She BETRAYED Brian?! Gen Z California College Girls! She Says Men Are GROSS?! | Dating Talk #257

Date: 2025-08-25

Duration: 6h 22m

Guests

Brian Atlas

LLexi (Escort)>

KKayla (Addiction)>

Identified Speakers

SPEAKER_01Brian Atlas(host)

SPEAKER_02Solo(guest)

SPEAKER_03Bella (BB)(guest)

SPEAKER_05Cena(guest)

SPEAKER_06Sativa(guest)

SPEAKER_09Lexi (Escort)(guest)

SPEAKER_10Kayla (Addiction)(guest)

SPEAKER_11Ava (Sushi)(guest)

SPEAKER_12Felicity(guest)

Key Moments

IntroAll guests introduced

Key MomentAva: stalker climbed balcony and broke into apartment at 2:30 AM

Key MomentBrian calls Cena's breast implants a 'betrayal' — title reference

QuoteLexi gives body count as 'the number of pi' repeatedly throughout show

Topics Discussed

Guest Introductions

Including escort Lexi, former alcoholic Ava (18, sober 2 years), and returning Cena/Sativa.

Plastic Surgery Debate

Brian: would ban surgery as dictator. Extended panel debate.

Cena Betrayal (Breast Implants)

Brian calls out Cena for getting implants after he told her not to — title reference.

Hypergamy/Dating Apps

Average women pursue above-league men who won't commit.

Feminism/Wage Gap

Brian defines feminism as women's advocacy with anti-male rhetoric.

Trans Athletes Debate

Broad consensus trans women should not compete in women's sports.

Transcript

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Brian Atlasespecially in front of a girlfriend. I don't think it's a good idea. Don't think it's a good idea. Now, sometimes it's inevitable, but I do think it is the case that often times women lose

Sativaattraction for their partner when the man is vulnerable. >> I think it depends on the level. Yeah, that's for immature women. If you're as even as a woman, if you can't handle

Sativajust hearing a man's point of thought, that's like a a you thing. Like, you got to at least be open to hearing your partner out. I think >> I think even a very emotionally

Brian Atlasintelligent woman might run into something that just innately regardless of your level of intelligence or IQ or EQ. You're going to witness a level of vulnerability in your partner that will give you

Brian Atlas>> if you're not able to manage it >> the if you're not. >> Now, let me give you an example here. >> I maybe I should How do I preface this? Uh has anybody here been dating a guy

Ava (Sushi)and he got beat up like in a fight? I >> Oh my god. I would have to >> have to what? >> Say it. Say it. >> Um, no. I thought about it and then I

Brian Atlaschanged my mind. >> Well, your your knee-jerk reaction was just even picturing it your in your head, it sounds like you're going to say >> break up with the guy. >> What was his idiot self doing that got him beat up? Like don't start a fight

Ava (Sushi)that >> maybe he didn't start it. >> Okay. Okay. Well, if it was just like he got jumped >> like he got jumped by like random people, I would not be >> Let's say it's a one v one. >> Oh my god. >> But I even even in that circumstance

Brian Atlas>> and he started the fight. >> Even in that circumstance, I do think that not all women, but some women will look at their boyfriend in this vulnerable state. >> Yeah. But that's a them problem, not a

Ava (Sushi)that not a problem that makes it so that men should act any certain way. That's that's that's a I'm a good >> I would say men should heir on the side

Brian Atlasof >> just keep that [ __ ] to yourself. >> That's the problem. You're the problem. I'm speaking >> about about vulnerability generally

Brian Atlasabout vulnerability. If you want to like go whine to your girlfriend like for I don't know about >> y'all but I I've >> no I love it. Tell me I've gone through a lot of difficult things in my life.

Brian Atlasmany difficult things. It's never even a girl I've been with for a long period of time. It's never occurred to me to sit down unless it comes up organically somehow in conversation to be like,

Lexi (Escort)"Okay, here's all the bad things that have happened to me." If but if I care are supposed to but if I care about you as a person I would want to know how your day is going, how are you sleeping?

Brian AtlasWhat's keeping you up at night? What like you know I want to know you as a person. >> So I could have the most terrible day ever and if my girlfriend asks me about it >> I just be like it was good. >> That's terrible. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

Brian AtlasAre you single? >> Let's all apologize. >> Yeah. That's why you're single. We're sorry. >> That's why you're single. How many relationships? No, but I don't look there's been a lot of serious upsetting. Sometimes I'll tell her that's upsetting

Lexi (Escort)anecdotes. >> No girl wants to be with you just to hear you. I want you like on my lap. Tell me about your day while I >> I think that you're confusing like just

Bella (BB)like trauma dumping your day and then like communicating how you're feeling so that your partner can be aware of that and adjust. if you're coming home. Sometimes you just want a hug or just to be quiet. >> We're going to let this come through. >> Hasty George donated $200.

SPEAKER_00>> Thank you, man. Appreciate it. >> In Canada, residential school survivors had no resources for mental health. There are finally resources today, but First Nations women do far better in

Brian Atlastherapy than First Nations men. >> So, going back to my point here really quick, Pacy George, thank for the TTS. Much appreciated, man. Thank you for the By the way, guys, reminder, uh, super chats are busted. So, you have to send

Brian Atlasit through Streamlabs. Streamlabs.com/w whatever. This comes back to the rumination thing. And to be clear, sometimes, like if some [ __ ] you know, is going on, whatever, I might

Brian Atlasmight relay it to the girl I'm dating. But overall, generally speaking, even if I have a shitty day or there's some [ __ ] I could relate to her, most of the time, I'm just like, "Yeah, I'd rather not ruminate about it. I'd rather

Bella (BB)not have to explain it again." >> But isn't you saying that I'm pretty sure that Wait, you go. I was just gonna say, isn't you like letting her know that that enough is still expressing your feelings so that she can be aware that you had something happen that day,

Brian Atlaswhether you want to talk about it or not, so that she can cater to that. And that's what like >> she should be always catering to that to begin with. >> Talk about agree with that. >> Wait, do you But when you when you have a boyfriend, all you talk about is the

Brian Atlasbad stuff that happens to you. >> No, absolutely not. >> But it's important to What do I talk about? all the stuff that I talk about that you wouldn't otherwise talk about. That's not >> talk about all the stuff that you normally talk about. Plus,

Ava (Sushi)>> hey, this thing happened at work today. If I'm a little grumpy or sad, >> here's a heads up. >> Here's why. >> Here's like, hey, by the way, I had a bad day.

Brian Atlas>> If if I have an anticipation that like it's going to I'm going to be upset when we're hanging out, then perhaps I might be like, "Oh, yeah. I was kind of like, you know, annoying." That's still expressing your feelings because if

Bella (BB)you're able to just do that, Brian, instead of being like >> expressing your feelings doesn't have to be like sobbing on the floor, >> right? Like when I was 8 years old, >> like you can just be like, "Hey, I had a kind of a rough day. Like I'd like wind down."

Bella (BB)>> Simple, sweet, straight. >> That's the default. Wind down's the default. >> That's still expressing your feelings though. Like I think that you think us staying vulnerable and expressing your feelings in your head. I feel like you think that's a guy going up to a girl

Brian Atlasand being like, "I'm dying." But I think it's also okay even if like something bad happened, you can also make a determination of not even wanting to bring it up and just be like, "Yeah, I

Cenadon't need to bring this up. It's not >> affect like would would we say something and provoke you and then would you get mad over it or would you just be like, okay, whatever." >> So, one component that I think is

Brian Atlasimportant in dating and relationships is showing the other person grace. So, I think that it's really uh it can be really bad if you feel like

Brian Atlasyou're walking on eggshells with somebody where every single like microaggression or perceived slight you need to be like, "Oh my god." Like sometime I don't know sometimes you can

Brian Atlasjust let [ __ ] slide in a relationship. Showing grace I think it's important. >> Yeah. But if it was a big thing, like some really big slight, then yeah, I'm probably going to have a conversation with her. But I also think it's okay to show your partner grace.

Lexi (Escort)>> Brian, you're also speaking about yourself. Whereas a lot of men, and we're not talking about you, we're talking about also a lot of other men that come home and like slam doors and like >> in general, not like your emotional feeling towards it. >> Yeah. And like they come home with such

Lexi (Escort)like aggression because they don't want to be vulnerable and be like, "Shit, I had a bad day." Instead, they act out like that. And then whoever they're home with, their partner is like, "Oh, [ __ ] What's wrong?" >> Oh, I don't deal with my problems like that. >> You know, other people, right? >> Just let's lay. It's just like, "Let's

Brian Atlaslay in bed and cuddle." I've never I've never slam a door. >> That's great. >> Can we get the plates? Two pizzas. Two pizzas per plate. >> I just looked behind me and saw those smoothies. >> One paper towel, please, per >> They're hiding the smoothies right now. >> What happens? Smoothies.

Brian Atlas>> I see our >> Do we have the the smoothies? >> Yes. >> Okay. Um, do we have cups on camera >> here, Felicity? I'm going to go back for a sec. Felicity is going to take over so

Brian Atlasyou guys can just pretend she's me. >> Direct your animosity towards Felicity. >> I have to save it. >> What are we talking about?

Bella (BB)>> Men shouldn't express their feelings is what he said. I think that he was saying I think that what he was saying was way too vague cuz he said he just said fully men shouldn't express their feelings, but then he's also saying that he would

Bella (BB)tell his wife or like tell let his girlfriend know if he had a bad day in the case that it would affect his feelings. >> I also know what communication is. >> It's literally just balance. >> I mean, but also like the one thing that >> was like, >> but I just want to take a moment to

Felicityhonor all of you guys cuz you guys are all so smart and beautiful and right back at you. We honor you right back. I mean, I think there's no reason to like dive into things that don't matter that you don't want to talk about. If

Felicityhonestly, if your partner's upset, >> they should tell you, "Hey, I'm upset something happened." They don't really have to tell you every little detail about it. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. But we never like that's >> it doesn't have to get super indepth every time. It's okay.

Solo>> Like to have weird energy and animosity towards like you said someone said slamming doors. That's not okay. >> Yeah. But like as a girlfriend like if I can visually see that like you're hurt and that like you're angry like I'd want to know. Like you can't just move past.

Felicity>> Some men >> they just like to be left alone. >> Well, then they should voice it. >> Yeah, I I agree. I think that if they >> I think voicing that you want to be left alone is telling that's still communicating. That's still communicating.

Felicity>> Yeah. But some people, not even just men really like to get into it and that's totally fine. I'll tell my partner that I don't want to. >> Yeah. Like I just need a little bit of time to process and

Lexi (Escort)>> level out. And then there are women that are like will jump down >> men's throat and be like sit down. You you know those women that will chase a man after a man has been like hey I don't want to talk about this right now.

SativaLet's talk about it later. And then they follow them into the bedroom and then they follow them outside like that. Like attachment styles also. >> Yeah. Or women who get irritated when their man is voicing that they had a bad

Sativaday. I don't think that should always cause it. Like I said, it doesn't have to be super detailed every time, but I think just having that open back and forth communication can help people grow

Felicityso much better. >> Yeah, I agree. I agree. I think um when two people are together, it's a lot of compromising and if one person is more avoidant than the other, you kind

Kayla (Addiction)of have to work around it if you want to work out as a couple. >> Yeah, 100%. >> I will give an example. So, >> if y'all ever heard of Chris Watts, right, the man who did what he did to

Kayla (Addiction)his family, >> it was he was actually silent. Didn't express to his wife how he was feeling. There was text messages of her texting other people. He's distant from me. He has not looked at me. He has not touched me. He's not telling me what's bothering

Kayla (Addiction)him. And next thing you know, it built up to some tragedy. If he would have just said, "Hey, I want a divorce." I'm not saying that that that is that's very a rare circumstance, but it's because silence could be deemed as

Kayla (Addiction)something they're doing something like that's especially women who are I guess are afraid or traumatized or jaded or whatever. They're feeling like, okay, he's being silent. He's not telling me how he feels. He must be cheating on me. I must have did something wrong. not

Kayla (Addiction)every, you know, so that's why it's important to communicate in a way of just because sometimes it does sometimes they are doing something they just don't want to say it because they don't want to hurt your feelings or they know you're just going to have a really bad

Kayla (Addiction)like wreck. I think it took my boyfriend my ex-boyfriend a month to break up with me cuz he was like I don't know how to do it. And I knew something was wrong though because he was distant and silent. He never we used to text all the

Kayla (Addiction)time and he completely stopped texting me and so I was like something's not right and I was like can you just tell me like be honest with me it'll be okay and then he told me and I was like okay I knew something was wrong

Sativa>> now we can move forward just watch the guy that killed his wife and put them in like a at his construction site or something I've never heard of this >> yeah like he killed and wasn't she

Lexi (Escort)pregnant >> she was pregnant I think with a son >> but I feel like also some people have a hard time like like speaking up, you know, and like >> the thing is closed mouths don't get fed and I've

Solo>> learned you're absolutely right and you're not struggling alone cuz mental health is like a big thing >> that Yeah. >> I think it's what you talk about too. Like if you're filling your day with

Solo>> meaningless like whatever like constantly asking what you're doing every 5 seconds, someone's not going to talk to you. Like it doesn't matter if you're a guy or a girl. If someone's harassing, not harassing me, but if someone's like constantly trying to be

Sativain contact with me every single moment of the day, I'm gonna get pissed off and I'm not going to say anything. >> I don't think phones should be as present in relationships as they are >> at all. Yeah, I agree. >> I agree. I would >> I think it should be very open. Like for

Sativame, you could have my passwords. I don't care. I have nothing to hide. I don't mute my notifications. My phone can be up. I like transparency. >> It just makes it easier for me to exist as well. Like if it's just like I feel

Ava (Sushi)like you shouldn't be in touch all the time. Like if I'm hearing everything about your day, then what the hell are we going to talk about when I see you, >> you know? Like I don't want my phone is an extension of me. Like

Felicity>> agree. Like I want my time with you to be time that I value. >> Being on your phone is really just something we do as like a filler. Like if you're bored, you just go on it. But like >> you don't have a phone.

Solo>> I don't know. I feel more productive when I don't have a my phone. And on my phone, >> conversations are so much more meaningful in person, too. I know >> they are. I want to see your expression.

SoloLook at me. >> So, trying to talk to someone about everything on the phone 24/7, it just gets annoying. And it's like, I don't want to see you if you're doing that. >> Especially through text. >> Yeah.

Bella (BB)>> Monotone. >> Like, just call me like once a day. That's cool. You don't have to text me every like 5 minutes. >> I've actually had guys get like upset with me. Oh, one texting, calling,

Felicitysnapping back. And to me, it's like >> like that really like it's just >> it just means nothing. Like, yo, what you doing? >> Pull up. >> I have a question. So, if you're in a relationship or if you're already in a

Felicityrelationship, ideally, how many times a week would you like to see your partner? >> Are you living or are you >> like right now? Like your life right now?

Bella (BB)>> Okay. I'm >> honestly as much as possible cuz my like our life right now for sure for us is filled with work, school, and uh friends like time for friends. So whatever space is in between that would be for for a

Sativapartner. >> I'm in a longdistance relationship. We live like 12 hours apart and have a 1 hour time difference, too. But we definitely make it work. But it takes a

Sativalot of open communication back and forth and like being okay with almost each of us having some slight insecurity, especially being at a distance and being open. It's totally valid.

Sativa>> Yeah. But I'm also, again, I'm also 30 and he's 28, so it's just we're a little bit older, so it's a little bit easier to like hold ourselves accountable in communication. >> I think it completely depends on the

Solopeople. >> Like I'm a pretty independent person. Obviously, like I want to see you, but like if I'm going through stuff, I'm not going to want to see you like every day. I'm not going to be like, "Oh my god,

Sololet's hang out after I had three doctor's appointments and an interview." Like, no, I'm going to want to go a little bit. I'm going to want to rest. >> I'm different. Hug me, please. Like, hug me. >> No, me too. If I actually really like

Sativathe guy >> 247. >> Um, well, we both kind we both work for ourselves. >> So, it's actually allowed a lot of flexibility. >> Do you want us to start

Sativa>> guys? One at a time, please. >> Um, so we see each other almost like once a month to every other month. So, it's still pretty awesome. It's still pretty often. Um, he's supposed to

Sativaactually come visit me next month. So, a >> Have you ever lived close to each other? No, we actually met on Facebook dating and he thought I was a fake profile. So, it's kind of funny. >> That has to be some kind of compliment.

Sativa>> What' you say? >> That has to be some kind of compliment. >> Yeah. That he thought I was Yeah. Yeah. And I have like a big social media platform and he actually followed me on my platform. So, he didn't think that I was the same person.

Sativa>> Oh, wow. >> So, he we exchanged numbers and I sent him a video saying my name and he's like, "Oh." And I was like, "Yeah." And then we just never stopped talking since. So >> Devon Jackson donated $200.

SPEAKER_00>> Thank you, man. >> All of you would be so annoying to date. You all absolutely just fish for stuff to bring up in the next argument. And none of you are expressing e shaming Brian the second he leaves. >> Oh, >> hey,

Ava (Sushi)>> what did I miss? >> Brian takes over the conversation. It's pretty hard to talk [ __ ] when he's right. >> What? >> He just is taking up the rest of the talking. I'm the host of the >> exactly. So why are we Of course we're talking about

Bella (BB)I don't get it. >> What are they? He's probably talking about me >> cuz like he's probably talking about me cuz when you over there I like was talking to her as if I was talking to you like you said to do. So I was like continuing the conversation. >> I was just I was just saying that cuz we

Sativawere talking about the whole like um expressing your feelings. >> What was the shaming though? He says you guys were shaming me. >> There was a small shaming. I was just further. >> He's fishing. That guy was fishing.

Brian Atlas>> Here, can you just move your microphone back to where it was, please? >> All right. Thank you, uh, Dave Jackson for the TTS. Really appreciate it. Thank you. Thank you. All right. We have Cherry Creams

Brian Atlashere. So, if I almost died on the job and you almost got fired, who had the worst day, would you accept my bad day or make it about yourself? Is this directed at somebody? I don't know. I was gone. >> What? Wait.

Brian AtlasHey, can we only have one person back there, please, at a time? Can you guys get >> get that figured out? Um, >> what did I say?

Bella (BB)>> So, >> this pizza is pretty good. >> I'm so content and happy right now eating the pizza. >> If I almost died on the job and you almost got >> so happy. >> Who had the worst? Probably the person who died on the job. >> Who almost died? >> Yeah. >> Mhm.

SPEAKER_04>> Like, what the >> Or would you make it about yourself? Yeah, someone said that. >> Oh, >> there will be some people who would make it a bad day. >> Do you guys want to answer this? >> Wait, let me read it again. So, >> of course, we would accept your bad day. You almost died.

Solo>> Yeah, let's just hug each other again. >> I mean, I guess. Well, I think like obviously one had a worse day, but you should acknowledge the worst day as well. >> Like once they're okay, of course. >> Like you could joke about it. You be

Sativalike, "Oh yeah, my day was like >> I got I got fired too." Like dang, we it's bad for both of us today. like let's almost like put all the outside stuff to rest and just focus on each other right now.

SPEAKER_00>> Just let her do it at the table. Um, okay. [Music] >> Hasty George donated. >> Yo, thank you George. Appreciate it. >> Are these women serious? Women trauma

SPEAKER_00dump all the time when they are not talking nonsense non-stop in their boyfriend's ear, whether it be from everyday life or past experiences. Neatards. >> I don't relate to that at all. Me

Brian Atlaseither. >> I actually don't tell anyone anything. So, >> kind of same. >> You know what's interesting though? When I was asking about if you saw your boyfriend get get beat up, this is a

Brian Atlasphenomenon that you witness in relationships and with women. Doesn't really go the reverse is this ick factor. So, there's this famous clip of this woman who was on the Joe Rogan

Brian Atlaspodcast, and she was describing how her boyfriend, who is a professional MMA fighter, got knocked out during one of his Oops. got knocked out during one of his fights. And even that, even though

Brian Atlasit was like, you know, a professional fight bout, he got knocked out. Somebody gets somebody loses the fight. Somebody gets knocked out.

Brian AtlasShe dumped him shortly after and she sided. She sided because she lost attraction for him because he got knocked out. He was put in a vulnerable position. So I think this idea that men

Brian Atlasshould be vulnerable in front of women. Look, I guess I'm I'm not saying all women are heartless creatures, but what I am saying is there is perhaps some degree of maybe not for all women innate

Brian Atlasrepulsion to male weakness or male vulnerability that y'all are going to lose attraction for your partner if you see him acting in such a way or in such a position.

Sativa>> Yeah. I would say I I dated one guy before where like >> I was always defending myself if something happened like there was and this is like a super specific situation

Sativabut we were at the laundry mat before I had like my current place now and this random guy was trying to take my cart and I'm trying to keep my cart and I was the one who like that moment I definitely felt unattracted and the

Sativasimple fact is you he should have just said hey this is our you know so I I get that but I think the example example you use. She's a heartless woman for sure. >> Yeah. For I want to say for me, I can

Bella (BB)totally agree with the fact that um men being weak is a huge turnoff in regards to protecting >> Yeah. >> me. >> Yeah. >> Not like like if he like if I was dating a boy and I wasn't even with him and he

Bella (BB)got home and was like, I just got a fight and I lost. I'd be like a like it wouldn't me out. But like I have actually been in a situation where I was punched by a man. like fully punched by

Bella (BB)a stranger, mind you, in the side of the neck, the rib cage, and my arm. And my boyfriend at the time was right there and he did not I like fully got knocked out and he didn't do anything. And then

Bella (BB)apparently somebody recorded it and when I watched back the footage um after the boy punched me, he was like, "Oh [ __ ] now I feel bad." And then my boyfriend was like, "Oh, it's okay." And then he told me the next day that it was only

Brian Atlasbecause he wanted to check on me instead of get mad at the guy. And I was just like, you are insane. >> Can I ask a couple questions about the details of what happened there? Um, so he hit you hard. You said he hit you in

Brian Atlasthe neck and in the side. >> Mhm. >> Was he just walked up to you and did that? Were you guys talking? What What was the story? >> It's a pretty long story. >> Give us the short version.

Bella (BB)>> Okay. Wait, let me do this. Okay, so basically I was at a party with all my friend group. This is the most recent relationship, by the way. Um, so yeah, me and him went to this party

Bella (BB)together and our ride basically canceled on us. Like when we got back to the car, the friend we were supposed to go with already had like a full car. It was basically like, oh, sorry, you're stranded. And so then this super drunk

Bella (BB)guy came up and was like, hey, I'm too drunk to drive my car, but I have a car. Are either of you sober? And he was like, oh yeah, I am. so he could drive. And then basically on the walk to the car, this guy was just like saying like

Bella (BB)a lot of misogynistic things like, "You're a woman. You can't drive. You're a woman. You can't talk. You're a woman. You can't do this. You can't do that." And I was just like just totally rage baiting me. And I was just like like, "You don't even know this guy. Like there's no reason to fight for your

Bella (BB)standpoint." And then he was basically saying like, "Oh, I'm a be like." And then later later on that night after I was drunk and he got more drunk then he like that happened.

Brian Atlas>> Okay. Um so that happened and your boyfriend didn't do anything. >> Nothing. >> Okay. >> Actually yeah. No. >> Was your uh question. Was this guy large in size? >> The guy who hit me?

Bella (BB)>> No. >> Smaller than your boyfriend? >> Yes. >> Oh, >> okay. >> 100%. My ex is 63, 6'2 or three. >> And he's not like super buff, but like he's like a strong looking guy kind of athlete.

Brian Atlas>> No, >> but tall. >> Tall. >> He has like the arm length to like win. I feel like >> So he saw you and you've been dating for how long? Two years. Was this the 2-year relationship? >> Oh, no. I'm not with him anymore.

Brian Atlas>> Well, when you were dating him, it was a 2-year relationship. >> No, no, no. Like like like a >> We're sorry. Two years. >> Under a year. first boyfriend was >> How long had you been seeing him? >> Under a year. A little under a year

Bella (BB)>> when this happened. Okay. >> Oh, no. At the time. >> Maybe like 6 months. >> 6 months. >> Yes, I did.

Brian Atlas>> Never again. >> Yeah, I know. >> Mm- >> Yeah, that was bad. >> So, he did nothing. >> He did nothing. That's a pretty >> I mean I could

Brian Atlas>> the only scenario I could understand that [ __ ] a little bit is if it's like a giant like imagine you're with your girl and like Mike Tyson does some [ __ ] >> Picture a picture like >> I'm just going to accept the breakup.

Bella (BB)Like you got to dump me. You got to dump me. I'm sorry. I'm not >> You're not even going to try. >> Imagine >> No, I'm not going to [ __ ] fight Mike Tyson. >> It was like a picture like an incoming like soccer player senior boy who's like maybe 5'9. >> Oh yeah.

Bella (BB)>> Oh my god. Are you >> That's it. That's not even a what are you doing? You're like nothing. >> He saw it. >> He's really >> like Did you get knocked down? >> Yes. >> You got knocked down? >> I got hit here and immediately started

Bella (BB)falling forward. And then I got >> Can you show us the punch? Like he threw >> He wound up and threw a punch. >> Oh my god. >> A full-blown >> Wait, were there other guys around too? >> It was like It was like We used to have like parties at like parks and stuff.

Bella (BB)Not like actual parties. just like we like made up to hang out there. >> Yeah. >> And it was more like around the grass. So like there were definitely people there but nobody saw it when it happened. >> Okay. >> Other than your boyfriend. >> Other than my boyfriend and the girl who recorded it. >> Even I would have

Brian Atlas>> She record Wait, you got to actually No, we probably can't show the fight video on YouTube. But >> damn. >> No, it was it was really bad. >> What if you just >> But I got to bully him. >> I'll watch it. >> You got to what? >> I I got to bully him. >> Bully >> like I had something really great

Brian Atlasagainst him. Like when we'd fight and stuff, I'd be like, "Okay, well, you let me get punched, so you're a [ __ ] Yikes. Okay. Um, but it wasn't an issue for you at the time that he didn't do anything.

Bella (BB)>> Yeah. Like that's what I mean. Like he didn't do anything in my defense. So that to me was icky. >> So yeah, you just totally reminded me where I was where what the whole purpose of that was. >> If a guy is like showing signs of

Sativaweakness and it has nothing to do with me, totally not an ick in my opinion. >> Yeah. >> Um, but if it has something to do with me, it's like ew. >> It's that protection stuff. like if you can't protect me, how can I expect you

Sativato protect our household financially as well as physically and stuff like that? So >> yeah. >> Yeah. I got to feel like safe. I feel like for >> Exactly.

Ava (Sushi)>> I think a lot of girls do, >> but I think so like I think that there like for me like I feel like biologic Sorry. >> It's okay. Go ahead. >> My bad. >> You don't need to apologize. >> Like biologically I think that like

Brian Atlaswomen >> here. >> Yeah. So move the mic this way. Just move scoot then the whole mic over >> and then straighten this so it's straight. >> Straighten it so it's Oh, >> there you go. Go ahead. >> All right. >> You're good. It's okay. Don't worry.

Ava (Sushi)Just go ahead. >> So I think biologically like women probably want men to be strong, act strong, look strong just because like >> evolution.

Ava (Sushi)>> But I agree. I don't think it's like >> if it's not about you. But at the same time, if it's about if it's it has nothing to do with me, but like you

Ava (Sushi)like, okay, if you get into a fight and you lose and it's like kind of funny and you come home and you're like kind of drunk and you're like, "Dude, I started a fight

Ava (Sushi)and I like I lost. I'll laugh with you." Like, it's okay. But if it's like >> you're super buttth hurt about something that you were really like I think it's unattractive to like have no control of

Ava (Sushi)your emotions and then especially if that no control of your emotions and you start to fight someone ends badly and then you're still butt hurt about it. That's incredibly unattractive. But also

Ava (Sushi)if you can't like protect yourself then how can you protect me >> in like some ways? And I think that that's just like another biological thing. But I also don't like, if you

SPEAKER_00really think about it, I >> Hasty George donated $200. >> Years back, my friend got hurt at work and was in a wheelchair for some years. During that time, his wife had an affair

Ava (Sushi)behind his back and divorced him even when he was getting better. >> Wow, that's sad. >> That's so sad. >> Messed up. >> Women do that, too. >> I just want to know what Py George is doing right now. Like, have I wonder if he's

Brian Atlas>> he's a baller >> in his kitchen. Many casinos in >> really are is he in the casino right now? >> Why you wanna Yo, Pasty, she's Canadian here. Do you want to >> Hi.

Brian Atlas>> He'll get you some free chips at his casino. >> I'm not even old enough to be in the casino. >> Oh, they they have like a How old you have to be to gamble in the US. >> Thought it was 18. >> Is it 21? >> No, it's 21. >> Or the Indian casinos?

Sativa>> No, it is 18. >> The Indian casinos. I think it's 18, right? >> Wait, >> no. >> Yeah. No one's listening to me. >> I mean, maybe times have changed, but I was definitely in a casino before I was

Solo21. Like, just being there. So, >> I got this. Um, if it is a Indian reservation casino, so like the True Mash Casino right here in San Nez, you do have to be 21 because it is federal

Brian Atlasland. >> Oh, okay. >> So, >> um, anybody done with their plates? >> Yeah. >> Done. Done. Done. So, Felicity, you're going to grab those. Anybody done with their smoothie? Oh, damn. I didn't even see this one there.

Brian Atlas>> Cena, do you want your smoothie? >> It's okay. >> Yeah. >> Okay, we'll leave it there for now. All right, we're going to get into the next thing here. We have One sec, guys. I'm going to pull up the

Brian AtlasOh, there's one more thing for the red flag thing. All right, show of hands. I think these plates are probably done, too. If you want to grab them. You're done, Cena? >> No.

Brian Atlas>> Oh, okay. You're just picking up. All right. Raise your hands. >> Leave. >> I don't know if she's done or not. >> Just take it. Just take it. >> Thank you.

Brian Atlas>> He follows 500 Instagram models. >> Red flag. >> Red flag. >> Yeah. >> Show of hands. Okay. >> That's so gross. >> I don't even know 500 models. >> Yeah. >> I think men should follow no women on Instagram. You should follow anybody. I

Brian Atlasagree. >> Don't follow anybody on Don't even use Instagram. [ __ ] Instagram. >> Follow Instagram. >> I do not. I follow one account, >> Big Baby. >> My own account. >> Uh, okay. We have Pasty George with a follow-up here. Thank you, Pasty.

SPEAKER_00Appreciate it. >> George donated $200. Why are women going to dangerous places when they often feel unsafe? Wouldn't it be >> Everywhere is unsafe.

Sativa>> Stay at home, raise kids, and leave a tangible legacy in the world. Neat. >> To raise kids. >> No, I I actually kind of I I want to be a stay-at-home mom. I'm so sick of being an independent woman. I don't want to do

Sativait. I'm good. Like, >> why why do you say that? >> Uh, which like >> why do you you said you're sick of being independent? >> Yeah. >> You're or you want to be a stay at home mom. Why?

Sativa>> I I like traditional rules. Um, I used to be definitely on the other side in a very extreme way where I didn't want to listen. I wanted to be in charge and that didn't get me anywhere besides

Sativacrashing and burning. So, and even like with my relationship now, he actually challenged me so much. It actually led me to my faith and really following

SativaChrist and completely changed my life. So, um I think humbling yourself and actually hearing someone out when and I had to admit I was wrong and that was probably the greatest thing that I've

Brian Atlasever done. So, >> okay. Any of the girls here disagree with her? She says she's done with the boss babe independent [ __ ] >> Yeah, I want to do >> Who here wants to be an independent boss

Bella (BB)babe that don't need no man? >> You. >> I like having a man. I just >> Not that I don't need no man. >> Independent. Do you want to be an independent boss babe that don't need no man? >> I mean, I'm not actively striving to not

Bella (BB)have a man, but I'm also not actively striving to have a man. >> Do you want to be a stay at home? >> Into the into the mic if you can. >> Do I want to be a stay-at-home mom? >> I wouldn't mind it. Okay. >> But do you think that all women should do that? >> Be stay at home moms.

Ava (Sushi)>> Yeah. >> No. >> Definitely not. >> You were going to give an explanation? >> No, I wasn't. >> Wait, do you think I wasn't going to do anything? Oh my god. No. No. No. No. No.

Ava (Sushi)No. No. No. No. No. I think everyone should make their own choices. I think that like everyone can be happy doing like like I think that being a stay at home mom is a job. Like I think it's a really hard

Sativa>> 100% 110% pretty easy job. >> Oh my god. Have you raised a kid? >> Pretty easy job. >> I have raising it's actually it's actually not I think the worst part the worst part of raising my son has been

Sativawhen he had his stroke but other than that like I love being a mom. But I'm saying like I love going to the movies having movie night or dying uh our macaroni blue.

Sativa>> Was it difficult when he was like a baby baby though? like staying up late >> again. It's just >> I I loved it. I mean, even being a young mom and also my mom had me when she was

Sativa15. So, >> and it's and my point in saying that is I'm not saying we should have babies that young, but it it can be done in the sense of we turn out okay. You know what I'm saying? And I think motherhood is a

Bella (BB)beautiful thing. Um even though it hurts. >> I totally agree with you and I'm that makes me super happy to know that that was like all good for you and it wasn't difficult. But I think that you can't say that broad. You can't just say like

Bella (BB)broadly that it's an easy job cuz like my mother for example, my little brother, he's four now and he has autism and there's a lot of um struggles for specific moms. Like there's a lot of moms who have really difficult

Brian Atlassituations like single mothers who have to work and be a mom. >> Being mom, >> go you girl. Being a mom is very difficult. I I suppose I agree with you in the sense that if you start adding

Brian Atlason, you know, if your child has autism or some sort of developmental disability, whatever, >> behavioral issues, >> behavioral issues, >> and just like staying up late and like having to like it's difficult to be a a

Brian Atlasgood mother and not mess up. And >> then you would have to apply this also to like if you're adding in that metric, you would have to apply it to, okay, well, you have a job and you have like

Brian Atlasreally really difficult co-workers. If we're just trying to do a like forlike comparison. So let's say you know you have a I mean again it's going to depend on the

Brian Atlasjob too but like the sort of typical average experience raising a child and you are a stay-at-home mom. That's way easier than having a 9-to-five job. >> I suppose it would depend on like do you

Solomean like an office job? >> Yeah, I would say even an office job. >> But an office job you get to clock out. >> I think it's completely all situational. I mean, if you're [ __ ] out of being a mom, you don't ever get to stop being a mom.

Ava (Sushi)>> If I was a stay-at-home mom, >> they Well, it depends what age the kids are. >> Uh, and if you're doing Make America Great Hat back there. >> Where? >> Right there. >> Oh, that's Felicity's. She's She's super MAGA. >> No,

Brian Atlas>> I wanted Okay, wait. Can I say something? If I was a stay-at-home mom with a loving husband camera except her It's not invisible. It's actually here. >> I think it's >> Oh, uh, yeah. I mean, it's just a prop we have. But did you want to have a

Ava (Sushi)>> No, I literally was just wondering. >> Do you want to wear it? Is that why? >> I think I'm actually good. You're good. >> Yeah, I think >> How do you feel about that? >> I feel like you have a feeling about the hat. Why? >> Oh, I have I mean, no. >> No.

Ava (Sushi)>> My I mean, I have feelings for myself, but I have family that feels both ways. >> No feeling. You can have whatever hat you want, boy. >> Wear your hat. Rock that hat. >> You want the hat? >> You're not You're not a fan of the hat,

Brian Atlasthough. It sounds like >> I'm not a fan of the hat. I wouldn't wear the hat. >> What do you think about the the movement? >> You Oh my god. >> Can I go back to what I was saying? >> You brought it up. >> Can I say I literally was Yeah. Okay.

Bella (BB)>> Let me go back. Let me go back. I I was I was on track. I wanted to tell you that like if I was a stay-at-home mom with a loving husband who's going to work 9 to5 every day and working his ass

Bella (BB)off and all I have to do is take care of like a child or two in a situation where we're like financially stable and like I can like have everything I need.

Bella (BB)>> Yeah, I would say it can be easier than having a job. But v like as a whole being a mom you saying that that's easy job like that just doesn't make sense to me. I feel like it gets you an easier job if you have like a support system

Sativawith your spouse or >> also if you actually really enjoy it. So to me it only feels easy cuz like I genuinely enjoy it like a lot. Like it is my favorite thing >> and if you have like the stamina to like if you like have the everything then go

Sativayou girl. Like that's >> and and then I think women and have to understand that just because you're a mom doesn't make that your sole identity. So it's like my identity is still in Christ. My identity is still I'm an artist. I'm an entrepreneur.

SativaThose still are aspects of who I am, but >> I still like I absolutely and you know, being a mother, it's a beautiful thing, you know. >> That's amazing. >> Wow. >> I'm so happy for you. >> No, me too. That's great.

Brian Atlas>> And for your son. >> We're going to get into some of the pre-show notes. Some of you guys sent in some notes. So, uh, Ava, is it Ava or Ava? >> Ava.

Ava (Sushi)>> Ava, you write hot take. >> What? Oh, I don't remember writing this. >> Oh my god. >> What time? What time was this? >> Oh, I'm so This is like the seventh

Brian Atlastime. Yeah. All right, let's >> hot take is that most men are truly just gross. >> Oh, true. This is after a hard conversation. >> After you had a hard conversation.

Ava (Sushi)>> Yeah, this was that that that text. Oh my god. I'm literally I'm sorry. That's not true. I don't I really don't believe that. I really don't believe that. I was just upset. >> You know, there's a lot of truth and

Ava (Sushi)heated moments. >> I was very upset. I was very upset. I had some guys trying to break into my apartment the other night and then one of them actually did. >> Whoa. >> Yeah. >> And then he said he was looking for his

Ava (Sushi)keys and then he actually came back the night before last >> and said he was looking for his keys again. >> I think I'm going to kill him. But wait, I can't say that on here. I'm not getting >> Do you have like a gun or cameras or alarm system?

Ava (Sushi)>> We're getting an alarm system. >> We are getting cameras for our >> We're getting cameras or not an alarm system. We're getting cameras >> and we keep a knife. Own a gun. >> I have I have a gun and a camera as well. >> I will once I'm 21. I'll have a gun. I

Ava (Sushi)don't want a hunting rifle. >> Speaking of firearms, would anybody here not not date a guy because he owns a firearm? I would not date him if he didn't know how to use the firearm that he

Brian Atlas>> I wouldn't I wouldn't date a guy that doesn't own a firearm. >> You wouldn't date the guy not not >> you you only date men that own >> It's not like only but like >> guns. >> I wouldn't date a guy that went hunting

Kayla (Addiction)a man that scared me. >> Oh no, I like that song. Use a gun or not? I like >> I wouldn't date someone who went hunting. >> I like it the redneck me for sure. What if it was not

Brian Atlas>> you cowboy? >> What if the hunting was not for it was he like hunted for food or something? >> I mean it was like a survival thing. >> No, not survival but like for like venison or something like that fresh from the forest

Kayla (Addiction)>> that thing. >> You know those like alligator hunters and they they kill the alligators cuz population like elks or deer >> Wait, do you eat meat? >> Look, I do. But as far as like it being like shot in front of me or knowing that

Ava (Sushi)somebody is doing I don't know who's killing these guys. >> Well, he wouldn't be in front of you if you don't go hunting with him. >> Well, what I'm saying is I know that he did it. >> I think what you're saying is ignorance is bliss. >> Yeah, >> pretty much. >> But at the same time, it's like you're doing the same. >> Is it just like the person like you

Bella (BB)don't want to be you don't want to see the person I don't want to be part of the problem, right? Even though you're eating the problem, >> you're still with the problem. >> I want to defend myself. >> Wait, I have a question. Does that mean like are you saying that like animals

Kayla (Addiction)dying is a problem? >> No, no, no. Listen, so yes, I do eat meat only because I'm a pale I'm a protein plethotic diet. I work out. I need the protein, right? Yes, there are

Kayla (Addiction)obser alternatives, but like for me, I do like meat unfortunately. However, unfortunately, I have >> So, the problem is not big enough for you to stop eating meat is what I'm hearing. >> Yes, it's not big. It's like it's not a

Kayla (Addiction)big enough problem. I just don't. >> So, but then you're going to pass the judgment on the people that are me. It's just my personal preference. Like I don't >> I don't want to have like a deer head in my house. >> Oh yeah. >> Look at it every day.

Brian Atlas>> My boyfriend has a deer head at his house actually. >> Whatever kind of >> as far as like >> ethically speaking though, ethically speaking though, I mean I think there's

Soloprobably compelling arguments that the factory farming >> of is worse than like >> I completely agree. >> 100% >> 10 times agree. See how they house the

Kayla (Addiction)chicken. I agree. I agree. I sound like saying that, but it's only because it's for it's all I worked I used it. >> Yeah.

Solo>> Do you eat like all organic, all freerange, all grass-fed? >> No, I'm not that extreme. All right. I'm not going to repeat. >> It's probably just cuz she doesn't want to be associated. >> I don't want to know who's who did it,

Brian Atlasyou know? It's kind of like It's kind of like >> who here has an issue with guys who have post pictures of fish like the fish pick. >> I don't care.

Kayla (Addiction)>> That's just too adorable. It's like look at my fish. You don't even like >> No. Every picture I see on a fish pick, I swipe the other way. >> Cuz if that's all their profile is is fish and them, it's just like, dude,

Brian Atlaswhat? >> It's just their little Maybe you should California as part of their hobby. I think you'd like it better. I don't like the country. >> Going back to this, you said most men are truly just gross. >> Oh yeah, Eva.

Brian Atlas>> Uh before we get into that though, any women here agree? Show of hands if you agree. Men are just truly just gross. >> Or like >> no like like closeminded like this age

Brian Atlasat our age. Absolutely. I >> most you said >> I don't say >> most men are truly just >> at this age our age. Absolutely. It depends on the definition. >> Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, please. Only one. Just for audio

Bella (BB)reasons, one person speaking at a time. Go ahead. >> Well, I took a breath first. >> Rock paper. >> Um, I I I I think it depends on the

Bella (BB)definition of gross. Like gross minded. Gross minded in like a weird way. >> Like a perverted way. >> Oh, then I mean like Yeah, >> I think so. Cuz like we're like at our age. >> Yeah.

Bella (BB)>> What does that mean? It means that like boys our age aren't looking like they're can be kind of gross minded like think think gross and like be gross. >> How so? >> Like no shade to all my beautiful

Bella (BB)friends at home but like walking like like walking into some of my guys' apartments like damn. So have you been like hygienic gross? >> I don't know. Have you ever walked into a woman's bathroom?

Bella (BB)>> Not that I looks amazing that my bathroom is kind of gross sometimes. I'm not saying that like it's like >> if I walk into any of y'all's bathroom, I don't care if you're a man or a woman. I'm judging if it looks nasty.

Bella (BB)>> Exactly. >> Well, what do you mean by like a public public women's bathrooms are from what I from what I've >> No wor I can agree with them women are

Bella (BB)>> I think women's is worse. >> Yeah. So at my job when I clean the men the men's and the women's restroom the women's restroom is always dirtier. >> Really? >> They don't know how to >> firsthand experience. firsthand experience. I can tell you now experience.

Sativa>> No, same. When I worked at a gym, there'd be like either tampon string hanging out or like blood droplets on the >> cuz girls do way more in the bathroom. >> Excuse me. That's [ __ ] disgusting.

Brian Atlas>> Wow, that is that is something. Okay, that's cool. Um, so men are truly just gross. >> Yeah, sorry. >> Would you be okay like if if a guy said that about women?

Solo>> No, I like women are just >> I told you I don't remember. Women are like little lizards. >> I don't remember >> their tails. >> That's what I gave up. >> I don't I was like, "Oh, this automated."

Brian Atlas>> We were sitting on the couch and you didn't. I was like, "Okay." >> But you So you said uh you also wrote, "One guy was stalking you and broke into your apartment because he wanted to f

Ava (Sushi)>> Yeah, that's what I was talking about. I was so mad. I was so mad. like he he did a B& He broke in. >> He broke in. He used a he there were a

Ava (Sushi)bunch of guys outside banging on my I was alone in my apartment. They were banging on the windows and on the door and I was like, "Okay, what the I like know one of them." Yeah, I know one of them. And I was like, "Why isn't he just texting me if he needs something?"

Ava (Sushi)>> I don't know what it is. >> He was knocking on the door or banging. >> They're banging like I mean like for like >> the dudes were banging. They were okay. >> Did you make a police? >> Mind you, they they I have videos of them like in all the time.

Ava (Sushi)>> They bang on our door all the time. But it was like this was different. It was like 2:30 in the morning. They knew. >> Are they they your friends? >> And so what did you do? >> No, one of them was my friend. I called my guy friends. I'm like, "You need to come to my house right now. I'm starting to get really scared because then they

Ava (Sushi)came around the other side and multiple like one of them has my number. He could have just texted me and asked if they needed something." And they came around the other side like where you can see from inside my place from the like

Ava (Sushi)balcony like from the parking lot >> and um I like they came around and they were looking at me through the thing and then they were like yeah she's in there and then they like went back around and I was like why don't they just say something and then so I wait for I

Ava (Sushi)calling my all my guy friendss and like some of them are asleep some of them live in my apartment complex and so calling them like you need to come here right now and so two of my guy friends just like ran over to my apartment And

Ava (Sushi)they and I opened the door and let him in. And then another guy, one of the guys that was banging on the door was still outside my door. And he was like, "Oh, I'm trying to get in there, too." And then my guy friends like came inside and they said, and they like looked

Ava (Sushi)behind me. And one of the guys was standing behind me in my living room. He had climbed my balcony. >> Oh my god. >> Gone and broken into my house and went into my living room. And then as soon as

Ava (Sushi)he saw my guy friends, he was like, "I'm just I'm looking for uh my uh keys." And I was like, "What? I've never seen you in my life. You're not You've never been in here. What are you talking about?"

Ava (Sushi)>> So back into my So I called the cops the next day. I filed a police report. >> Oh, like >> that was the picture of me with the cops. That was me filing. >> Sorry. There was a picture of me sent to

Ava (Sushi)like 200 people of me talking to some cops. It was me finally. >> Good times. Good times. >> That's terrifying. This >> Yeah. And then he came back. I saw him at a party the other night and I was

Ava (Sushi)like, "If you come near me ever again, I swear to God, I will either stab you or you will get arrested." And then he went into my house. Dope. >> Yeah, he was in our apartment probably two days ago. >> Pretty creepy. >> But I wasn't in there so I didn't get to stab him.

Brian Atlas>> Shoot. >> Darn. Missed out. You also wrote in your notes that maybe that dating doesn't always need to be to marry and that we should enjoy our younger years. >> Yeah. I >> Who agrees with that? Anybody agree with that? Enjoy.

Ava (Sushi)>> Depends >> partially. I'm put my hand halfway up. >> So, but can you define when you say we should enjoy younger years? >> Like I think that not everybody is meant to be in your life forever. I think that a lot of people are there just to teach

Ava (Sushi)you lessons and be a chapter and then like leave for the forever person. >> Yeah, exactly. Like I think that like most of my >> Sorry, can you repeat that one more time? >> Prepare you for the forever person.

Bella (BB)>> Sounds kind of bad. >> I don't really say that. Can I please can I please can I please talk about what I just said so it doesn't like I don't mean that it doesn't sound bad. >> So the the way the male brain processes that

Bella (BB)>> is >> so it's like okay my future wife >> she has >> we're not talking about sex you freak. This is what I was saying in my last thing. >> Took the words right out of my mouth girl. >> No but hold on. That's kind >> I'm talking emotional. That's why I

Brian Atlaswon't let >> Stop Stop interrupting please. So it's not that it's not a big deal. Just you got to let me finish my sentence here. >> Okay, go ahead. Go on. Go ahead.

Brian Atlas>> When a when a guy hears that, he's going to think like cuz you're talking about your future final guy being prepared for him. He hears she just got ran through in college and like [ __ ] a bunch of

Ava (Sushi)dudes and had a bunch of casual sex. That's the male brain. That's what the male brain does. >> But that's not We're not talking about sex. >> We're talking about like learning for like that's not I'm not talking about >> that's not dating. That's just

Bella (BB)>> I realized you don't speak with every guy you talk to, but like that's what >> I I when I when I said that, I did not mean sexually at all. I meant that like when you get >> that's a component, but go ahead. >> Um, yeah, but I didn't even think about

Bella (BB)that. I'm just saying that like when you date people, you like learn more how to be a good partner. And so then like after dating, when you find someone that you want to be with forever, you like

Lexi (Escort)have the intelligence >> through experience how to be in a relationship. But you could also generalize this not just with relationships but also friendships too. It's not just sex like you can be my friend and then we not be friends and

Lexi (Escort)that could have taught us something about our relationship and like your personality for me to be a show up as a better friend in whoever else's life. >> It's not necessarily about oh I'm getting ran through by all these guys so

Lexi (Escort)I can be >> Yeah, that was a really out of pocket. >> That's not what I missed, man. And it's like, no, how can I show up as a better version of myself to this next person, whether that be as a friendship or a lover? >> Yeah, that's great narrative spin on

Brian Atlasyour half. But again, I was explaining and describing the male interpretation and male understanding of when you say something like that. >> That's that adds to the men problem that

Brian Atlasmen are gross. But also, like you went immediately to that assumption. >> It has nothing to do with being gross. It's just first off, it's the reality. And I while I agree partially, >> the reality is that you're gross.

Brian Atlas>> No, I'll explain it to you. >> Yeah, please explain. >> Yeah. So, >> there is a component of when you're in a when you're dating

Brian Atlassomebody, you the part I agree with. I Okay, cool. You can roll your eyes, but I'm telling you the male perspective. There is a component of

Brian Atlashow do I frame this properly? You were saying how you do learn things in relationships and I agree. However, >> you also acrue trauma from your relationships. I'm sure most of you have

Brian Atlashad some degree of trauma or you've been in a toxic thing. So that typically doesn't manifest itself very good in your future relationships. You develop

Brian Atlastrust issues. You have like unresolved trauma like I said. So this idea on one hand yes I agree that you know past experiences you can grow from that you

Brian Atlascan learn from that but also you kind of get trauma and you get trust issues and all this sort of stuff. >> Can I add on that? >> Sure. I think that um like I think the

Bella (BB)whole like through trial and error is like 100% like I think that even the negatives like prepare you for the future in a way like the things that like I'm a like a huge believer in everything happens for a reason no

Bella (BB)matter what. That's just like that's a thing. I'm not saying that's >> everything happens for a reason. That's what I think. And like for me, for like in general because >> what about >> Yeah, I've had like bad experiences with boys and stuff, but >> it's like

Bella (BB)>> everything happens for a reason. >> I think so. >> Yeah, I think so, too. >> Within a person's life. >> Cancer >> within a person's life. >> I don't think that it's good, but everything happens for a reason. Everything has a reason. >> Child child like >> I'm talking about my life. I'm talking

Lexi (Escort)about like >> cancer happens for >> I never had cancer. I'm talking about like in my life I said some children have cancer. >> Yes. She was speaking about her. >> Like I'm talking about myself.

Lexi (Escort)>> No, she's Well, yes. But then also she's talking in general too. >> To in general to myself. >> I heard I personally believe that everything in my life happens. >> Exactly. I'm not saying that's heard

Bella (BB)from her because like like that's just something that I use to like just like enjoy life. So I'm like, "Okay, that happened, but now I know XYZ, and next time I can this, that, and the third happened for a reason."

Bella (BB)>> Like you don't have to hold on to the trauma and make it the way. >> Exactly. So then I don't have to be like, "Oh my god, why did that happen to me? That was horrible." And drag it forever. I just be like, "Okay, it happened for a reason. I learned D."

Ava (Sushi)>> I'm a bit confused here because weren't you saying that men are gross because they just all they want to do is hook up? Like they just think about sex? >> No, that's not what I said. No, she said like mentally. >> I think it's okay. I don't I guys and I also like I I think you need to take

Ava (Sushi)that with like a little bit more of a grain of salt. Like I think that like men and women are just like different and I think that at my age >> also

Ava (Sushi)>> guys are really really like having a hard time not only thinking about sex and like >> I think that it's Yeah, I think it's kind of gross. And like also just like

Ava (Sushi)my experience with men overall has been pretty nasty. So, and like honestly that's true for like a lot of other girls that I know. Um, but I don't I think if you only think if you like sex,

Lexi (Escort)you like sex girl, go have a lot of sex. Like I think that's true for girls and guys. Like have as much sex as you want. I don't care. >> But would it be safe to say that if Could you restate that again? You said that you are running into a lot of

Lexi (Escort)issues where you're finding a lot of gross men. So, would it be fair to say that you're also picking a pattern of choosing? >> No, I don't get with these gross men. I'm this is an observation at most >> just like the people around me the men

Lexi (Escort)that I'm around >> but you so I I am somebody like you are what you attract and you are one of five people that you hang out with. So if you're >> hanging out in a room of five people and those five people are

Lexi (Escort)>> attracting yeah attracting different vibe. Wouldn't it be safe to safe to say that you're attracting those shitty individuals to gravitate towards you? Cuz what about you makes them feel like it's okay to gravitate towards you? What

Ava (Sushi)about you are you projecting out there to be like, "Oh, this one." Um, have you ever thought about that? I Yeah. No, honestly, I

Ava (Sushi)have, actually. Like, cuz my mom like, sorry. Yeah, I actually have. That's a pretty deep pull, but I have thought about that. Why does this stuff happen

Ava (Sushi)to me so often? Why is it me? Like, am I like enabling this kind of stuff? >> Right? And so that's one of the reasons that I like that's one thing that I went to therapy for,

Ava (Sushi)>> right? >> And I kind of like I I became a lot more like firm with >> Thank you, Kaibaka. >> Like boundaries with men, but at the same

Ava (Sushi)time when I'm the way that I'm speaking, it's more like general. It's like I'll go to the grocery store and like these guys have nothing to think about me. But just like gross remarks, just stuff like that. It's not like my guy friendss are

Ava (Sushi)like my boyfriends that I've had. Like none of my boyfriends have been gross. >> Like cat calling and stuff. >> Yeah. Cat calling and stuff. And like just like a lot of experiences where I've felt like unsafe and uncomfortable where like >> sexualized.

Ava (Sushi)>> Yeah. Just really sexualized like every single day. And it's like all right, that's cool. >> You get cat called every single day. No, I feel sexualized every single day. >> In what capacity? >> Just like,

Ava (Sushi)can someone else help me with this? I know that you haven't been sexualized. >> Yeah, but you said you've been sexualized every single day. >> But personally for you, like what does >> I feel like as a woman, you're kind of

Ava (Sushi)like like I feel like a lot of being a woman like can make you >> I think it's fair more fair for you to say that women are sexualized often. >> Yeah. No, I don't think that women every

Sativasingle person is sexualized every single day. I think that like again take what I'm saying a little bit less like I >> I can say this that the way I used to post on social media like over a year ago, I would always complain like why

Sativawas I getting the attention that I was getting or why were people treating me how they were. But then I had to really look at how I was posting and what I was like how I was presenting myself. And I was presenting myself like my tongue, my

Sativabody under here. was like the whole source of my power and people treated me that way and then I would complain about it, you know. So eventually I really had to like look inward and really like why

Sativais this happening and uh what's the definition of insanity? If you do the same thing over and over and nothing and you're expecting a different outcome, you know, so just like how you said, sometimes we actually have to like hold

Sativaourselves accountable. Like if you know like you're you guys are beautiful ladies, so there there almost is more responsibility when you are beautiful, you know? It doesn't mean it's fair cuz life isn't fair, but that's just the truth of it.

Sativa>> And don't ever forget that like you teach people how to treat you too. So >> yeah. And literally, if you guys ever go to my page, look, if you guys ever go to my Instagram and look at stuff from like

Sativaa year or two ago, >> very different person. You know what I'm saying? And I definitely got treated like that person I was presenting. And then the way that I post now and the way

SativaI treat my platform now, I get way more respect and the way that people conversate with me. So, >> yo, Pasty, thank you, man. >> George donated $200. I once worked as a

SPEAKER_00janitor for a few years and the women's public bathrooms had bloody foul smelling tampons overflowing the trash bin, blood on the toilet seat and on the floors. >> He's not freaking gross. >> Damn.

Brian Atlas>> He's not wrong. >> That is Wow. >> I wish I knew. >> All right, we have another one from Pasty George. >> Time check. >> Time check. Can you just tell me what

SPEAKER_00>> It's almost 7, I think. Oh, >> hasty George donated $200. Chair three boldly stated that everything happens for a reason and this

SPEAKER_00was meant not just for her life but life in general. So by her belief child cancer and pedoism happen for a reason. Neard >> again I was just talking

Brian Atlas>> on the general thing but >> how can something be in general for you? >> He's talking literally like a memo >> specifically. It would be specifically for me. You couldn't I don't think

Bella (BB)general I don't know. Go ahead. You wanted to explain it. >> It's just like I just I just that's just for me. That's just my thing. Everything happens for a reason. I'm not saying that everything in the whole entire world happens for a reason.

Bella (BB)>> I I just was just talking about myself. Like I wouldn't be able to I wouldn't be able to answer that. I can't justify why children are born and immediately get cancer and that type of thing. That is not at all what I meant to say. >> Yeah. >> Also, do you want to do the singing now?

Bella (BB)singing. >> You said you would sing later. >> Follow Bella's vocals Tik Tok, please. >> Want to >> um ac capella is crazy, but Bella's vocals Tik Tok. Go follow me. Bella

Brian AtlasBrown on Spotify. >> Going to By the way, do you prefer solo? Do you prefer Mia? What do you prefer going by? >> Everyone calls me solo. >> Solo. Okay. You said your ex lost his virginity to a different girl two days

Brian Atlasbefore your birthday while you were at your sister's wedding and also told him you loved him that night. >> Correct. >> That's nice. >> There's a lot to unpack there.

Solo>> Wait, so you were dating him? He lost his virgin How long were you dating him again? >> Uh, we were on and off for over a year. >> Okay. On and off for over a year. He

Sololost his virginity to a different girl. Yeah, like we didn't do anything together >> and I was out of town for my sister's wedding. >> Don't talk to each other while she's talking.

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