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00:04:00Courtney / Rihannaand occupation go ahead hi I'm Courtney I'm 34 and I work at a emergency animal hospital all right and you're also a standup comedian is that correct I do
00:04:09Brian Atlasstandup okay how long you been doing standup For like 5 years all right M and you said you're an emergency vet tech is that I'm not a vet tech oh you work at the I do reception reception okay gotcha
00:04:22Brian Atlasokay and where you from originally Toledo Ohio okay how long you been in oops how long you've been in Santa Barbara for about 3 years or so so all
00:04:30Lucy (Luchia)right cool welcome yeah my name is Lucy I'm 26 I'll be 27 in 16 days and I live in Phoenix Arizona currently I'm a bartender and then I do Financial
00:04:41Brian Atlasdomination on the side and you're from where again sorry I'm originally from Wilmington Delaware okay and you do what is financial domination yeah fin findom yeah um it's
00:04:53Lucy (Luchia)basically power exchange through money it's part of the BDSM community so it's like a kink and how do you find your clients do you
00:05:01Lucy (Luchia)have I have Twitter I have loyal fans um Instagram I don't really use Reddit loyal fans yeah it's like only fans but
00:05:11Lucy (Luchia)different yeah so I'm still confus what is it now what do you do um so I basically I play into you know certain Kinks for men um and they give me money
00:05:23Lucy (Luchia)for it sometimes it's just the Kink of financial domination which they get off to giving I'm still confused what Financial domination itself is what is that I just said it's when men get off
00:05:36Brian Atlasto giving me money oh they get okay oh yeah gotcha uh what is your uh Twitter
00:05:42Lucy (Luchia)username just curious lust fuchia l u c h i a Lu u c i a okay I wouldn't bring it up though there's some not safe for work content on there yeah
00:05:54Brian Atlaswe won't we're not going to follow that okay cool uh less for for Lucia okay yeah Luchia okay uh what about you hi my
00:06:04Courtney / Rihannaname is Rihanna and uh I'm 27 years old I am from Thousand Oaks California about an hour away here from Santa Barbara and
00:06:13Brian AtlasI'm a poet author novelist and business owner age sorry 27 27 okay sorry your Twitter it's with a f o r or four four
00:06:26Anyialike the number the number okay I see okay what about you hi I'm anyia I'm 18 years old and I'm from Austria all right what brings you to Santa Barbara I'm
00:06:36Brian Atlasmake a language trip okay you go to EF yes okay and uh are you once how long you in Santa Barbara
00:06:46Brian Atlasfor two days I arrived for how long would you be so you arrived two days ago yes and you'll be staying for how long 2 weeks oh only two weeks yeah only two
00:06:59Brian Atlasweeks and then you go back to Austria back and you're going to go to university or just normal school okay all right what about you hi my name is Natalie I'm from
00:07:11NatalieOrange County California I'm 18 and I'm going to the University of Missouri for Health Sciences all right welcome what about you I'm Gracie I'm 18 from Orange
00:07:20GracieCounty and I am a student at San Diego State University oh uh what do you two study what do you study I'm studying Kinesiology for pre-physical therapy Y and I'm doing Health Sciences pretty
00:07:31Kwanprofessional all right got it what about you hi my name is Kwan I'm from San Diego k um and I'm 30 years old and right now I'm actually a waitress at a
00:07:44Andrew Wilsonhigh-end Resort but I also do personal training on the side all right Andrew my name is Andrew Wilson host of The Crucible it is to my knowledge the fastest growing debate Channel anywhere in YouTube um I'm political analyst
00:07:55Brian Atlaspolitical saturnist and occasionally I like to engage in debates all right welcome everybody so we're going to go around the table once more we're going to get everybody's current
00:08:07Brian Atlasrelationship status so are you single talking stage situationship Friends with Benefits relationship married polycule sex cult whatever it may be if you're single how long have you been single and what's the longest relationship you've
00:08:20Courtney / Rihannaever been in go ahead uh I'm currently in a relationship mhm um the longest relationship I've ever been in is probably close to 7 years not the current one the current one's like 10
00:08:31Brian Atlasmonths or so all right and uh orientation I'm by gotcha and your current partner is a woman man man okay and you said your longest was seven plus
00:08:42Lucy (Luchia)years M okay with a man or a woman with a man got it what about you I am currently single kind of in a few situationships I guess um what was the
00:08:52Brian Atlasother question longest relationship um a year you said you're in a few situation I actually just ended one so I
00:09:01Brian Atlasguess yeah one just one yeah but you were I just ended one this week you had
00:09:08Brian Atlastwo yeah what what's the most amount of people you've been seeing in any given
00:09:17Brian Atlastime uh maybe like three three okay at like the same time yeah so your remaining situationship how long have you been in that situationship
00:09:29Brian Atlasm like 6 months 6 months what about the one that just ended like 6 months yeah so around the same time around the same time [Music]
00:09:39Brian Atlasmhm and in the six-month period have there been any any other people kind of coming in going shortterm I had like a
00:09:48Lucy (Luchia)five yearlong situationship that I ended in like January but it was it was very complicated complicated how um he had
00:09:59Lucy (Luchia)substance abuse issues you know we were long distance things just didn't work out I still have a lot of love for him though so long distance so was it off again on
00:10:10Brian Atlasagain on again off again yeah and which one of you ended the situationship I did I blocked him he did okay were you at any point consider like did you consider each other boy
00:10:22Lucy (Luchia)boyfriend girlfriend no we never put like a true label on it but we were pretty like emotionally invested in each other okay so it wasn't monogamous again we didn't put a label
00:10:34Lucy (Luchia)on it so I mean I don't know what he was doing behind the scenes but he was a pretty decent person I think so I don't know well isn't a situationship a label I mean yeah it's a label but like I don't think he would call it a
00:10:46Brian Atlassituationship what what would he call you his girlfriend no so what would he call it then I don't know we were involved together you guys were just seeing each
00:10:56Brian Atlasother okay uh and you said that uh it was 5 years but long distance on and off yeah on and
00:11:05Lucy (Luchia)off you said he was pretty good when I asked you about if it was monogamous so was he loyal to you again is that kind of what I don't know cuz I don't try to like look too far into that like unless
00:11:18Lucy (Luchia)we're actually dating like actually like boyfriend girlfriend were you monogamous with him yeah I was really into him I didn't talk years I mean obviously it was on and off
00:11:29Brian Atlasso no but when we were like engaged with each other yeah we were all right and um I had actually one question kind of going back a little bit
00:11:38Brian Atlasto your intro you uh describe yourself in your Instagram as a Devilicious Alpha bimbo Evil
00:11:48Brian AtlasGenius yes um what does that I what does that mean I'm a little confused um I mean it's kind of up for like viewer
00:11:57Lucy (Luchia)interpretation like what do you think a Devilicious Alpha bimbo Evil Genius is like I don't know I don't know I think it's pretty straightforward with
00:12:07Lucy (Luchia)Divalicious do you consider yourself a diva yes mhm what makes you a diva um I don't know I don't really like put up with anyone's [ __ ] like I'm kind of
00:12:18Brian Atlaslike sassy prissy you know and you said you're an alpha mhm I don't know if there's a difference between an alpha and Alpha bimbo there's also other there's alphab
00:12:31Brian Atlasbimbo Evil Genius a lot of descriptive words here um Evil Genius so are you evil or are you an evil genius or both both so what
00:12:42Lucy (Luchia)makes you evil I I suppose um the way you treat men yeah yeah so what are the evil ways in which you treat men I mean regarding like my financial
00:12:54Lucy (Luchia)domination and also femdom um I guess you could call me evil cuz like I have do pretty bad things to themselves like hurt themselves and so you're talking like BDSM mhm well I mean there's some
00:13:06Lucy (Luchia)component of consent there so there is consent yeah but you could call me evil so you're a sadist yes okay are you a sadist for your own pleasure or simply
00:13:15Lucy (Luchia)for the money kind of both I mean I definitely like think it's fun to watch someone hurt themselves for me but like this is like men like I would never like want to do that to a woman why is that
00:13:27Lucy (Luchia)because I prefer women to romantically or in general no just like as people why is that cuz I think you know I'm a woman I think I'm
00:13:38Brian Atlasmore aligned with female values which are what um being feminine Divine femininity I don't know what is the I'm sorry I don't mean to ask you
00:13:48Lucy (Luchia)million questions but what is divine femininity um it's just basically being like a boss like just believing in yourself
00:13:59Brian Atlasand having confidence and I don't know okay and you also Des well okay you
00:14:09Brian Atlasdescribe yourself as Alpha yes what does that mean I'm dominant so I'm Alpha in most situations yeah okay and going to your Twitter thank you for providing
00:14:21Lucy (Luchia)that you call yourself a fatal seductress mhm what is that um I am pretty good at seducing men and for some
00:14:30Lucy (Luchia)it can be a very Fatal Attraction maybe not like fatal in the literal lalat sense but I mean fatal to their finances sure well we'll get into that actually
00:14:42Brian Atlasbut um you said you're pretty good at seducing men yes so isn't that just kind of the life of a
00:14:53Lucy (Luchia)woman I mean I don't think all women like try to seduce men well but I mean like essentially you're saying I'm really good at getting men but like
00:15:03Lucy (Luchia)isn't that just the default setting for women I mean sure like if that's how you look at it yeah but like that's like a a woman who says she has game and she's
00:15:13Lucy (Luchia)able to sleep with a lot of men it's like no [ __ ] any woman can sleep with a lot of men there are there are fem cells huh there are fem cells out there so I actually don't even believe that's a
00:15:26Andrew Wilsonthing I mean there's plenty of people that I identifi the F cell Community well they Iden there's people who identify as being dogs too you know true
00:15:34Andrew Wilsonvery true them yeah so the thing is is when he says when he says fem cell so the opposition of inel so the male incel
00:15:44Andrew Wilsonthe way that it's perceived is they want to have a relationship with women but they're they're not capable of doing so yeah so they're trying to but they're
00:15:55Andrew Wilsonjust not succeeding they're striking out over and over and over and over and over so when you say fem cell this would be the same exact thing applied to women yeah but what Brian's saying is he
00:16:08Andrew Wilsondoesn't think that there are women who if they decided to go for instance and sleep with a whole grouping of of various men they're probably going to be able to do it if they chose to do it
00:16:19Lucy (Luchia)whereas if men choose to do it they may not be able to I think it's all just like it depends on standards too so I mean some people have high standards would be
00:16:33Lucy (Luchia)inard it's like whatever they just can't do it they can't close the deal as it were right again I mean I think there's someone for everyone so I don't know it's kind of like this that's a good
00:16:44Brian Atlasquestion good pull it up I'm so lonely right this is I mean that's what a fem cell is essentially but I mean if we look at the actual terminology so incel involuntarily
00:16:56Brian Atlascelibate uh it's not clear to me if a woman just got on a dating app even if she was remarkably unattractive if she just made herself available for sex she could get
00:17:07Brian Atlassex it's not clear to me if that applies to like a remarkably unattractive man if he makes himself available for sex he's going to be able to get it well I can give you kind of an easy thought exercise for this and say you take one
00:17:19Andrew Wilsonof the most unattractive men that you've ever met and one of the most unattractive women you've ever met you put a sign in their hand and the sign just says first car that pulls over I'm sleeping with whoever's in it okay
00:17:32Andrew Wilsonthat's the sign the guy goes out with the sign versus the woman who gets sto for
00:17:39Andrew Wilsonfirst I mean again it depends depends on a lot of factors okay so the but I gave you the scenario of the the ones that
00:17:50Andrew Wilsonare the most attractive you know so we have that factor right we have the factor of it's going to be an equal amount of men probably to women passing them or even more more men than women they're holding the sign so we know what
00:18:02Andrew Wilsonthe scenario is inside of the scenario who's going to who's going to pull off for which sex more I guess women yeah women so that's
00:18:11Andrew Wilsonthat's the idea behind why Brian saying being a fem cell likely isn't uh isn't anything other than a standards issue versus I actually you know maybe have no
00:18:23Andrew Wilsonstandards and still can't close the deal right yeah I mean I think there's outliers every situation I agree look I I agree I'm just saying that um even if we take the outliers I think that the
00:18:36Andrew Wilsonoutlier females would still be able to get some outlier dude to sleep with them but that might not be the case in the opposite direction and then the followup question on that um and this might not
00:18:47Brian Atlasbe the way you move but if you were inclined like you made a decision you woke up you're like you're in a brand new city don't know anybody if you're in
00:18:58Brian Atlasa brand new city but you're like I want to sleep with somebody tonight how like certain do you think you could pull it off 100% certain I could I mean that's
00:19:09Brian Atlasnot really even like even goodlooking men can't wake up and be like I'm going to [ __ ] a new girl today with certainty they don't even good-looking guys can't
00:19:20Brian Atlaslike they could maybe have 5050 who knows no guy maybe some guys very few men even good-looking men can't like
00:19:30Brian Atlasdefinitively say I'm going to go out and I'm 100% closing tonight almost most women if they were inclined to could fair enough anyways you said when it
00:19:41Brian Atlascomes to the Fatal Attraction fatal seduction uh you're fatal for their bank accounts have you bankrupted any men not
00:19:50Lucy (Luchia)yet but I do have one that he's he's teetering on a very bad plane right now he's he's not doing very well finally financially supporting you not
00:20:02Brian Atlassupporting me I mean I have a I have Bart so this is like supplemental income but he's teetering and that's part of the his financial insecurity is part of
00:20:12Lucy (Luchia)the Kink or whatever yeah but I mean if you're like I don't know true to the practice then you're not really going to want to truly bankrupt someone and again
00:20:22Lucy (Luchia)I mean this is all consensual so like he has the freedom to close his laptop or block me or whatever if he really wants
00:20:30Andrew Wilsonto mhm okay you uh do you associate a person who would be willing to bankrupt themselves to be mentally
00:20:41Andrew Wilsonill I mean possibly but again so like aren't you kind of playing with mentally ill people I mean we go over like you know consent and a mentally ill person
00:20:54Andrew Wilsonconsent I mean I'm not here screening them for mental illness I'm not a psychiatrist not PS you need to screen a person for mental illness if they want you to bankrupt them doesn't that
00:21:03Andrew Wilsondoesn't that scream not well I mean it's a kink yeah I get I get it's a kink but you you can understand that even through a person's perceived Kinks that would maybe be a good sign of mental illness
00:21:16Andrew Wilsonit could be but that's really not my place to judge you know well I I think it is your place to judge if you're if you're if you're the one who says send me the money on behalf of your Kink and
00:21:28Lucy (Luchia)this could bankrupt you who the hell else would be the judger here who would be who else could make the Judgment but you I mean if they voice that opinion to me maybe and if we have like a good relationship but again like some of
00:21:39Lucy (Luchia)these guys will approach you and then just [ __ ] off for like months years sometimes they'll never come back so it's like yeah no I I understand that but I'm talking about this specific case
00:21:50Andrew WilsonM got a guy who's teetering on the edge of bankruptcy I mean I don't force him to send me any money understand you're not forcing him to but what I'm asking you is if you have somebody who has the
00:22:02Andrew Wilsonperception at least the perception of mental illness and you allow them to do thing X on your behalf knowing that they're mentally ill how are you not responsible for that well I mean then we'll have a conversation about that but
00:22:14Andrew Wilsonhe has never come forth and said I'm mentally ill again it's a kink so yeah but I mean the bank if you want to Teeter on the edge of bankruptcy on
00:22:25Andrew Wilsonpurpose because it makes you [ __ ] get off right wouldn't that be a sign to a normal person that that person's not well upstairs it could be just not to
00:22:37Lucy (Luchia)you I mean again like it's really not like my responsibility to be monitoring someone's mental health again if they bring it up to me and if they tell me
00:22:47Lucy (Luchia)that you know this is enough like I've had enough cool like you know what I mean but I'm not going to sit there and baby them like this is a kink a consensual Kink we're both
00:22:58Lucy (Luchia)adults and if he's meant I mean I'm pretty sure a lot of people in the BDSM Community would qualify for mental illness you know what I mean so there
00:23:09Andrew Wilsonwas a guy let's say he was 55 years old there was a woman who was 19 and she had a lower IQ um but she was considered an
00:23:19Andrew Wilsonadult functional member of society and um he was online and they're both adults and she was consenting and he was having sex with her would you find that to be
00:23:30Lucy (Luchia)an appropriate relationship I mean I think 19 is pretty young and I really don't like engaging with anyone under 21 in terms of that anyway so she's
00:23:40Andrew Wilson21 I mean repeat the question again do you think that if she's kind of under average IQ but she's still a functional member of society she's still an adult she's still consenting right she can
00:23:53Andrew Wilsonconsent to a car loan she can consent to a cell phone bill right do you have any issues with with with this guy taking advantage of her for sex I mean I think
00:24:02Andrew Wilsonit's [ __ ] up you're 55 years old trying that's his Kink he likes to take advantage of 21-year-old girls and have sex but he likes it it gets him off it's
00:24:14Andrew Wilsonhis favorite that's what's the problem oh it is what what's different about I mean you just said that she has a lower IQ so I mean do you think I think that this guy who sends you enough money to
00:24:23Andrew Wilsonbankrupt himself has a high IQ I mean he has a good job so so the the point is though is that he's still she's still a consenting adult it's not his
00:24:32Lucy (Luchia)responsibility to worry about her IQ right I mean I guess you make a Fair Point again I don't really care but in
00:24:42Lucy (Luchia)that case do you do you think he should care sure if he wants to care then care but think that's a double standard I mean I've talked to him for 6 months now more than that longer than that and
00:24:55Lucy (Luchia)we've had you know personal conversations we've had based conversations and when he tells me he doesn't have money to send I don't make him send it so and he he'll send me like
00:25:07Andrew Wilsona small amount or something for coffee so imagine this going back the other direction of yeah he's 50 and she's a little bit low IQ but she's a consenting adult it's not for him to worry about
00:25:18Andrew Wilsonwhether or not she's under IQ or not cuz she can consent right she can consent and so you know the thing is is he just doesn't really worry about what might happen to her as a position of him
00:25:30Andrew Wilsonsleeping with this woman who is 21 while he's 50 or 19 while he's 50 and who has a lower than average IQ he just shouldn't worry about it because she can consent does that sound reasonable to
00:25:42Andrew Wilsonyou I mean it's a different situation again you have a baseline conversation when you accept the submissive into your life you go over terms and conditions he
00:25:54Andrew Wilsondid that he's like look don't give a [ __ ] about your IQ I just want to have sex with you and she's like okay ganic donated $200 not sure if red heads too stupid to
00:26:07Unknown/Ambientunderstand the depth of her evil or she doesn't just likes it I encourage viewers to pray for her but more importantly her victims as she's a literal Predator yeah so let's go through the let's like go through this
00:26:18Andrew Wilsonso they agree to this they've agreed they're both consenting more coming in just sorry guys one sec we're letting the TTS come through
00:26:32Unknown/AmbientJohn Slater 1990 donated $200 hey Brian just wanted to drop you some support you get a lot of hate but you're a good guy and one of the few who advocate for men than you deal with a
00:26:43Brian Atlaslot both on and off the show so cheers to you uh John Slater thank you for the TTS man also Giovani thank you for the TTS yeah a lot of stuff goes on behind the scenes you know that we don't really
00:26:54Andrew Wilsontalk about but uh thank you John Slater really appreciate your support thank you man go ahead andent anyway yeah so they both consent so that part they had the conversation they're both consenting she is an adult she is a functional member
00:27:07Courtney / Rihannaof society she's just kind of dumb okay I mean not his responsibility right don't dumb people need sex too though okay fair no responsibility right
00:27:18Lucy (Luchia)mentally ill people need to get some I mean again I'm a financial dominat so obviously I have some responsibility in it but again I'm not sitting there for foring them I'm not neither is he in
00:27:29Andrew Wilsonthis approaching them like they approach me that's so imagine a guy saying this exact same thing but he's I didn't force her I'm not I'm not telling her she has to I'm not doing any of that she's
00:27:41Lucy (Luchia)consensually at 21 with her low IQ sleeping with me what's the problem here he's a man taking advantage and he's 55 how and he has he has he's taking
00:27:52Andrew Wilsonadvantage are you taking advantage I mean sure you could look at it like that so then I don't I don't see how there how you how you can make the moral equivalence that he's doing something wrong if you would not accept
00:28:04Brian Atlasthat you yourself also are doing something wrong do you think no I think she accepts that she's doing something wrong that's I want to hear from her oh okay sure I accept that I'm doing something wrong okay but she doesn't care yeah it doesn't care doesn't well I
00:28:16Andrew Wilsoncan't be quotes if if you actually do think that right then it's not wrong it would just be wrong right sure okay I have a question do you like continue the
00:28:28Lucy (Luchia)relationships if it's if they're not paying I mean like CU you're saying it's not force you're not forcing them to pay but then do you continue talking to them if they're not paying I mean if they've sent a good amount like they're my submissive and I've taken them on as
00:28:39Andrew Wilsonthat then sure I'll talk to them all right um do you think societ what do you think society would say to a guy who was openly having a relationship
00:28:52Gracielike that with a 21-year-old how do you think they would judge him just Society in general um they would tar and feather him I don't know I mean honestly what do you think they would do I think a big factor to consider in the hypothetical
00:29:03Graciesituation is the age Gap because like what's the age gap between you and this guy he's like 47 and I'm 26 okay that's something to consider still a massive
00:29:13Andrew Wilsonage Gap yeah but the the question still I still I just want to I'm just asking what do you think the perception would be I already said it would be a bad perception be a bad perception why do
00:29:24Lucy (Luchia)you think it would be that way because men have a bad reputation for a good
00:29:30Andrew Wilsonreason what's well I mean I I literally have not heard yet a man not once yet tell me that they have teetered women on
00:29:42Andrew Wilsonthe brink of financial ruin and they don't give a [ __ ] I have not heard that one time but I have heard this story that you're telling me dozens of times on this show yeah I think you're
00:29:52Lucy (Luchia)admitting the fact though that again it's a kink and I'm being approached and this is what I do like yeah but in that case it would just be a
00:30:02Lucy (Luchia)kink there's plenty of Kinks out there that people would view as taboo and wrong and people still do them anyway yeah I know but that doesn't mean that they're correct so this idea of saying
00:30:14Andrew Wilsonwell it doesn't matter cuz it's a kink though what is correct apply that to them I mean I think correct is a very subjective word like you think that morality itself is subjective I mean yeah well then if morality itself is
00:30:27Andrew Wilsonsubjective then why would you get mad about what anybody ever does any at any time at any place anywhere sure like a serial killer what's wrong with that subjective
00:30:37Andrew Wilsonsubjective I mean you're reaching right now but is it subjective or objective I mean a serial killer like I mean yeah serial killers it's subjective or objective if it's all subjective and
00:30:50Andrew Wilsonit's all just moral relativism then you couldn't you could never make a judgment a value judgment on a serial killer being bad because that's just relative right sure so then yeah I don't I don't
00:31:01Andrew Wilsonreally know this idea of it's subjective it doesn't mean much to me that just means you're saying there is no standard for Morality at all when clearly you don't think
00:31:12Andrew Wilsonthat okay yeah otherwise you you wouldn't say you'd say it's okay to be a serial killer right I mean I think we all know the answer to that it's not okay to be a serial killer why not if
00:31:24Andrew Wilsonit's just subjective because it's morally wrong like and these are my morals so so but everyone has different values so so if it's just your morals versus their
00:31:35Lucy (Luchia)morals subject or subjective then from his standard the serial killer they're not doing anything wrong right well he's a serial killer obviously he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong he's doing it so you can't you have no standard from which to say he's doing
00:31:48TTS/Donationsanything immoral right I I I'm not negative2 200 donated
00:31:56TTS/Donations$200 yellow top kind of looks like a scaran look it up like a what I don't know what that is tell me
00:32:12Brian Atlasmore uh okay all right I'm not sure what that is is that like a Star Wars thing or something I don't know i' love yeah I'd love to respond if I KN I don't know I don't know uh a couple other
00:32:23Brian Atlasclarifying things here but I do want to get everybody's uh relationship status uh you you do describe yourself as evil on your link tree no that can't be true
00:32:34Brian Atlasthat's subjective subjective you also referred yourself as empress Lucia Luchia Luchia and goddess
00:32:44Brian AtlasLuchia so can you explain the empress and the goddess part I mean it's a title
00:32:52Lucy (Luchia)also also princess fdom princess yes um it's just an honor that everyone in the community uses they pick which one they like I started out as goddess I decided
00:33:04Lucy (Luchia)I wanted to change it up make it Empress I liked the the sound of it and that's about it but do you consider yourself like a a goddess just generally speaking sure
00:33:15Brian Atlasyeah okay um and then also on your Twitter it says I heart exploiting your desires and reving in your tears yeah
00:33:30Andrew Wilsonum just like an essay on how to write I'm an awful human being sure if that's everything that's stated here it's a kink question do you enjoy like the
00:33:42Lucy (Luchia)money aspect of it or do you genly enjoy what you do I enjoy the money aspect of it and I think it's funny like I think it's fun I have a great time doing it I mean all my friends get a good laugh out of it I get a good laugh out of it and
00:33:55Lucy (Luchia)there's days where I'm having a bad day and my subject just wants to punch himself in the balls you enjoy watching that though it's funny yeah when you say you get a laugh out of it what do you mean like like when they laugh at them when they do
00:34:08Lucy (Luchia)humiliation stuff yeah it's funny and they they encourage me to laugh at them they love my my laugh mhm okay well we can come back to some of that stuff yeah let's get to the other girls I don't
00:34:19Courtney / Rihannawant to take up all this time uh what's your relationship status uh my relationship status is single I've been single for a little over a month month and my longest
00:34:30Courtney / Rihannarelationship uh I've had a few that were like right around a year okay and you said you've been single for about a month yes who ended it I did why um he
00:34:42Courtney / Rihannayelled at me in a store we had been dating for a few months and um that was like the I think there was a couple red flags actually that I like
00:34:53Courtney / Rihannawas kind of letting go and then at that point I was like uh I don't deserve this kind of treatment so I was just like uh I think we should go our separate
00:35:02Courtney / Rihannaways and how long had you guys been together just um like 3 and 1 half months okay yeah and he yelled at you in the store yeah what uh what happened so
00:35:14Courtney / Rihannawe were like we were going on uh a camping trip to Grand Teton National Park we're running a half marathon so we were like splitting the cost of everything you know like oh I'll buy this gas you buy that gas like let's
00:35:26Courtney / Rihannasplit the groceries and he had lost his job and then was like tight on money but I'm also tight on money as a business owner and so like money I think was a stressor and then he
00:35:38Courtney / Rihannahad owed me money from like whatever the last transaction was and so then he was like oh um I just want to make sure that you're going to spend exactly like $12 like 12 including tax not excluding tax and was like penny pinching me and then
00:35:51Courtney / Rihannait annoyed me because I was just like well if we've been on this whole trip and like not paying attention to cents and dollars like why are you doing this I was like if I if if money is that big of an issue we should have just bought our own separate things and then we like got to
00:36:04Courtney / Rihannathe checkout line and he was like doing two orders so I was just confused I like wait why are you doing two different orders and then he was just like oh you are so unhealthy I can't even believe how unhealthy you are and like there was this little seven-year-old behind us and I was like this is really embarrassing
00:36:16Courtney / Rihannayou don't even know me well enough to yell at me and so unhealthy yeah that's what he yelled the [ __ ] does that mean unhealthy I don't know but I took it as a sign that he was unhealthy because of he's Young at me like sounds like some
00:36:28Courtney / Rihanna[ __ ] liberal [ __ ] yeah oh sorry yeah so then yeah it was like embarrassing and awkward and I was just like um I just got out of a relationship with like not just but my
00:36:41Courtney / Rihannalast relationship it was like very reminiscent of what I was in when I was 25 and so then I was like oh I'm just thank you so
00:36:52Anyiayeah okay all right yeah what about you right now I'm single like for 6 months or six months yeah and my longest
00:37:03Anyiarelationship was 1 and a half years I guess okay yeah have you met any uh guys here in Santa Barbara any not yet because I arrived
00:37:14Brian Atlastwo days ago and still new yeah and you're only here for two weeks yeah okay so yeah and then you're you're going back to Europe or you staying in California for a bit back to Europe okay
00:37:25Nataliegot it what about you uh I'm single and I haven't been in an actual relationship really I mean like two days but I don't I don't really count that days so um but
00:37:37Brian Atlasyou have um maybe had short term with the guy yeah short term so what's the longest period of time that you've had any anything with a
00:37:48Brian Atlasguy like you met him and then you guys were hooking up or whatever it was then you stopped talking probably like four or five months four 5 months okay yeah I
00:38:00Brian Atlasthink and would you call that friends with benefit situationship situ not even situationship just like no like really
00:38:11Natalielike I don't know talking is talking stage of a situation ship talking yeah sure situationship situationship yeah okay all right and what about you I'm
00:38:22Graciesingle have been for about 8 months and my longest relationship was 6 months all right 6 months and the six-month one is that the
00:38:32Gracieone that ended eight months ago yes who ended it um it's kind of confusing because I initiated it maybe like three
00:38:42Graciemonths in and then we had a discussion it happened on New Year's Eve and it just it ended amicably at first and then just kind of
00:38:53Gracielike blew up after that but it was it ended fine we just don't no longer speak something blew up yeah I what was the blow up out of
00:39:04Gracierespect for him I don't really want to go into details of it because it does have to do with like his own mental health that I I thought that I understood
00:39:15Gracieand it definitely put a damper on our entire relationship but in the very like
00:39:22Kwanlast moments of it it just def like sure ended it what about you so I'm currently single um I've been single for 4 years
00:39:34KwanI've been celebate for 2 and a half and I am dating on and off my longest relationship is was a year and a half and you said you've been celibate for
00:39:44Andrew Wilson2.5 years mhm okay mhm congratulations uh okay was that a faith-based or personal decision for some other reason it's a it was it
00:39:55Kwanstarted off personal cuz I would say that a lot of people Define celibacy differently like a lot of people will say that they don't even want to like masturbate things like that um I just did it because I just don't see a point
00:40:07Kwanof a guy touching on my body in a sexual way if we're not together I I personally I just don't see a point of that like what am I really getting out of that so you're not waiting necessarily for marriage but for a committed relationship it has to be a commitment a committed relationship yeah it doesn't have to necessarily be marriage I don't
00:40:20Kwaneven think I could wait that long like like if I'm attracted to the guy and where actually he met my parents and everything I don't think I could wait that long I don't think you should well it it it it depends it
00:40:33Kwandepends I'm saying that now but who knows I might want to decide to wait till marriage but it depends but I'm definitely I'm not doing anything okay outside of a committed relationship yeah nope okay I don't see a
00:40:44Brian Atlaspoint all right um we're going to get into some of the pre-show notes here so I think actually before that I know
00:40:54Brian Atlassome of you um may not have watched show prior to your appearance but for those of you who have any uh disagreements from anybody maybe you've seen the show
00:41:04Brian Atlasmaybe you've seen Clips uh why don't we start there if you have any disagreements oh I love that with the show itself with like you or either something I've said something Andrew
00:41:17Brian Atlassaid or the show the show's format anything in regards any criticisms anything with this with this podcast in particular no I agree no not that I seen I mean and I watch a
00:41:28Andrew Wilsonlot of your videos PR you surprised by that no well she said she said this podcast in particular which makes me think other podcasts if it's type she'd have criticisms for yes of course okay I
00:41:40Brian Atlasdon't agree with everything there so many there's a lot yeah H okay um let me see where we can start off then actually there's a maybe we'll
00:41:52Brian Atlasjust go this we have a news article from The New York Times Nick if you could pull that up the dating woses of Ukrainian
00:42:01Brian Atlaswomen um War shatters the dating scene for women in Ukraine while The Pursuit Of Love might seem secondary to dealing with the horrors and privations of the
00:42:12Brian Atlaswar many ukrainians say they need romantic relationships to help them cope Nick can you scroll down a little bit all right there's some uh woman
00:42:24Brian Atlassmokes a hookah at forage night Club in Kiev last month many women in Ukraine say they have a difficult time meeting men now because of the
00:42:34Brian AtlasWar uh Men At War women most affected of course um for the past two and a half years Karina blah blah blah wanted to meet someone special but War always gets
00:42:45Brian Atlasin the way how is this not this must be ironic there's no way that okay she met a soldier I don't think it is but then he she met a soldier but then he was sent to the front
00:42:57Brian Atlasshe traded text messages with another man but those fizzled out because he was in no mood to meet fearing he might soon be drafted on the dating app Bumble she liked the looks of a hipster but when
00:43:09Brian Atlasshe scrolled through his photographs she noticed his amputated leg I looked at his profile for 15 minutes and I felt so sorry for him Miss Barna 35 a marketing
00:43:20Brian Atlasdirector for clothing brand in Kiev can you scroll down said in an interview she wondered if she could handle a relationship with a maimed War veteran
00:43:30Brian Atlasyeah tough what that's hard for her then she swipes left removing him from potential matches I feel I'm not ready for that scroll
00:43:41Brian Atlasdown uh Russia's full scale Invasion has upended nearly every facet of daily life in Ukraine okay scroll down is there
00:43:50Brian Atlasmore people you scroll down scroll down oh okay well whatever I think we get the gist of it um so what are your guys's reaction to that
00:44:02Kwanis it is the hard there for the Ukrainian women do you feel for the Ukrainian women that they're struggling to date because of the war don't you have like bigger issues yeah I just about to say to be quite honest I can care less about what's going on this
00:44:15Kwanmight be sound bad but in other countries if we're not where we need to be out here in the US I really don't care what's going on with anyone else sorry well not really the question
00:44:25Andrew Wilsonbut um that even with dating I honestly don't care about what their dating life is going on out there in Ukraine or Russia I don't care but you could assume I guess the point of the of him reading
00:44:37Andrew Wilsonthe article is cuz I agree with you but you can assume that if there was a war where the United States had a draft that women could be set in the same situation that they are in the Ukraine so if we were to kind of take this and
00:44:51Andrew Wilsonhypothetically map it on to the United States and Brian saying should we really feel all that bad for the the women who are suffering privation the fact that their men are
00:45:03Andrew Wilsonoff fighting a war mostly on their behalf that's that I I think that's what you're getting across here right a little bit I mean he should have just
00:45:12Courtney / Rihannadone a shot from the waist up and catfished I feel like if the women if that's like any representation of how the the women are going to be I don't
00:45:23Andrew Wilsonknow just spring the amputated leg on them I mean there's worst things that have happened with a catfish why not you know yeah well what she could do is she could show up with a cane and then just
00:45:34Andrew Wilsonsay like you have a war wound right yeah and so that's why you kind of walk this way you don't have to actually tell them what the wound that's that's what you're saying yeah yeah I mean they you don't know at dinner you just take a leg off I
00:45:47Courtney / Rihannamean hey it would make for an interesting and memorable date that's for sure but no I don't feel bad for women for being horn and not getting it like cuz at the end
00:45:59Kwanof the day it's the men that are really struggling what is she she she just doesn't have anyone by her side big whoop these guys are literally dying to pay for her own meal okay oh my gosh you know what's more risky than starting a
00:46:11Brian Atlasrelationship with a soldier being a soldier being a soldier he's more at risk than she is H
00:46:22Brian Atlasthese poor women can't get laid because men are dying on the front Dam so hard it's hard out there for those Ukrainian women um hard out there um anyways I just thought that was I saw that today
00:46:36Brian Atlasthought it was interesting um yeah men being forced to become meat Shields dying in Ukraine dating scene for women most affected oh God H okay let me read these chats
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00:46:59Courtney / Rihannafor the 3400 Turkish currency it's called Turkish lra I think it's called okay I think that's what it is go ahead if you want to read it here to support the show
00:47:11Courtney / RihannaMostly an addition raising three daughters right now and it's damn hard with so many skanky internet influencers and [ __ ] information spreading around missed the times when we would go
00:47:22Brian Atlasto our parents for the truth Salam from Turkey hey thank you man appreciate you watching all the way from uh turkey man thank you thank you then we have another
00:47:32Courtney / Rihannaone from order 55 also congrats on the three daughters yeah uh I bet red would try to Swindle elderly people in a
00:47:42Courtney / Rihannahospice if it meant her getting a Payday you're sick go ahead roll your eyes and keep justifying your evil again it's a kink it it's a evil Kink I'm not even going to lie watching guys like punch
00:47:55Kwantheir balls and you're just like whoa like I think I don't say wo I just laugh I know but that's insane laughing wait you just what I don't say wo I just laugh okay and then uh also guys just a reminder I know
00:48:08Brian Atlasyou're sending some of these in Via Super Chat still appreciate it I we do recommend doing it via streamlabs that way YouTube doesn't take their brutal 30% cut but thank you guys really appreciate it guys like the video if
00:48:18Brian Atlasyou're enjoying the show so far now I do want to get into some of the pre-show
00:48:25Brian Atlasnotes here so uh let's see we have uh why we start
00:48:35Brian Atlaswith Natalie yes uh so you're 61 yes and you said you recently lost almost 70 lbs on a similar drug to OIC yeah OIC and
00:48:48Brian Atlasyou'd love to talk about your experience with how you were treated with men before and after the weight loss the 70 lbs uh so yeah why don't you tell us about that uh I'd like to clarify first
00:48:59Natalieno well it's like OIC it's a go1 and two but it's for um insulin resistant PCOS so not just for weight loss but but it makes you lose your appetite essentially no I mean I'm on the lowest dosage so
00:49:11Natalie2.5 milligrams which is like the starting dose it doesn't really like I eat very normally so yeah not really um most yeah but if you're eating above what normally would be and you take that
00:49:23Nataliedrug does it put your appetite down to what you would now consider normal to be um I was eating normally before too okay so it wasn't like um I didn't take it to
00:49:33Natalielose weight I took it for the PCOS and insulin resistance okay yeah gotcha what was the question sorry your before and after experience oh before and after
00:49:42Nataliesorry um yeah I mean before I feel like a lot of it was a lot of male attention that I would get was more from like kind
00:49:52Natalieof like in a gross like way like more I feel like was easier to be sexualized when I was bigger than now which is something I find like surprising I think
00:50:04Natalienow the like quality of guys is a lot better I would say you were sexualized more when you were heavier yes like cuz usually the people that it would attract
00:50:14Nataliewere more like were what what were they older and like grosser older and grosser I think the audience knows what I'm okay I'm sorry
00:50:25Andrew Wilsonthey weren't buff chisel Chads no they were not yeah I mean so if you had the buff chisel Chad who approaches you versus this the other type of guy approached you even if they had the same
00:50:37Andrew Wilsonline wouldn't one just still appear to be icky from your perspective versus the other both would be icky it depends what they pull like what they're trying what do they say I don't know just like something gross pretty or something like that or beautiful or whatever the [ __ ]
00:50:50Natalieit is they say I don't know what the [ __ ] they say I mean sure thank you like if it's something if it's something gross then it's just as weird from both sides I feel like so did just the more
00:51:00Natalieunattractive guys just have worse pickup lines no I'm not saying that at all what I was saying is before when I was like overweight it just seemed that majority of the guys that came up to me were more
00:51:10Natalielike coming straight off of from like a sexual value and that was it like not from like getting to know me kind of perspective and I don't know if that's a difference from me being more confident now and how I hold myself or if that's
00:51:22Andrew Wilsonfrom actual appearance Bas wise not because one one subset of those guys just kind of gives you the ick and the other one doesn't well no because it can you don't think that plays into it at all well like I feel like I mean a lot
00:51:34Natalieof what I could say is that like the guys even say it's like what did you say chiseled Chad if they give me this like a gross pickup line I'm still going to think it's gross yeah right but what I don't understand is I wouldn't think that
00:51:45Andrew Wilsonthere would be a variant in um like a a more unattractive guy versus a more overly attractive guy in the way that they would approach a woman what would be the
00:51:57Andrew Wilsonthere exactly in the way like what makes one creepy over the other one is what they say what they say yeah well what would they say I don't know I've gotten a lot this
00:52:07Gracieis more based off height like can I climb that tree like I think that one's gross I don't like that one I think more so what she's referring to is the quality of a relationship that a guy is
00:52:19Gracielooking for when they approach her and having seen it like personally from other people in my life I think that it
00:52:26Gracieboils down to guys seeing particularly older girls like physically as not relationship material
00:52:37Andrew Wilsonor not taking them as seriously as small they just want bang basically she articulated that way well yeah okay is there anything actually wrong with that though uh not
00:52:49Brian Atlasnecessarily it's just not what I was looking for now or then so yeah h i mean it makes sense you got more attractive right you got better
00:53:01Natalietreatment from the opposite sex I think just yeah better treatment from society in general too I think people are a lot nicer to you after you've lost weight but yeah that's just my personal experience I mean it could be different
00:53:12Kwanfor everybody no it's true yeah cuz let's be real a lot of the times when we look at someone that's physically fit we're like oh wow they look great I wonder what they did to get to that to get to that to how they look they look fantastic you look at someone that's
00:53:24Kwanoverweight you're like uh I mean of times when we look at someone that's overweight we don't look at them like wow they look great we just don't a lot of people say they look great but you wouldn't want to look like that person
00:53:33Kwanyou know you wouldn't it's just what it is 100% agree just like a nice lie basically what you're saying yeah it's just a nice lie and it's just like you I mean unless they ask you for your opinion you don't have to say anything about how they look physically but if
00:53:47Andrew Wilsonthey ask you for your opinion I mean be you can be honest and I don't think that's inherently a bad thing mm yeah okay um I had a guy tell me to
00:53:57Andrew Wilsonshave my arms once oh no I saw that it's probably did you did you yeah did I shave my arms I did not no he wanted me to show him my stomach
00:54:08Brian Atlastoo which was also weird is this on stream or in person no yeah kill of Serial like canas I don't want to ask I only get one for panel what is your most embarrassing moment on sorry let me get
00:54:20Brian Atlasthat pulled back up here real quick what is your most embarrassing moment on the date of romantic encounter or describe your ideal perfect man in detail Brian you can pick uh I think
00:54:31Brian AtlasI'll go with the second one so describe your ideal perfect man in detail but also try not to try to keep it relatively brief if you can go ahead so that it just describe your ideal man
00:54:44Courtney / Rihannayeah by the way do you have heterochromia I do yeah partial though right yeah yeah go ahead um you didn't use your lesbian joke I know yeah you're right I should have uh had lesbian
00:54:56Courtney / Rihannapeople people ask me if I've had a r Chromo I'm just like no I'm bisexual I like it it's good thank you um my ideal man I guess I would have to like describe my boyfriend right isn't
00:55:08Courtney / Rihannathat what I should do so I like a bald guy 59 blue eyes um yeah I mean I feel like I'm with a really great guy uh that's what he looks like he's uh really
00:55:20Courtney / Rihannasupportive and are we describing physical feutures or maybe maybe couple physical personality traits um he's a musician which is cool to be with
00:55:30Courtney / Rihannasomeone also in a creative um like area I sing that's kind of how we met um through musical comedy um but yeah he's
00:55:40Courtney / Rihannalike got a great work ethic um very honest someone who stands by his values and lives up to them um yeah and I think