03:45:23Brian Atlaswe'll overiew we'll get into that a little bit later so let's see here why don't we go to Courtney Courtney you're a standup comedian you wanted to talk about or I don't know if you wanted to talk about dating as a buy woman uh in
03:45:35Brian Atlasany case you said it's rough out here you get you got really Advocate advocate for yourself and stay safe guys lie about [ __ ] and they for sure don't get tested regularly I don't think it's just
03:45:47Courtney / Rihannaguys I just think uh like if you're going to sleep with someone you can't trust on faith that they're being honest about whether they're clean or not sure
03:45:56Brian Atlasthat's kind of that's Val that's fair you said that you uh oh wait my notes did not update that's unfortunate I'm going to have to pull it
03:46:06Brian Atlasup via Instagram did anybody um send me pre-show notes like this morning oh no I Courtney I know you sent me something nobody else I know if it was today I think it was yesterday I did
03:46:18Courtney / Rihannayesterday where do you do stand up uh anywhere I can um locally there's a lot of spots in Santa Barbara I've traveled as far as like Templeton at
03:46:29Courtney / RihannaTuscadero um done some festivals um Long Beach La you think female comedians are as funny as male comedians I think it depends on the
03:46:38Courtney / Rihannacomedian not just on average I don't think there are as many female comedians so I don't think why we would use the average yeah I I'd say so yeah from what I've
03:46:52Natalieseen okay I feel like a lot of like women comedians it's more laughing at like they kind of subject being laughing at and like male comedians it's actual so here's so here's my My ultimate
03:47:03Andrew Wilsonquestion to prove prove if this is true or not just from from my perspective in any part of your bit that or your act
03:47:11Andrew Wilsonright do you bring up your vagina um I there's some bits sure every single time every time well every time I tune in to a female comic they're always
03:47:23Courtney / Rihannatalking about their I have no idea why it's not my go-to like I I mean I have like files and files of jokes in my head sure some of them are going to include my vagina like just as I've seen dudes
03:47:36Andrew Wilsontalk about their dick I don't really feel like it's yeah some some male Comics do I've noticed though that most of them don't most of them talk about about everything you're not in the world
03:47:47Courtney / Rihannathough like you see what you see on TV I see like everything that nobody sees on TV and like I can like there's a lot of dudes to talk about their dicks but
03:47:58NatalieKevin Hart always jokes he's Shack sck like his size I feel like it's pretty even Kevin Hart's not a very funny comedian didn't say he was I was just
03:48:11Brian Atlassaying well anyways to get into your notes here so you uh sorry just lost it stories are probably
03:48:20Brian Atlaswild I don't know why my my drop box got scuffed sorry guys okay you said that uh you uh don't not to look past red flags
03:48:30Courtney / Rihannaunder the guys of being Progressive oh what does that mean uh that's taken out of a full ass story but
03:48:38Courtney / Rihannauh so I dated a guy very briefly who exhibited a lot of red flags very early on but I was like that's fine I'm
03:48:50Courtney / RihannaProgressive so like for example he told me he had four kids it's like he yeah he's in his 30s I understand that anyone I date in my 30s probably going to have some kids so I was like I like kids I
03:49:01Courtney / Rihannacould be a stepmom we can move past it then he tells me he has four baby mamas yeah it's a lot of justification
03:49:09Courtney / Rihannathat happened so was he black he was yeah yeah um stereotype is that I mean
03:49:17Courtney / Rihannayeah so that's that's all I'm saying is uh like I well and I have like I I was working on a bit about this of like it's 2024 like you know you can have four kids they can be with four different
03:49:30Courtney / Rihannababy M like and then it just keeps getting worse and worse and worse so yeah okay and you said uh let's see here hold
03:49:40Brian Atlason Tinder isn't what it used to be during the co days and have a great joke you do about dating how how guys are tired oh yeah so what's the thing with
03:49:52Courtney / RihannaCo what's the thing with uh Co I was very successful on dating apps perhaps maybe more successful than I've ever been although I haven't really been on dating apps historically like for a long
03:50:04Courtney / Rihannaperiods of time or I think people were looking I guess success is what we you know Define it as but in terms of like getting hookups and meeting people I
03:50:13Courtney / Rihannawanted to meet and yeah I had a lot going on that's all uh I probably would not do as well today which isir and what about guys are tired yeah this is just a
03:50:25Courtney / Rihannajoke uh well don't tell us it's a joke I mean it it is I don't okay all right go ahead uh basically like if a guy comes first
03:50:37Courtney / Rihannalike that's okay you know like he just needs to like replace it with something you know what I mean like a vibrator a d though like his big toe like I don't care you know just like wash your big
03:50:48Courtney / Rihannatoe cuz I'm really sick of getting athletes [ __ ] there's not like a T AC in for that you know joke about your vagina here you go I pulled it out just
03:50:59Courtney / Rihannafor you I pulled out just for you okay good times good times it's fun to bomb here because like it doesn't bomb in a crowd full of people but I also don't
03:51:11Brian Atlasstart it by saying this is J well it's a different setting you know so uh let's see something about uh the meth guy
03:51:20Brian Atlas7-Eleven that's the four kids for baby yeah yeah okay what about the murder date can you give us the really short version of the murder date yeah yeah so
03:51:30Courtney / RihannaI went on a date with a guy um we went to get sushi the sushi place was closed so we took it to go um
03:51:40Courtney / Rihannato a second location um he said he like did Real Estate um which I found out later was not actually true so I don't know how he knew this property or could get into
03:51:53Courtney / Rihannait either way we drive up like a windy ass Road for like a long time which at that point I was starting to get uncomfortable and he's also just driving kind of like maniacally we get to this house it's like an unfinished house on a
03:52:05Courtney / Rihannahill I think the intention was like to have a like kind of romantic Sunset date but I just kept getting like terrible feelings like um like we get there there's like this
03:52:19Courtney / Rihannaprobably doesn't mean it doesn't mean anything there's like a jug of water in the back of his his car and like I don't know if there's like a shovel on the property or what but there was like some some stuff and so we we walk into the
03:52:30Courtney / Rihannahouse and it's like unfinished it's like kind of like a spooky room and I look back and the door is like about to close and I had like a panic attack I was like this door closes like this is the last
03:52:43Courtney / Rihannatime I'm ever going to see a door basically and I just I freaked out and uh like told him I didn't you know to take me back I didn't want to continue this date I was really freaked out um
03:52:55Courtney / Rihannayou know and and he was like I'm a good person he just kept talking about how he was a good person which I don't think ever helps in those situations you know he's like you can ask anyone I'm a good person I've worked with homeless people before and I was like can you just give
03:53:07Courtney / Rihanname some space like it just like it looked like the scene out of a horror movie and I like saw myself a above like are you going to get murdered like so I mean that's all it was and I it's crazy
03:53:20Courtney / Rihannacuz I found out later I'd met another girl that he like had done this with with another girl and like taken her to the spot and it just it was just weird it was just very was it his house no it
03:53:32Courtney / Rihannawasn't I don't know who I don't know whose property or if did the other one stick it out uh I don't remember I just remember like that beginning
03:53:42Andrew Wilsonconversation about this yeah this guy does this or something it just well it takes women to a nice picnic spot it certainly wasn't you haven't finished the whole story no know and I I know and
03:53:54Courtney / RihannaI'm not proud of it cuz we did hook up later so that's on me uh very regrettable but in the moment I was like and maybe that's what made it hot later
03:54:06Courtney / RihannaI don't know it's kind of like a weird [ __ ] up thing but I maybe what uh yeah not like not my proudest hook up but I felt way safer
03:54:18Andrew Wilsonwhen I was was this the same day that you went down the windy road to the house spooky house yeah yeah this was all within the same yeah so yeah you
03:54:29Courtney / Rihannasaid you said of course my dumb ass ended up hooking up with him anyways yep mid hookup he says what oh yeah he called me Daddy I know yeah I'm like I
03:54:41Courtney / Rihannadon't know what about me says daddy like I yeah and I like told him right away I was like please don't I know I was like please don't like please don't and then
03:54:53Courtney / Rihannahe then he calls me mommy like shortly after that and I was like do you just have like are you little like that's [ __ ] disgusting yeah like are you Orphan Annie and I'm like Daddy warbuck
03:55:05Courtney / Rihannalike get the [ __ ] out of here it was wild so he called you Daddy he called me Daddy and then when I told like he called me mommy wait you so you said I
03:55:13Brian Atlasdon't like it then his his his idea let me try the other one idea is to try mommy yep he's definitely a goar wait ladies which would you prefer which
03:55:25TTS/Donationswould you prefer being called daddy or mommy is that a question mommy mommy I don't know I basically like go back to dadd to choose ganic donated
03:55:37TTS/Donations$200 why talk about getting poked by some potential serial killer when you have a boyfriend do you have zero no respect for your man imagine clowning your man like that on a platform
03:55:49Courtney / Rihannawatching they W they weren't together at the T yeah that's kind of a dumb point I'm on a dating show am I only going to talk about my current relationship it be pretty boring I mean she already talked
03:55:59Courtney / Rihannaabout her vagina right that's all I talk about fair game Giovani Giovani Giovani okay all right uh so then he called you
03:56:10Courtney / RihannaDaddy and then you said what to him I said I don't like that I said I think I said something like please don't call me that oh right you you already said the orphan anything yeah um and then he
03:56:22Andrew Wilsontexted you again and then me like that yeah and I said no okay okay that's uh that's an interesting one and did you continue to date him after no that was the one experience I ever had and that
03:56:34Courtney / Rihannawas just it yeah yeah he like he said he text me and asked if I want to hang out I said no interesting I was very ashamed that I hooked up with him ashamed but
03:56:43Brian Atlasyou know all make mistakes by the way Nick remind me uh we about the uh dating apps make sure I don't forget about those uh going
03:56:53Brian Atlasto Rihanna is that how you say your name it's Rihanna Rihanna okay yeah you have bachelor's in psychology yes you said hot takes on dating love and respect yourself enough to leave at the first
03:57:04Courtney / Rihannared flag maybe you two have something in common there uh okay definitely at Daddy yeah put the red flag
03:57:14Courtney / Rihannabig red flag for sure tell us about the bowling date oh God this is so funny so I moved to Vegas last summer uh I like leas apartment it was the first time I
03:57:26Courtney / Rihannamoved out on my own I was like freshly single had some new like self-respect and selfworth so um I'm just like you know dating going on dates I I had been
03:57:36Courtney / Rihannaseeing this guy for I want to say maybe like almost two months we like made it known that we were like exclusively seeing each other we I don't know if we were like boyfriend and girlfriend yeah we were like oh we were like exclusively
03:57:48Courtney / Rihannaseeing each other to see where this goes and then we were bowling and he's like I'm going to go to the bathroom and I'm like okay sounds good and I'm like do my bowl and I'm waiting for him he like comes back with this like super
03:57:58Courtney / Rihannabright red face and he's like oh gosh like like he just acting weird I'm like oh like what what's going on I've never seen him like this and he's like I I just I drank two beers like right before you walked in here and I'm like oh and
03:58:11Courtney / RihannaI'm like that's weird that doesn't seem like you like I was like okay and then he's like and then that's why I like I accidentally texted you when I texted you when I meant to text my brother and I'm like what and then he's like yeah
03:58:23Courtney / Rihannalike I sent I sent a text it was supposed to go to my brother but it went to you so he goes to take his bowl and I'm like okay like just now in the bathroom so I go to my phone and then the text that he sent to me which was
03:58:33Courtney / Rihannasupposed to go to his brother quote um said I can be there at 10 p.m love wait and how long were you dating him for we were dating for like almost 2
03:58:46Courtney / Rihannamonths and we had probably like I want to say like 3 weeks before that like been like oh this is going really well like we're going to excl exclusively just each other now okay and then he
03:58:56Courtney / Rihannasaid yeah okay and so did you keep seeing him or was that the end oh no this is actually where it gets funnier um on my end like just like you know making mistakes stuff so um I like
03:59:09Courtney / Rihannareally just have too much trust in people almost like I just believe them when I show it so I was well at first I was like oh we better hurry up this dat so you can go get to your 10 p.m. love and then he was like no like I really
03:59:22Courtney / Rihannameant to send that to my brother and I was like this is so silly now too I'm like that's just so crazy but I was like I was like look me in my eyes and tell me that you like really meant that for your brother and he's like I really meant that for my brother and I was like
03:59:34Courtney / Rihannaokay like I believe you and so then I saw him I never slept with him or anything we just like had only ever made out that was it but wait you guys were dating for 2 months yeah and you didn't didn't no smash no didn't smash but um
03:59:48Courtney / Rihannawait you had a question yeah you didn't know that he has a brother no he so amazing he he had two younger brothers but the message was not meant
04:00:00TTS/Donationsfor the right yeah it was for another girl yeah yeah for for another wait you got y'all were dating oh [ __ ] Robert Tanner donated
04:00:12TTS/Donations$1,000 pop champagne FYI stock market is collapsing and I am making a fortune do not drink champagne a lot of people soon are going to be
04:00:23Andrew Wilsonunemployed as I am right now help those that are all about to suffer can I get a like a paper of towel or whatever yeah but here's the thing hang on Robert if I
04:00:34Andrew Wilsonmay if I may make this argument to you for why this is a good thing that the stock market is collapsing because we'll probably get Donald Trump in office if it does we'll end up with the with Donald Trump
04:00:45Andrew Wilsongetting elected if the stock market crashes so it's not all bad news bro not all bad news hey robbert Tanner you're you're a [ __ ] Legend want Trump He's
04:00:55Brian Atlasa brave and man he's a Pioneer hell yeah Trump wait you want Trump no oh okay um hold on this is for Harris I'm a [ __ ] Legend you're a [ __ ] Legend Tanner
04:01:07Unknown/Ambientyes about time I get a [ __ ] lucky break in this [ __ ] game [ __ ] and I cut the goddamn grenade launcher [ __ ] right all right sorry it's going to take
04:01:17Brian Atlasme a million years to get this open uh you were wait telling us how it got funnier did you oh the funnier part was the fact that I believed him that it that it was truly sent to his brother so
04:01:29Brian Atlasthen I still saw him for like a week but then he did something like he said we were going to we had a plan and then he like failed on me you wait hold on y'all
04:01:36Brian Atlaswere exclusive but not having sex uh yeah I are you religious um no you wait 2 months to I think I wait longer I've
04:01:48Courtney / Rihannawaited four what the [ __ ] yeah I wait a I wait a long it depends how comfortable I am some you're bonding your souls takes a while serious and and like
04:01:59Courtney / RihannaBrian a so well if you do that too early like you get into in your head too early you're like oh W have you ever heard of Soul bounding with
04:02:10Andrew WilsonDragons M can pour the liquor I'm not take that [ __ ] it's a thing take that Soul bonding with Dragons show yeah it's Soul bonding with dragons Okay supposed to be the best kind of Soul Bond you
04:02:21Courtney / Rihannamean like Avatar when they just a little champagne no champagne okay that's good okay nothing thank you champagne Lally I'll take
04:02:33Brian Atlaschampagne yeah I'm not going to deny that it's just these three who can't drink here these three can that's us in the middle huh what uh yo Robert Tanner
04:02:45Brian Atlaswe have to do cheers once everybody has their alcohol wait so hold on two months how but what in what way are you
04:02:55Courtney / Rihannaexclusive well we were exclusively dating each other we just hadn't worked up to moving on to those sexual things yet that get you like
04:03:05Brian Atlasyou're not religious I'm not religious no and are are you like a virgin or no not a virgin so you're not religious not religious not a virgin you're not a
04:03:16Courtney / Rihannavirgin who am I but you're waiting mons who am I just to high I'm just I'm just curious wait have you what's um what's the longest you've ever waited to have
04:03:26Andrew Wilsonsex with someone I was seeing um such a cummer Brian how was that that wrong with they waiting for significant amount of I was going to say
04:03:37Brian Atlaslike well I'll that four four months five months okay now have you ever hooked up with people quicker than that when I was in my early 20s there was
04:03:48Courtney / Rihannalike a few people that it was just like not I they were people I knew but it was just like oh I like you never you never like hooked up with somebody the first day you met them no did you go to
04:03:59Courtney / Rihannacollege I did go to college where did you go to school uh the first two years I was a very small Christian School actually I played soccer and then the still soccer at the second school but um UNCC Asheville was a bigger school but
04:04:11Courtney / Rihannathey were small schools in North Carolina he's not buying my Sor he's like I don't buy this I believe it I was a virgin for a very long time I was a virgin until I was like 21 I was like a junior in
04:04:22Brian Atlascollege and then all my friends were like girl you need to have sex because you're crazy being a virgin and I was like buy me like yeah oh your friends cheers to Tanner weren nice friends
04:04:33Brian Atlascheers to Robert the great Robert Tanner cheers salute cheers thank you Robert Tanner your patronage is very much appreciated thank you man
04:04:44Brian Atlasand uh okay anyways I was kind getting off track there I know bad friends me and my mom were just talking about that the other day oh well live and learn yeah gr but so you you said you did have like always trying to pull the ladder up
04:04:55Courtney / Rihannayou know always every time you did say you had some indiscretions though when you were younger yeah like when I when I first had lost my virginity when I was
04:05:05Brian Atlas21 then uh wait hold on yeah you when you lost your virginity mhm you lost it to a boyfriend Oh I thought you were about to say like you
04:05:17Courtney / Rihannalost her Virginia it was like a guy you met like 2 days prior oh no no we were we were dating we had been dating for like three or four months before I had slept with him all right okay yeah fair
04:05:28Brian Atlasenough fair enough uh back to your notes in any case so there's the guy the texting guy whatever he's gone you were on a date where a guy got pissed after
04:05:38Courtney / Rihannayou outsmarted him this is funny no you go ahead okay so this was shortly after I was done dating the bowling guy and I had met this guy
04:05:50Courtney / Rihannaplaying pickup soccer in Nevada I thought he was cute he had a camping tattoo on his arm so I was like oh we can Bond over camping um so I had invited him over to my apartment one night and I was like oh we can go back
04:06:02Courtney / Rihannago to the store buy like a a board game and like play a board game you know get to know each other have fun so we went to the store we decided on Battleship and there is some strategy in Battleship
04:06:11Courtney / Rihannayou know you can like either like well what I did was I put all of my ships all together in one Clump and then that way if you like have one of like the four ship but it's connected to the three in certain ways you might think that you
04:06:25Courtney / Rihannahit a different ship than you actually hit so then they're looking or thinking that they need to look for something else right so he wasn't like catching on to what I was doing and then he was like I don't understand like you don't have the two ship left or like whatever and then I was like well I do and then he
04:06:38Courtney / Rihannawas like show me your board and I was like okay so then I show him the board and then he's like so we need to restart but I won that one cuz I had worship I was just like okay like he just was having like this big ego about the game like I was just like okay whatever so we play again and then like you know when
04:06:50Courtney / Rihannayou get vulnerable with someone you like talk about your insecurities so I was like telling him how like oh when I was younger like I I I still have bad Bo but I really I had really bad Bo when I was like a little kid so I was like telling him this like funny story that I thought
04:07:01Courtney / Rihannawas just funny and then he was like yeah speaking of like you smelled so disgusting the other day soccer that when I went to hug you I literally almost puked and I turned and I was like
04:07:12Courtney / Rihannaand I like really almost was going to upchuck and I was like okay so then he left well no then he kisses me I know right that's so mean so then he kisses
04:07:23Courtney / Rihanname and leaves and I [ __ ] disgusting yeah so then I walk into the bathroom and I like look in the mirror and I start crying cuz that made me like it hurt my feelings and then I call my mom and I'm like Mom what do you think of this that's so silly so then I texted
04:07:37Courtney / Rihannahim cuz he had just asked me to be his girlfriend I told him I was thinking about it and then I said I do not want to be your girlfriend and then I never talked to never again kind of funny but also sad I like B and Bo yeah like
04:07:49Courtney / Rihannadidn't deter him though like he was still about it yeah I know yeah I don't think uh playing board games is good
04:07:59Brian Atlasidea really like Monopoly bro if you want to like have enemies for Life bro you can't play Monopoly with somebody that is so true yeah I don't know you don't get competitive over that [ __ ] no
04:08:11Brian Atlasbro you know how frustrating you know how easy it is to get tilted playing Monopoly you spend dude you sp [ __ ] game d who cares you spend two [ __ ] hours two [ __ ] hours developing your
04:08:23Brian Atlasboard and just from Pure RNG luck the other person just got better [ __ ] roles two hours playing this God damn slow ass game and then they're just like
04:08:31Brian Atlassmoking you because you're your RNG sucks no okay good no I don't see it good talk uh let's see what else here we going back to natly yes now they're beating you video games that's different
04:08:45Andrew Wilsonyeah fair enough especially if it's a fighting game and they're just button mashing that's [ __ ] that is [ __ ] they're just button mashing you're like you don't know what the [ __ ] you're doing you shouldn't have won that that's [ __ ] that's a strategy I mean yeah
04:08:56Brian Atlasjust just hit random [ __ ] going to Natalie you said I also would love to debate about subjects like the importance issues of Christianity U I'm not going to talk
04:09:07Brian Atlasabout that other one being a traditional woman andoran oh oh so what's the are you Christian yes okay what denomination
04:09:18Brian Atlasbeing a presbyterian okay being a traditional woman andoran so you're against Moran abortion you're against it or oh
04:09:30NatalieI'm sort of a middle ground here would are we should I explain um I think from like a religious standpoint I have issues with it but I
04:09:40Nataliealso know that we live in a world where not everybody is is religious and and we don't live in a perfect world and there's a lot I think since everyone's not under
04:09:52Nataliethe religious belief that they should be entitled to their own opinion but I do think there should be way way way way more restrictions on them well I don't understand though let
04:10:04Andrew Wilsonlet's back up let's untangle some ideas again right yeah so idea one from your Christian purview abortion is murder it
04:10:17Natalieis that's kind of where I struggle from your Christian worldview sure yes is it from a Christian standpoint and what the Bible Chris standpoint yes yeah from
04:10:29Andrew Wilsonyour Christian standpoint it is murder yes okay then why the [ __ ] would you make murder legal because I know that everyone not doesn't have the same views that I do
04:10:41Andrew Wilsonwhy would that matter so now we're back to the idea of the serial killer again remember remember earlier when we were saying That's subjective so you can be a serial killer if you want to well you
04:10:52Andrew Wilsoncan based on that view you're actually enabling that view I think that it's just not realistic to say that I don't think is it your duty to be realistic
04:11:04Andrew Wilsonhuh is it your duty to be realistic is it your duty to say to say we're we're going to run we're going to run the world based on just your pragmatism that's not Christianity that's something
04:11:13Natalieelse right no I I agree but I think that I don't believe that day of conception that that is life you know well when is
04:11:23Natalieit yeah when is it this is where I struggle this is why I am kind of I think that there should be more restrictions in the fact that there's
04:11:35Nataliegirls that I've heard from that have gone and gotten multiple abortions and yeah it's not good for your body it's not longterm or baby and
04:11:45Kwanum why I struggle to say that abortion shouldn't be legal is when it comes to like the woman the mother's health perspective which I know is a small majority pregnancy an a topic pregnancy and abortion are two completely different things an a topic pregnancy is
04:11:58Kwanliterally when the baby has grown outside of the uterus that is a life saving procedure yep that those two are two complet no dispute there literally she that's because an abortion you don't want the baby and a top of pregnancy you
04:12:09Kwanwanted that child but the child just grew outside of you so those aren't the same yeah so when it say it's life saving it's it's not you're literally killing a life well and the thing is is um even if we were to grant that it was
04:12:21Andrew Wilsonwe're just we're just going to Grant it for the sake of argument that in this particular case you have to choose between two lives you're trying to make the best decision you can fine well Grant in that case the mother can always have more kids but in this case if you
04:12:34Andrew Wilsontry to have that kid it could kill them both right so we can just kind of grant that and say it's a wash right and and just even allow those yeah I still don't since that's not even
04:12:45Andrew Wilsonclose to the representation of almost every abortion done on planet Earth yeah I'm not really sure that bringing that up has any Merit so moving over to when
04:12:56Kwanlife begins when does it begin it begin that conception you got me trapped I'm not going to lie CU when people say oh it's just a fetus literally go and Google the definition of fetus is baby literally
04:13:09Kwanwhat it is yeah I know I can agree with that I mean I I'm more so on the pro-life side but when it does come to like you know grape and incest yeah that's where I'm just like but literally
04:13:21Kwanif you if you go on Google it's a it's free it's there 99% of abortion of abortions are literally because women are being Reckless they make mistakes the baby's an inconvenience you chose
04:13:32Kwanthe wrong dude literally one less than 1% is because of incest and grape and in a perfect world I would love to say that like I'm not willing to grant that though either no I'm not willing to grant that it
04:13:44Andrew Wilsonwould be okay under those circumstances let me give you let me maybe I can clear this up for you right let's do just like a kind of a basic
04:13:52Andrew Wilsonlogic exercise okay if you right in this hypothetical uh were horribly essayed MH
04:14:00Andrew Wilsoncould you then go home and kill your son so I'm not speaking okay no wait just I want you to answer the question could you do that what do you mean how come wait I don't understand how come
04:14:12Andrew Wilsonhow come this trauma which happened to you doesn't make it okay to kill your son that's mine it's grow my baby's growing in no no no your son is out of the oh out of me oh that's because you can't
04:14:23Andrew Wilsonmurder your child that's like a living breathing and when do you think it's a child literally right yeah I know but he's also so then so then wait a second so then how could you be for abortion
04:14:36Natalieeven during essay I know are you saying that the sun is a product of no so then how is that connected I don't understand well because because if you're saying
04:14:47Andrew Wilsonthis is a life and this is a life if you're sa are you allowed to take a life the answer is no so if you say life begins at conception then this would mean directly
04:14:58Andrew Wilsonafter the SAA this is now a life then you would have to explain that justification and she knows that there's no possible way she can and so for her to be consistent she would actually have
04:15:09Andrew Wilsonto say no even Dearing or even as a result of essay you would not be able to abort that's the only really consistent I understand the feeling of it the
04:15:20Lucy (Luchia)comment so do you want children to grow up in Loveless households or in the system cuz that's what is a result if
04:15:28Andrew Wilsonyou know women get graped or incested I mean well I think that a person who would end up a dominatrix probably grew up in a Loveless household but I don't want to abort you
04:15:40Andrew Wilson[ __ ] I mean that's your opinion I'm just saying like ultimately no I don't think that because you're poor you have lesser value as a human being I don't think because you're
04:15:51Andrew Wilsona woman or your race or anything like this you have a lesser value as a human being I think that human beings have an anthological value and so I'm a Christian and I've always believed that
04:16:03Andrew Wilsonthis is true even before I logically reconciled my beliefs in a God I always knew that human beings intrinsically had value I'm not ever going to say that because you're poor you have no value value but that's not what I'm getting at
04:16:14Lucy (Luchia)say it is what you're getting at they're of lesser value how can you say okay well then why do you want to would grow up in a Loveless household if they I mean I've read so they have lesser value
04:16:25Lucy (Luchia)right to society no I'm saying there's parents that are regretful and that don't want children so you would want a kid to be raised in an environment like that but would you rather why do you hang on hang on I mean honestly I wouldn't want to be raised in an
04:16:38Lucy (Luchia)environment you rather be dead than raised in a Loveless household okay no but I'm saying as a fetus as a fetus you're you don't have that obviously
04:16:49Andrew Wilsonwell let us hang on I I'm just going to engage with this the best way I can to kind of walk you through the logic here not the logic let us let us assume
04:16:59Andrew Wilsonfor a second that um that you could read the mind of cows okay that you could a cow is born specifically for the purpose of being eaten now it's going to
04:17:11Andrew Wilsonhave a three-year life cycle or toe life cycle till it gets as big as you can get it and then you're going to humanely put it down you're going to eat it if you could ask these cows if they would
04:17:22Andrew Wilsonrather exist for the two years or not exist for the two years even knowing at the end of it they're going to get eaten which do you think they would pick um I don't think they would pick
04:17:35Andrew Wilsonlike I just don't I I mean I personally like if I knew that my parents didn't want me I probably wouldn't want to be alive then let's ask you if you could live 20 years of your life right knowing that at the end of that 20 years the
04:17:48Andrew Wilsonlights would just go out but you would get eaten by aliens let's say would you still choose to be alive if you had good quality of life no I wouldn't want to subject myself to that you wouldn't no okay so then why is it you subject
04:17:59Andrew Wilsonyourself to any suffering I mean I think there's different levels of suffer dominate you you literally perform suffering on people and think it's hilarious and fun
04:18:09Lucy (Luchia)saying I mean yeah true but I'm saying that in the context of a family a kid that is growing up in an abusive environment by no fault of their own suff that's suffering yeah yeah it is suffering and for some people they don't
04:18:22Andrew Wilsonever win that battle for some people some people are stronger can you agree with me that when it comes to trauma if you're alive you at least have a shot of moving past trauma sure you do but there
04:18:33Lucy (Luchia)are if dead you have no shot of moving past trauma that's fair but I think um growing up knowing that you are the product of grape or incest that can't be
04:18:45Andrew Wilsona easy weight to to bring around with yeah but that's a trauma which can be surmounted death cannot be surmounted I don't think if that's something in other
04:18:53Andrew Wilsonwords in other words why would I want to embrace a doctrine of death instead of a doctrine of life I want the doctrine of
04:19:04Andrew Wilsonlife I want even even if it is so that the the conditions are not going to be optimal for a child who's born I still
04:19:12Andrew Wilsonthink that we don't get to determine to kill them just because we think perhaps they might have a bad quality of life people can move past suffering but they can't do it dead I mean I think people
04:19:25Andrew Wilsoncan move past suffering but I think there are levels of suffering that you're going to have to just live with but you're never going to heal from maybe but at least you're alive and many people carry the scars of suffering that they never completely heal from a death
04:19:38Andrew Wilsonof loved one for instance would be one such category of this an incident still better to be alive with that scar than dead I just think the the context is a little bit different when you're bringing in the fact that you are the
04:19:50Lucy (Luchia)product of incest or grape like that's not a great feeling and also you have a person a product of incest and grape go on to do amazing things sure they can I'm not saying that they can't but all I
04:20:02Andrew Wilsonwant is the potential all I want is the potential even if it's horrible I just want the potential of knowing that they can to allow them to try
04:20:14TTS/Donationsganic donated $200 there are thousands of people who were conceived through sa tons are they lesser than you is your worth based on
04:20:24Lucy (Luchia)how much your parents desired you so I never said that I was better than anyone that was conceived through sa I obviously know that that's not choice I never said I wanted to kill them well me
04:20:37Andrew Wilsonthere are some people that can't live with that pain yeah here's the thing the vast major story of them can and humans are resilient humans go through horrific things and they're able to move past
04:20:49Andrew Wilsonthose traumas knowing that that is true that you've gone through suffering that's horrible and so is everybody at this table and you're going to you're going to keep going through suffering that's part of the human experience it's
04:21:00Lucy (Luchia)still optim suffering yeah but you know you're you're still going to be suffering in your life aren't you yeah you're still going to feel bad you're going to suffer yeah but in a different way I think that unfortunately like you
04:21:12Lucy (Luchia)this is preventable like you you can't say that like me going through something like a death of a loved one is the same as the th those are two completely different traumas have you ever heard um
04:21:24Andrew Wilsonthis an old quote it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all yeah I have heard that what is it what do you think that means I mean I think I take it for face value it's better to well if you had never loved you could never go through the suffering
04:21:37Andrew Wilsonof losing love which is one of the worst types of suffering losing a kid losing losing a parent losing a sibling uh even losing the love of your life to another man or woman or whatever right it's
04:21:48Andrew Wilsonstill better and preferable in other words to go through the suffering of losing that than to have never positioned yourself to suffer at all do you agree I mean that's fair that is a
04:21:59Lucy (Luchia)fair statement but I'm saying that I don't think you sub should subject an innocent child to that type of situation and not even just like the sense of you
04:22:10Lucy (Luchia)were the product of grape or incest but the fact that your parents some not all but some parents resent that and I've listened to this girl talk about regretful parenting um and she reads
04:22:23Lucy (Luchia)stories that people post on Reddit and whatnot or just send to her individually and they talk about how much they regret their children and
04:22:32Andrew Wilsonlike that's not fair wait that's how all of these people who exist currently who are the product of sa why aren't they
04:22:42Andrew Wilsonunow in themselves if their suffering is insurmountable cuz they're not suicidal I don't know because their suffering is not insurmountable meaning they must have something that they're continuing to
04:22:53Andrew Wilsonlive towards and moving towards right that makes their suffering surmountable to that of Life otherwise they could and do always have the option of ending that but they don't so that seems like it's
04:23:05Andrew Wilsonpowerful evidence that a person even conceived under those circumstances would still prefer to be alive than dead because the people have been aren't unal living themselves I mean I'm sure there are
04:23:17Lucy (Luchia)some that are sure but it can't be the vast majority nor even close I mean I understand your statement but I still stand on how I feel about it and I'm
04:23:25TTS/Donationsjust saying negative uncore 2000 donated $200 Wilson how do you reconcile your Christian opposition to abortion with the historical involvement of religious
04:23:37Andrew Wilsongroups in wars that have resulted in the loss of many lives I don't see how that those two things would need need to be reconciled so saying that you are essentially assassinating a child in the
04:23:48Andrew Wilsonwomb cuz that's what I think you're doing from my perspective though I understand that's politically charged language is far different than fighting a war of opposition sometimes this is done defensively sometimes offensively
04:24:01Andrew Wilsonbut justifications for Wars are completely different than justification of killing innocent children I mean it's still unnecessary Carnage you know what I mean it's not always unnecessary sometimes it's necessary Carnage
04:24:13Andrew Wilsonnecessary is a loaded word you got to be careful with it right like it's not necessary for you to be a damy mommy I mean I wouldn't call myself a damy mommy yeah but it's not necessary right I mean sure it's not necessary it's not
04:24:25Andrew Wilsonnecessary necessary it's not out of necessity that's a very loaded it's a very loaded word okay enough kind of backing up here I would like to kind of
04:24:35Andrew Wilsonchallenge this just a little bit more before we move on the idea of if you and I can agree that most people conceived under the condition of sa are not unal living
04:24:46Andrew Wilsonthemselves then don't you think that they've been able to surmount the very suffering that you want to eliminate the potential of them even being able to face I mean sure of course there's going to be people out there that are able to
04:24:58Lucy (Luchia)move past their suffering and make something of it but I mean I'm just saying in the sense of if you can prevent any sort of suffering that doesn't need to be had I mean part of
04:25:08Lucy (Luchia)life like you're going to lose a loved one that's inevitable but this is something that can be avoided but I want you to think about the logical conclusion of this this statement
04:25:20Andrew Wilsonsuffering can be avoided right and you're saying death is the ultimate way to avoid suffering so then the extension of this would be if you wanted to eliminate suffering in the entire world what would you do just kill everyone
04:25:32Andrew Wilsonright right does that does that make sense to you I mean yeah it does make sense to me yeah so you wouldn't want to do that right you would of course not so when we kind of take this to it logical conclusion of we want to make sure
04:25:45Andrew Wilsonpeople can avoid suffering well you say we can do this by killing them I agree I guess that would avoid all future suffering but the extension of that is if suffering is the thing we're trying
04:25:56Lucy (Luchia)to avoid why wouldn't we just do that with everybody I get that no but I mean I think there's you know certain types of suffering that do make you like quote unquote stronger I mean you got to
04:26:07Lucy (Luchia)appreciate like most kinds most kinds most kinds of suffering again I just think that that's something that is you know avoidable and um that's where I stand on that you know so I can't sway your mind even with logical
04:26:19Andrew Wilsonargumentation like even can is there anything I could do with logical argumentation that would sway your mind away from how you feel no I feel the way I feel and I felt this way for a long time so do you think
04:26:30Andrew Wilsonthat feeling should Trump logic I mean what is logic like logic would be the proper and reasoned way in which to far
04:26:39Andrew Wilsonit out a position which is coherent mhm so you can imagine there's that without that nothing in this world would work including how you get up like you use
04:26:51Andrew Wilsonlogic daily and reasoning daily just to get through your day right fair enough yeah so I mean you don't want to Trump that with emotion making a an emotional argument would be that would be counterintuitive right you could have
04:27:02Andrew Wilsonall sorts of terrible results from just like listen to my emotions that would be you don't want people to listen to your emotions right I mean I think emotions are valid sure not saying they're invalid I make tons
04:27:14Andrew Wilsonof emotional decisions if I pick a blue colored truck versus a red colored truck that's probably an emotional decision it's not because yeah it's not because I'm getting any like extra performance out of the blue I just emotionally like
04:27:27Lucy (Luchia)blue actually though you could use logic for that because you know like I think they say red cars get pulled over the most yeah I'm just saying in this case I'm not I just like blue more fair enough fair enough but that doesn't
04:27:38Andrew Wilsonreally require a logical justification nobody's nobody's going to ask me to justify why I want to BW over a red truck right that's not really a big deal so I'm I'm willing to concede to you
04:27:48Andrew Wilsonthat I use emotions tons right mhm but when it comes to a position of Life Death things like this reason should probably Trump a motion shouldn't it I'll allow you each one final
04:28:02Andrew Wilsonresponse on this and I have to move it along yeah move move it along I mean I think we're going to I just want to answer circles repeat it I just want to know if you think ultimately even knowing that I do think that AEM motion is
04:28:15Andrew Wilsonvalid that that doesn't mean that we should use it in lie of reason but we should usually use reason in Le of emotion if we're making big decisions I
04:28:26Brian Atlasmean technically you're correct but I think it it stems a lot deeper when it comes to this subject okay all right going back to Natalie you said that a guy asked you on a date told
04:28:38Natalieyou that you post and wear what you post and wear what you want me to just explain okay yep um sure please so basically I this is think second date with the guy and we were at a mall and I
04:28:51Nataliesaid like something like oh I have that shirt or something he's like you wear that yes it was a tank top by the way it wasn't anything very revealing and he's like you wear that and I was like yeah
04:29:01Nataliehe's like I wouldn't let you out like that okay like why are you out with me then and then continued to proceed to tell me that he doesn't like what I post
04:29:11Natalieon in stagram or what I wear but asked me out on a date so I just feel like a little contradictory yeah also was obsessed
04:29:22Brian Atlaswith his ex but just red flag after Red Flag yeah uh I mean I don't think there's anything actually anything wrong there to be
04:29:33Nataliehonest the obsession with the ex that's kind of yeah he would like talk about how he did nothing wrong in the scenario with the X and like show me receipts and this was our like second one oh yeah he was well okay we got to do these one at
04:29:45Nataliea time so you were on a date with a guy and you were wearing an outfit you were wearing the outfit or you were no no no we were at a mall and I said like oh I have that top it was literally just a tank top it was like probably very
04:29:58Brian Atlassimilar to what I was wearing I'm wearing right now just like cut off he was like I wouldn't let you wear that if you guys were in a relationship I mean I'm assuming that's what he meant well can I ask you a
04:30:09Brian Atlasquestion so if would you have would you attempt to prevent your boyfriend from wearing skintight jean shorts I feel like yes cuz that's very
04:30:24Brian Atlasunattractive that would be embarrass right but couldn't that apply to your situation but I think his concern was at being
04:30:35Natalieattractive well it being appealing to other guys I think was his concern yeah sure okay yeah I think I think he was alluding to the fact that
04:30:45Nataliehe thought I was a [ __ ] or something right well I mean so you were on the second date the ice Breer second date yeah well I mean so prior to dating
04:30:56Natalieyou had these photos on your Instagram what do you mean I don't know he he had you had I didn't date him I did not date him or like I went on dates but I didn't like he was not my boyfriend right so he's trying to establish very early on
04:31:08Brian Atlaswhat his boundaries were yeah right so prior to dating I suppose he had no problem or absolutely no authority to say uh you know you were
04:31:18Brian Atlasengaging in what he considered single Behavior but assuming the relationship developed to the point where you guys were actually in a relationship once you started dating he wanted you to act in a way more commensurate with and more
04:31:30Natalieconsistent with being in a relationship and most women have no male guidance when it comes to this at all I think that's fine if we were in a relationship but I feel like that's we right but then women will also argue well if it was
04:31:43Nataliesuch an issue you should have told me sooner you should have told me up front well I agree but that's why I partially ended it besides him being obsessed with his ex I just wasn't comfortable I think that to an extent if I'm going out and
04:31:55Nataliegoing to parties and wearing something that's like very risque for male attention and I'm in a relationship I don't think that's right but if for you to do for me to do I I don't agree with that but like I feel like the shirt would
04:32:08Natalieneed to be shown for it to like for an example because it was just something that was very like not anything that I think like anybody would really at this table oppose to or call like over sexual or something like that or risque even I
04:32:22Nataliethink it was very normal top which is where I kind of had the problem amongst other problems that I had with him but that one just was kind of laughable now he said he like opened with this yeah we were in we were
04:32:33Andrew Wilsonin the mall and I'm like oh I have that it worked you went on two dates with him it worked no I think she was on on the second date and the thing with the bigger part was
04:32:45Nataliewith me is I said to him I was like I post this stuff he found me through Instagram like through mutual friends you saw my Instagram you liked it so it
04:32:55Brian Atlasobviously worked right like what's the okay so again though prior to dating he had no problem with you engaging in that
04:33:04Brian Atlassort of behavior but now that he's he he met you on a second date he probably wanted to see things further along he was starting to lay out his boundaries
04:33:16Brian Atlasfor what he considered acceptable behavior from a potential girlfriend sure I feel like there's just better ways to go about it than being like well men are blunt communicators yeah I mean I think he sounds insecure you know espe
04:33:29Lucy (Luchia)what I think I mean I think it sounds insecure because it's like especially if like she's saying that it was similar to this top it was very modest it wasn't I don't go out wearing things that are
04:33:37Natalielike outrageous like I really I don't and I have I just think that well we don't know what it is there a photo of it somewhere on Instagram think it's
04:33:49Nataliesimar to it was like a basic Urban outfit or like just think of a tank top it was a tank top I was find this idea odd of insecurity though I I think it's insecure in the sense that not insecure
04:34:01Nataliebut I think it's a lack of trust that you have in lack of trust your say potential girlfriend that you think that I would be going out and wearing these things to attract other men yeah but
04:34:13Andrew Wilsonwhen I think of insecurity I would think the opposite I would think that saying upfront what it is that you want or don't want would be a sign of security not a sign of
04:34:24Andrew Wilsoninsecurity I think it just wasn't a sign of insecurity to me would be like I want to tell you this this preference or this thing but I'm going to be passive aggressive or I'm just going to lead hints or things like that that would
04:34:37Andrew Wilsonlead me more towards the thought of insecurity versus here's what I want and here's why I want it that sounds like like somebody who's secure in what their preferences are what about bring over your ex-girlfriend like that's well hang
04:34:49Andrew Wilsonon again we're going to untangle the two the two ideas totally agree with you on the obsession of the ex-girlfriend thing red flag I'd get the [ __ ] away from that but on the idea of of moderate dress to
04:35:01NatalieBrian's point I don't think that that could be insecurity seems like a secure person would say that I think split it's more of like um the way that it was said like the other comments that have been made I think is like kind of the thing
04:35:15Nataliethat we're missing here where it was like you dress that way before before male attention which did you no not at all like if if you I feel like it's hard to explain without seeing the top in question but
04:35:28Natalielike no different to what I'm wearing right now was he kind of saying that in the context of the entirety of your social media he it was like kind of two separate conversations where I started it with like like I don't wear that for
04:35:41Nataliea mail validation blah blah blah blah blah and he was saying that like the stuff that I've had on my Instagram he you're telling me that's not for male validation it wasn't in in my head for
04:35:53Nataliemale validation I think that's kind of where I had the issue with it see we saying that he thinks that I'm only posting the stuff and stuff like that for male validation got where in my head it's like a lot of the stuff I post especially after losing so much weight it's like I'm really confident in how I
04:36:06Natalielook now and I'm proud of how far I've come let me show we'll pull up your I mean that's for validation though right that would be defition not like I not in like a sexual way just being like I'm
04:36:18Andrew Wilsonproud of how far I've come I'm proud of what I look like I'm going to show it off but not in a sexual way no not in a way that would bring sexual attention
04:36:28Brian Atlasreally okay uh scroll down a little bit slow please this is for you women out there this is at all I can show you the top question put us on the other side Nick
04:36:40Natalieput us on the other the toping question is no go down is it the one where you're at the table there no scroll down it is this one with no at the wall with the co cup of coffee The White Strip the black shirt the one where I'm wearing like a
04:36:53Andrew Wilsoncardigan over top left corner that one that was the exact top okay yeah uh I kind of agree with him that you wouldn't what no you think that's not modest well
04:37:05Andrew WilsonI don't I don't think um you think that I post first of all no I would say that no that's immodest but even if even if I were to concede that it was modest okay
04:37:16Andrew Wilsonafter looking at your social media if you if you're going to tell me that you're not putting those pictures up because you want validation from Men I'm
04:37:26Andrew Wilsonvery skeptical and so maybe I'm wrong and that's that's all for women you just want to show women the transformation your but maybe that's true okay I'm not in your head I can't tell that's fair
04:37:38Nataliebut I can definitely understand why a guy would be skeptical of that I I I think that's fair but I think that's a conversation to be had instead of just being a blanket statement we're assuming that I'm a [ __ ] Like You you know what I mean yeah but I mean what
04:37:51Andrew Wilsonwould the conversation be it would be you saying No this is for the validation of a bunch of women I want a bunch of women to look at me and validate me right and so he he's going to look he's
04:38:03Andrew Wilsongoing to be like look I just don't believe that and there's no he it's it's not falsifiable in other words he can't be like that's not true cuz can't read your thoughts you're telling me though
04:38:13Natalieif you say right now lost a [ __ ] ton of weight got a six-pack best shape of your life that you wouldn't want to show that off I would not no in fact I'd go out of my way you be proud of it if it's something that you worked for I might be
04:38:24Andrew WilsonI might be proud of it but that there's a difference between that in trying to um uh put myself in a situation where I was being sexually provocative towards the opposite sex can I ask you that question as someone that does Fitness
04:38:38Kwanyeah I was thinking so honestly I don't agree cuz I've seen so many men that have had huge body Transformations and then they take their shirt off finally cuz they never felt comfortable doing that in the first
04:38:50Kwanplace and they they like how they look they're proud of the results that they've got and same with women a lot of women they lose a lot of weight and then they you know look I also know Ortho Bros okay one of which his name is David
04:39:02Andrew WilsonPatrick Harry Church of the Eternal logos and this guy is [ __ ] shredded and he does not post sexually provocative pictures of himself even though he's in and he definitely had a
04:39:13Andrew Wilsonbody transformation he just doesn't do that and the reason he doesn't do that is because he knows that that's going to lead towards validation from the opposite sex which he doesn't want but I
04:39:25Nataliedon't Prov if if they choose to validate it they like to see it good for them that's not why I post it I get that I totally understand and I even believe you yeah I'm trying to take myself and
04:39:37Andrew Wilsonput myself in the shoes of the onlooker yeah so from Outsiders perspective looking at it there's no reason for me to conclude that any man who was viewing that wouldn't think that you were trying
04:39:48Andrew Wilsonto get the validation in a two-piece bathing suit and none of the bathing suit posts were at the time okay I got it but but there's no reason that I would assume that any random man viewing
04:40:00Nataliethat wouldn't think you were looking for sexual validation from men there's no reason for me to think that I think I I see what you're saying but I think that's also like if you want to get to know me and separate that from my story and why I post that kind of stuff
04:40:14Andrew Wilsonbecause I'm proud of I am what about these idea of red flags the whole idea of the red flag is that just based on XXX Behavior whether you try to justify it for instance She Goes Up on the House
04:40:26Andrew Wilsonon Haunted Hill where this guy's going to [ __ ] serial Axe Murder her right she's like if this [ __ ] door closes I am doomed my life is gone this guy's going to hack me up he's going to put me in little pieces and put me in his
04:40:37Andrew Wilsonfreezer right that's what she's thinking in her head Am I Wrong oh no massive red flag right did he even do anything wrong though not really he didn't actually do
04:40:47Andrew Wilsonanything wrong but he gave like a feeling a red flag Vibe the daddy thing that was but when they discussed it it was fine that's why I'm like I no no no no it it really wasn't fine when they
04:40:59Andrew Wilsondiscussed it she said he was like but I'm a good person you can talk to my besties they say I'm the greatest they say I'm phenomenal they say I'm F and she wasn't buying none of that [ __ ] she
04:41:10Andrew Wilsonwas like nope I don't [ __ ] a word that you're saying and so she's thinking from an outsiders look in same thing right they're probably going to think ah big red [ __ ] Flag I I see how it's
04:41:21Andrew Wilsoncontradict I I I'm not disagreeing with you well it's not contradictory I'm just saying that you haven't contradicted yourself I totally believe you you don't post any of those picks for the purpose
04:41:32Natalieof male validation I really don't 100% believe you but if we can flip the coin for a second I I could see the perspective and I don't think that it was inherently wrong I think the way that it was presented was wrong where he
04:41:43Nataliewas saying like so you don't just post pictures of your boobs for like validation in men like that's all you want from it kind of thing and then him assuming from that that I've slept with a bunch of people and all that stuff and
04:41:55Brian Atlasdeciding not to believe me when I told him Noh you know what I mean but I I don't think there's actually anything wrong with men looking at certain cues that tend to be associated with female
04:42:06Brian Atlaspromiscuity and just jumping to those conclusions like if a woman is blasted in tattoos sternum tattoos dresses a certain way I'm going to assume for example she's not a virgin we actually