like in a gross like way... now the like quality of guys is a lot better

01:56:00
ControversyAndrew uses the Fountain of Youth argument to counter Lucy's claim she'll be more attractive at 56: if aging reduces attractiveness (evidenced by anti-wrinkle creams, Botox, etc.), and no one seeks age-advancement, then Lucy's assertion she'll be equally/more attractive at 56 is internally inconsistent.

I found hundreds of Legends about a fountain where you go in or something similar to this where it reverses the aging process couldn't find any about a fountain of age... youth is beauty

03:50:24
QuoteCourtney recounts 'murder date' story — man drove her up a winding road to an unfinished house, she had a panic attack, ended up hooking up with him anyway, and he called her 'Daddy' then 'Mommy'.

I look back and the door is like about to close and I had like a panic attack... this door closes like this is the last time I'm ever going to see a door... we did hook up later so that's on me

04:34:00
QuoteGracie describes creating a fake Snapchat account to confirm her high school boyfriend was cheating on her while she was at her sister's wedding.

I made a fake Snapchat account and I added him and of course he added me back immediately and I started snapping him like black screens... maybe like four snaps in I'm like oh do you have a girlfriend by the way

04:44:00
QuoteGracie states she would want to be a stay-at-home mom and be submissive to her husband but won't generalize to all women.

for me personally I would love to be a state home mom and be submissed to my husband but I'm not going to say that that's right for every woman

06:40:12
QuoteLucy states her body count is approximately 20 'something' and she doesn't keep a ledger.

one like 20 something probably I don't know I don't have a ledger I don't really count

06:53:45
ControversyLucy argues men and women are equally victims of war. Brian and others counter that Ukrainian men were conscripted and could not flee, while Ukrainian women could leave for Austria/Germany.

I mean sure I mean if you again if you're talking about like in the physical sense of being a victim yeah obviously

07:00:00
OtherLucy says she is 'over this conversation' and is asked to leave the show early by Brian (kicked).

I'm like we've... I'm over this conversation... fine you can leave I'll let you leave early then

Topics Discussed

00:00:16
Show Intro & Announcements

Brian delivers opening monologue, streaming announcements, Streamlabs/TTS info, merch, Discord, Patreon, debate university plug. Mentions recent debate with Cray Cray Desiree.

00:03:57
Guest Introductions

Guests introduce themselves: name, age, location, occupation. Courtney (34, receptionist/comedian), Lucy/Luchia (26, bartender/findom), Rihanna (27, poet/novelist), Anyia (18, Austrian student), Natalie (18, Orange County, Health Sciences), Gracie (18, SDSU Kinesiology), Kwan (30, waitress/PT), Andrew Wilson (debater).

00:08:08
Relationship Status Round

All guests share current relationship status, longest relationship, and time single. Lucy discusses 5-year on/off long-distance situationship with a man who had substance abuse issues. Courtney (in a 10-month relationship). Anyia (single 6 months). Natalie (no real relationship, 4-5 month talking stage). Gracie (single 8 months). Kwan (single 4 years, celibate 2.5 years).

00:11:21
Financial Domination Ethics Debate

Extended debate with Lucy on her findom practice. Andrew draws analogies between Lucy's findom and a man exploiting a low-IQ 21-year-old woman. Lucy defends the practice as consensual BDSM. Andrew argues that consent from a person likely suffering mental illness does not neutralize moral responsibility. Lucy acknowledges she finds the humiliation entertaining.

00:35:14
Lucy's Tweets & Misandry Discussion

Brian reads Lucy's tweets: 'in a shitty mood and want to take it out on a stupid man'; 'permanent damage to your bank account and balls'; 'men were created to provide'; 'life is always better when you have a male punching bag to abuse'; 'it's always the fugliest Normy man that assumes I'm a witch.' Panel reacts. Discussion of whether men are only good for providing.

00:37:42
Ukrainian Women & Dating in Wartime

Brian reads New York Times article about Ukrainian women struggling to date during the war. Panel mostly unsympathetic — argues men dying is worse than women lacking dates.

00:43:00
Dating as a Bisexual Woman (Courtney)

Courtney describes being bisexual. Discussion with Brian and Andrew about same-sex attraction, bisexual dating experiences, and STI testing.

00:47:41
Natalie's Weight Loss Journey

Natalie discusses losing ~70 lbs on a GLP-1 medication (Mounjaro, for PCOS/insulin resistance). Reports change in quality of male attention — previously attracted more sexualizing/low-quality men; now receives better treatment. Brian notes this as evidence that physical attractiveness correlates with treatment.

01:23:33
Self-Rating Round (Looks 1-10)

Guests rate their looks on a 1-10 scale (no 7s allowed). Courtney: 10 (later lowered to 8). Lucy: 10 (claims she'll be an '11' in 10 years). Rihanna: 8 (approximate — Brian confirmed). Natalie: 8 ('on a good day'). Gracie: 8. Andrew: 5 (self). Brian: implicitly 4 (jokingly).

01:24:30
Looks Rating Discussion & Female Self-Assessment

Extended multi-segment debate about whether women accurately self-rate. Andrew and Brian argue women systematically rate themselves higher than objective comparisons would suggest, and that this leads to delusion about dating prospects. Discussion of 'who is the prettiest girl in the room,' beauty standards, objectivity vs subjectivity, and the Fountain of Youth / aging argument (women using anti-wrinkle creams contradicts claims aging doesn't reduce attractiveness).

01:27:00
Po Raider Segment (World of Warcraft)

A Twitch streamer named 'Po' (French Canadian, ~36 years old, WoW player) raids the stream. Brian reviews Po's Instagram with the panel, shows his dirty keyboard video. Panel mostly declines to date Po. Brian discusses Po's WoW credentials.

01:58:00
Will You Be More Attractive in 10 Years?

Brian asks each guest if they'll be more physically attractive in 10, 20, 30 years. Lucy insists she will be, claims she'll peak at 30 ('30, flirty, and thriving'). Most other guests more realistic about aging. Andrew references Fountain of Youth folklore to argue everyone intuitively knows youth = beauty.

02:14:00
Mid Guy / Beautiful Girl Phenomenon

Panel unanimously agrees mid guys with beautiful girls is more common than handsome guys with mid girls. Brian argues the opposite: women's inflated self-ratings mean virtually every man looks mid by comparison. Andrew explains how women's vocal social pressure contributes to women feeling they've 'settled.'

03:07:30
Wage Gap & Dangerous Jobs Discussion

Discussion of the gender wage gap. Brian shows data: Asian women out-earn white men; controlled wage gap shrinks to ~$0.99 on the dollar. Andrew shows chart of top 20 most dangerous US jobs — all 90%+ male. Discussion of why men dominate dangerous work and whether sexism in hiring is immoral.

03:16:00
Bear vs. Man Forest Scenario

Panel asked: random man or random bear in the forest? All chose man. Courtney discusses wanting to spiritually connect with animals. Andrew and Brian note that statistically the random man is likely elderly/non-threatening whereas a bear will kill you. Brian shows a video of a bear casually walking past cars as counterpoint.

03:50:24
Courtney's Murder Date Story

Courtney recounts a scary first date where a man claiming to be in real estate drove her up a winding road to an unfinished house on a hill. She had a panic attack and demanded to leave. Later learned another woman had been taken to the same location. Despite the fear, she ended up hooking up with him that same night. He then called her 'Daddy' then switched to 'Mommy.'

04:23:26
Rihanna's Bowling Date Cheating Story

Rihanna (attributed to SPEAKER_06) describes being exclusively 'seeing' a man for ~2 months when he accidentally texted her 'I can be there at 10pm love' that was meant for another woman. She believed him when he said it was for his brother, continued seeing him a week, then ended it after he stood her up on another occasion.

04:34:00
Gracie's Cheating/Love Bombing Stories

Gracie shares two stories: (1) high school boyfriend asked if he could bring another girl to homecoming while she was at her sister's wedding; she created a fake Snapchat to confirm he told the girl he had no girlfriend; she confronted him publicly at his house. (2) second relationship was a man who love-bombed her, later revealed to be a virgin who had fabricated sexual stories about mutual acquaintances; Gracie only found out after they broke up through his friend.

04:43:00
Witchcraft & Spell-Casting Discussion

Lucy mentions having an altar and casting abundance spells. Andrew challenges the internal logic of witchcraft: if spells work, you must be affecting other people's wills; if they don't work, why do them. Discussion of white magic vs. dark magic and how manifesting abundance necessarily involves affecting others.

05:15:00
Female Submission in Relationships

Extended debate about whether women should be submissive to their husbands. Gracie says she would like a submissive role in marriage. Andrew argues that true submission means not requiring justification for decisions. Debate involves Biblical framework (Christ > husband > wife > children hierarchy). Natalie argues submission requires mutual respect. Brian shows a 'bowing' video as an example of submission. Most women say they'd laugh and do it once but not as a daily ritual.

05:20:15
Dating App Profile Reviews

Brian reviews the women's dating app profiles on screen. Lucy's Hinge has 'micro celebrity' bio. Courtney's has travel/writing goals and growth mindset prompts. Natalie's focuses on personality over looks.

06:40:12
Body Count Round

Going around the table: Lucy ~20 (no ledger); Courtney/Rihanna area: 9 mentioned; Anyia: declined; Natalie: 4; Gracie: declined sarcastically ('mine times a million times three'); Brian: 'mine's really nine' (or 'just one' — diarization unclear); Kwan: declined. Discussion of whether body count is a valid metric for partner selection.

06:41:00
Birth Control Discussion

Madison asks who is/has been on birth control. Natalie: was on it 4 days, stopped due to PCOS/hormonal side effects; has non-hormonal IUD. Courtney: was on it briefly in younger years, had hair loss and weight gain. Lucy: on it 5 years (17-22), got off because it disrupts hormones. Gracie: has an IUD (non-hormonal, for health). Anyia and Kwan: not on it.

06:43:00
H-Flation / Dating Standards Debate

Brian introduces the concept of 'h-flation': women's expectations of men have risen while their own value offered has decreased (more promiscuity, less domesticity). Gracie's point reframed: women have lower standards for what they accept behavior-wise but higher standards for what they demand from men.

06:53:45
Primary Victim of War Discussion

Madison asks who is the primary victim of war: men or women. Lucy says both equally. Kwan and others say men (they're fighting and dying). Brian uses World War II US example — men couldn't leave Ukraine, women could flee to Austria/Germany. Kwan correctly names all 3 branches of US government when asked.

07:00:00
Lucy & Rihanna Kicked / Early Departures

Lucy says she's 'over the conversation' and is kicked (~7:00:09). Anyia and Natalie/Gracie also leave early (family obligation, 2-hour drive home, class next morning). Brian and remaining guests wrap up.

Transcript

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05:40:15
Brian Atlastraditional uh in any case when a a lot of women's expectations when it comes to the proposal is that he get down on one knee with a ring of a certain expense
05:40:27
Natalielook up oh will you marry me so you want you're okay with a guy doing that I like it how it goes how I don't think it's wrong to like that will you marry me Andrew probably stood there
05:40:37
Andrew Wilsonthrew the ring at her you're my wife now Rachel were married through it right yep no I didn't do that but um I like it I really wanted to lean into I really wanted to lean into you know it's really
05:40:49
Andrew Wilsonfunny though bringing up my wife because she's watched that clip now I don't know like a dozen times and she says that Brian's way off base that that's not
05:40:59
Andrew Wilsonsubmission that that's just basic basic she calls it basic [ __ ] [ __ ] she says she says who gives a [ __ ] if this [ __ ] this her words I'm just paraphrasing her right who cares if this stupid broad
05:41:11
Andrew Wilsonbows and Cooks his noodles that's basic that's basic wait until he she he makes a decision that she doesn't like then we'll see if that chick is submissive or not I think that that's a really valid
05:41:23
Andrew Wilsonpoint because it's like what she's saying there is you're not really asking for [ __ ] you're not asking for nothing you're just like oh okay with my with my cup of noodles give me a bow who get in
05:41:34
Andrew Wilsonin the comparison to the expectation on the other side I think you better bow I mean honestly I think you better bow and I think that that's what she's getting
05:41:44
Brian Atlasat with that that's all yeah that's a really good point actually a good point like asking for a bow that takes L like
05:41:52
Brian Atlasno effort you burn like a quarter of a calorie doing it probably less uh it'll please your husband or boyfriend or whatever if he wants it I guess I I
05:42:05
Nataliedon't really see what the issue is there I any issue see the harm in it it's just like okay you want sure I agree I I like what your wife said there's basic [ __ ] but but you want a guy to get down on
05:42:18
Andrew Wilsonone knee well and that's what she's saying she's like and if they won't do that basic [ __ ] that chicken going to do nothing she ain't going to do nothing if a girl won't bow for you she won't do any what's crazy wait actually what's
05:42:29
Andrew Wilsoncrazy remember that Trad cath girl she went home and she she was she was like okay I'm going to do it just to do it yes and she made his and she put it down and she bowed and he loved and he was
05:42:40
Brian Atlaslike what the [ __ ] was that and she and she told him and he was like we do that more that's awesome we've okay I'll tell you this I'll tell you this we've shown this video for 50 episodes now at this
05:42:52
Brian Atlaspoint the amount of women who have dm'd me and said I tried that with my boyfriend tried that with my husband 99% of them say the husband the
05:43:04
Brian Atlasboyfriend loved that [ __ ] one of them a couple of them will be like oh he thought it was kind of like what the [ __ ] are you doing are you okay but then like they still liked it anyways so but
05:43:15
Brian Atlashere's the crazy thing Andrew the same women who will be like who will say I wouldn't bow for a
05:43:26
Brian Atlasman we'll let a guy jizz on your face the first time meeting just saying it's true bro the same girl who's like I wouldn't bow for a guy what
05:43:37
Lucy (Luchia)raising your eyes for you make men punch themselves in the balls for you I mean I I wouldn't let a man jizz on my face the first time I met him that's just I mean I mean I honestly like you got to punch him in the nuts a few times you you
05:43:50
Brian Atlasdon't think there's women out there that have one night stands and get blasted I'm sure there are but I'm not one of them you know but she can punch them in the nuts sorry bro I'm telling you dude
05:44:00
Brian AtlasI they won't they won't bow for you but they will literally let you inside of them on the first date bro that's crazy that's crazy I got to get up for a bit
05:44:12
Brian Atlascan you oh actually before I get I get up I get up um going to KES keshwan Kwan Kwan her notes you're going to like this one Andrew I know you you can't stay for too long but you'll have enough time to
05:44:24
Brian Atlasget into her with this um she says men 30 plus dating 18year olds I don't agree to that going around the table um what are your thoughts on age gaps I can't wait to hear it so uh your position
05:44:37
Kwanreally quick we'll get the rest of the panels are you want me to do it quick well I just I guess we're going to get everybody's input on this but you can start since it was your point okay so the reason why I said that was because I would say that a girl cuz she's still a
05:44:48
Kwanteenager just fresh out of high school I don't think that an 18-year-old that is fresh out of high school is going to say you know I'm ready to go get married and settle down that's just not where she's at mentally okay so well what if she's
05:44:59
Gracie19 21 is the youngest I 2021 2021 well before we get into it we'll let everybody share their opinions go ahead I think it depends on where both people are at in life and if it like coincides
05:45:11
Brian Atlaswith where each other are at here maybe I can just throw out the number uh 25-year-old or 35-year-old should I do we'll just say
05:45:21
Gracie19-year old I don't think that's I don't like that don't like it no okay why give you the ick look in the camera it's not something I would personally do or would
05:45:32
Gracieencourage my friends about Ryan Reynolds would you date Ryan Reynolds Oh he's 47 or something I wouldn't date Ryan Reynolds No you would smash Ryan Reynolds he's married yeah well okay a
05:45:45
Brian Atlaslot of issues to bring out he single if he was single if he was single or what about uh who's the guy who play what about the guy who plays Thor oh he's sexy Chris Hemsworth what
05:45:57
Gracieabout um I think the oldest I would go is like Kelly UB who the [ __ ] is that Kelly UB like Justin Jefferson like they're like mid 20s though mid 20s is
05:46:09
Brian Atlasthe old 25 28 right Justin Jefferson's like 25 I think right all right well that's fine okay so TIY uh not cool with 3519 okay what about you I think it depends where you are in life but like
05:46:20
Brian Atlasas a blanket statement probably not probably not probably not cool with it okay what about you 19 and 35 are hm H 19 and 35 you say yeah no no
05:46:33
Brian Atlaswhat about you yeah I say no it's too big an age gu no hm interesting okay and then really quick just what's the going back around the table uh what's like the oldest that you would date so just say
05:46:44
Kwanyour age again and then say the oldest that you would date K starting with you I'm 30 the oldest I would date is probably like 45 okay I'm 18 probably 20
05:46:54
Courtney / Rihanna21 I'm 18 i' would say like 21 22 I'm 18 and 20 I'm 27 and I'd probably date up to
05:47:03
Brian Atlaslike 35 I'm 26 I'd probably go up to like maybe 36 37 okay so I'm 35 right so you would all object to me dating a
05:47:12
Lucy (Luchia)19-year-old yes yes why um I mean why would you want 19 yes legally an adult why would I want to cuz I would wait no you you said oh go ahead I feel like your Lifestyles would be so
05:47:24
Graciedifferent how would it be different a 19-year-old like I'm thinking of my life right now like going into college MH I would not first of all want to be dating
05:47:35
Gracieanybody but second of all like be in the position to be in a relationship with somebody who is already like secure in their lifestyle knows what they want is working on their career like that type of thing I would
05:47:47
Brian Atlasneed time and space for myself to do that I mean when I brought up some of those men who are really attractive High status even though they're far older than I am you seem to consider it I was curious the only person I said I would
05:48:00
Brian Atlasconsider is somebody who's 25 I mean you were pausing there for Ryan Reynolds and IED but no my so you're saying Chris
05:48:11
Brian AtlasHemsworth steps to you super rich handsome status aess celebrity you're turning into I think I would genuinely question like why me I I just think it
05:48:22
Graciewould be weird cuz you're attracted I think it would be weird why would it be weird because there are so many other women in his same stage of life and in
05:48:33
Graciehis Circle I'd imagine M that are single would be interested okay like why would you have to step down to somebody my age you
05:48:43
Kwanknow so the only reason I that I'm against it is like I I don't mind a big age Gap I don't care but as I I would say that when you're like 20 and older it's fine cuz my dad was 32 when he met
05:48:55
Kwanmy mom and she was 21 that's a 12E age Grant are they together oh yeah they're still married yes so I mean you have an example in your own life so why would you object to it oh I I said like 20 and older like 18 19 you're literally fresh out of high school you're probably about
05:49:08
Kwanto go to college your parents expect you to probably finish school or to start college they don't expect you to meet a 35-year-old dude and get married and realistically a lot of fathers would not accept something like that sure that's
05:49:19
Brian Atlasfine I'm not saying women are obliged or forced to date or men in fact most women don't want to but I don't see anything wrong if the woman wanted to and the man wanted to I can't actually think of
05:49:30
Andrew Wilsonanything wrong with it if she want so I've never in other words I've never this is what I would say I've never actually heard a compelling moral argument for I would be wrong if the age
05:49:41
Andrew Wilsonof adulthood is considered 18 for somebody with a significant age Gap relationship to date or marry an 18-year-old I I've never heard a compelling moral argument against dead
05:49:54
Kwanso what is a 35-year-old like when you look at when you're a 35-year old man you see an 18-year-old girl that can't even she can't drink she can't legally do a lot of things at her age she's just
05:50:05
Kwanan adult she can vote sure she could go into the army whatever she wants to she could do all those things so she's an adult but at but at 18 she can make decisions like that for her career and stuff but as far as like but she can't
05:50:16
Andrew Wilsonshe can't determine who she wants to be with she can just run the country she so she can vote to run the country she can join the military she can sign a contract she can buy a house she can do everything in the world except decide who she wants to date can't I say she
05:50:30
Kwandidn't have to I just say I just personally I don't agree with that type of a age Gap cuz she's literally fresh out of high school I think what looking at but let's say High School lasted until you were 20 then would the fresh out of the high school thing cuz that's
05:50:42
Andrew Wilsongood rhetoric right to say fresh out of high school but if it lasted until you a 20 would you still say fresh out of high school no you're 20 yeah right so so the high school thing is not relevant here
05:50:53
Andrew Wilsonit's not it's not high school right the idea here is that you think that there's some kind of ick factor from you as to why this is Icky I get that totally understand I think age gaps are [ __ ]
05:51:05
Andrew Wilsonicky too but I can't make a moral argument against them can I try yeah I'd like to hear one okay so when I if I'm thinking
05:51:15
Courtney / Rihannaof me at age 18 versus me even now at 27 difference mentally what I'm able to understand how I'm able to articulate myself the type of decisions I'm making
05:51:26
Courtney / Rihannaare completely different let me tell you why this is a bad argument okay because that'll be the same case when you're 37 so why should we let you date right now at 27 so at 27 I shouldn't date a
05:51:37
Courtney / Rihanna40-year-old because but because so what I'm saying though which I think it does have a good argument is don't you think an 18-year-old like their prefrontal cortex is not fully developed yet like why why are they why should they be more
05:51:51
Courtney / Rihannalike morally don't you think that would be wrong of the 35-year-old to be like I see it as almost like that's like a little bit of a prey type thing is your is your objection that the prefrontal cortex is not fully developed yes like I
05:52:04
Courtney / RihannaI wouldn't consider myself actually being an adult till I was 25 that's the year I'd say wow I actually think I was an adult by this logic women should not be able to vote till they
05:52:15
Courtney / Rihanna25 I don't well I I wouldn't say that I can say the same thing for men but I would think that we wouldd be able to V at the same time the objection is not that men should not be able to at 18
05:52:27
Andrew Wilsondate 40y I just don't want it to be that an 18-year-old boy can vote 25y old women couldn't vote that's all why because you're not saying that men shouldn't date 4ye old women at 18
05:52:37
Courtney / Rihannabecause they're preal they also shouldn't I don't I can't get in the brain of do their prefrontal cortexes develop at the same rate
05:52:49
Andrew Wilsonum men's are slower slower men's are slower so you so you want so so wait so so men can't make the decision to date until what 28 in an age Gap
05:53:02
Courtney / Rihannarelationship well who's saying that she said that well I'm not saying that it's like they absolutely shouldn't it's illegal but I'm saying when you were saying I don't know if there's like a moral standpoint I doesn't sound like I've heard a moral standpoint you say so
05:53:15
Andrew Wilsonif you say if you're going to make this claim I'm not an adult I'm 25 because my Abdullah abang is not completely um developed yet right it's like okay that's fair why the [ __ ] would
05:53:28
Courtney / RihannaI let you do any adult [ __ ] then why would I let you vote why would I let you buy a house why would I let you why would I let you join politics Honestly though that could be true then okay so then if if it doesn't develop till 25
05:53:39
Andrew Wilsonthen then okay ra if you want to raise the age of consent to 25 because that's when you're an adult I'm all for it all I need you to hear all I need to hear
05:53:49
Andrew Wilsonfrom you is women are incapable of of giving consent until they're 25 that's all I need to hear and then I'm with you I can't speak for all women
05:54:03
Courtney / Rihannawell then I guess you can't say it's some no I can't I can only I can only speak for me if I put myself and and I know that I'm not so you couldn't consent till you were 25 no I know that if I was 18 that absolutely would have
05:54:13
Courtney / Rihannanot been a healthy or morally correct situation for me to be with a man who's 35 years old all right so so yeah the so the idea
05:54:23
Courtney / Rihannahere is that's funny um I have a master's degree so in creative writing and I have six books so I thought you had something in Psychology I do have a bachelor in
05:54:35
Andrew WilsonPsychology a masters in creative writing oh nice okay so anyway the idea here is that's fine I'm willing to seed the ground that we should wait to call
05:54:46
Andrew Wilsonpeople adults till they're 25 but that means the entailment of that is we have to treat them like they're not adults until they're 25 which means no voting no age of
05:54:59
Andrew Wilsonconsent they can't be they can't have sex with somebody who's 26 then uh until they're 25 if they're 24 they can't have sex with a 26-year-old would be like a 16-year-old screwing an 18-year-old right be the same exact thing so you
05:55:12
Andrew Wilsonwould have to raise the age of consent you'd have to raise the voting age you have to raise all of that if you're fine saying that that's what you want right then I can agree to it right then I would say I'd have to know
05:55:24
Andrew Wilsonon the back end more research of why it's actually 18 right now mhm you know what I'm saying so I don't know I physically it's completely undamaged for females at age 18 to 21 to have children
05:55:35
Andrew Wilsonthat's why you could make the argument 17 16 15 on average you're going to incur more damage 18 usually not it's a healthy age for child rearing just like 19 is 20 21
05:55:47
Andrew Wilsonthe reason they want to start early is so that you can have as many children as possible this is the idea behind it so your fertile years are in front of you so it makes sense actually okay so you
05:55:58
Andrew Wilsondon't think it's ever just a sex thing 35 looking at I'm I'm I'm absolutely certain that most men at 3 five who wanted to get married to an 18-year-old
05:56:09
Andrew Wilsonwould be doing it specifically the primary reason would be because they wanted to have lots and lots of sex with them and make babies yes absolutely I would concede that 100% just not sure
05:56:21
Andrew Wilsonwhat the problem with that is that's the thing that gets me is like how do I how do you construct a moral argument that that's incorrect for them to do if they're adults so if they're 35 they're
05:56:32
Andrew Wilson18 they're adults what's actually incorrect if that that is their most fertile years between 18 20 let's say 26 it see it's almost compelling the other way right yeah but any person's going to
05:56:44
Kwanquestion it like how long were you guys dating how long were you like looking at my daughter for you to even say you know what I want to talk to this girl she's 18 but they would ask the same questions
05:56:55
Andrew Wilsonat 29 y okay but just granting yeah they would like your dad would be like how long have you known this guy before you married him regardless of your age right 18 dating how long were you talking to
05:57:07
Brian Atlasher for you to be like this is let's just Grant met they first made contact she was 18 mhm yeah first made contact 18 so are you literally just scouting out just
05:57:19
Andrew Wilson18yar olds or you just met her randomly one day I'm going to assume that they're just scouting out 18-year-olds they just adore them but you just don't think it's like a little weird you don't think that's like a fetish I I like them
05:57:29
Andrew Wilsonteenagers regardless of if I think it's weird or I think it ick or I think it's gross or any number of different things right the Orthodox My Religion Don't
05:57:40
Andrew Wilsoneven endorse age gaps that wide okay so I can actually make a moral argument but but ultimately I cannot think of why if it
05:57:50
Andrew Wilsongives you the ick that makes it immoral a counter example if I were to say lgbtq gives me the ick right would you accept that as being a valid argument for why they shouldn't be
05:58:02
Andrew Wilsonlgbtq like what would be the reason yeah would you would you accept that [ __ ] no you ain't going to accept that right hang on hang on hang on so if you wouldn't accept that then why would why the [ __ ] would a guy ever accept that gives you the ick as being something
05:58:16
Courtney / Rihannavalid for anything you know what I mean yes but I don't think that my point about an 18-year-old potentially being too too young is about an ick at all I think that someone who's 36 has doubled the
05:58:29
Andrew Wilsonamount of life experience as an 18-year-old why should they why should they because a 20 because a 26-year-old than a 26-year-old one of them can still have double the life experience of the other and you know this that's true so
05:58:41
Andrew Wilsonthe thing is is like so an 18-year-old could have can I ask hang on so would you make the objection the same objection if there's two 26y olds one of them had double life experience of the other one would you make the same
05:58:52
Andrew Wilsonobjection uh no you have a point there so if I wouldn't if or I'm sorry if you wouldn't make that same objection then it gives you the ick okay there's got to be an ick Factor
05:59:04
Brian Atlasright um I'll have to think on it okay that's fair I I was going to ask sort of almost a similar question as you Andrew on on that so you could have for example if
05:59:14
Brian Atlasyou had a 40-year-old man who was a rockstar traveled the world had all these experiences sexual experiences whatever and then he wants to date a
05:59:23
Brian Atlas40-year-old woman who worked who lived in a small town dull life never went outside of her Town that's still double the life
05:59:34
Andrew Wilsonexperience that's the point that's the life experience is so asymmetrical but I or you can also have it the opposite direction where you could say the 19-year-old girl right
05:59:46
Andrew Wilsonpartied hard in high school and traveled the world with her family and all sorts of [ __ ] gets married to a 35-year-old fuddy dudy churchgoer who really hasn't had much experience outside of just gets
05:59:57
Andrew Wilsonup and goes to work every day so you could even make the case the opposite direction that it's possible for the younger person to have more life experience in the older person though I would Grant probably not the case right
06:00:08
Andrew Wilsonuh most certainly is in the case of most people that I've met who get married around the same age that one is far more mature than the other right that is definitely the case so it doesn't actually give me the ick my thought then
06:00:20
Courtney / Rihannais if the 18-year-old was mature enough and had the capability to meet at the intellectual level of the 35-year-old then yes I think that that could work then then it can't be immoral for a 35-year-old to marry an 18-year-old I
06:00:33
Andrew Wilsondon't understand the meat at the intellectual just means that they're they're equally yolked somehow yes because 18-year oldold girls speak Jesus yeah I mean we have three at the
06:00:46
Courtney / Rihannatable but by the way they were very articulate absolutely that's another part of you know I'm thinking they like I was just thinking when I'm think of me 18 holy hell no way is that going with
06:00:57
Andrew Wilsonthe but I can't speak for everyone so this is the same thing um when you think about the idea because because we argue this right right but the truth is is like basically Nobody Does this it this
06:01:09
Andrew Wilsonis the The Fringe of society ultimately most everybody dates within about 3 years and marries within about 3 years right but if you are going to kind of talk about The Fringe cases because
06:01:21
Andrew Wilsonthey're interesting and that's why we're talking about them right then ultimately I think we better have something more than it's just kind of gross you know I think we do is it really all that Fringe
06:01:33
Brian Atlasthough I mean plenty of women have anecdotes about you know maybe not all the men they've dated have are significant age gaps but a lot of women have age Gap have had age Gap relationships especially when they were
06:01:46
Andrew Wilsonyounger but the overwhelming majority of them don't that's what I mean by kind of The Fringe the overwhelming majority of them they really are dating within sure and and this actually the reason this
06:01:57
Andrew Wilsonmakes a lot of sense is because you're a product of the people that you're around the most and usually it's going to be this friend group you're with with in a high school and you meet people through them they're going to be around the same age if you're at work it's probably going to be
06:02:10
Andrew Wilsonaround the same age if you're working at Starbucks you're probably not going to be 50 you're probably going to be 20 right so people people tend to kind of meet each other around those same ages so it kind of makes sense why that
06:02:21
Andrew Wilsonoccurs but I'll tell you something really interesting in the UK they did a study where they took and this is the office of national statistics they took every marriage which had ever occurred
06:02:33
Andrew Wilsonin the UK which was recorded to look for a deviation in divorce rates the Assumption here being because uh some stupid ass study in the US came out saying that uh age Gap relationships
06:02:45
Andrew Wilsonfail at this massive rate it was all total [ __ ] they went through and looked for the deviation to see if they couldn't find whether or not there was a significant difference in the divorces
06:02:56
Andrew Wilsonbetween age Gap non-ag Gap relationships there was no significant difference at all none which means they worked out just as much as the ones that didn't which kind Mak sense because wasn't that
06:03:08
Andrew Wilsonlong ago that age gaps even when my dad was a kid very common my mom like same thing my mom and dad just like yours massive age capap MH worked out
06:03:19
Brian Atlasfine worked out fine anyway it sounded like everybody was uh oh you got to take off okay uh thank you for coming Andrew appreciate it um we're going to maybe move the chairs around a little bit
06:03:31
Brian Atlaswe'll we'll try to wrap nice to meet you guys night me too have a good night thank you for coming Andrew appreciate it appreciate it uh us two are going to have to leave pretty soon too we have a
06:03:40
Brian Atlascommute yeah okay um and then I think we're going to move chairs around a little bit so I think
06:03:51
Brian Atlaswhat we're going to do Maddie I'm going to put you back over here okay and I'm just going to have you four shift down actually wait let's just
06:04:03
Brian Atlasdo this you two stay there you take that seat and then you take that seat so just shift over one I'm just kind of fixing the angles here a little
06:04:11
Brian Atlasbit sorry guys one sec as we readjust things here appreciate it appreciate it guys all right uh mods you can honestly
06:04:22
Brian Atlasany mods you can just perab ban people who are saying they're going to leave too you just perab ban the mods um go ahead
06:04:32
Brian Atlasmods um so so okay let's see here I need to do some super chats here Maddie can you read
06:04:43
Madison (Maddie)these spent $1,000 on a wedding ring two years later she want a divorce and I find out that gifts like a wedding vanand can't be split in a divorce never
06:04:53
Brian Atlasagain Jesus 11,000 is a lot all right that's a lot on the ring thank you old man marine appreciate it we have another one coming in from him here
06:05:06
Madison (Maddie)what would you say to that relationship of the 18-year-old and a 35-year-old if they stayed married for 50 plus years would you still have a problem with it I just don't agree with that type of a age
06:05:18
KwanGap when you're a teenager if it's 21 and older I don't care I mean if they last for that long then good for them what do you think like the big jump is
06:05:26
Madison (Maddie)between like 1819 to 20 it's just maturity level that's just what I think it is for me personally is maturity level like you think after 19
06:05:36
Madison (Maddie)everyone just like gets mature and then at 20 you're like I don't do you know what I'm saying yeah I know what you're saying but it's just it's probably also just how I grew up and then the the way
06:05:49
Kwanthat a lot of us are raised is to like they want us to go to college and do all these things and then the last thing that they want to see is a 35 40-year-old man hitting on their 18-year-old H
06:06:00
Brian Atlasangle adjust it um adjust
06:06:08
Brian Atlasuh yeah so can you scoot this way like scoot your chair you scoot through your chair this way you yeah scoot your chair move your
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Kwanchair did that change anything yeah I made it better okay all right go ahead I was just saying it's just basically just I would just say just how I grw up and how we're all raised majority of us is
06:06:34
Kwanlike to go to school like we have like a whole like plan for our lives that our parents set for us and then seeing like a 35-year-old dude hidden on your 18-year-old you're going to be like that's a little weird that's just how we grow up it's just like a teenager is
06:06:48
Brian Atlasjust it's just weird but if if they last in then that's good it's good for them I guess okay and then we have one more
06:06:57
Madison (Maddie)chat here hold on let me pull this up yeah go ahead women moving on to different men if they don't conceive is normal for our species birth control has destroyed the natural order if she's not
06:07:10
Brian Atlasgetting pregnant finding a new man is good for species I do want to I mean I'm going to keep it on age Gap a little bit there because I had to get up for a moment um so I mean you do only fans
06:07:21
Brian Atlascorrect me I do loyal fans but not in that context but I'm assuming you don't have any issue with sex work right no I don't okay so uh should 18-year-old
06:07:32
Lucy (Luchia)women be allowed to do sex work I mean I I don't think I would co-sign it but again I mean I guess you're a
06:07:43
Lucy (Luchia)legal adult I mean I do see a problem with it just because I mean you're 18 19 like you're still a teenager regardless of whether you're a legal adult or not I
06:07:53
Brian AtlasI don't like if there was a word that described an age range from like 10 to 30 right I don't see how that's really helpful because like you'll when this
06:08:06
Brian Atlasage Gap conversation comes up you'll use loaded language like but they're a teenager yes a 19-year-old is technically a teenager but so too as a
06:08:16
Brian Atlas13-year-old now can we agree that dating like if someone wanted to date a 13-year-old that's way more OB like that's first off it's criminal yeah
06:08:28
Brian AtlasI think that's reprehensible that's a that's so different than dating a 19-year-old like if you're 22 and you're dating a 19-year-old she's she's a
06:08:38
Brian Atlasteenager right yeah I mean but but using the word teenager is very like it's it's the it's a very intentional spin I me I what you're saying no you're attempting
06:08:49
Brian Atlasto pathologize it by using loaded language no I mean I was just stating a fact like you are technically yes factually you are a teenager but you're going to frame it as in a way why would
06:09:01
Brian Atlasyou want to date a teenager when a teenager can also encompass a 13-year-old and that's like pord territory right yeah but you're not a
06:09:11
Brian Atlaspord if you want to date a 19-year-old I still think it's weird like I just don't I don't but I'm just pointing out the way in which you use load language do you know marketing spin
06:09:23
Brian Atlasdo you know the term spin yeah so when you spin it's like okay there's the truth and then you're going to try to like shift kind of the perception of something by using certain language okay
06:09:35
Lucy (Luchia)well that wasn't really my intention to to you I was just stating a simple fact I still think it's weird I don't agree with it right but I mean so teenager is
06:09:45
Brian Atlassimply represent like so te 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 right it's a term that applies to a very wide age range right so if
06:09:55
Brian Atlasthere's an equivalent term that uh equated to like the age from 10 to 30 I'm sure you would agree that this really means nothing oh you want to date
06:10:05
Brian Atlasum quibbles you want to date a quibble and that's from like 10 that a quibble is from 10 to 30 oh so you want to date a you're 33 and you want to date a 30-year-old I
06:10:18
Brian Atlasdon't think anybody here has any objections to that but if somebody wanted like a 30-year-old wanted to date like a 10-year-old quible I just made the [ __ ] up I don't know what the [ __ ] I don't know a it would not be useful it
06:10:30
Brian Atlaswould not really be useful for the sake of conversation so just pointing out while they're a teenager okay that's not really an argument you're still young you're still impressionable and I don't think you
06:10:42
Lucy (Luchia)have enough life experience at that point to be able to make those informed decisions and that's did the Voting thing yeah he talked about okay so then I mean I I wasn't here but so then women
06:10:54
Lucy (Luchia)should just not be able to vote at 18 then right I mean I would say you can't say like women I would say just all people I feel like 18's pretty young cuz I don't think that a lot of 18-year-olds
06:11:06
Lucy (Luchia)really have a concept A good concept of politics or the economy really or the economy um so KN knowing this like knowing that younger people tend to lean more
06:11:16
Brian Atlasliberal uh especially women I mean they tend to lean more liberal in general but uh knowing this like let's say when should the voting what should the voting
06:11:25
Lucy (Luchia)age be 25 no younger yeah I would say like maybe 21 but again I don't really have any authority to even come up with that I mean you can date any age then 21
06:11:37
Lucy (Luchia)you can date a 50-year-old would say yeah 21 is at the age where you've I think dealt with enough things in life that you can you know hold your own as
06:11:48
Kwanan adult you probably have a plan by then by 21 like a like to get your life started maybe if you want to you're like you know what I just finished College I want to start dating I want to have a family I don't see a problem with that I just I would just say 18 you don't know what you want to do with your life yet
06:12:00
Kwanmajority 18-year-olds unless you're like very religious which is fine or if you're like from the country or the South or something but when you're 18 you don't really know what you really want to
06:12:10
Kwando I mean we just don't we have no idea we change our minds 24 like all the time okay what does that have to do with who you can or cannot
06:12:19
Brian Atlasdate so okay just should 18-year-olds not be able to sign contracts too no contracts can't um well they need don't they need a parent if they want an apartment if that is that is that where
06:12:31
Brian Atlasyou're going well that's I mean as an 18-year-old you can legally enter into a contract whether people will enter into a contract with an 18-year-old without a co-signer for example that's another
06:12:42
Brian Atlasconversation MH but at what point do we start you know removing agency from what Society has deemed as a
06:12:53
Brian Atlasadult so you can't legally enter into a contract until you're 21 you can't um get student loans you can't do all these things like what what at what point well
06:13:03
Lucy (Luchia)I'm pretty sure you to get student loans if I'm not or maybe it's something else but I think you have to be 24 to be consider considered like an independent from your parent when it comes to
06:13:15
Lucy (Luchia)getting like certain grants and stuff like that so I think a pel grant um I don't know about pel grants but I'm pretty sure an 18-year-old can get student loans well yeah they can get student loans but there are certain grants that you just can't get as an
06:13:26
Brian Atlas18-year-old you have to have your parent like co sign on that I'm just saying I mean you can't rent a car under what 25 yeah but there's no I don't think that's a law these are just companies that I
06:13:39
Brian Atlasdon't know the specifics when it comes to car rentals there's no law that precludes a company from renting to people who are under 25 these company rental companies perhaps have made a determination and I think you might be
06:13:50
Brian Atlasable to actually I don't know precisely but they've just made a determination that it's a liability to them to rent to under 25 majority of them you can you just have to pay like larger fees like
06:14:00
Brian Atlasyou have to do three $300 cover for it cuz like you're more liable yeah yeah so yeah I don't know I just haven't
06:14:09
Brian Atlasreally heard a compelling reason on this I mean that's fine I mean what do you want me to say majority so like what's the so I've heard like what are the actual arguments I mean
06:14:22
Kwanlike I it's just something that I personally just don't agree with and let's be real majority of parents would not agree with that if they saw their daughter that's 18 trying to marry someone that's 30 35 they won't initially they probably wouldn't agree
06:14:33
Kwanwith it maybe over time they get to know the man they get to know his intent what like what he plans to like if their values mesh then sure but initially no a lot of people just don't let me ask you a question so you have a 20-year-old
06:14:46
Brian Atlasdaughter 19 we'll say 19-year-old daughter keep her a teenager I guess whatever um would you prefer to see her
06:14:55
Brian Atlasgo to college and just have a string of men her age [ __ ] her once and never talk to her again or see her in a loving
06:15:06
Brian Atlascommitted monogamous relationship with a 30-year-old who treats her well which would you prefer I well obviously the second one you're you're saying that she's going to get used while she's in college isn't
06:15:18
Brian Atlasthat what happens to most women in college am I wrong no that's am I wrong most college boys who are in their age range right A lot of them don't want a
06:15:30
Brian Atlasrelationship some do some plenty of women will find relationships in college but I think a lot of women's experience
06:15:39
Brian Atlasis a lot they just go they get from they jump from NE guy to guy to guy mhm they have a string of one night stands the guys are [ __ ] boys they don't want to commit it was also the way you raise
06:15:52
Kwanyour child like what are the values that you instilled in that in your daughter cuz not all not all college girls are like that I honestly was not like that I wasn't just hopping from wiener to wiener I just wasn't doing
06:16:02
Brian Atlasthat it's just like a lot of played by a guy oh of course you never got played you never got played by a guy who was like oh I want I want everything blah blah blah he [ __ ] you and then it's over you've never had that it was in two
06:16:14
Kwanrelationships yeah it was just horrible have any of the girls here had that have you had that of course what's what's the question have you had been played by a guy huh just been played by a guy in general right you got played by a guy he
06:16:25
Brian Atlaswas your age you've been played by a guy and a lot of times we do date in our age range but it's like this idea that okay if I date guys my like you're just as likely to
06:16:36
Brian Atlasencounter toxic guys abusive guys actually I would argue that comparatively speaking you're probably a little more likely to run into a [ __ ]
06:16:46
Brian Atlasboy at your age than if a guy's a little bit older mhm I think anyways so well I don't I don't disagree with
06:16:57
Brian Atlasthat but I'm just like okay now I'll even Grant though like if the comparison is okay long-term monogamous healthy relationship with a guy who's her age versus a guy who's 30 I don't think
06:17:09
Brian Atlasthere's anything wrong if you were to say I'd prefer it with a guy her age mhm but also if women's a lot of women's experience is okay well I'm getting
06:17:22
Brian Atlasmistreated by the men who are my age I don't actually think there's any objection if they meet a guy who's a bit older and he's like wants a long-term relationship I think that that's a
06:17:33
Brian Atlasprobably better position to be in than to be just getting like a string a string of like [ __ ] boys and one night stands no yeah that's what I'm saying like initially no it doesn't
06:17:46
Kwanmatter who you are you're going to think it's odd but as you get to know the guy and you get to see like you know what maybe this guy is is actually good for my daughter and I trust him with her life and her safety and they want to have you know they want to take things further then that's fine I'm just saying
06:17:59
Natalieinitially nobody's going to really they're just going to think it's weird it's odd I also think it's better in comparison not necessarily better in general like in comparison being played after played but not necessarily a good
06:18:10
Nataliething I mean it can be like well you're just comparing it to them getting like ran through basically I feel like in comparison yeah obviously the better option is the older man well yeah of course but it's like it's not it's not necessarily the
06:18:23
Brian Atlascase that it's either being run through or a 35-year old man sure that's not always like going to be the case and it could be the case that the 35-year-old 40-year-old whatever it is just wants
06:18:33
Brian Atlassex and never wants to talk to you again too that could be the case but presented with that situation I mean a lot of the complaints we've had over a thousand women come on the show a lot of the
06:18:45
Brian Atlascomplaints that we hear from girls who are in college 18 19 20 21 is these guys don't want commitment they don't want to commit blah blah blah all this stuff
06:18:55
Brian Atlas[ __ ] boys blah blah blah here it all the time yeah and so um yeah I don't know in anyways is talking about my specific
06:19:06
Brian Atlassituation so I would never be in a situation where I'm like going and hanging out at college parties or some some [ __ ] like I would date a girl who's older than me too but I actually don't
06:19:17
Brian Atlassee anything wrong with dating a girl who's 20 and I'm 35 I don't what that is I don't think that's well okay how about
06:19:24
Brian Atlasshe's 19 then is that okay she's 19 20 go ahead Brian 19 hold on [ __ ] weirdo I think it depends like what kind of 19
06:19:35
Natalielike 19 like freshman year of college or like like what are we talking here like like how young are they really I that's what I'm saying it's more like where they are in life than like yeah
06:19:47
Nataliethan like the actual age itself cuz you could have an 18-year-old that's still in high school and then you could also have one that's like a Junior in or sophomore in college like if when I was on dating apps I would put the age range
06:19:58
Brian Atlasfrom like 18 to 40 so I'll date older I'll date younger you know to me but it's like I think some of your objections would be like oh what if this
06:20:07
Brian Atlasdude like his age range he's 30 something and it's like 18 to 20 only he only is like going in for that whereas I guess it's kind of like casting a wider
06:20:18
Brian Atlasnet you know yeah so I don't know what about okay how about this scenario I'm not even on Dat if I'm not
06:20:27
Kwanon dating apps whatever what if a 19-year-old girl slid into my DMs which happens well if she's ready for commitment she's not trying to use you for a come up then what's the problem
06:20:39
Brian Atlasbro no girl can use me for a come up cuz I I don't know no if I'm dating a girl bro she's not she's not getting on the show she's not getting any clout that's it okay so I'm not yeah I'm not really worried about that
06:20:51
Courtney / Rihanna[Music] okay why why are you laughing just your funny she's absolutely not going on like I'm the word bro you can't clout you can't really clout dig me right I was
06:21:05
Courtney / Rihannajust laugh like if you're trying to date me so you can get clout I yeah like that's why I laugh just to separate immediately like you already know then that that girl's not coming at you for the clout because you could let her know up front like you're not you're you
06:21:18
Brian Atlascan't use me for cl cuz you're not coming on the podcast yeah you're not like I'm not going to post you anywhere you're not we're not going to do vlogs or some [ __ ] like if I got a girlfriend I could have I could have had a girlfriend for the past two years nobody
06:21:29
Nataliewould know about it right until the engagement nobody like nobody who watch as the show would know about it like the engagement are are you getting it down on one knee with the $122,000 ring
06:21:41
Brian Atlassaying will you marry 12,000 I'm not getting married that's a whole I ain't getting married hell no no marriage the government huh why I know fine I'll if she's I was going to make a joke never
06:21:52
Brian Atlasmind what if she's Christian what's that have to do with it and we'll bow to you every single day they last longer right I I guess um here
06:22:03
Brian Atlaslet's finish up the not notes here we'll try to wrap up um pretty soon hopefully uh you you had some beef with pearly things yeah I I just didn't agree with u cuz she was saying that uh men are
06:22:16
Brian Atlasbetter parents than can you put that on mic on the ground which mic is that Nick can you mute that mic yeah just put on the ground five uh okay I guess
06:22:27
Kwanso uh go ahead sorry so it was just that she was saying um on another podcast that men are better parents than women and you disagree I disagree I just I I wouldn't even say one is better than the other I think we compliment each other
06:22:39
Kwanbut the reason why I would disagree is because a lot of the times when we're as children when we're sick who do we go to we go to Mom we help with homework we go to Mom Mom my stomach hurs we go to we we just go to our mom for literally everything and a lot of times when we
06:22:52
Kwanask our dad for something go ask your mother like she's literally the our mothers are the main ones that literally come to all of our sporting events anything that has to do with school if we're sick whatever the case may be whatever if we're in trouble she's the first one that we call so you think
06:23:05
Kwanwomen make better parents I wouldn't oh sorry I'm not even saying that even mothers make better parents but as far as the disciplinary goes you think it's the same huh so you think
06:23:17
Brian Atlasit's the same yeah I think we compliment each other I don't think one is better than the other to be quite honest with you well can I ask you a question sure so if we compare single mothers to single fathers who tends to raise oh the
06:23:29
Kwandads I'm talking about a two parent household though oh a two parent household where you literally have the mother and the father father that's where she that that's what she was talking about I'm not talking about single mother or single that's a whole
06:23:38
Brian Atlasdifferent conversation I'm talking about I mean if parents and single parent households wouldn't it also apply to two parent households the single parent household would apply well I mean you
06:23:50
Brian Atlasyou said that uh single fathers tend to do a better job raising children than single mothers no for when it comes to discipline that they're better at disciplining their children mothers are way better at nurturing mhm and then
06:24:02
Kwanthey're literally always there for us 100% of the time time mhm even even when they're busy when they're tired when they're taking a [ __ ] they're always they're just always there right but I mean I mean this is not something I've
06:24:15
Kwanreally given a whole lot of thought aside from the single parent component of no yeah the single parent hous that thing is I would just say like a lot of the times I think both people play a very important role yeah uh so Pearl was
06:24:27
Kwanarguing though that men even in two parent households play a more important role that's what she was saying yeah did she say why she was saying oh according to statistics it says that men are just better at parent being parents and and
06:24:40
Kwanit's just like Pearl you know damn well like all the things I listed like when we're sick and everything we always go to our mom we're hungry we go to Mom like we that's just what we do we just go to our moms 100% of the time so when she was saying that it didn't make any sense to me I even asked my mom about it
06:24:53
Kwanand she's like what she's like your dad was out working majority of the time and I was always at home with you girls and my mom also had a job too so I just didn't understand like where Pearl was coming at with that well I think she she was probably making the argument I think
06:25:05
Brian AtlasI maybe saw part of the clip she's essentially just saying well okay when it comes to single parents who does a better job single father single moms and so she's applying that metric to well
06:25:16
Brian Atlasit's probably somewhat applicable even in a two parent household where the dad's role is potentially uh more impactful I don't know if I agree with it but that's probably what she's she
06:25:30
Kwanwas also saying that dads are more nurturing than the mothers and I don't understand how that even makes M I'm not dad tell us to shake it off when we get hurt they say oh you'll be all right that's just how they are the moms will will literally get on their whole nurse
06:25:43
Brian Atlasoutfit and try to help help fix the problem that's fair okay well she's not here and no yeah I'm just saying that's just it's not my position but yeah I just didn't know where you stood on that or I don't really I don't think I really uh have a position I'm talking about two
06:25:55
Brian Atlasparent household um let's see we have we need to get back to Gracie we have more notes from Gracie um uh let's
06:26:06
Brian Atlassee she's ready I think the normaly of cheating has made it so women in particular have very low standards because nowadays everyone has a story about cheating that a
06:26:17
Brian Atlasman uh carrying in the slightest feels wait what everyone has about cheating that A man carrying in the slightest feels like princess treatment I think I don't even think this is very much of a hot take it's
06:26:30
Graciejust like I think all of us can agree that we have either personally been treated on or know someone very closely who has been and it's been really normalized
06:26:42
Graciethat now that's all really that we have to compare relationships to is like how shitty one guy has treated either you or your friends in the past that you're like oh he like opened the door for me this is amazing you know it just has
06:26:55
Brian Atlaslowered standards in general I think yeah I'm not sure I buy into this so you're saying if a guy opens a door for you that's like whoa okay I'm going
06:27:05
Brian Atlasto [ __ ] him no it's just shocking that's not what I say bro I I Ain ever opened a door for a girl and she's like want some [ __ ] oh my god I've never had a girl
06:27:15
Gracielike I oh that was so nice of you Brian let me throw you a [ __ ] say
06:27:23
Graciecomparatively when somebody treats you decently it feels better because all you have to compare it to is the idea that
06:27:32
Brian Atlasmen treat women shitty or is it the men that you go after that you date that you choose to be in relationships with that you choose to
06:27:42
Graciehook up with they treat you shitty yeah it is that but I think a lot more common who's to blame I'm not saying that it's entirely like men's fault or anything I'm just saying as a topic of
06:27:54
Brian Atlasconversation it is something to consider but so why is there a Trope of and even women will admit this they're attracted to Bad Boys they're attracted to jerks they're attracted to [ __ ] is it any
06:28:06
Brian Atlassurprise that you get cheated on and mistreated by the same type of men that you're intentionally pursuing that's not what I'm really trying to get at but that's the type of men you find
06:28:15
Gracieattractive sorry most women find attractive I'm more trying to get at the idea that given that commonly women do
06:28:25
Graciego for that and especially now I think that that has become more common it also has made women's standards for men lower
06:28:34
Graciebecause when we think about how our last like relationship treated us typically we'll have like horror stories from it
06:28:44
Brian Atlasyou know and then that'll automatically horror stories well to be dramatic horror stories to be dramatic you know but a guy you were on in an on again off again
06:28:55
Graciesituationship not really clear if you guys are even dating he was with another girl like that's your Horror Story I'm being dramatic when I say that obviously but I'm just saying that overall we have
06:29:07
Brian Atlaslowered our standards I personally I actually disagree I think women have have inflated their standards and expectations on men okay you're talking
06:29:17
Kwanabout like normal like normal girls like yeah like normal mine have always been no I literally always dated guys On My Level the amount of money that I was making if I made like 20K a year I just always ended up with guys that were
06:29:29
Kwanliterally making around the same amount I don't I've never went higher like I should have so wait but like okay who who do you think is pickier men or women women women women well we have to be we have to trust that you're even going to
06:29:40
Madison (Maddie)be able to be a good father to our kid like Etc your standards can't like how are they low if you're so picky too I think the
06:29:51
Madison (Maddie)standards are still really high they just accept bad behavior more yeah good way to yeah you know no but all of you just curious who here um has ever friend zoned a guy
06:30:07
Brian Atlascan somebody translate to German please do you know friend zone yeah of course yeah have you had a friend guy in
06:30:15
Brian Atlasthe friend zone like so oh right so you women will have men who if you wanted to like men don't often
06:30:27
Brian Atlashave like multiple women in the pocket that they could like go to at any given time and just be like I want a relationship with her right now and you think women do yes your friend zone all
06:30:40
Brian Atlasthe dudes in your friend zone if you go to them I want commitment I want a relationship they'll give it to you but you don't have girls in the friend zone either guys don't have girls in the friend zone you think guys just like
06:30:51
Brian Atlasaverage dudes have like five chicks in the friend zone that want to [ __ ] them and be in a relationship with them well I'm not saying I have like five guys just on my phone being like Oh yeah we're in the friend zone like you know
06:31:03
Brian Atlaswhat I mean okay all of you take out your phones right now I want you to text one of your male friends and be like what what's the best framing for this hey um what do you think about being
06:31:15
Nataliemore than friend or how do we typically do this I'll do it right I'm not doing that I did that last time and he called me gay oh that's you're like okay that exactly hey I would literally do that I'll do it
06:31:27
Brian Atlasright now do you want me to I can call him even if you want call but you can you can tag phone uh it was uh have you ever thought of being one oh yeah that's better wait hold on wait but there's a few clarifications here does he know
06:31:40
Brian Atlasyou're on the podcast yes I mean I post it on my story okay secondly is he single yes and is he straight yes cuz girls will do this to
06:31:51
Brian Atlaslike dudes who have a girlfriend you got to do it to like single male friend he's single and single very single no hate no hate all look sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't
06:32:04
Brian Atlasbut what we I actually just for the sake of time we can't really do it but we've had women who who've done this on the show they text a guy and the guy's like I'm down a that's so cute but you're
06:32:17
Nataliesaying that you're saying that like you think that if like and do you have girl friends like girl space friends like you both aren't friends yeah you guys aren't friends we're co-workers I also have a
06:32:28
Natalieboyfriend bus do you have girl girl space friends no I don't honestly yeah but her boyfriend trusts her around you like her
06:32:40
Kwanboyfriend trusts her around you have a penis I know I'm yeah but he still got a penis what the [ __ ] okay do you have guy friends
06:32:52
Madison (Maddie)uh sure yeah but and do you think they're all attracted to you um probably yeah actually yeah I your boyfriend's allowed that allows that well my boyfriend know is friends
06:33:04
Brian Atlaswith them also but oh my boyfriend is like this has the same stance he thinks that any guy in the friend zone would be with any girl if they could but I'm pretty confident like even the guys who
06:33:17
Brian Atlasknow she has a boyfriend they might even know the boyfriend they might know her boyfriend if Maddie was
06:33:25
Madison (Maddie)like down they'd probably take it sorry Maddie they probably would he be like one but like not maybe not all of them
06:33:36
Brian Atlasbut like there's probably like a dude who would and then if you broke up with Frankie does that number change probably they're like trying to
06:33:46
Brian Atlashit probably you're trying to hit they'd probably go for no I wouldn't but yeah probably they would anyways I don't know how we got to the friends thing how did we get to the friends thing we were
06:33:57
Brian Atlastalking about what your thing oh the cheating and the standards the standards um there's this thing called H
06:34:07
Brian Atlasflation so I actually think the reverse is going on um so like the
06:34:16
Brian Atlasquality H do I get into the H flation thing I forgot even how to how it goes it's like something like so how does it go how does the whole
06:34:28
Brian Atlasflation go guys I've totally forgot it I haven't argued this in like over a year what is it Nick are you googling H flation ylation okay let's look at H
06:34:38
Brian Atlasflation um the increase in price men have to pay for lower value women so men have to pay for well not literally like with money
06:34:49
Brian Atlasbut so basically women are bringing less to the table they're more promiscuous and their expectations of men are way
06:35:01
Nataliehigher it's true bro I would agree to to some of that yeah I feel like G point though is not though that the expectations are higher but it's that we accept shittier treatment right oh
06:35:13
Brian Atlasyou're attracted to the guys who treat you shittily shittily I'm not saying me I'm just saying in G sure in general I don't know yeah most lot of guys a lot
06:35:23
Brian Atlasof guys who oh he you've never heard a girl say he's too nice I mean yeah he got he's goodl looking good personality treats me well but there just wasn't the click there
06:35:36
Brian Atlaswasn't the there wasn't chemistry you guys are looking for a guy who triggers your like anxious like something like you want a guy to kind of be like a
06:35:48
Brian Atlaslittle I don't know treat you a little poorly it's [ __ ] up bro one we had a guy on the show who said something I don't I don't cosign this but he says if
06:35:57
Brian Atlasyou treat them like dirt they stick to you like mud oh God I don't cosign that but that's what he said oh god well
06:36:09
Brian Atlasdon't cosign disavow disavow but uh what you guys never heard about this the nice h no the whole the nice guy
06:36:19
Brian Atlasthing huh like the nice guy thing um look I just think this whole like I don't know the whole like click thing it
06:36:30
Brian Atlasbasically boils down to he doesn't trigger your anxious trauma response which you confuse for love right boom roasted that was really good boom roasted that was some good [ __ ]
06:36:43
Brian Atlasgood [ __ ] yeah um I don't know did you have more thoughts on that you think the standards like are way too low for the dudes not really I think that was a good discussion on it I don't have anything to add come on you can you can give a little push back go
06:36:55
Brian Atlasahead I mean honestly I'm here to hear other people's point of view so I really don't have anything yeah all right that's valid I guess I just I don't know like what are the standards though like the standards are