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00:04:07Natalia Taylorthe guests introduce themselves so please tell us your name age location and occupation go ahead hi I'm Natalia Taylor I'm 27 I'm from the Coachella
00:04:17Natalia TaylorValley and I'm a traditional model and a cashier at a gift shop what so what's a traditional model so I have a modeling agency in
00:04:27Brian AtlasLa I'm not an O model or an Instagram model like you do actual actual modeling traditional modeling traditional modeling so do you have beef with girls
00:04:37Natalia Taylorwho like do that other kind of modeling who claim to be models is that no no I just thought it would be important to distinguish that make a distinction yeah it's fair it's fair because we got two
00:04:48Ali Hardestytwo o girls at the panel today so do you guys take any quarrel with with the distinction she chooses to make you guys aren't real models uh I mean I'm not offended
00:05:00Andrew WilsonTR yeah she's put in the work they're non 18 plus model Big Air quotes here on the model part but okay um when you say
00:05:12Andrew Wilsonum traditional model can you can you maybe help us out there what kind of traditional yeah so like I do uh well they call it like um it's going to be
00:05:24Natalia Taylortop like fashion the third one down third one down they they well print is basically it's considered Runway and print stuff too but yeah I recently was in a runway show her first one which is
00:05:34Natalia Taylorreally exciting yeah it makes sense it makes sense well I am I'm 5 fo 10 so pretty tall so you're not so you're not doing things like lingerie modeling that kind of thing uh not at this
00:05:46Natalia Taylorpoint are you going to expand into something like that you think I would have to be really particular about like the lingerie brand if I was like offered you know to do something for like um
00:05:58Nicolelike Rihanna's lingerie or you know even Victoria Secret nowadays I would consider it okay thank you what about you my name is Nicole I'm 24 years old
00:06:09Nicoleand I live in Huntington Beach um I am a freelance makeup artist for a brand called itg cosmetics and YSL Beauty as well and she's also my best
00:06:20Nicolefriend oh okay and uh where are you from um I'm originally from Palm Springs but I live in Huntington Beach now all right
00:06:28Demi Hawkscool uh I'm Demi Hawks I'm 24 and I live in Los Angeles and I'm a porn star welcome back thank you hi I'm Ali
00:06:38Ali HardestyHardesty I'm 27 I live in Huntington Beach and I'm a YouTuber sloff model welcome very good my name is Aspen
00:06:49AspenI live in Eastern Washington I'm 28 years old and I work as an emergency nurse and I do International Disaster Response nursing and then I work at a pro-life um Crisis Pregnancy Center all
00:07:02Brian Atlasright can we have you scooted into the table just a tad uh Gustavo what about you Gustavo buos Tardes kiche oh wait that's
00:07:15Natalia TaylorItalian uh K right how do you say how do you say okay there's going to be a language barrier here I'm just going to move on
00:07:26Morganwhat about you uh I'm Morgan I'm 28 I'm I am from the Bay Area I am in bartending and recently joined the Lash
00:07:35Brian Atlascommunity so lash teching and X only fans oh did not know that um okay X used to do o was it what kind of
00:07:47Morgancontent were you making on no solo okay you never did BG content no okay and just to give credit where credit is due I will say your podcast did help
00:07:57Morgansolidify that decision oh oh my good oh look at that I was already like getting out of it but after coming into contct with the podcast it definitely solidifi how long
00:08:10Morgandid you do it for it was really on and off but I'd say I would do it sporadically for months at a time and then I'd kind of get sick of it uh on and off for
00:08:21Madisonabout two years okay Maddie what about you my name is Madison I'm 19 years old I'm from San Diego but I currently live in Santa
00:08:33Brian AtlasBarbara I work for the whatever podcast and I'm a student at Santa Bara City College studying Communications all right welcome
00:08:41Brian Atlaseverybody and then last but not least the great debate God my Caucasian Andrew Wilson take it away
00:08:53Andrew Wilsonyeah my name is Andrew Wilson I am the host of The One and Only Crucible fastest growing debate channel on the internet to my knowledge I'm a political saturnist I do political commentary and
00:09:03Andrew WilsonI'm also a blood sport debater um and I work as a uh by trade as a robotics engineer
00:09:12Brian Atlasokay welcome Andrew appreciate it uh glad to uh have you back congrats man 1 million you did it we did it you did it
00:09:22Brian Atlaswe did it J now Andrew you were uh you got into a bit of I don't know if you want to talk about it uh you had a beef in in Miami in Florida do you want
00:09:34Andrew Wilsonto talk about it or not really you had a beef oh with um with Mr Roid Rage yeah I remember that so um actually we were kind of surprised
00:09:44Andrew Wilsonby that the um the panel itself we weren't exactly sure what the format of it was going to be um I'm not really sure that they knew exactly what the
00:09:53Andrew Wilsonformat was going to be so um when we were we were kind of told hey we're just going to talk about kind of what our different viewpoints are as far as success goes and it was it was kind of
00:10:04Andrew Wilsonfunny because um I was talking with Walter before it started and Walter was like you know the the best thing about having you on is your adversarial nature he's like so don't lose that on the panel and I was like well okay I won't
00:10:16Brian Atlaslose the adversarial nature on the panel I promise so and but he he wasn't expecting it to go like that either did you guys squash it behind the scenes like is it is it good or you guys still
00:10:26Andrew Wilsonkind of beefing uh well I mean I don't have um I don't like ongoing beefs they're not very productive yeah and I don't think that uh West Watson is uh you know
00:10:39Andrew Wilsonparticularly inclined so I'm sure I'm sure I'll do a show discussing it I haven't even done a show discussing that yet okay um sure and then other than that like I'm not looking for any kind of long-term problem with the guy he was
00:10:50Andrew Wilsonjust kind of a roed out blow heart but what what got me what was interesting about it is he was triggered so quickly by so and um it drew a contrast but one of the
00:11:03Andrew Wilsonthings that kind of made I think the uh the manosphere look bad and the red kind of the red pill looked bad and the reason they were so upset with him is because he looked like a caricature of what the basically the opponents of the
00:11:14Andrew Wilsonred pill say right these guys are just a bunch of materialist roed out uh woman bashing lunatics that's essentially what um you know what the what the people in opposition to the red pill manosphere
00:11:27Andrew Wilsonsay and this guy ended up becoming kind of a caricature for that so it didn't go over very well for him but yeah we were actually kind of surprised at how much he freaked out and how much of a slave
00:11:37Andrew Wilsonto his emotions he was so yeah good times good times did you shave your arms I uh I did not shave my arms that was the I couldn't believe that the guy
00:11:47Andrew Wilsonsaid that me just gave your arms I was like what then Jim Bob of course said shave his arms he's a man why would he shave his arms anyways uh so we're going to go around the table one once more so what
00:12:00Brian Atlasis everybody's current relationship status so are you single talking stage situationship Friends with Benefits relationship married polyu sex Cole terum whatever it may be if you're single how long have you been single and
00:12:11Natalia Taylorwhat's the longest relationship you've ever been in starting with you go ahead I'm married I've been married for two and a half years now and I've been with
00:12:21Natalia Taylormy husband for I believe eight years now so yeah that's the longest relationship I've ever been in thank you how old did you say you were I'm 27 all 27 so you said you're married for two years yep
00:12:34Brian Atlasand but you've been together for eight years total yep okay and consecutively like there weren't any on again off again there weren't any breaks or there
00:12:43Brian Atlasweren't any breaks okay wow okay so from basically 19 to now at 27 You' been together uh maybe it was 20 yeah I'm
00:12:54Natalia Taylortrying to do the math in my head we met in 2017 so I thought that was 8 years maybe seven but yeah okay all right and never broke up always together no and I'm very happily married can confirm I
00:13:07Brian AtlasI've know both a long time shout out to Z that's um that's great good for you thank you and uh it's rare for the whatever
00:13:16Natalia Taylorpodcast to hear from someone who's actually in a healthy ongoing relationship that's never anyways Brian that's kind of like
00:13:27Natalia Taylora huge reason that I'm here cuz you know my friend Ally she's been on the podcast before and she thought you know it might be interesting to have you on because it's a little bit different than what you guys normally do and just to let you
00:13:39Natalia Taylorknow no offense no offense but I've never seen the show so I have no idea I have no idea I like just watch I watched a few clips and and so yeah I can't wait
00:13:49Nicoleto contribute what my experiences are and my opinions rock and roll rock and roll what about you um I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend his name is Will we've been together for four
00:14:00Nicoleyears um and that's my longest relationship that I've been how did you guys meet um well I used to date his best friend a long time ago when I was in
00:14:11Nicolehigh school um okay so yeah I dated his friend and we broke up um him and I stayed in contact for about 3 years and
00:14:21Nicolethen um I think at a certain point we kind of got a crush on each other and he actually went the right route he spoke to him before anything happened and he
00:14:31Nicolegot his Blessing so yeah but he was an [ __ ] so honestly it's fine the ex the ex he was a complete [ __ ] he's still is so what would have happened if he didn't get his Blessing I was just thinking that I don't think we would
00:14:44Brian Atlashave continued I mean it really yeah we would have stopped right there yeah H are they still friends no the two guys no they're not but it is uh were they best friends or just friends they were
00:14:56Nicolebest friends but they did like grow and complete completely opposite directions I think that wait question did they stop being friends after you got
00:15:06Nicolewith the new guy your current boyfriend yes huh it could just be a coincidence okay so when he um told him about like I
00:15:18Nicolethink I like Nicole or whatever like would you mind if I you know pursued that he actually said dude if you guys get married I'll be the best man at your wedding I don't even care and I'm actually glad you said that because I
00:15:31Nicoleactually hooked up with this girl that you were seeing and so I'm glad like he put that on the table so he wasn't a really good friend he grew in a completely different direction so I don't think they would have been friends
00:15:43Nicoleregardless at least I hope not because my boyfriend like grew into this amazing person and I think that he's um will is so great he's grown a lot since we've been together and I don't think that
00:15:55Demi Hawksthat relationship would be compatible anymore like that friendship hm okay what about you I'm still single single still single but loving it in my on the street you're loving it on the
00:16:08Demi Hawksstreet I've been uh I've been single since January like mid to end of January and yeah it's been good I've never like been single for long stretches of time
00:16:20Demi Hawksthis is the longest period of time I've ever been single in my life really yeah why why do you think that is I'm a l girl I like I just lock me down wait you're a what girl I'm a lover
00:16:34Demi Hawksgirl you're a lover girl say that how long was your longest relationship uh 7 years wow how old are you again I'm 24
00:16:44Demi Hawks24 okay so you're a lover girl and so not anymore though are there any guys in the picture there's there's like some guys that I'm you know kind of
00:16:57Demi Hawksgoing on dates I'm not trying to I'm not trying to be in a relationship with anybody like I like going on you know dates here and there I've definitely been like hooking up with people but I'm
00:17:07Andrew Wilsonmaking it very clear like I just want to have fun I don't want to be locked down do does lover does lover girl kind of mean like um like promiscuous is that is that what you me um I guess I meant it
00:17:18Demi Hawksin like oh that I'm like sappy and I get kind of like pulled into like like a romantic yeah I get kind of romantic and I'm not being like that so much anymore
00:17:32Demi Hawksyou said that there's a couple guys in the picture there are although so you have you got a roster I'm trying to build a roster and it's like I'm building it this is my plan but it's
00:17:42Demi Hawkskind of difficult cuz I'm very busy and I only hook up with other guys in the in the porn industry part of that is like the testing bubble and all that that I worry about so they're busy and I'm busy
00:17:54Brian Atlasand then it's kind of hard to maintain this roster that I'm building and so the roster does does the roster consist of only guys in the industry yeah and how many so what
00:18:06Demi Hawkswhat's the roster looking like currently two three guys oh sad yeah maybe two or three it's sad because there's too few yeah I feel like it should be like Pokemon like got to catch them all you want like 10 yeah that's guys that
00:18:18Demi Hawksyou're interested in or guys that you're like actively sleeping with into the mic you canable you can SK to the table too it's guys that I like spending time with I like sleeping with them I'm not interested in uing a relationship right
00:18:30Demi Hawksnow I've just like like I said I've kind of been locked down like my whole life definitely my whole adult life and that was like I just wanted to experience being single and being free and I had some bad
00:18:42Demi Hawksrelationships I made really bad choices about the men like that I got into relationships with so I'm just kind of great um if you don't mind me me following up when you say that you've been locked down most of your adult life
00:18:55Andrew Wilsonhow old are you 24 so your adult life has been 5 years 6 years yeah wait yeah yeah six
00:19:05Andrew Wilsonyears so I mean it's not really how how many different lockdowns did you have in that six-year period I had two long-term relationships were they both about three
00:19:17Demi HawksI had one like that I like I met a guy in high school and we work together through high school and then through till I was like 2021 and then or 22 and then I was in a relationship for
00:19:28Demi Hawkstwo 2 years with another guy were you in the porn industry while you were in a relationship mhm and did he mind or um no honestly like that's not why we broke
00:19:40Demi Hawksup it was like other well kind of from my perspective uh cuz he saw how much money I was making important and was like well I don't want to work and that
00:19:49Demi Hawksstarted to bother meit that fin a little bit just like there were there were a lot of other things going on on in that relationship and we were just like we were spending less time ask you a
00:20:02Brian Atlasquestion on that if you were dating a billionaire and your earning potential was like 40,000 a year wouldn't it be like make sense for like you to not work a 9 to-5 while dating a billionaire and like for him it's like a penny basically
00:20:15Demi HawksI think that might make sense but I think he or whoever you know I was dating and this was sort of what happened was he might get bored if I'm just don't have an ambition and what what happened was like like you can
00:20:27Demi Hawksdefinitely like do other things besides work and be an ambitious and interesting person or you can decide oh I'm not going to work I'm going to play video games all day I'm not going to be an
00:20:37Andrew Wilsoninteresting or ambitious person mhm okay and that was kind of Happ I mean I don't I don't understand though if let's just say that this guy should probably get
00:20:48Andrew Wilsonadditional points right away because by your own admission you're a prostitute right no no hold on well if you're a porn star prostitution there's a different there is a difference what's
00:20:59Andrew Wilsonit what's the difference one is being filmed yeah one is being filmed it's like what I do is ENT so the difference between prostitution and pornography is that
00:21:10Andrew Wilsonother people can jerk off to it I think so that because I'm in the I just no no I want to be clear I want this question answered what is the difference between prostitution and pornography I'm
00:21:21Demi Hawksactually not clear on this point prostitution is a lot less regulated I would say it's a lot less like like when I walk into like a professional porn Studio set it's very like there's prostitutes who are regulated if you go
00:21:34Andrew Wilsonto Nevada there's all sorts of regulations which they impose on their prostitutes uh and that includes testing that includes all sorts of different things they have professional brothel they're still prostitutes why would you
00:21:46Demi Hawksmake the distinguishment between prostitution and pornography it's prostitution I think for the sake of the argument you're about to make so I'll let you get there like you're right I'll let you have that point and let the let
00:21:57Demi Hawksyou make the rest of your case although I will say like industry wise like it's just like it's two different kind of experiences I won't say like oh one's better than the other and once's safer or cleaner or like just in the sake of
00:22:10Demi Hawksthis argument like fine if you want to say like I I [ __ ] for money therefore I'm a prostitute well what else would you be a porn star a porn star well okay
00:22:21Andrew Wilsonbut this is a there's a it's a non-semantic distinction so if you say people who have sexual intercourse for money are prostitutes and you're having sexual intercourse for money this would
00:22:32Andrew Wilsonmake you a what that would make me a prostitute that would make you a prostitute so unless you can give me a a semantic distinction something which actually creates a delineation obviously prostitutes can have sex on on camera as
00:22:45Demi Hawkswell as not on camera they would still be prostitutes what would the actual distin distinction between the two be I honestly I wouldn't say that I'm a a prostitute or I'm an escort because I'm
00:22:56Demi Hawksnot and I don't want to like take I don't know like I don't want to take away from girls who do it's kind of like the distinction between like well it's the distinction
00:23:07Andrew Wilsonbetween Stolen Valor is that what's going on Sten is it prostitution Stolen Valor like I don't want to take away from The Valor of the prostitutes uh as
00:23:20Andrew WilsonI engage in the same exact type of sexual act I don't get it like what can you can you make an actual distinction between the two for me it's definitely it's not the same exact thing when I
00:23:31Demi Hawkswalk onto a set I have like there's a script there's a call sheet there's a a specific stud or company it's man yeah it's managed very differently than like walking into a date with like mean
00:23:43Andrew Wilsoncouldn't a guy hire a prostitute and then have a script for her to read when she came in because you know it made him happy uh I don't I don't understand what is the actual what is the actual
00:23:55Andrew Wilsonsemantic distinction it seems like the talents PR who gets paid to have sex on camera or you're a prostitute who does not get paid to have sex on camera if you can actually give me a delineation
00:24:05Demi Hawksthat makes sense I'm willing to accept it so the person I'm having sex with on camera is not the person who's paying me and they're also being paid to have sex on camera correct me if I'm wrong and
00:24:16Andrew WilsonI'm not wait wait hang on hang on so I could I could also hire two prostitutes to have sex and pay them both even though I don't have sex with either of them correct yeah and then you're
00:24:26Andrew Wilsoncreating an amateur porno I guess if you want to f it and put it somewhere well no I mean I could hire two prostitutes they could have sex with each other and I could never have sex with either of
00:24:37Andrew Wilsonthem they would definitely be engaged in prostitution right yeah so what's the so I still need a distinction from you because everything you say it sounds like you could The Prostitute does the same exact
00:24:49Demi Hawksthing it's the it's the combination of things like like I said like it is that I'm being paid to have sex and the person who's having sex with me is being paid there's a company that's like funding it like a big so there's two
00:25:01Morganprostitutes being paid let me ask you would you say it that you consider it more of entertainment because it is filmed and as a as a as opposed to prostitution
00:25:13Demi Hawksit's a do entertainment I think though like prostitution is also like entertaining to the person being entertained exactly so what what was the what was the point you were going with
00:25:24Andrew Wilsonthis cuz I I feel like my point is is that uh I guess to to bring it back around um if if you can't give me an actual distinction between what a would actually be a delineation between
00:25:35Andrew Wilsonprostitution and being a porn star because they're both just prostitution as far as far as I'm aware uh again willing to be corrected but the point I was making was that shouldn't this guy
00:25:47Andrew Wilsonkind of get additional bonus points for the fact that he's with a prostitute willingly if she's making a ton of cash and he's with her willingly like isn't isn't that kind of bonus points for him
00:26:00Demi Hawkslike from your perspective well if he's just using her it's kind of like he would be almost acting as like a pimp in that way where he's yeah like that's not how I want my personal relationship to
00:26:12Nicolehow would he be a pimp because he's using letting her make money if if we're going with a prostitution angle he's just like laying back doing nothing and
00:26:22Andrew Wilsonletting her make money for him as well for the prostitution or the porn if that makes okay but I I let me let me test this for you or test the logic here and you can tell me where I get this wrong
00:26:35Andrew Wilsonyou're let's assume for a second you're engaged in prostitution and then you meet a guy and you end up with this guy and you continue to be engaged in prostitution how in the world would he
00:26:47Andrew Wilsonbe the pimp you were already you were already a prostitute like now he's just he's with you and you're still doing the same thing you were doing before how would that colleting the money yeah we have
00:26:59Demi Hawksthis term in the industry it's kind of a jokey term but we call them a suitcase pimp you know who a guy who usually lives off the the income of their girlfriend or their wife and they just
00:27:10Demi Hawkskind of don't contribute in other ways I mean yeah we would we kind of call that a suitcase pimp it's not a fullon pimp but
00:27:21Andrew Wilsonit is indry where you're not hang on I want to make sure I get this right inside of the industry where you're definitely not prostitute boyfriends who take the money from the girls are called pimps but definitely not prostitution in
00:27:34Demi Hawksany way shape or form right I think you're confusing prostitution with sex work in which case like you are correct sex work is like this blanket term where
00:27:42Andrew Wilsonlike you engage sex of of these porn stars pimps pimps are associated with what what are they associated with sex
00:27:53Andrew Wilsonwork prostitutes that what do you mean sex work they're associated with prostitutes
00:28:01Nicolehey there's a hooker in the back if you want her they don't go here I got a sex worker for you is because you were asking about the guy and like why she didn't want to be with him it's I just said pimp because
00:28:12Nicolegoing along with the prostitute scenario I guess she didn't want to be with the guy because he had no ambition of his own and he just wanted her to basically
00:28:21Andrew Wilsongo out and the film porn yeah and live off of her income and you know have no understand if he is willing to look past that right if he's willing to look past
00:28:32Andrew Wilsonthe prostitution was to Brian's to Brian's Point well then this this could operate the the exact opposite way too right you would say that women then who are with men who make a lot of money are
00:28:43Demi Hawksjust using them sometimes yeah mhm yeah but in I mean you would say at least it's a case by case though right yeah yeah and say in my case yeah like that guy got boring
00:28:56Demi Hawksand kind of mean and very ambitious less and you know no amount of other so-called bonus points would you know make up for that it's just not what I wanted in my life it just wasn't
00:29:06Demi Hawksworking yeah right I'm but but I guess my my point is is do you give extra points to somebody because they're willing to be with a prostitute no because because if somebody's willing to
00:29:19Demi Hawksbe with me then they already have like those points you know what I mean like anybody I would date anybody who I interact with in my personal life like they are okay with that or I never
00:29:29Demi Hawksinteract with them so like to me that's kind of just like a given that you know like it's not like oh this boyfriend better than that boyfriend because that boyfriend was like okay with me doing my
00:29:40Andrew Wilsonjob it's like I I really only dat guys who are okay with me doing my job um would you prefer a man who told you that he didn't want you to engage in prostitution anymore no absolutely not
00:29:53Andrew Wilsonthat's why I love being single nobody's telling me what to do yeah yeah so if that's if that's the case case then he could never be a pimp if he's with you in spite of the fact that you're a prostitute cuz you wouldn't want him to
00:30:03Demi Hawkstell you not to be anyway right I don't think it mattered what my job is I think it was just that I was working a ton and making a lot of money and he just fell off because of that Andrew I do need to
00:30:16Brian Atlasmove it on do you have a final do you have a final no no no we're good you had something go ahead oh no I already you're good okay uh really quick just to wrap up on the relationship status you said you currently have three people on
00:30:28Demi Hawksyour roster yeah and these are all people who work in the industry is that correct yeah that's correct okay what's the most you've ever had on
00:30:39Demi Hawksroster three this is my this is my first time being single it's my first time doing the roster thing so okay yeah and so you're like seeing each of these guys
00:30:50Demi Hawksonce a week twice a week I wish like once a month twice a month and that's just scheduling and kind of just me like sometimes I'll make plans to hang out and then I I'm too
00:31:01Ali Hardestytired okay what about you I am happily single I've been single for exactly 20 days now wow and I believe my longest relationship was about 3 years about a
00:31:12Ali Hardestycouple of those how long was the one that ended 20 days ago it was 2 months but we were best friends for 2 years so things moved really quickly for that 2-year period that you were friends was there
00:31:25Ali Hardestyany sexual involvement or strictly platon we met in an orgy but we didn't have sex we didn't have sex we just we interacted we didn't swap fully and then we just were
00:31:36Ali Hardestyplatonic friends so when you say orgy um are you like do you consider yourself a swinger uh I think at that time there was a little bit of that but it was just with um my partner and then it was like the other couple which so you would go
00:31:49Ali Hardestyto orgies with your boyfriend at the time yes so to be clear you he wasn't my boyfriend but he was my long-term friends of benefit situation guy the how
00:31:57Brian Atlaslong were you in that 3 years like two years you were in an open situationship for 2 years basically yeah like on and off okay and you met your most recent
00:32:09Brian Atlasguy who you dated for a couple months at an orgy while you were at said orgy with your two-year situationship they were roommates yes hold on just to be clear
00:32:20Brian Atlasguy roomates to be clear the guy that you broke up with or that you guys broke up uh 20 days ago who you were dating
00:32:28Brian Atlasfor two two months was it two 3 months he was roommates with your 2year situationship yeah they weren't roommates anymore but that's when I met
00:32:39Ali Hardestyhim at the time they were at the time when you met him in the orgy they were it was at their house yes okay trying to keep track I guess it
00:32:49Ali Hardestywas to be technical a forsome that we did not swapping and so he was the other person the other guy okay so wait you met him during an orgy yes well I met
00:33:01Ali Hardestyhim a forsome or an orgy it was a forsome is that an orgy I'm not really sure I don't I don't know there was four people no one swapped fully I know we were inter do we need to get the requirement down for how many people it
00:33:13Ali Hardestytakes for to be an orgy it was more than three I consider that an orgy but maybe it's not I'm 27 27 okay so I was 25 at the time uh so so you were so you were you
00:33:23Ali Hardestywere in an orgy and uh and then you met you met this guy well I guess I knew him prior to that but just like that's when we really got close and I got to know him were they like high-fiving over your head or something like
00:33:38Ali Hardestythat so okay you were you broke up 20 days ago who broke up with who I broke up with him why uh there was a few reasons it was a little similar to what
00:33:51Ali Hardestyshe was talking about I do only fans and he was really comfortable just like kind of living at my place using my car and and um we were at Coachella and um some things had happened there
00:34:04Ali Hardestyand he was like with another girl he told her we were in an open relationship which we weren't we were completely monogamous when we got together and then when I broke up with him he vandalized
00:34:14Brian Atlasmy car oo Good Times mhm times I sure know how to pick him uh so he was he had nothing going for him he was living at your place I'm not going to say he had
00:34:25Ali Hardestynothing going for him but I I am not shallow I wasn't going to break up with him from like just lack of ambition alone so it really took him kind of like
00:34:35Ali Hardestybeing sneaky weird like cuz I always thought he was so loyal and that's why I was with him I was like oh he treats me so good he's so sweet and then when I started to realize that he was maybe not doing that I was like I'm out well you
00:34:47Brian Atlasmet him at a for right you met him yeah but that was two years ago we weren't together then okay but somebody who's somebody who has an inclination towards that kind of so
00:34:58Brian Atlasuh sexual conduct is probably not the best bet for like well down the road I'm going to have a monogamous relationship with this person well I think that like with certain people you could like choose to be poly and then other people
00:35:11Andrew Wilsonyou choose to be in a committed relationship so I disagree with well hang on so if if you don't mind if I ask a few questions here sure uh can I give you a scenario sure let us imagine for a
00:35:22Andrew Wilsonmoment that this relationship that you had with this gentleman worked out and you're uh 35 5 years old and you're sitting around with uh little Stephanie your daughter and she says mommy how'd
00:35:33Andrew Wilsonyou meet Daddy and you're like well we were at a [ __ ] gang bang and uh you know there was uh there was body fluids going all over the place and uh they high-fived over my head and I knew then
00:35:45Andrew Wilsonyour dad was the one for me like does that sound like maybe maybe if you think about that in the future that future conversation does that maybe produce red flags in your head I thought
00:35:57Ali Hardestyit was was cute like a love story you know I mean we didn't have to tell our kid that per se we could just say we met like for mutual friends spark yeah that's true me up
00:36:09Ali Hardestylike it's not like I was the first time meeting him but like I had met him pretty recent before that so yeah good times well I mean but you would have to
00:36:20Ali Hardestythen lie to your kids right I would be honest then I don't really have a problem old be honest right yeah I mean I'm going has to be honest about me doing only fans like all sorts of things so I'm not a liar I'm not a I mean would
00:36:34Andrew Wilsonit would it make you uncomfortable to have that conversation at 35 with little Stephanie with the origin story of how I met your father was at a gang bang I think like you know when people become a certain age you're going to have the
00:36:47Ali Hardestyconversation about the birds and the bees and stuff like that anyways I don't think when they you know are like a newborn baby or like a toddler I need to like necessarily be sharing those details
00:36:58Andrew Wilsonno but I mean even 12 13 right something in there when kids are starting to go through puberty and they become uh curious about that type of thing you know what I mean and they're asking
00:37:08Ali Hardestyabout it would you feel any shame at all telling that story to little Stephanie I think that they could learn from my experiences both negative and positive and I could teach them about safe sex
00:37:20Ali Hardestyand you know times where maybe like I wasn't being that safe and so say a safe way to do an orgy that's what you want to teach little Stephanie wait sorry two people are talking I was asking what if somebody else told Stephanie that story
00:37:33Ali Hardestyhow would you feel about about how you met him I'm not really ashamed of it honestly it is what it is I was also like there were boundaries and like we
00:37:44Ali Hardestybecame very very close friends before we ever got together and at the time I was just with that partner who I was like experimenting and doing those things with is he still friends with the guy like they already weren't friends before that happened oh they were just
00:37:58Brian Atlasokay well they were friends at the time but they fell out like long before we got together okay so you ended it 20 days ago uh has there been a rebound no I've been completely celibate
00:38:08Brian Atlassingle okay you have a question for no sorry I asked oh she already answered she answer it all right and uh okay no rebound no guys in the picture no nothing I don't
00:38:21Ali Hardestythe tolerance right now no tolerance you're sick are you sick of men sick and tired sick and tired to therapy that's what I'm doing okay you said that you uh well but you might be only an orgy away
00:38:32Ali Hardestyfrom Mr Wright no I actually like was very keen on no longer participating in that stuff which this boyfriend knew which is why when he told the girl at Coachella we were open I was like I'm
00:38:43Ali HardestyI'm out you know that's not true so I those days are over I'm no longer fun anymore during those days dur think that that's true yeah thank you that's what
00:38:53Brian Atlashe said so during those days during those days how how many uh like orgies were you participating in have well again Define orgy cuz I guess four
00:39:02Ali Hardestydoesn't count as one I never I guess never had one of community yeah with him only with him well would you go to like sex parties would you go to sex parties yeah how many not many how many did you
00:39:14Ali Hardestygo to uh actually that's a lie I I've been to a few actually more than 10 what's that more than 10 Oh No 5 to 10 sex parties let's say five okay and you
00:39:25Ali Hardestywould have sex with your partner or you would like swap I was only with him and uh there were times where I've been to parties like that and I'm just watching or like interacting but like not having
00:39:36Aspenintercourse so was your partner with other people we would have three Subs a lot what's that like to just watch just sit there and watch while people do that yeah I couldn't do that it's interesting it can be really
00:39:48Ali Hardestyoverwhelming and I would get turned on by watching him with other people but then you know you experience things like jealousy which is natural but usually would experience that more like if it was like after the fact like if it was
00:40:00Aspenjust like in the moment like I actually really liked it sure what about you oh um so I've my longest relationship was
00:40:08Aspenlike probably 5 years on and off it was really bad and then one from age 21 to now I have been single wait hold on uh
00:40:19Aspenso your current relationship status is single single and you said from 21 to 28 you've been single yeah like did you say I've gone on dates and I there was I talked to one guy in that time and
00:40:31Brian Atlasotherwise I've been single so you've been single for eight years probably seven okay seven you've been single for seven years you were in
00:40:39Aspena 5year relationship from uh what age to what age um it was like 17 to 21 is so I see and you said it was on again off
00:40:48Brian Atlasagain yeah how many times was it on off oh my gosh probably like 20 times 20 times it was so bad
00:40:57Brian Atlasis that fairly like is it you think it's more 30 40 50 times I think probably 20 20 fair I hope not more than 20 but more
00:41:06Aspenoften than not who was making it off me turn me like exclusively all the 20 times um well no there was one there was one time where he had like gotten a new
00:41:18Aspengirlfriend and that was like and he like didn't message me that time and I found out about it and so I guess that would be him like so you would break up with him I would break up with him yeah and then but if
00:41:31Brian Atlashe got a girlfriend I was like trying to win him back so who would of the 20 or so times who would try to rekindle things was it split always him him always trying to get me back trying to
00:41:42Brian Atlasget you back and you would take him back typically how long I know sometimes there there would be variants what would be the break typically in these off periods one month two month 3 months a week um what was the shortest what was
00:41:54Aspenthe longest okay maybe like 3 days till like like 2 weeks two weeks was the longest off period no there's probably months there's probably some months periods in there I see it's so long ago
00:42:06Brian AtlasI'm trying to block it out of my memory and typically what precipitated you ending things um coming to my
00:42:18Demi Hawkssenses sometimes you just have to go back until you hate them yeah that's whated that's what actually what happened was well what would he do to
00:42:27Aspentell me that to us getting back together no to precipitate a a you ending thing even if temporary um was he cheating he was cheating constantly cheating
00:42:39Aspenconstantly con did you cheat on him at all no no okay so he cheated on you like 20 times then cuz you said it was it might have been 20 I don't know definitely
00:42:52Aspendefinitely more than 10 why did you keep going back uh cuz I loved him and my own brain that's what I told myself I was like I would rather chop my arms and
00:43:02Aspenlegs off that's how I felt I was like then what I would then then not end up with him yeah wait hold on wait you'd rather chop your then then not be with
00:43:14Aspenhim or pain the pain of him and I not working out like was was like I I would rather deal with any kind of hurt deal with any kind of wrong thing that he did to me or whatever and try to try to make
00:43:27Aspenit work because the pain of like severing that relationship that I had with him was like so painful so it would always lead me like it's then he'd be all sweet and be like you're the love of my life you're this you're that and I would end up getting back with him
00:43:40Aspenwhen's the last time you spoke with him um he accidentally called my phone um maybe last year have you so you said you've been
00:43:51Brian Atlassingle for seven years yeah in that sevene period did you guys have any contact no except for like a year ago
00:44:00Brian Atlasyou said he accidentally texted you yeah okay so then let's see you've in that seven-year period have you been you said there was one guy you dated there was
00:44:11Aspenone guy that I was like interested in in that seven years and how long did you date him um it we probably went on like three dates maybe four dates and that was like over like 3 months did you guys
00:44:23Aspenwas there carnal knowledge um there was intim Y in that relationship yes there was and was that but is that the only guy that you've had caral knowledge with in yes seven years
00:44:34Aspenhow long ago was that that was two years ago so you were selib it for 5 years and then two years yeah and I was so upset that I like gave
00:44:45Brian Atlasinto that cuz I had really been Trucking along okay and so was this guy that you were on and excuse me on and off again with five
00:44:56Brian Atlasyear for 5 years uh are these other guys that have come along have they just not been up to Snuff as compared to him like the other other people I've gone on dates with
00:45:09Brian Atlaswell like can you explain like can you describe your uh your partner The Five-Year one like what do you mean describe him like some physical characteristics
00:45:18Aspenpersonality tall skater Punk jobless how tall six probably 6 three 6'2
00:45:27Aspenfit scrawny skater skater boy yeah treated you like [ __ ] no it's 63 cheated on me he just cheated on me okay but he treated you well otherwise um I mean
00:45:38Aspenexcept for he didn't have a job and like didn't had no ambition and lied and yeah uh was did he have good personality
00:45:47Aspenthough um he was really I he was really creative umh but did he have a good personal and he was really outdoorsy and
00:45:56Aspenlike yeah I don't know did he have game did he have game RZ no no RZ no he's handsome he's handsome goodl looking guy he's good looking guy very handsome guy
00:46:07Aspenvery handsome guy I'm trying to get into another relationship dude so so then so then he uh hold on
00:46:18Brian Atlaswait was I mean was the sex really good was that it I'm not going to talk about that well that's fair I'm not not going to talk about he was my first he was my first oh
00:46:29Aspenhe took ah okay so I think I think that that and that had like a huge part of me being like I would rather chop my arms and legs than wait I have a question for you so if you could talk to yourself
00:46:41Aspenback then I just I would just punch myself in the head that's what I would what I would just I would just like grab myself and Shake be like I just want to know what would you tell yourself back
00:46:53Aspenthen okay actually what I would say is you don't you don't understand how much your husband's going to love you you
00:47:01Aspendon't understand how valuable you are that's what I would say to myself um and that's what I plan on saying to my
00:47:10Aspenchildren like what we have as women is like so unique and so beautiful
00:47:17Brian Atlasand what what you have as women is so unique what precisely do the sexual connection that you can have but in your
00:47:28Andrew Wilsonrelationship with your spouse well how's that yeah I was I was looking in my notes here um and and forgive me if I got this wrong uh are you are you currently married me no yeah no okay no
00:47:41Andrew Wilsonno just let everybody know no she talking about her future husband okay so the reason I asked CU it's odd um she had asked what would you go back and tell yourself and you said I would tell myself that you don't even know what the
00:47:53Aspenrelationship between you and your future spouse is going to be like yeah but what's the frame of reference there um I think like the the promise of
00:48:03Aspenlike um like I have many people in my life that are in very strong good relationships with their husband or wife and they're in love with them and um un
00:48:16Aspenunderstanding that like there really is somebody out there for me I just have to wait until God brings that person into my life and um okay so it's like holding on to that hope of yeah yeah I understand I just wanted to understand
00:48:27Andrew Wilsonthe mentality and then my last question before I turn back over to Brian um would you describe this guy as a
00:48:34Aspennarcissist me yeah um I don't know I probably not no I don't think that he was a narcissist was he a sex addict is
00:48:46Nicolethat why you think I never asked him I just asked cuz my my toxic ex like was definitely a sex addict and sometimes that's why people have a hard time staying faithful I don't know I don't
00:48:58Brian Atlasknow we should find out I don't know he should find out so okay the guy you were with for 5 years uh that was the first guy you were ever with in an intimate so
00:49:09Brian Atlasyou've only been with two guys yes okay I didn't say that on the last on the last show yeah sure
00:49:17Aspenso aside from that one what you call it the slip up the yeah you you almost been cibit for years was not like a night and it was like I I actually had feelings
00:49:29Aspenfor him but you guys only hung out a couple times it sounded like yeah okay so sell it for 5 years slip slip up I guess I Sor we would we only went on
00:49:41Aspenprobably like three or four proper dates yeah but like I would he would like come see me before work and like bring me food or like um there would be like
00:49:53Aspenlittle thing like little times that we'd see each other and so it wasn't it was there was a relationship that was like being built
00:50:02Brian Atlaswhy so why did you you lose interest in him um I think I just realized that like
00:50:11Aspenwe had a lot of different core values um he he had let me down a few different times and um how so so so like we were
00:50:23Aspenhim and I were actually supposed to hang out last month and he he had after we had like broke everything off and um he basically he was like saying that
00:50:35Aspenhe like had been working on all this stuff that he was like you know really trying to do and um like he was I think he was like he for him it really mattered to him that he like lost weight
00:50:45Aspenand like got off a couple of these meds and um anyway so he finally reached out to me where he was at a spot where I think he felt like he really could have be in a Rel relationship with somebody and then he
00:50:59Aspenhe said all right let's hang out Thursday I told him what days I was free and then on Thursday I was like are you going to bail on me because he wasn't texting me he wasn't texting me at all and he had already done this to me like
00:51:10Aspena couple times where he just like kind of brushed off something that like I assumed was like intentional and anyways and so basically he I waited until the
00:51:22Aspentime that we were supposed to go on our date and he never messaged me and I just blocked him and that was it wait but this was a month ago this so you guys reconnected he reached back out to you or you reached back out to he
00:51:34Aspenreached out to me and I said what are you doing in my DMs get out of here and then I like entertained it and then I entertained it yeah okay I'll be honest like I did entertain it cuz I really
00:51:44Aspenlike I really enjoyed him like his company like he's so funny but I knew like that it was never going to work wait okay so just going back here though
00:51:54Aspenso you went on how many with him three or four maybe five I how many times did you see him in person oh my God uh in person oh probably like 10 or 12 times
00:52:05Aspenoh what's the differentiation between like him seeing him in person going on a date well I don't feel like him dropping food off for me before I go into work is
00:52:16Brian Atlasa like you know I'm saying you spent you spent seeing him imagine seeing him for one minute I I wouldn't count that as like you know
00:52:28Aspenmeeting up or a date really when I say meet up I mean like you actually spent a couple hours together so we he took me on a date we went shooting one time and and
00:52:40Aspenthen uh he took me out to dinner a couple other times yeah and then so you guys but that was it and then he broke up with you no we went we went to go
00:52:51Aspenhang out and and uh like go to dinner and it just naturally came up in conversation like yeah like you and I both know that we have different core values so I don't know who said that I
00:53:03Aspendid because he didn't say anything what do you mean he didn't say anything like he just I don't know I don't know I don't know how to describe it he was he would
00:53:13Brian Atlasnot tell me what was going on in his head at all wait but so what if there's nothing going on like
00:53:23Brian AtlasI think I think women women have this tendency to be like what's wrong is like and if we say we're good we're good there's nothing we're not thinking about he was saying that he
00:53:34Aspenwas good he was like I didn't I didn't know if he wanted to date me I didn't know if he wanted to like would you ask him just say absolutely no I didn't ask him I didn't be like you want to date me
00:53:45Aspenno I didn't do that well did you ask him like oh what are you looking for or anything what are we yeah what are we no because I wasn't trying to like put any
00:53:55Aspenpressure on on him I just enjoyed hanging out with him and like was like maybe this will go somewhere but then and then it was like he didn't want to like go out like he didn't want to take me on dates I okay this is what I really
00:54:08Aspenthink it was I think that and I hope that he doesn't see this cuz I would feel really bad but I think that he like has like is maybe like self-conscious
00:54:18Aspenand like had a lot of anxiety about going out and stuff like that and what is that why you no sorry sorry keep going keep going I really this is really what I think the core values that were
00:54:29Aspendifferent if you don't mind me asking I would I'm a Christian MH and he's not okay yeah wait so okay hold on
00:54:38Brian Atlastalk to me so you went on how many like dude I don't Hangouts don't include he dropped food off you saw him for 2 minutes okay
00:54:49Demi Hawkshow many times do you guys spend together for a couple hours oh including dates maybe three or four no more than that five six seven well what do you
00:54:59Aspencount as a date like what's your a date a date is like maybe like an extended period of time where we go and do something that is planned like yes but
00:55:10Demi Hawksthe date it's a couple hours and you do an activity or you eat food or something and that's a date yeah what would you call a date okay I just pretty much that but like everybody kind of has different standards of like the way I'm using date
00:55:23Brian Atlasthe way I'm using date is it doesn't necessarily mean you have to go out in public together it's just you've hung out and spent time together could be at his house your house yeah I'm trying that can included in at least in my
00:55:36Aspenframework that could include what a date is what what are you trying to figure out with like the whole like how many times did you guys date well so okay you said you hooked up with him right yes so
00:55:47Brian Atlaswhat date the third date fourth date something like that probably like the third or fourth date okay so then you guys no sorry no probably further into that because so you hooked you hooked up with
00:55:58Brian Atlashim once or twice how many times two three times I I don't want to go into like that I have a reason for why I'm asking I'm not just like Curious like oh I really like you
00:56:09Aspenknow I don't I don't want it would be helpful it would be helpful in analyzing this well because you you said you had a difference of Valu I wasn't hanging I was not sleeping with him every time I