00:56:04Brian Atlasthey're wearing how they're styling themselves and how they talk their confidence you think 40 40% of the average male if they improve they dress
00:56:14Brian Atlasright and get a haircut they can [ __ ] three new girls a day three answer the question they improve yes if they improve their confidence they can pull
00:56:24Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)three girls a day yes insane I'm sorry you're absolutely okay but I'm sorry you look the way that you do so it's like can they get girls through dating apps they could get girls no bro I know so so
00:56:36Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)many people that are delusional actually delusional okay I think in general women put on average a little more effort into how they present themselves exactly so we can't like judge completely based on
00:56:49Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)that like if men if some you call average men put in a little more effort just like the girl they want a little
00:56:57Brian Atlasmakeup around the eyes Okay well yeah though but like I get you I'll just give you the reverse of your argument then if a girl makes absolutely
00:57:09Brian Atlasno effort she doesn't put any makeup on she rolls out of bed she's wearing sweatpants her hair's all disheveled she can go out into the street and [ __ ] 10 guys in a day I I disagree I disagree because I was that girl I was that girl
00:57:21Brian Atlasat a time when I was did you go hold on hold hold on you were that girl at time did you go up to 10 men on the street and ask them Point Blank period will you have sex with me right now why the [ __ ]
00:57:32Alexwould I do that are you're not even engaging in good faith here that's literally what I'm talking about that's literally what I'm talking about okay well but except I I would not be able
00:57:44Brian Atlasthose sleep me I did ask I need you to stop I'm cutting you off so let me translate the this is your argument so I
00:57:54Nick (producer/off-screen)was that girl who you know woke up didn't put makeup on wore sweatpants was disheveled is that your [ __ ] phone sorry wait turn it off yeah turn it [Music]
00:58:10Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)off here go this way just let why get get her up just pass her the phone you go I was going to say also kind of do you want me to keep your
00:58:23Brian Atlasthought why why wouldn't we have just passed okay okay so you didn't wear makeup you were disheveled you I and so your point of
00:58:35Alexview is that guys just didn't come up to you that's your argument no no I that's your argument no no I have tried to be friends with people I've tried to be
00:58:48Alexfriends with guys with women with everybody but a lot more people physically and literally rejected me as a person just based on how I was looking
00:58:58Brian Atlasperiod like it actually does matter a lot like pretty privilege is a is a real thing okay so here why don't we operate from the scenario that I gave you sleeping with three new people in a day
00:59:10Brian Atlasokay so who do you think would Faire better if I send an average woman or an average man to the street with a billboard with a sign that says I'm looking for dick I'm looking for [ __ ]
00:59:22Alexwho's going to get everyone here is an average woman and you're an average man so um what does that have to do with anything answer the actual question everyone okay because the thing is is that average men
00:59:34Alexand average woman are already different because average woman already puts in more effort into how she presents herself absolutely rolled out of literally five and a five and a five so
00:59:46Brian Atlastheir looks match okay so they look exactly the same they don't they are looks equivalent they don't look exactly the same they would be looks equivalents
00:59:56Alexokay um a woman would have an easier time probably age a woman would have an easier time a woman would have an easier time but it's not like every single guy is going to you know every single guy
01:00:08Brian Atlaswould say yes did I make the argument that every single guy would go up and want to [ __ ] her no um that's not the argument I'm making it could be one out of 20 men yeah that would be enough yeah and that's fine right but I don't know
01:00:21Alexyou're making an argument about something totally different okay well my bad I didn't mean to Sidetrack in that particular direction but it's like yeah a woman would have an easier time but
01:00:32Alexlike also men are a little bit more desperate just to begin with do W do women like desperate men no really but
01:00:42Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)men will pretend that they're not masculine men that's if that's what you're asking okay not all no I said I said typically oh never mind sorry that
01:00:53Brian Atlaswas just so wait and so you do you think that there are more strong masculine men than there are just attractive women uh I don't really know how to
01:01:03Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)answer that I would say probably not I have no idea wait you think okay here's a question do you think there are more attractive women or more attractive
01:01:14Brian Atlasmen uh personally in my opinion more attractive men cuz I don't find women attractive like no no no I don't mean I'm not telling you you don't have to you don't have to find them sexually or romantically attractive I just mean like
01:01:26Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)I'd say typically the women are because they usually put in more into like their looks into their makeup into their hair I feel like there's more just because I feel like there's sorry did I miss something that was just a comment oh I
01:01:38Alexjust feel like um I lost my the woman put in more effort oh so typically the women would be prettier I guess you could say you disagree no I completely agree because
01:01:48Alexthat is the truth women already from the very start from the very childhood are they are they have to present a certain way and they have to look a certain way
01:01:57Alexand they're taught to act a specific way and just be a specific way in a in in every single better word to be the
01:02:08Lelebetter themselves every single time I feel like um it's not really like a a super taught thing um I feel like more so than just an um an expectation that
01:02:19LeleSociety kind of Grooms women to care more about their appearance than they would most um males um we have things that are obviously like we have
01:02:29Leleadvantages in the sense that women obviously women men and nonbinary can all wear makeup I'm just saying that predominantly like a a straight male is
01:02:41Lelenot going to wear makeup and me personally I look completely different without fake eyelashes eyeliner and all of this stuff so and also women are more
01:02:51Lelepredominantly going to get boob jobs um lip filler different things like that their appearance than women well men can wear cute outfits too yeah but it doesn't they don't I'll even put on a
01:03:03Alexman's out they don't do it for the figure they don't do it for like the specific style sounds they just put on the yeah a shirt I'm going to move it
01:03:15Melalong of relationship status perfect um I'm single um and my one and only relationship was 3 years what's your name how long have you
01:03:26Melbeen single uh 6 months 6 months okay who ended the relationship me why is that we
01:03:35Meljust had a difference in I would say like overall morals and values we weren't aligned mhm do you
01:03:45Brian Atlasmean like uh were you are you religious yeah and was he not religious uh no not really okay all right right relationship
01:03:57Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)status I'm engaged oh my gosh weren't you engaged last time yeah how the same same how long have you
01:04:06Brian Atlasbeen engaged few years almost two years two years okay all right we got everyone's status Nick what were the the chats that I uh Cal ask parents are
01:04:19Brian Atlastogether and then [ __ ] no he asked how the parents met and then what was the other one Bucky Larson uh was that were those the only two that we needed to get ped to or was there
01:04:29Brian Atlasanother one that's all I Rec okay I think I'm right I think it's just those two Bucky Larsson ladies you're engaged for two months and you're soon to be husband earns 200k a year ladies would
01:04:41Brian Atlasyou end an engagement if he said he does not want to have a joint checking account with you no no yes say you were engag here why don't we just go around the table and get people's answers go ahead wait
01:04:52Lelewell I don't understand what do you mean if what can you say the question one more time did you hear the question no I didn't understand it you didn't understand the question if you don't have a joint account what am I saying yes or no do that's how I was say would
01:05:04Leleyou divorce a man if he didn't want to have a joint bank account with you and you guys were married yeah yeah yeah yeah uh you weren't there what about you uh no I would not divorce okay I
01:05:17Paulawouldn't divorce them I make my own money yeah I wouldn't divorce either it was an engagement question I would cut it off before before we got married oh yeah that's right oh yeah I would not still do it yeah end the
01:05:29Brian Atlasengagement if he does not want to have a joint checking account absolutely yeah I would definitely oh wait no I mean I would ask to the mic please no no actually I don't know all right and then
01:05:41Brian Atlaswe had Killa of serial's question it was how did your parents meet going around the table on that starting with you um my parents
01:05:54Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)well my mom and dad it was one nightstand and then they had me so that's how they met did they date for a while or no okay into
01:06:03Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)the no they did not how about you my parents met in college and they dated for a while they're not together anymore
01:06:12Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)um and then they had me and I actually just met my dad like a few months ago wow congratulations yeah it's been awesome and I love both of them equally
01:06:24Alexso so you have a relationship with your father now yes I do beautiful well um my parents met in college uh they dated for about a year then they wanted to get
01:06:34Alexmarried my mother's grandparents said no and they got pregnant and spite so that they could have a wedding so
01:06:43LeleSI um my parents met one another in high school and they were dating um but they broke up shortly
01:06:55Leleafter um my mom found out that she was pregnant with me because of the pregnancy or um no I'm sure it was probably something to do with my dad but um I don't think it was
01:07:07Lelenecessarily me but he definitely didn't I'm I mean they had me in high school so like obviously you it's not like the goal to have a kid in high school um but he kind of went to college didn't really
01:07:19Lelebelieve that I was his biologically like I wasn't his cuz my mom I guess was I don't know what m mom was up to but um I don't want to throw my mom under the bus
01:07:29Lelelike that but yeah so they they were never like married or anything like that and shortly after they found out that they were pregnant with me they he went to college and left the state do you still have a relationship with them or
01:07:42Lelejust yeah I still have a relationship with both of them but they both don't live in California I have no um relatives that live here in California must be well you have I have chosen family yeah I have chosen family I have
01:07:54Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)a lot of good friends that are like my family um to be honest I can't remember exactly how they met but my mom and my stepdad I know my stepdad for 15 years so they met at like a birthday party I
01:08:07Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)think it was like one of their mutual friends and they just met from there you said your original parents got divorced when you were four right yeah how soon after did you meet your stepdad I guess two years I think a year or two my mom's like a really amazing Christian woman I love my mom so much uh so she was going
01:08:20Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)on like a lot of dates and like making sure like she found like the right one and then my they waited like like 10 or 12 years I think specifically to like actually get married okay and then they got married on 4th of July like two or 3
01:08:32Paulayears ago so like I know I love them so much I have no idea how my parents met um they divorced when I was 3 years old
01:08:43Paulabut my stepdad and my mom were on a double date with other people oh that's crazy they worked together they all worked at the same company and so then
01:08:53Melthat's how they they ended up meeting okay um my parents are divorced but I believe they met when they were children
01:09:00Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)oh yeah oh my parents met on a train um they've been married for over 35 years
01:09:10Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)nice my body besides hers everyone else is here parents separated yeah that's that's so many wow that's crazy that's what I get for being a 2000s baby about
01:09:21Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)uh my parents were high school sweet cards yeah are they still together um my mom passed away but my dad is still looking I guess like single yeah my dad
01:09:32Alexhas passed away too yeah yeah different but same yeah yeah okay um what else okay so I I actually have a
01:09:43Alexquestion for you what's your name again Mel Mel um so you said your parents met as children did they like live around each other did their families know each other like um I think my dad went to to
01:09:55Melschool with my mom's brothers so they just kind of like knew each other yeah I mean a that's adorable I'm so sorry I forgot your name uh what was
01:10:05Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)your name Paulie Paula Paula so you said that your current husband doesn't really know about your past in between marriages
01:10:14Paulacorrect he has an idea because one time he signed in to my email which I asked him to and Google downloaded all my
01:10:24Paulacontacts into his phone is there any like so he kind of was like I don't think I want to know about this can I ask something because there
01:10:36Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)why would I why would well so but if you guys making the argument that if you have this pass then no man will ever want you no I don't believe that yeah but a lot of people so that's kind of my
01:10:46Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)proof anybody can change yeah so I'm saying I had to change in order but it's not like grow so I think sometimes it's wrong
01:10:57Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)that people are like no if you do this nobody will ever want you it just makes it worse with other person I also don't want to like start anything but like he doesn't know anything about your past and you're saying that people can still
01:11:09Alexlike change and stuff like the arguments are like kind of not no but he does she said he does well it's about the shame really getting me like why why are you so ashamed of of this period in your
01:11:21Paulalife like because it was really wrong and it hurt my soul it hurt my when I looked at myself and said I want to be a high quality woman and I looked at my
01:11:31Paulabehavior I was like that is not high quality woman behavior and so I was ashamed of behaving like that when I
01:11:40Alexwanted to attract a good man okay so then um just to clarify um you
01:11:48Alexum so as a as a high quality woman um that you are 100% um and you had to change to be that but
01:11:58Paulalike so were you in just like a completely like a mental breakdown kind of thing okay so so I was a stayhome mom with four kids my husband walked out
01:12:10Paulanever came back so it's just like the freedom and like the exploration right it was just the like I don't know how to cope with this and I went through I went
01:12:21Alexthrough a series of addictions basically trying to figure it out so it was for happiness you were not doing it because you were happy doing it you were not happy like enjoying and living like that
01:12:32Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)so that because that's not but that's not what you wanted truly but I thought I was at that time because it's happiness on a shallow level it's not a deep you to grow through that so you're probably a better person for that you
01:12:44Lelecan probably teach your kids better because mistakes are honestly mistakes are honestly just are like regrets are honestly just mistakes you haven't learned from so if you if you grow from something you learn from it then like
01:12:56Leleit's not a it's not a regret it's it's just something that happened that you learned from but this is kind of a hot take but like to me like the whole rational like rationalizing like oh
01:13:08Lelewomen sleeping with x amount of people if it's a higher number is like they're no longer a high value woman to me I just think that that's like a stupid copout in my opinion personally just
01:13:18Lelebecause at the end of the day what makes a high value person is different for each individual your version of a high value
01:13:28Leleman could be somebody that makes figures or makes x amount of money or has certain morals and then my version of a man could be dead broke but he loves and
01:13:40Lelecares about me intensively and that matters more to me so each version just like for a woman and also another hot take that I know this audience is probably not going to like but I'm just
01:13:49Lelegonna say it if a man were to be doing what Amber is doing or what you did during between your marriages they would get dabbed up and a pat on the back like hell yeah homie you just hooked up with
01:14:01Lelethree girls in one day [ __ ] yeah and if a girl does that they're like automatically programmed to feel shameful or [ __ ] or degraded I don't think anyone should wait
01:14:12Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)so would you the thing is would you guys be oppos or would you guys feel any sort of way if a man cared about your body count I guess we'll just go around the table for these questions we'll start
01:14:24Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)with you I mean I don't care get closer to I I don't know I wouldn't care so I don't know if a man they may or may not take it or leave it I don't care about body count my body
01:14:37Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)count I can count on like one hand I guess we'll just go like what's everybody's body count we we'll just do that too nope that's not happening we'll start with L she's really she's really
01:14:47Leleopen and honest this is true um because I don't feel shame um I my body account is I never like counted it because I'm I'm not just some like weirdo that types in my notes every person that I've ever
01:15:00Lelehooked up with you also have to take into account that I am pansexual even though I'm in a relationship with a man that does not make me any less gay um so you also have to take into account not
01:15:12Leledismissing how big the number is but there's men women and in between So that obviously is going to increase the number because I'm counting different genres of people that you guys aren't going to count if you're straight
01:15:25Leleum but my body counts probably somewhere from like 100 to 150 and um I still ended up in a committed happy healthy
01:15:35Lelerelationship and my partner is aware of my body count and has never made me feel less than for it at all
01:15:45Brian Atlaswhatsoever did we go around on did everybody answer the do you care about body count what was the original question posed we didn't answer there was only two people there why did huh
01:15:56Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)then she just she just singled me out I don't know why okay um do you object to men caring about a woman's body count go ahead um into the mic please if a man cares that much then it's not worth my
01:16:08Brian Atlastime I don't know right you wouldn't dat him but you so you you is that a yes you object yeah sure to men caring about body count okay could you define cared
01:16:20Alexin what you want me to Define care like they wouldn't they wouldn't tonight what the fck you want me to define the word care for but it's like would they be concerned would they
01:16:29Alexbe angry or would they just like would they stop know and just like care about it like I don't know like there's different levels of of caring about a body count like yeah like they could
01:16:41Alexcompletely stop talking to you because of it or they can just they would not date a girl because of her high body yeah okay thank you that's very clear I I appreciate
01:16:50Brian Atlasthat I think it's yeah I don't care about body count I talk about body count and okay that's not the question the question is do you object to men who
01:17:01Alexcare about body count yeah sure yeah she says yeah yeah I do not object to men who care about
01:17:11Lelethe body count on that level okay I think um that everyone has the right to care about different things whether they
01:17:20Lelewant to be with somebody so um yes I I wouldn't care about body count but no I'm not going to argue with somebody if they do care about that and my body count is an issue then that's
01:17:32Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)just not my person and that's totally 100% fine uh I don't object I think if a guy is like no your body Count's too high and just like that's also kind of what we've been talking about earlier like oh like your past like I don't like I would
01:17:44Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)respect a man as like oh I don't want to be with a woman who's been with a lot of men in the past because she obviously has like actually I'm not going to say that because I am not in that position
01:17:53Paulaso no I would not object yeah no they're um they have a right to want a certain type and if that's their type then
01:18:03Paulathat's their type and they also talking about body C body count to someone you care about and love is just wrong it's
01:18:14Paulawrong why what do you mean why like if my husband was like how many I'd be like feel so insulted like you married me because you love me but wait wa hold on hold on hold on wait wait earlier in the
01:18:27Brian Atlasconversation you said if a man didn't want to you said that if are you guys laughing what is there an issue here no there's no issue yeah okay so earlier in the conversation you said yo I don't
01:18:39Brian Atlasneed the [ __ ] attitude what she didn't say anything I didn't say anything I didn't say anything you know their communication can be done subtextually so like you doing a little
01:18:50Brian Atlaslike look at her like almost as if you're mocking me I'm not I wasn't yeah okay so anyways earlier in the conversation you were saying that you
01:19:00Brian Atlaswould call off the engagement if the man was not willing to share his checking account with you so that would mean if he was unwilling to share essentially
01:19:09Brian Atlashis financial status with you MH so how why not just could I just put the argument back on you and say well that's not really any of your business to know
01:19:20Paulahis financial situation that when you're in a family and you're a couple you're one and so if you don't want to be one now if my husband came to me and said I want to know I would feel very uncomfortable
01:19:33Paulaabout it and I would tell him because I love him and we've been together for 10 years and I would admit where it was but I've never he's never said that to me
01:19:44Brian Atlashe's never been worried about that but and can you just restate so you said that it would indicate that he restate what your position was
01:19:55PaulaCounty would show that they don't love you I forgot exactly rude like if you love the person you love them for where they're at right
01:20:04Paulanow regardless of their past okay so why would he care right now maybe he's just curious and just like I just want to know like the type of woman
01:20:15Brian AtlasI would hate to have to say that because to me it's embarrassing and I don't like that at all well I wonder in a scenario where you were dating somebody and what was the the the engagement
01:20:27Paulaquestion here uh it was if you were engaged and they made $200,000 for and they didn't want to share their they didn't want to have a joint checking and you're engaged how is that
01:20:38Brian Atlasrelevant to the other well it's relevant in that if you were engaged to a woman and she didn't want to reveal her body count because her body count could reveal a certain uh number that you would not be
01:20:51Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)comfortable uh following through with the engagement it's I think it's totally relevant well I think I don't agree with you on that because first of all once you're already engaged you kind of love
01:21:02Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)each other in a way right and then the money issue everybody has different family situations and woman and a man sometimes have different roles and if a man has you know specific things they're
01:21:14Brian Atlasasking of a woman then everybody I'm just saying that it's not like okay so here's the scenario you're engaged to a woman but then you find out like
01:21:25Brian Atlasa month before the marriage that she has a body count of 50 I think that would be perfectly acceptable pretext if the man had an issue with it to call off the engagement yeah together how do they two
01:21:37Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)years let's just say years let me say something I think you have a choice you either decide pastes in the past and then you move forward and then that would have no relevance into the Rel relationship to for the future issues
01:21:49Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)you can't like fault someone for that if you choose to decide that past is in the p and then you accept person for what they are now because people can grow and change and whatever but it's up to you you can make a choice or you can decide
01:22:02Lelenot to so I think you know people have free will to decide that plus like your your financial State when you're engaged that has room to change it can fluctuate
01:22:12Leleyou can lose your job and have no money now um when you were originally engaged or married you had we're making six figures or Plus or 200k whatever the case may be but your body count is never
01:22:24Lelegoing to to change unless you cheat which hopefully you don't do that in a marriage or an engagement um relationship I mean it's it's good context to know your partner's history just so that you know who you're with
01:22:37Lelebut I don't think in any way you should like let that deter you if you think that if as long as they're not like a cheater like I feel like that's more of to me I would rather know has this man
01:22:48Leleor woman or person cheated on their on their spouse more so than I would be concerned about what they did when were single if you're single and you're having sex with as many people as you want to have sex with consenting adults that's totally reasonable and fine if
01:23:01Leleyou're a cheater and you're past relationships that's more of a red flag to me than if you were single and slept with a girl at the bar and by the way my second husband made a third of what my
01:23:12Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)first husband made and he's doubled his income since we've been together exactly always the same with my stepdad my stepdad broke his neck in Hollywood and then moved up and then now he's like a successful pain
01:23:24Paulawith my mom so like it it all just depends point being that I love my husband for my husband it was never about anything else okay so what was
01:23:34Paulayour original comment that you made about you said if my husband came to me and ask I would I would tell him I'd be embarrassed and ashamed and I would actually apologize because I feel
01:23:47Paulaterrible about it it was a very dark time in my life but he's never asked me but you said it would be what well I
01:23:58Paulathink I don't know I just think asking people their body count is just not polite just in general not polite okay but if at any point in the relationship
01:24:09PaulaI mean well if that matters to you it should come out at the very beginning if that is what's important to you then ask if it doesn't though well then it's not that
01:24:20Brian Atlasimportant well maybe maybe though you have a uh it doesn't occur to you to ask because perhaps you've made some assumptions because the woman's been carrying herself in a way that
01:24:33Paulawould maybe indicate that she doesn't have a high body count but maybe she does but I think he already has a clue because he signed into my email account and all my contacts downloaded into his
01:24:45Paulaphone and he looked at him and saw wait wait wait I'm not talk I'm talking in generalities here I'm not talking about your specific situation yeah in general I think if that is important to you then
01:24:56Paulayou better ask that at the get-go so it would be it would not be rude to ask it on the first date then no okay if that's what's important to you because then you know who you're about to be with okay on
01:25:08Paulaboth sides cuz I've heard women say the exact opposite they say that it would be kind of weird and rude to ask that on the first date it would be we well it would be weird and rude but if that's important to the guy then he better get
01:25:18Paulait out in the open right away so that we can just either get out of here and be done with it or let's work through this it's all about transparency yeah and
01:25:29Paulathen so but it would be rude later down the road in the relationship maybe start building a relationship well and like I said you need to get it out there like
01:25:39Paulawhen I was dating I dated divorce guys I would flat out ask them on the first date what is your part in your divorce what is your what in the divorce your part like and my daughters are like
01:25:51Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)you didn't you were not that blunt I said oh yes I was because if they can't handle that they're not going to handle anything else about me also I think in reality if you're really in love with somebody there's you will work through
01:26:03Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)all the issues I don't think it's reality saying oh I'm engaged to this person cuz I love them and then all of a sudden this one thing you think comes out I think it's not realistic that people are just going to call it off so
01:26:15Brian Atlasfast you know I would have no objections if it was even the wedding day if it was even the wedding day the man found out that you know she had a mass body count what's a massive body count just curiosity I mean it depends on it
01:26:28Brian Atlasdepends on age it depends on the individual but uh I think once you start getting I I think a lot of men would say uh over 10 is getting into high body count territory range I would agree with
01:26:39Brian Atlasthat over 10 I would agree over 20 I think it there's without a doubt that would most people I'd say the vast majority of men would agree over 20 certainly would be high body count I would agree with that um but uh your
01:26:52Brian Atlasanswer I guess we were going around on uh would you object to a man caring about a woman's body count to the point that he would date or not date her because of it no I wouldn't object to
01:27:01Brian Atlasthat wouldn't object no no no objections okay uh well for those of you who uh said that body count doesn't matter or you do perhaps object to a man caring
01:27:13Brian Atlasabout it uh we'll just go around what's everybody's body count we heard from L you said it was around 150 to 200 yeah around 100 to 150 yeah okay we'll start with you then go around this way go
01:27:23TTS Readerahead I got tell you probably 100 or something into please into the mic um probably like I'd say 100
01:27:32Brian Atlasokay their Alm meatball donated $200 Brian is wri in every way here yo thank you bro I dude I haven't seen you in a while son He's a brave and a decent man he's a Pioneer yo Mr meall good to
01:27:45Brian Atlassee you in the chat man thank you so much uh appreciate it bro thank you thank you Mr meatball what kind of Meatballs turkey meatballs what kind okay all right thank you man appreciate
01:27:55Brian Atlasit uh in the hundreds okay what about you less than five okay so I've counted since the last time and it's
01:28:03Lelenine okay well you answered right yeah 150 to 200 100 to 150 not that that extra 50 really matters I mean we're
01:28:13Brian Atlasalready in the hole sure all right what about you less than five okay yeah well you in your pre-show notes I think you provided it you said you were you said
01:28:23Brian Atlasyou were previously sex addict with a bot mhm you did provide it in the notes I think uh mhm you want me to say it I can say it I'll say it I can say it you
01:28:34Brian Atlascould say it to them I just wouldn't Brave whoops sorry that that was my bad okay I I really don't want it out there but but okay you
01:28:45Paulayou it's fine Brian I don't care and this is kind of this was pre-show you provided this in the pre-show kind of my May aopa anyways to kind of justop stop being ashamed of what I did and kind of
01:28:56Brian Atlasletting it go well I'll let you say it so I'll let you say it then it's over 50 okay that's fine cool uh and you did say you were previously a sex addict correct
01:29:06Brian Atlasokay all right what about you one one okay less than five all right less than five cool all right less than five cool uh we
01:29:19Brian Atlasdid parents meet right we got everyone's on that okay parents meet let me Mark that out uh guys go to twitch.tv whatever drops a follow drops a prime sub if you have one
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01:30:04Brian Atlasget into my pre-show notes here now actually no let's do some reacts nick uh what's the first thing we have to react to let's do that that airport screaming one oh we should have done we should have done
01:30:16TTS Readeruh what's it called we should have done it last show but it's whatever all right this has gone viral the past few days I see this hold on their almed meatball
01:30:28TTS Readerdonated $200 green is rough who's green oh oh Ru do you want to respond uh what does Ru
01:30:40LeleR they're barking at you just take it like that just take it as in he's barking at you like a dog all right all right cuz he probably is cuz she looks you Mr appreciate it oh yeah she looks like drewberry Mar so shut the [ __ ] up
01:30:51Brian Atlasyeah your mom likes it rough sa that boom roasted Mr Po roasted Mr you got roasted are you going to are you
01:31:02Lelegoing to take this disrespect oh no are you going to stand for this disrespect on the other side I'm already set up with he about to donate another $200 just to roast us back you're welcome what are you drinking if you mind me
01:31:15Brian Atlasasking what is that green tea it's um Ever Clear
01:31:24Brian Atlasum after that ever and honey Ever Clear honey and a bit a Sprinkle of lemon all
01:31:31Brian Atlasright um at least you're honest go ahead Nick yeah oh God yeah what is oh ter
01:31:40Brian Atlashold on hold on hold on hold on like uh we can whatever you this is below the threshold but I don't like messages coming up while we're doing videos uh keep up the good work perfect
01:31:52Brian Atlasposture Emporium uh send me one of everything that sounds fair whatever send me one of everything let them try it all yeah okay good
01:32:02Unknownahead start from beginning H it's it's funny I hate you is the audio
01:32:13Brian Atlasmaxed bro you're a weird too like it's not funny she looks like
01:32:20Unknownmy youing the when I got bro those beeps are way
01:32:30Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)louder you're loser you're a loser holy [ __ ] somebody doing exercism on this woman poor dude I know you know that wasn't the first time that's
01:32:41Lelehappened also based off reaction absolutely wait who said something about the exorcism what what what did you say oh I just said she sounds like she needs an exorcism my god oh she needs an
01:32:52Paulaexorcism yeah she needs the emphasis on the loser was crazy and that is a broken man yeah so he chose to that he chose to be with her
01:33:04Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)it's his fault in a way well yeah you know like women who get beat they choose to be with the abuser they choose to but sometimes I agree to your point sometimes a woman feels too weak to
01:33:16Brian Atlasleave because the abuser made her feel that way yeah trapped when a man's being abused it's the man 's fault and when a woman's being abused it's also the man's fault no no no no did not say it like
01:33:28Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)that if anyone's being abused it's their fault unless they stay and they keep having it repeatedly happen to them then they should sometimes okay sometimes if a woman okay that situation I'll react
01:33:38Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)to that first um obviously the girl is not right to do that right no one's right to do that no nobody should ever
01:33:47Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)do that period but we don't know the context we also don't know their history I can say that he is kind of used to seeing that now maybe he loves her
01:33:59Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)enough that he thinks he can fix her in a way um then maybe he chooses to be with that that she provides something else for him why isn't there just an
01:34:08Brian Atlasimmediate like disavowing of her dog [ __ ] behavior on let me finish my point let me finish my point the your
01:34:17Brian Atlasimmediate jump was to how can we shift some of the blame onto the man instead of just an immediate disavowment of she's an abusive person he should leave
01:34:28Brian Atlasher like here's how she given that's a given that's okay I did I do have that reac I'm not sure if we would jump to you would make those
01:34:37Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)same if it was a man abusing a woman if you would jump to immediately just saying here's how the man's kind of [ __ ] up I agree with that I think so
01:34:49Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)you know sometimes a woman and a man right if it's a relationship where the woman I mean most cases could be a bit weaker than a man I
01:35:00Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)mean it depends on the concept they're having a verbal I don't think a woman should ever speak to a man like that and I don't think a man should ever speak to a woman like that I don't think you should ever put yourself in that kind of position where you're being verbally
01:35:11Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)abused like that you should never put yourself has a choice to just completely just not be with her it's also she's doing that to him he's sitting there she's screaming at him in the middle of
01:35:22Lelean airport as you can you can tell by his like demeanor in the video that this is not like a first time thing this is happen of just just because of his lack of a
01:35:33Lelereaction is a reaction in itself and seeing like how he is just completely numb to the way that she's like screaming and in full like Terror mode just kind of shows that this is probably
01:35:45TTS Readersomething that happens he looks like he's dis bullet donated $200 green if your highquality husband knew your body count early on would he
01:35:55TTS Readerstill be with you today if so why am it your past sins from someone you respect and love it never came up I didn't I it just never came up and like I said I think he
01:36:09Paulahad an idea but um I do not think he would have broken up with me if he had known early on all right axho buet thank you for the
01:36:19Brian AtlasTTS um what I do find interesting about this clip is that I'm pretty sure if it was the reverse if it was a dude freaking out on a woman like that like
01:36:30Brian Atlasthe actual people in that clip in the airport hearing it in earshot there would be men and women trying to intervene on behalf of that woman but like there's
01:36:41Lelenobody and she's even attacking other people and say didn't somebody try to intervene and that's why she like looked back towards the camera and said like you're a [ __ ] too sh but imagine if it was a man screaming at a woman you know that there'd be other women there
01:36:54Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)screaming at the man saying don't do this get away from her be like defending her I feel like be men too there'd be men there be men there be every since it's a man being screamed at because men are supposed to be more masculine stronger than
01:37:06Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)women which is not okay it's not okay but it's just the reality we Liv you guys are kind of like realiz like like what's the word you guys are just making it normal that's not noral I'm not
01:37:16Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)making no not at all not at all I'm just saying no I totally disagree with all that I'm just saying we should look into the context of things I never see things black and white you well yeah because
01:37:28Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)they're not there's always new on so of course it's going to be a reality that if a man screams at a woman everybody probably is going to defend just because the reality we live in women are sometimes perceived weaker in a
01:37:40Alexrelationship as men but I'm not saying I'm not condoning it I'm just saying it's reality but it's all about a power a power IM balance and obviously in that situation like the man looked like he
01:37:50Alexwas he was dissociating me associating yeah which is all which is not okay like neither of those situations are okay what is the power imbalance um well it's
01:38:01Alexlike the abuser versus the Abus like the abused usually feels trapped and like kind of weaker regardless of gender can be from both sides exactly my my
01:38:12Alexquestion would be why is he why does he feel like he he has to take that why does he put himself in this situation because because when people are trapped they are just trapped because it's the
01:38:22Alexsame with women no I agree with you I like but it's not about the whole point of asking um someone who is staying in an abusive relationship why are you saying like that's overall a ridiculous
01:38:34Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)question because they are trapped sometimes but it's not everybody not but also you can you know it's just I feel I've never been in this kind of
01:38:44Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)situation but but I'm allowed to have my own opinion saying because I feel like from what I've heard from some of my friends they did they're trapped because they feel trapped because they feel like they don't deserve more than what they're getting you don't deserve to be
01:38:58Paulascreamed at you don't deserve to be abused you don't deserve to be any of that you deserve to have someone who loves you and who wants to treat you like that um in abusive relationships what happens is the person is broken
01:39:07Pauladown to a point that they believe this is what they deserve this is the only person who's going to love them and they are broken down and unfortunately our
01:39:17Paulasocietal Norm has become that men don't want to fight back like I watch a video of a guy in a uber he was being choked
01:39:27Paulaby a woman from behind and instead of fighting back he holds his hands up and is like I'm not going to touch her I'm not going to touch her he's afraid because he's like if I touch her I'm
01:39:37Paulagoing to go to jail and that's not okay it's not no that's not okay and we've we as a society have now put that on men that they can't fight back and they should absolutely 100% be able to fight
01:39:50Leleback they should defend themselves defend themselves and there's a way to defend yourself without like bullace ass just punching a woman in the face um there's a way to defend yourself and the means of if
01:40:02Lelesomebody's choking you you have every right and then some to restrict them from being able to do so whether that mean physically pulling them off of you or physically putting their hands behind their back
01:40:14Lelerestraining them in some type of way but when it comes to abuse and general it's called there's a thing called beaten wife syndrome this is a real thing um and it's like how she was saying um
01:40:26Lelethere's like a you know people are you're in a relationship where you're not only being controlled but you're also being diminished and your feelings and everything like that it's usually from a narcissistic personality that um
01:40:39Lelehas those types of abusive natures and as somebody that has been in an abusive relationship in the past multiple different kinds actually I was in a very dark place and I was allowing people to treat me at a lower standard than what I
01:40:51TTS Readerwould normally do and those things like they they purposefully make you feel as if you're singled out and sees the Pagan donated $200 everything red said next to brain explaining the guy's motives in the
01:41:04TTS Readervideo for allowing the abuse if you would have switched out her words with woman you would have be cancelled you reverse bigot I agree that's true I think he's
01:41:15Brian Atlashe's talking to you I know I know I agree with him I think people are misunderstanding what thank you the P appreciate it all right um I am going to actually move on to the uh next thing so
01:41:28Brian AtlasNick can you pull what's the next thing there's a Twi Twitter there's a Twitter thing that's which one the first one or the second one first one's your TW tweet and the other the second one not my
01:41:39Unknowntweet video some girl talking about hinge or something Amber how' they get this clip of you okay kidding um I just got this
01:41:51Unknownnotification on hinge apparently now they have set a limit for you to send more likes not that I send [ __ ] likes apparently now when eight or more people are waiting for you to reply you are not allowed to [ __ ] send likes and when
01:42:03Unknownyou click the little info button this is what it tells you wow this is they just keep making the user experience even [ __ ] worse but no it'll help you because then you won't be burnt out shut
01:42:14Unknownup this app is already a [ __ ] hellscape I literally got back on because I was [ __ ] bored and it's like haot girl summer but this
01:42:23Brian Atlaslike oh my God it's so bad out here guys okay so this is a woman complaining that she can't match with more men because I guess apparently I'm not on
01:42:35Brian Atlasdating apps I'm not on hinge but apparently it used to be you could just like match with people kind of indefinitely sort of it still is it still is there's not like a they haven't
01:42:46Lelelimited it so like I think you also have premium I think you also have like a you put money towards it so you might that might be why is different from a regular account yeah if you just have the free account I think maybe it limits if
01:42:57Leleyou're like buying boosts and stuff like that which I know you do then it's probably different for just a regular user that doesn't Buy Boost or anything like that right which I don't understand
01:43:08Alexwhy she is even getting mad about like if you don't want to talk to those eight guys just UNM match with them like delete unmatch with more she wants more options she needs a thousand guys she
01:43:19Leleneeds to talk you better throw that 13.99 at hand you better throw at 13.99 at hinge and get yourself some roses what are we doing here broie whatever she's a total broy right just if you want to
01:43:31Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)be if you want to go off the deep then short you better start swimming like what are we doing you pointed out that she said she was bored too yeah it's not even clear if she's trying to date that's kind of like a lot of women's like thing now it's like oh I'm bored I
01:43:43Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)just want to talk to men or I'm bored I don't know I feel like I he that a l attention validation all right uh a lot of like women in like gen Z area and stuff I
01:43:56Brian Atlasfeel like I don't know well everyone's so depressed in gen Z area okay well I'm not inclined to uh told to rail the conversation and have a conversation about depression so
01:44:08Alexno not what I meant at all I meant like they're bored like everything just kind of feels like want more entertainment and yeah and the Tik Tok brain like you want more
01:44:18Brian Atlasentertainment go pick up a hobby go pick up a Netflix I I do netx love Island guys oh yeah get tired of that so fast so I guess my question is she did mention she was bored um have
01:44:31Brian Atlashas anybody here ever been on a dating app just cuz you're bored without any like actual intention to me and Amber call it hinging it out yeah I'm a hinge fluenc well when I was single but yeah what do you mean you're hinge fluenc you
01:44:43Leleknow what maybe we should get do you have a do you have prompts on your hinge um I don't think so I think I just put wait don't you have the recording of me giving you like a what for you oh damn damn that would have been you know what
01:44:55Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)your prompts say yeah looking for sweethearts and honesty I think that's all I put on there that's it yeah cuz I think it allows three cuz that for me usually attacks like the good type of guys for me she too far from the mic
01:45:06Brian Atlasagain okay um but uh so just you'll have you have two separate prompts one of them says looking for sweethearts looking for honesty or yeah I think that's all I
01:45:18Brian Atlashave on there okay uh how many matches would you say you get per day um I don't know like 20 30 maybe a daily
01:45:28Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)okay how many people would you are you talking on to on there um consistently I don't really talk to anyone it's like whoever reaches out to me if they like want to come out to talk to me I I don't
01:45:40Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)really go out of my way to reach out to someone but if they come to me sure I'll yeah them out I think she's a very kind soul oh thank you thank you I also think that a lot of the time like you aren't
01:45:51Lelereally talking on the hinge platform itself like you're moving to Snapchat or numbers or Instagram DMS or whatever mostly Snapchat so you can see if they're catfish or not true those are
01:46:03Brian Atlaslive photos those are live sometimes they aren't sometimes you can like remix the photo you can green screen it but green screen is crazy all right so um I
01:46:14Brian Atlashave a question here so have you guys ever seen and I've this seems to be like a I don't know if it's a complaint I
01:46:22Brian Atlashear but but you do you frequently see like beautiful women with mid men yeah yes just here hold on let's go around
01:46:30Brian Atlasthe table oh yeah for sure yes yeah yes yes yep yep yes more so than the reverse more so than the reverse do you ever
01:46:41Lelequestion why is she with that guy no I mean you might be like oh like she's beautiful like she' probably Personality yeah yeah I think that with um and this is like kind of a controversial
01:46:54Lelestatement but I feel like a lot of people are going to agree with it when a man meets a woman I think within the first like five minutes of talking to them intro wise they probably have
01:47:06Lelealready made up in their mind what category this woman is going to go into whether it's someone that they view sexually romantically or otherwise like in that way or if they see them as more like a friend or someone that they're
01:47:17Lelenot interested in a sexual way so um whereas a woman is very different in that sense um I might have met someone and seen them and been like not really
01:47:28Lelemy type of guy or person to to date or be sexual with but then their personality and how they make me feel when I'm around them that sort of thing can really change whether or not um they
01:47:39Lelefall back into like the having sex category you know what I mean right I feel like that category doesn't really change too much for in a for just so I'm clear everybody here has seen this
01:47:51Alexphenomen multiple times beautiful women being girls in terms of their looks with mid guys in terms of their looks which actually brings me back to to the point
01:48:00Brian Atlasthat I made women just put more effort into what they look like so there's just more beautiful women out there you know I was actually thinking about this earlier today could it just be that the
01:48:12Brian Atlasthings that make somebody attractive just Genetically speaking women are more likely to have those things for example I was thinking and this is just one examp example of like many different
01:48:24Brian Atlasways this could manifest itself but somebody who has like a sort of weak facial structure so like you'll see beautiful women who have like very
01:48:34Brian Atlaspronounced Jaws but also women who have more like rounded weaker jawlines but still they're still deemed physically attractive whereas it occurred to me
01:48:45Brian Atlasthat there will be more men who have weaker faces and just on that metric alone will be deemed unattractive and I thought about that and I was like could there actually just be almost like a
01:48:56Brian Atlasbiological uh a biological genetic component that what is deemed more attractive it that range is actually bigger for women than it is can com on
01:49:07Brian Atlasthat I was think because women can have very sharp features and still be beautiful but they can also have like more rounded softer features and still be beautiful it's not clear to me if men
01:49:18Brian Atlaswho have like weak jaw lines they tend to be overlooked in terms of being deemed physically attractive I um I wanted to comment on this because um I
01:49:27Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)like to paint so I kind of look at faces a lot and um I was I noticed that actually men are more likely to appear
01:49:37Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)attractive to a woman even if they're not like physically attractive by standard because a man and he can be much older also and can still be very
01:49:48Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)attractive to a woman just how he acts how he presents himself his con confidence um a girl has much if she's not traditionally attractive she has lesser chance to appear attractive to a
01:50:01Leleman yeah exactly how I kind of just said like with my first response but I think what he's saying is more just focused just solely on the facial structure and like the way that you look nothing to do with like your personality is what he
01:50:13Lelewas trying to explain I think right Brian you're trying to explain like that from the neck up a man having a different like Jaw structure and bone structure in their face varies More Than
01:50:25Brian Atlasa Woman yeah so just so to add on to that I think the like in terms of like uh facial facial Symmetry and then also
01:50:35Brian Atlasuh I I would say facial like Jaw structure I actually think in terms of what is deemed physically attractive for men it's much more narrow for women
01:50:46Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)whereas women the what can be deemed physically attractive is much wider I mean I've do you mean do you mean women do you mean like men like in our eyes or like
01:50:56Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)in general sorry I missed that part uh in general by by women by Society but for example do you think Adrien Brody is attractive I have no idea who that is
01:51:06Amber/Mateline/Grace/Margarita (mixed)the guy that played The Pianist right well he has what okay what well he he's not like traditionally attractive but his features if you pick it at them
01:51:17Alexthey're not traditionally attractive overall the facial Harmony is attractive May wife so I would like to actually answer your question Brian and like you are actually
01:51:28Alexcorrect but also throughout history like if you look at the paintings and look at how um specifically because you you mentioned like and as as an artist