01:53:40Kelseytrue and they're actually like a good genuine guy sure then that would be in their best interest but I think then why is it a problem because I think you're making up a scenario that's not representative of reality exactly what is rep well wait what's representative of reality that a lot of times when
01:53:52Kelseyolder men go for younger women it is because they're looking for someone easier that they can manipulate so why are the younger women going for them because they are naive and they don't have real world experience they're going through a transitionary stage in their
01:54:03Kelseylife where they are leaving their home and they don't know how to make sense of the world so they have no accountability You could argue that okay
01:54:15Andrew Wilsonso since they have no accountability why can they vote I mean that's another discussion no I think it's a relevant discussion because we're either going to treat 18-year-olds as adults who can make
01:54:27Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)their own decisions or we're not no because an 18-year-old could be very book smart but that doesn't ensure that she knows how to deal with romantic relationships romantic relationships and
01:54:39Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)being book smart is different that's why they say there's bookmart and street smart you can't just put it all in one box but why why should we assume that she can manage any relationship in any age bracket she could be smart enough in
01:54:50Andrew Wilsonthe books got all straight A and knows a exactly what she best she geography and history and she's great when it comes to politics but this would still beg the question of asking this this singular
01:55:01Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)singular question of if she can't manage a relationship why should she get in any relationship you're bringing up why should she be able to vote if she can't be in a relationship but I what I'm
01:55:12Andrew Wilsonsaying is that if the you're bring up voting the voting has nothing to do with dealing with issue is experience and knowledge and she can't she can't manage her own Affairs cuz she can't be held accountable cuz she's too young then why
01:55:25Brian Atlasare we treating her like an adult that's the question I do want to I don't think there's an answer there I do want to get back really quick to the commonality thing so you guys were saying well what
01:55:37Brian Atlasdoes a 20y old 30-y old or 20 40y old whatever it is they don't have anything in common can you just articulate to me what men and women around the same age
01:55:47Brian Atlashave in common or I'll even Grant you what do men and women have in common I think it's all individually um yeah but what what is something that you would have in common with somebody that would
01:55:59Brian Atlasbe you have something so in commmon that you're going to choose with to be with them on that basis alone maybe the way they view things in
01:56:10Brian Atlaslife like values yeah like I feel like okay so couldn't couldn't an 18-year-old have the same values as a 28-year-old they could but they could have different experiences
01:56:21Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)leading up to that okay graduating college experiencing like the bars anything like yeah I got like your life okay let me ask you a question so
01:56:32Brian Atlaslet's say you're 30 you're a 30-year-old man and you don't drink you don't party you never did maybe you went to a bar once and you want a partner who doesn't drink doesn't party do doesn't go out to
01:56:44Brian Atlasbars and clubs do you have more in common with a 20-year-old who's never gone out to bars and never drank or with a 30-year-old old who goes to Raves goes
01:56:54Brian Atlasto music festivals parties every weekend and is basically a boardline alcoholic who would be a better partner for who who has more in common with who are we doing the 18 and 40 now or 20 and any it
01:57:06Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)doesn't matter it doesn't really matter I'm just giving you it's still an age Gap no I see what you're saying I do agree like I said I don't think it's wrong it's obviously not illegal I just no which but answer the question though
01:57:18Brooklynso which one do you have more in has more in common obviously the two that have the most in common oh so there is there is a commonality the ones that don't drink yeah but I think the issue
01:57:29Brooklynis more so how big the age Gap is it's like the older you get I feel like it's more acceptable than I mean an
01:57:40Brooklyn18-year-old is even though you're legally an adult could we all agree that you've we were kids at 18 right yeah I felt like could you say that I could feel like I was an adult looking back
01:57:53Andrew Wilsonlike kid I can't agree to that no I can't agree that um that I was a kid at uh at 18 um no child a kid a kid a kid would allude to somebody who is not an
01:58:04Andrew Wilsonadult uh no I would say I was an adult at 18 i' say all of you were adults at 18 I think you're trying to infantilize women because you want to make men out to be predatory but you can't make Arguments for how they're being
01:58:15Andrew Wilsonpredatory I think regardless if the woman is no what this is what this is is this is typified loading of language and you see this from feminist circles all the time wouldn't you consider yourself
01:58:26Andrew Wilsona kid at 18 no and no I wouldn't consider any of you to be kids at 18 consider you to be adults at 18 I'm not going to infantilize you so that you can say that men who want to date younger women are predatory I would need an
01:58:38Aliciaactual argument for why they were predatory and so far I haven't heard one I yeah I think what he's trying to get at is why do men all of a sudden become like more nefarious with age like I've
01:58:49Aliciaheard girls talk about guys and awful things that guys will do and they're usually like college age guys so to that point like wouldn't a man who's more mature more experienced wouldn't he
01:59:01Aliciaactually possibly be less nefarious than a 21-year-old 20-y old that would be nice if that were the truth but a lot of it's not I think that's what it's going to is like your world like the worldview
01:59:13Aliciathat you think uh age as it gets as a man is older he becomes like more tactic and or like calculating and he's like oh here's this 18-year-old maybe he just
01:59:24Aliciagot a divorce because women initiate most divorces he's now divorced and he wants to maybe still have kids still uh have a different life so he's going to have to have a younger woman right would
01:59:37Aliciathat be somebody who's like being calculated in a nefarious way or someone who's just saying yeah I want to still have a family I want my wife to be younger that wouldn't be like calculated
01:59:49Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)in a bad way that would be calcula in a way that is that's that's what he wants right you could find a young woman that's still fertile and not go for an 18-year-old 20 versus 30 is more acceptable 18 even well I think we were
02:00:01Aliciajust using the extreme ends of the spectrum like a 40-year-old and an 18-year-old but I think the point that they're going to maybe we can tie it together a different way um so are are
02:00:12Andrew Wilsonyou guys on the from my perspective the right side of the table in the green are you okay with sex work yes okay so what if a 40-year-old
02:00:23Andrew Wilsonwoman has sex with an 18-year-old man who pays her is that okay I feel the same way it's not okay for them to do I feel like either way it could be
02:00:36TTS / donation readerpredatorial yeah but is it okay Ben George donated $200 so if the 40-year-old has an 18-year-old daughter and is hip to her age is culture having been extensively
02:00:47TTS / donation readerinvolved in her life and her friends is he unqualified to date younger based on
02:00:55Andrew Wilsoncommonality uh having been exens involved in your life and friends he's just saying if a 40-year-old man has tons in common with an 18-year-old why would it he's just making the same same claim like why would that be a problem
02:01:08Brian Atlasif they have a bunch of in common and they love each other back to so back to Andrew's thing he was asking a 40-year-old sorker with 18-year-old who male who's paying for it paying for it
02:01:20Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)paying for it yeah they're paying for that changes things I thought is that okay if he's paying for it why well I don't understand what's the difference so what would be the
02:01:33Brooklyndifference then if a 40-year-old just wanted to have sex for free I would just personally if I had an 18-year-old son and he was messing with
02:01:42Brooklyna 4-year-old woman I I don't see that going over unless he was paying for it I I don't know if this is going to get anywhere are we on no no no I think it's
02:01:55Andrew Wilsongetting somewhere it's getting to a great place so what if he's paying for it is it okay then so if he goes hey Mom I just plowed a hooker she's 40 I gave her some money that's okay in your
02:02:06Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)worldview just not if she does it for free well dating versus just having a one night stand basically are two different scenarios oh so as long as
02:02:16Andrew Wilson40-year-old men are just [ __ ] 18-year-old women it's fine I think it's more PE word hang on hang on I just want to make sure I just want to make sure let me just talk to them for a second I just want to make sure I get this right
02:02:28Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)as long as 40-year-old men are just [ __ ] 18-year-old women it's fine just not having relationship with well the 18-year-old woman she does get to choose what she does with her body I wouldn't
02:02:39Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)except who date with it I wouldn't recommend that but if she wants to make her her money cuz maybe she has rent to pay whatever whatever the case may be she got to make means meet that's
02:02:51Andrew Wilsondifferent than just dating a man wait wait wait so let me get this right if the roles are reversed a 40-year-old man only wants to hump 18-year-old women why would that be a problem if
02:03:04Andrew Wilsonyou're saying that a woman can hump 18-year-old men as long as the 18-year-old pays her for it I feel the same no matter what like
02:03:16Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)you feel the same way you just said the gend Reversed in the same situation I feel the same way I feel like women could be Predators too yeah yeah so so then you think that sex workers should not be allowed to
02:03:28Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)have sex with 18-year-olds they can't they can't do scenes with them they can't do any of those types of things right that would be bad wouldn't it I wouldn't personally agree to it but because they're of age to make their own decisions then they can choose to do
02:03:41Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)that but I wouldn't say I would recommend that or that that's personally right but they make their own decisions if they're paying for it and that's their source of income
02:03:53Andrew Wilsonokay so so what you're saying is is that inside the porn industry you would say it's bad for a 40-year-old to do an adult scene with an
02:04:05Andrew Wilson18-year-old that that's like worse than if it was just a 30-year-old doing a scene with a 40-year-old yes it's worse it's worse
02:04:15Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)yeah okay and it's worse because the 18-year-old can't make these decisions no I believe I just said they're old enough to make their own decisions okay but by this logic wouldn't you say then
02:04:29Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)that 18-year-old shouldn't be involved in sex work at all I wouldn't recommend someone so young getting into sex work but I also
02:04:39Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)can understand that they're of age to make their own decisions so everyone has different circumstances in life you know you could have a full ride scholarship
02:04:50Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)to school other women don't get that privilege not saying that all sex workers have to do sex work but I no I'm in no position to judge young women who are just trying that's fine so then so
02:05:03Andrew Wilsonthen we can just agree then that there's nothing actually immoral with an 18-year-old dating a 40-year-old right well you're bringing up sex work dating is different than sex work why would it
02:05:14Andrew Wilsonbe why would it be okay for them to do to to have a physical relationship with each other uh as long as there was money involved that's really
02:05:24Andrew Wilsonweird because that is a job and one is dating yeah what well I don't understand why would it why would you paying somehow change the dynamic of this power
02:05:36Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)Dynamic which is what you're against right it's still massive power Dynamic issue isn't it I think we all agree that it's not immoral it just could be an appropriate which is a an opinion more than it is
02:05:48Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)what does inappropriate mean if like what does that mean I I think different things are inappropriate probably than Brooklyn and Lily do like what I mean do you want me to say things I think are
02:06:00Andrew Wilsoninappropriate it gives them the ick it gives them the ick yeah I just want to know I just want to hear that it gives you the ick there's nothing immoral about it just it's just icky you just think it's icky I just think that different things are inappropriate than other things that I'm sure other people
02:06:13Brian Atlasfind inappropriate things I might find inappropriate other people might not okay uh just for the sake of time I do have to move things on a little I didn't really get an answer though I'll come
02:06:23Brian Atlasback to this quick we were talking about commonality I still haven't really heard what men and women have in
02:06:36Brian Atlascommon what I'm opening the sub of the well you were making the I think you were making or men and women in general or men and women as in 18 and 4 old what would be something that a man and a man
02:06:48Brian Atlasand a woman could have in common that would be sufficient enough for them to want to date simply by virtue of having a commonality
02:06:59Brian Atlasreligion yeah religion okay but what like within the context of age so we have something in common
02:07:09Brooklynbecause we're about the same age so a 70-year-old and a 20-year-old could have religion in common well oh I think there's a higher chance of maybe both people not having kids at a younger age
02:07:22Brooklynor a marriage and it's some people it be very important to them as it is to me for I I wouldn't be with a man that has child because I want it to be our both first let's assume this hypothetical
02:07:33Brian Atlas30-year-old doesn't have kids and neither does the 20-year-old it really is so situational yeah so situational you said
02:07:45Brian Atlaslike okay if it has to do with age what do they have because you brought up they graduated well they recently graduated at the same time has anybody ever dated
02:07:55Brian Atlassomebody oh we graduated at the same time let's [ __ ] has that ever happened probably I'm sure really because that's that's not because I find her physically
02:08:06UCSB guest (unnamed)attractive I think it's all of it it's that you find wow she graduated more attractive the more you have in common with them but okay why don't you think
02:08:15Brian Atlaslife stage is a big thing to have in common like experien right but if if that was the attraction trigger
02:08:28Brian Atlasthen all high school students would be attracted to all high school students which clearly isn't the case right so it's clear to me that commonality on its own is not hold on is not sufficient
02:08:40Kelseyenough to create attraction between two people I don't think any one thing is I think this stage in life is more sufficient for like securing a bond but also do you think that most most high
02:08:51Kelseyschoolers don't date other high schoolers that's not what I'm arguing of course high schoolers date other high schoolers I'm like I think it seems pretty normal that people date
02:09:01Brian Atlaswithin their yeah no most most people date most people date around their age I would say but this idea that you are precluded from finding somebody outside
02:09:12Kelseylike if you're precluded from finding somebody who's uh 10 years your senior you can't find them attractive because they're not your AG I don't think anyone's putting like a hard stop on it I think most people or a lot of
02:09:25Kelseywomen just have the experience with older men where it is a little bit more predatory or uncomfortable exactly I don't even it's only predatory One Direction it's only predatory when men do it right she said I didn't say that
02:09:38Kelseybut yeah you said when men I said that most women go through that experience go through what experience men that are attracted to you when you're 21 or younger okay well
02:09:50Brian Atlaslet's talk about adult relationships so F 18 and up sure women have the experience of being adults at 18 with men who are 30 being attracted to them
02:10:01Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)and often times they turn out to be predatory how but why how is it predatory just a lot of men are they just are if it wasn't illegal why shouldn't I date a 16-year-old I'm only
02:10:13Andrew Wilson21 not even well we're talking about adults here so you're the one who's making about underage make you can make the same argument the same exact way we'd love I look I'd be
02:10:26Andrew Wilsonhappy to get into it so would Brian but there are restrictions to the stream that we can't do anything about so keep it above the 18 Mark if you if you don't mind do you think a car salesman is going to have an easier time selling to somebody that's 40 or somebody that's 18
02:10:39Andrew Wilsongetting somebody to make a bad DEC I know I'm not an expert in I think that they would have a lot easier time selling to somebody who's 18 I heard a lot why
02:10:52Andrew Wilsonuh well because I think that somebody who's 18 probably doesn't have the requisite experience that a 40-year old would have When selecting a
02:11:04Andrew Wilsoncar I think that's kind of my point oh that's your point so then you're saying that 18-year-olds should not be able to buy cars no wait wait hang on why not why shouldn't 18-year-olds be able to
02:11:17Andrew Wilsonbuy cars I think they should still be able to buy cars but I think we can also acknowledge wa what I thought whoa whoa whoa whoa but the salesman's predatory against 18-year-olds cuz he can even more easily sell a car can still be true
02:11:31Andrew Wilsonwait wait what those two things can still be true okay yeah okay so those two things are still can still be true I agree so he's he's predatory because he's selling her a car and she is does
02:11:42Andrew Wilsonnot have the requisite experience of a 40-year-old to buy that car so it's going to be easier for him right yes so then why would you let 18y old buy cars just because an 18yearold hang on let
02:11:54Kelseyher answer I think just trying toled that sorry I'm just trying to acknowledge that you can take advantage of people that are inexperienced yeah but I want you to acknowledge that if you if you uh
02:12:06Andrew Wilsonagree that this is something which is happening that 18-year-olds are getting taken advantage of in this situation or in any other situation then why do you let him do that [ __ ]
02:12:21Andrew WilsonI'm sorry but we didn't make the rules yeah I know I'm not talking hang on just let's I'm talking to her why do you let them do this stuff if you think that everybody is being predatory towards them because they're so stupid and
02:12:34Andrew Wilsoninexperienced that they can't make good decisions like 40-year-olds that's what I don't get I guess at some point you have to allow people to make their own decisions but that yeah that's right and what point do we allow people to make their own decisions hang on what point
02:12:46Andrew Wilsondo we allow people to make their own decisions we allow it at 18 that's right we allow it at 18 18 so I guess at 18 they can make their own decision to but date a 40-year-old man right and that still doesn't negate the fact that
02:12:57Andrew Wilsonpeople can be predatory towards them and it doesn't negate the fact that they should be allowed in all conditions to date a four-year-old man if they saying they should be allowed to aren't you though isn't that weird
02:13:11Andrew Wilsonthat you think that they should be allowed to even though you think that it's predatory that's really strange like I would say my logical brain does this it goes wait if there's some industry which is super predatory
02:13:23Andrew Wilsontowards a single group then I would try to get rid of that industry wouldn't you try to get rid of the doesn't that make more sense I mean in some cases I yeah
02:13:35Andrew Wilsonprobably would agree for certain industries but yeah but just not with used car salesmen they're allowed to sell cars to 18y olds yeah Appliance salesman what about houses can 18-year-old buy houses wouldn't wouldn't
02:13:47Andrew Wilsona real estate agent be more easily convincing towards an 18-year-old as well may maybe yeah I mean maybe I I mean I guess I guess though we just got to let those 18-year-olds at some point
02:14:00Kelseywe just got to let them spread their wings and fly are you going to stop advising your children when they turn 18 no are you going to stop trying like are you just going to stop trying to direct them in the right direction and help them make better
02:14:12Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)decisions no okay that's all we're talking about we're not saying you should be able to do something what are you talking what what the [ __ ] is this I agree I agree I agree with her that's what that means see and that's something
02:14:24Brian Atlasthat you wouldn't know because you're a lot older ah yeah exactly can't date a girl if you don't know what her little uh her little you can't date her if you
02:14:34Brooklyndon't know what the it could get like exhausting having to explain lingo and crazy stuff okay so hold on I okay so anyway but uh but I just want to finish this I'll wrap it real quick
02:14:45Andrew WilsonBrian I just want to make sure that I get this right that 18-year-olds are out there being prayed on every day by hyper predatory Industries and people but you
02:14:56Andrew Wilsonthink that they should be in order to gain experience right yes okay thank you and it's not going to stop me from that means that 40-year-old
02:15:07Brian Atlasmen who are out there being predatory that's good for 18-year-old women because that's how they gain experience I appreciate that very much okay I still haven't heard anything on the commonality thing that's
02:15:19Brian Atlasparticularly convincing um I guess for those of you who brought up the com I think it was you who brought up the commonality thing I have
02:15:28Brian Atlasone what just one thing so have you ever known someone who you have a lot in common with but you're not attracted to them yes okay so clearly maybe you've
02:15:41Brian Atlasmet somebody who you have the most in common with but you didn't date them you're not attracted to them so it's clear to me that commonality is not really an attraction trigger in
02:15:53Brian Atlaspeople so it's not about having something in common it's about what you find attractive um so I guess do you guys think that having things in common is a primary attraction trigger I think
02:16:04Kelseyit should be you think it should be yeah is it for me I think for a lot of people it's not but I I think it'd be good for people to try to transcend their superficial attractions okay that would
02:16:17Aliciabe good wouldn't it but and I think I think people are capable of doing that let me ask you Crush so my husband he's really good at like a lot of things with the house and he's very handy and he can do I have no none of that experience and
02:16:29Alicianor do I care to do any of it so that wouldn't be a commonality or me trying to transcend so I can have more commonality with him right like what would be the point of me trying to like go out there and build the treehouse
02:16:41Aliciawith the kid for the kids or go do stuff in his garage like I mean maybe your commonality is something you don't have anything in common with your husband I mean some stuff but some of the stuff
02:16:53Aliciathat's now commonality with things like he introduced me to and why did you like him in the first place I was attracted to him and so you just dated him purely on physical attraction physical attraction he had a lot of Charisma he
02:17:04Aliciamade me laugh uh I mean those were all attraction triggers and at our first date though I wasn't like oh he doesn't like reading books that's so why do you think started dating you I'm assuming
02:17:16Aliciaattraction he was maybe that's your commonality huh maybe that's your commonality yeah both care about look that's most people look for is like they're looking your first attraction is going to be a physical attraction and there can be
02:17:30Aliciathings that develop that are commonalities but I think if that's your sole reason to get with somebody because oh we both like this sport I mean that's
02:17:39Aliciagoing to be pretty mundane down the road that all you guys have is like that common trait like if you just have one sport that's probably going to get pretty boring but saying in general just
02:17:50Brian Atlastrying to match against commonalities I think is like here let me ask a question so let's say there's some guy out there who has the most in common with you like out of every single person in the world
02:18:01Brian Atlasmost in common with you you also brought up commonality most in common with you he's not attractive at all physically just not your physical type at all are you going to date him if my boyfriend
02:18:13Brian Atlastransformed into that person yes absolutely let's assume you're single in this scenario you're not he's I don't know what your
02:18:21Brian Atlasopposite of your type is he's not it yeah you you date him yeah you you date a guy who you were like physically repulsed by yes so long as he likes the
02:18:34Aliciasame movies and books as you it's like sharing a world view you don't think you share a world view with your husband I think he's actually uh really aided in like shifting my worldview had a really think
02:18:47Aliciathat's an important part of a relationship and how you bond is by adopting a similar world view but I mean that took I mean we've been together 16 years so it's not like
02:18:57Brian Atlashe changed my world view year one but here I do I do got to move it on we we did shift gears there from the whole men Desiring virgins to the age
02:19:08Brian AtlasGap conversation why don't we spend at least three more minutes quickly because we we stuck on the age Gap thing for quite a bit I'm still confused by the
02:19:18Brian Atlasmen who want virgin women are r p words I'm still confused there I don't think we really got a good solid answer I just I mean my opinion is my
02:19:31Brooklynopinion it doesn't have to be anybody else's I just think it's alarming when a man who is not a virgin himself only wants to date virgins
02:19:41Lizzythat's all you said but you said it's p word I think there's a correlation there's a correlation so does that mean that because you want to push gift I should automatically assume you're a gold digger I don't think you
02:19:53Lizzyare but you do want to push gift which gold diggers would probably also want to push gift but that does not logically make you like a gold digger so a man who wants might have a little bit of that Digger in me I'm not going to lie okay
02:20:05BrooklynI'm not going to sit up here and I'm not going to sit up here and say like and money is not everything to me but I would like my man to be well off if I'm going to have a child with him okay I
02:20:16Brian Atlasguess I'll bring it back to the bald coochie thing then um are women who aren't attracted to balding men if they're if a woman is not attracted to a man who's balding is she a p
02:20:27Brian Atlasword wait I'm sorry say again is a woman who is not attracted to a man who is balding is she a p word cuz typically only adult men tend
02:20:38Brooklynto be uh balding or bald no but I would think maybe if she's not ATT TR well how old is this man cuz I want to say only I would say it's a little alarming if he only how about let
02:20:51Brian Atlasme reframe it she's only attracted to men with a full head of hair is she a PE word okay no but that isn't your private
02:21:03Brooklynpart wait oh is I don't really know the top of your head is the same as a man saying I don't want to have sex with a woman
02:21:14Brian Atlaswho doesn't clean up down there so is your argument that because this certain condition is present when you're a child
02:21:24Brian Atlasbasically that because that condition is present when you're child therefore you're a pedophile if you also
02:21:33Brooklyndesire that condition in adulthood no I don't think that it's I don't I'm talking only strictly
02:21:43Brooklynabout the men that are just so absolutely fixated on the idea of a virgin it's a it's a difference like oh
02:21:54BrooklynI prefer a virgin but I will date other women but there's some men that are are commenting and saying that they would only and only see value in women that
02:22:03Brooklynare virgins yeah but so I mean so what like that's why that's the part I don't get is so what I guess it's not for you to get then it's and ites and that's
02:22:15Andrew Wilsonokay yeah yeah I just I really don't understand if if a man is only desirous of a virgin and that's all that he desires who gives a
02:22:27Brooklyn[ __ ] I mean not you that's and that's fine it gives the ick it gives the ick anyways I got that what you guys have been just waiting for us to say like if I want to get out of a conversation do I just say ick I know I know I know people
02:22:40Andrew WilsonI know when people are pressed I know this possibly the first time in your entire life you've been pressed on a position it's very uncomfortable but uh it doesn't have to be you can just you know engage in the position that you
02:22:51Andrew Wilsonespouse and then back it up with logic and reason and arguments things but we can just do emotions right so okay it doesn't give me the ick and it gives you the ick does that does that make you feel better we just do that it gives you
02:23:03Brian Atlasthe ick doesn't give me the I okay yeah whatever okay it is interesting to me just I guess final thought on this that
02:23:11Brian Atlasa lot of men's preferences standards and boundaries tend to end up being framed in this there it always ends up being pathologized in some sort of way if a
02:23:23Brian Atlasman has a preference standard or boundary it's you're you're insecure you're it goes even Beyond just that to Beyond just shaming to pathol
02:23:35Brian Atlaspathologizing criminalizing you know the PW stuff uh if he prefers a younger adult woman or if he prefers bear
02:23:43Aliciacoochie bald coochi excuse me um prefers a virgin even though the virgin so do you you prefer bald coochi found your com yeah so it is interesting though
02:23:55Brian Atlaslike you know insecure uh what what are some of the other shaming language that tends to be used with men's preferences insecure misogynist blah blah blah whatever
02:24:07Brian Atlasanyways uh let's do three more vide okay anyway Brian as long as you pay for it it's fine yeah well and on that note shout out to my waxer selfcare by Ash yo shout out Ash what's up I'mma hit you up
02:24:19Brian Atlasokay wait so hold on La I'm sorry last thing last thing is it okay for a woman at 18 to start doing only fans that's that's her business not mine
02:24:30Brian Atlasbut you you don't take you don't have any qualms or objections to it nope so you no objections to an 18-year-old woman doing sex work but objections to an 18-year-old woman for example dating
02:24:42Brian Atlasa 35-year-old man who's desirous of a long-term monogamous relationship with her and who's otherwise a healthy individual healthy would have a healthy relationship with her and uh would yeah
02:24:53BrooklynI just my stance on only fans I don't have one myself but I'm all for it because I think it's an ethical way to get porn to wait to get porn well I don't I don't want to linger or watch porn Okay
02:25:06Brian Atlasso I think it's an ethical I'm not going to linger on the off stuff for long um let's just pull up the next three clips and I'll I'll get into other people's notes ahead
02:25:16BrooklynNick go ahead normalize making men work for sex why are you guys so eager to give up your Gucci for what it's up to you to create that boundary of I'm not
02:25:29Brooklyngoing to sleep with this man right away it's literally all in your hands you have all the power you have the portal of Life between your legs act like so act like it stop just giving it up because someone gave you a little bit of
02:25:41Brooklynattention a little compliment and a little liquor do better do want better for yourself let's normalize so I played this clip right
02:25:51Brian Atlasafter the previous one the one where you made criticisms over men wanting virgins I'm just confused here so on one hand you're recommending women withhold sex wait to have sex abstain be celibate
02:26:03Brian Atlasyou're celibate yourself at least by your own admission how it seems a little like how do you reconcile on one hand thinking men are PWS for Desiring chased sexually
02:26:16Brian Atlaspure women whether that means virgin or low body count but also sh so you're recommending women hold off on having sex with
02:26:25Brian Atlasmen but on the same hand it's wrong for men to desire precisely that in women can you reconcile that for me yeah that's really really
02:26:38Brooklynweird I just think uh most men not all but I would say most men are usually undeserving of sex from so we'll just
02:26:50Andrew Wilsonwe'll just grant that for a second right we'll just grant that yes you think that most men are undeserving of sex but what what we're asking is if you're recommending that women stay chased that
02:27:01Andrew Wilsonthey're not giving up uh sex to men then their body counts necessarily going to be lower so if that is a desire that men have to have these women with lower body
02:27:11Andrew Wilsoncounts why would you then say that they're akin to you know PDF files because they desire the traits that you're advocating women
02:27:21Brooklynhave I'm uh preaching about women holding out because I think if women do better then it forces men to do better well wait hold on you're not really
02:27:32Brian Atlasaddressing the thing so okay let's say a woman is a virgin okay what do is your advice steadfast if she's a virgin should you should she also
02:27:45Brian Atlaswait should she also wait well you said that women shouldn't just be giv out the coochie m right you should women should hold that [ __ ] like how long you are you going to wait when the next guy comes
02:27:56Brooklynalong you said you've been sell it for 2 years right yeah I don't have it's not a certain amount of date rule or anything I just think
02:28:06Brooklynum when someone shows up for you and you can see their um they prove themselves to their actions is when that would be a more appropriate time to have sex rather
02:28:18Andrew Wilsonthan oh hey I just met you I know nothing about you yeah that makes so this this actually makes sense um so just to just
02:28:26Andrew Wilsonto clarify this uh you're you're saying that women and their Chastity their sexuality is really
02:28:36Andrew Wilsonvaluable right that's a valuable thing that they hold right yes not the only value they hold I'm not saying it is and I'm not saying you're saying it is I'm not saying you're saying that that's the only value they hold I'm just saying you
02:28:48Brooklyndo agree that it's a very valuable thing right yes so then why wouldn't men think the same thing I mean I I see why men would think the
02:28:58Andrew Wilsonsame thing but I think for I'm telling women to do it for themselves not for yeah no I I get that your motivation is because you think that it's
02:29:08Andrew Wilsonempowering to women to withhold sex until it's with a partner who's worthy of sex right correct but that necessarily is going to mean that those
02:29:19Andrew Wilsonwomen have a higher status than other women because they give out sex far less right that women that hold off have higher status than women that don't is
02:29:30Andrew Wilsonwhat you're saying yeah yeah as far as valuable goes as far as valuable I don't I don't agree with that I don't look at well then why wouldn't you recommend that women just [ __ ] everybody that they see I don't I don't get it they must there must be some value here in not
02:29:42Andrew Wilsondoing that I think the consistency between not wanting younger women to date older men and not wanting women toep we're not way off of the we're way off the age Gap here I we started this
02:29:54Kelseyby by saying how the two things seemed like contradictory and I'm saying I think the consistency is that it's advising women against allowing themselves to be used by men yeah no I
02:30:04Andrew Wilsonagree I'm I'm granting that this is true that basically by doing this right you become a more valuable woman I don't think that's imped well then why wouldn't you recommend that women don't
02:30:15Andrew Wilsondo this because I think when you allow people to use you it is a sign of low self esteem and it can so would you would you say that that makes you less valuable or more valuable I don't think
02:30:26Andrew Wilsonit has anything to do with value it it's not so you don't think the opposite sex sees any value in this even though you yourself seem to see value in this for in other words if a woman is promiscuous do you think it's better if she's not
02:30:38Andrew Wilsonpromiscuous I think it's better if somebody is not promiscuous yes then men think the same thing that doesn't mean I think somebody is more valuable as a person because they are yeah but I mean the reason I'm using the word value so that you understand understand and
02:30:50Andrew Wilsonequating these two things uh and we can remove the word if it makes you more comfortable value it's just because I think that men see a value in less promiscuous women you also seem to see a
02:31:03Kelseyvalue in less promiscuous women right are you speaking no I don't see like a more value in them okay well then I'm I'm sorry I just want to get this
02:31:14Andrew Wilsonright do you think women should be less promiscuous or more promiscuous they should be less promiscuous okay so there must be some value in being less promiscuous I think the hang on let her
02:31:24Kelseyanswer please I think we're using value in two different ways okay how would you use it I guess one is like materializing
02:31:36Kelseysomething into worth better or worse like hierarch putting something on a hierarchy of who is worth more than another person and value in terms
02:31:54Andrew Wilsoninherent value I don't know that's just restating value so you're just saying value is value that's not telling me what value is I think so what so so so hang on let her let her answer please so what is so what is
02:32:12Kelseyvalue I already said the value so there's there's two ways to Define it and the first way would be kind of assigning it like this
02:32:21Kelseymaterial value MH and you're saying that somebody is worth more or less yeah okay so what's the second way to define it I don't know I don't have a good
02:32:34Brian Atlasanswer right now well I think we're getting stuck here so I think you're trying to say well we shouldn't view humans as more or less valuable but we're talking from a dating lens from a
02:32:45Brian Atlasdating context so in terms of your value as a human being we're all equal in value yeah but when it comes to for example I would assume you would value one person over the other when it comes
02:32:57Brian Atlasto who you choose to date otherwise you would make no distinction in choosing one person over the other if they were both of equal perceived value in terms of their dating market value does that
02:33:09Brian Atlasmake sense sure yeah so for example I don't know if you like men who are tall who have their [ __ ] together who have a job who are emplo gainfully employed as compared to a guy you're not physically attracted to doesn't have a [ __ ]
02:33:22Brian Atlastogether uh lives in his mother's basement you would probably value that other guy uh the guy number one over guy number two when making a determination as to who you would uh
02:33:34Brian Atlaspartner with sure yeah and that that one would be of more value perhaps you don't like the framing of it yeah I think it's probably more of that what's that but it's probably more
02:33:45Brian Atlasof that I don't like the framing of it okay the implication that one person is your question would you rather how tall are you 5 seven does height matter at all to you no nothing okay would you
02:33:55Brian Atlasrather date a man who's 6 foot or 5 foot I don't care you don't care I don't care really I don't how you're currently in a
02:34:04Andrew Wilsonrelationship correct how tall is your boyfriend 5'8 he's 5'8 okay so you wouldn't have would you rather date a man with a hunchback and a in a peg leg
02:34:14Andrew Wilsonor a man who didn't have a hunchback in a peg leg
02:34:21Andrew Wilsonis this a [ __ ] pirate I don't know she likes Pirates she might I mean I mean honestly would you prefer that if the man if he looked like Quasimoto and he had like kind of down syndrome and he
02:34:32Andrew Wilsonhad a big hump on his back and he had a peg leg would you prefer to date him or all things equal they have the same
02:34:41Brian Atlasattributes him and a guy to but guy to just looked normal which one would you prefer yeah I can see it I would date the other one wait hold on yeah sure wait so okay I'm not gonna actually even
02:34:53Brian AtlasI'm not gonna allow Grant this you'd rather date a five foot guy over a six-foot guy all else being equal why I won even I won't even you say that but
02:35:05Brian Atlasso let me ask you a question do you think you want do you want children yeah you want kids right do you think it's advantageous in life to be tall does it
02:35:16Brian Atlasconfer benefits sure does it confer benefits to be physically attractive like ideally wouldn't your children be better situated to maneuver through life
02:35:28Brian Atlasif they're really physically attractive sure okay so just on that basis of alone let's say you don't even you don't give a [ __ ] at all in terms of sexual desire or physical attractiveness you don't
02:35:39Brian Atlasactually care right but intellectually in your head if I partner with somebody who's tall and physically attractive my Offspring my children have a better chance of themselves being physically
02:35:52Brian Atlasattractive and tall and that would confer onto them certain benefits throughout the course of their life I want to set up my children as best as I possibly can would you not assuming all else being equal if the choice was
02:36:05Brian Atlasbetween a five- foot guy and the six-foot guy you wouldn't pick the six-foot guy just purely on the basis that you would be more likely to have tall children yeah I think if I had a son and I chose the 5ot tall dude he'd
02:36:17Kelseybe very upset to find out about my decision so yeah pick the six foot tall person okay so you would then prefer to date the six foot guy no no now that I've walked you through the
02:36:29Brian Atlasscenario if I have a choice if I have to let's assum you have a choice yeah sure okay all right not sure how convincing that was to you let me read a couple chats then we got to get back into a
02:36:40Aliciacouple things uh gabes world can I have you read sure single father of two boys army veteran of 14 years uh 11 B can you
02:36:51Brian Atlasask the ladies to rate my photo on IG uh so the threshold I don't even think we have that as an option anymore I'm pretty sure let me just double check
02:37:02Brian AtlasI don't think we have we don't have Instagram review the threshold for that would have been 400 but we're not going to do it for uh but Brian he's an
02:37:11Brian Atlasinfantry Manan he's an infantry we got to do it we got to do it at the appropriate Thresh not really something we can offer
02:37:21Brian Atlashere but uh yeah not I I just outright will just say no we can't do Instagram reviews can you read this one sure Brian you're in prison your prison daddy named
02:37:31AliciaTiny gives you a choice a tattoo that says property of tiny or a [ __ ] stamp that says lucky you you will face
02:37:40Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)harassment in cell block uh what what's going on definitely property of tiny right cuz then at least you're somebody's
02:37:51Brian Atlasproperty and then lucky me like shoot your shot bad I'm asking for a unit change I'm moving units I'm I'm gonna actually I'm going to just um go into protective
02:38:03Aliciacustody I don't know I don't know okay going in the hole going in the hole yeah can you read this one they aren't requiring virgins they're saying the lower the body count a woman has better
02:38:14Aliciasuited she is for long-term relationship marriage Al man's body count isn't the same as women's body count we're not equal hey desert Jo thank you for the uh
02:38:26Brooklynthe uh streamlabs don appreciate it man thank you guys appreciate it um were there any final thoughts on that video Andrew or shall we uh move things along are you had something what you got what you got for us say it wasn't about it
02:38:39Brian Atlaswasn't about if a woman holds more value I'm just telling women to protect themselves yeah I guess I think me and Andrew's confusion here was on one hand
02:38:48Brian Atlasyou're like okay dudes who like really want virgin women are PWS but also ladies don't have sex protect yourself yeah right we were just saying an
02:38:59Andrew Wilsonentailment so just so you so I'll try to like kind of break this down a little better for for our position here is um I understand where Brian's going he's just saying if you're if you're advising
02:39:10Andrew Wilsonwomen to and I understand your position here is this thing that you have called sex is something which if it's withheld
02:39:20Andrew Wilsoncan be super advantageous to women right if women withhold sex it can be very advantageous to them to do that correct okay but kind of necessarily if they're
02:39:32Andrew Wilsonwithholding sex they're probably going to have less sexual partners right yes okay so we're saying that men also value
02:39:42Brooklynthat and you value that I understand that but my how I'm saying you know men are pushing pee and don't sleep with them both of them fall under the
02:39:52Andrew Wilsoncategory of protect yourself from men cuz you guys are scary creatures yeah I think that women are equally uh scary just in different ways right I think I got to go into the bear
02:40:05Brian Atlasokay I got to do the bear we won't debate it right now but I'm going to ask a question would you you're hold on what's
02:40:15Brian Atlasthe precise I don't want to [ __ ] up Scuff the the framing of this okay would you rather come across a random man or random bear in the woods go
02:40:27Brooklynahead uh I haven't I've heard of this but I haven't really I don't know what the real argument like you're just got uh I probably the bear cuz you could scare the bear off you're not going to scare a
02:40:39Lizzyman off if he sees you alone in the woods okay what about you a man the man okay a bear a bear probably the man even if he was Ted Bundy and in his prime still the man
02:40:51UCSB guest (unnamed)still Ted Bundy hise oh okay that's a toss up there okay go ahead um honestly this is kind of like stuck in my mind because like if you don't like tempt the bear it's not going to like attack you
02:41:04UCSB guest (unnamed)and if you're just there and you like kind of I think it's like Beast to be fair I haven't done my research on Bears MH and then like same thing as Brooklyn said like a man like could do anything like if they see you alone in the woods in the dark like and it could be a
02:41:17UCSB guest (unnamed)really nice guy or it could be a guy with really bad intentions
02:41:24Brian Atlasso I go ahead a uh a man I think it's not not what I thought you were setting up for I
02:41:35Aliciahonestly don't know what I was setting up for sounds like you're setting up to say bear you know what I'm going to change my answer I'm going to go bear okay would let you I don't assume my man are bad I would pick a man okay oh that's good man and I've had an
02:41:47Brian Atlasexperience with a bear you've had a bear experience okay really quick we maybe we'll tou on it later just cuz we have so much to get through I'm just curious uh those of you said bear why well I said you could scare a bear off you
02:42:00Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)probably not going to scare a man off okay I feel the same way and some men actually get more turned on when you are scared what the okay oh I said man oh
02:42:11UCSB guest (unnamed)you said it was just and you said bear why bear I'm still honestly really conflicted in my answer but I think it's kind of like I think it's like how sharks work like if you don't tempt a shark and then if you just leave it be
02:42:24UCSB guest (unnamed)like it's not going to attack you or if you don't look like a seal I think but like also I might have just watched too many Criminal Minds where I just assume the worst in all men that when you are
02:42:36Brian Atlasalone in dark woods that they could do something really bad to you okay but the r Wait so I'm just curious I'm just curious with this like man or bear thing
02:42:44Brian Atlasso just going back to you two I guess um like what percentage of men would you say would like what what percentage of men do you think would choose to attack you in this
02:42:58Brooklynscenario that's a 50/50 shot I don't know 50 50% of the men would thinking 50 all right well I mean you have to understand too we're talking from our
02:43:07Brooklynown like our own views of how we see men The Men We encounter the amount of men we encounter it's a lot so ours might be different
02:43:20Brooklynthen so because of your experience half the men in this room are predators correct I don't I I can't say that don't uh I don't know these men I
02:43:32Brooklynwould say that logically they're not Predators well would be that that would be the stats right be one and two yeah well I'm just I'm talking about a large larger sample size than what's
02:43:44Andrew Wilsonin this room yeah but the the sample size would be scalable mhm so it's like if it's one and two then every time you had two men the chances that one of them was a predator would be extremely high
02:43:57Brooklynand like I said I don't know anyone in this room I just met everyone today so how would I know what you guys do on your free time at the end of the day
02:44:06Andrew Wilsonyou're vegan by the way right I am I don't know why that came to mind well a vegan or a vegetarian I'm a vegan
02:44:15Andrew Wilsonpescatarian no no no Dairy no Dairy at all nope no no eggs nope
02:44:25Brian Atlasokay good times good times okay so moving off from the bear thing we have we'll do two more videos then we'll get to some other people on the panel let's
02:44:34Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)do the two more videos go ahead oh [ __ ] okay go ahead why do y'all keep comparing women to cars and why do
02:44:44Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)y'all keep talking about wanting virgins like what are you 30 40 50 and you're commenting about wanting a virgin you probably want a virgin because the older
02:44:55Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)woman is more experienced and she could tell that dick game is whack and your treatment is [ __ ] why do y'all the dick game is whack
02:45:08Brian Atlasokay um okay I think that that was you Leanne right oh sorry Lena my bad
02:45:17Brian Atlasum is is that why men want virgins is cuz the the dick game is
02:45:27Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)whack I just my point with the the dick game being whack is that a younger more inexperienced girl wouldn't be able to
02:45:37Andrew Wilsontell if the dick game yeah good yeah good like why do you I don't understand are do you want her to go [ __ ] a bunch
02:45:45Andrew Wilsonof dudes so she has a frame of reference no I don't well well the point seems
02:45:54Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)mot Good Times uh okay I feel like we already went over this topic so we would just be like repeating ourselves at this point it's like this is another recap same it's
02:46:06Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)like a different font just a different font okay I feel people should value being more sexually disciplined but I personally don't believe that body count
02:46:17Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)is an issue as long as you value your energy now and you're very choosy with who you share your body with I think that's what matters get health checkups
02:46:28Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)if you had a little whole phas baby that doesn't mean I'm crossing you off my list that just means you more experience just get those test results and come on
02:46:38Brian Atlashome and show me what you got I Will Wait so okay okay I'm again this this is where I get confused oh it's not over oh let it keep going say energy is
02:46:50Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)a real thing so the people you do sleep with you really got to be careful who you do share your body with because you could sleep with someone and those demons are now inside of you and now you got to cleanse them out of you and
02:47:02Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)people won't know this information so they'll just go about their everyday life they'll be like oh why am I more depressed oh why I got to work through this and that more it's because you slept with the wrong person so yeah have
02:47:12Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)body count doesn't matter but who you share your body with does matter and if you are more sexual disciplined you'll feel the need to sleep with less and less people because you'll realize that
02:47:23Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)you don't want to exchange energy with a lot of people it is good to be choosy just do better from here on out stop [ __ ] everybody I
02:47:32Andrew Wilsonfeel I'm just here's where I'm fair fair enough so um so what's your body count what's my body count wait hold on we'll have I I got to know right what what's the body count wait we'll have you
02:47:45Lizzyanswer in just a sec But Lizzy I want you to answer first to to can I start with a question for you I have a question okay go ahead so you're saying that a woman that has an
02:47:57Lizzyextremely high body count would still have the same value to you so if I say that my body count is about between 100 and 12 which it is are you not judging me in your mind cuz I would think you're
02:48:08Andrew Wilsoncrazy if you're not no offense no I'm not judging you and I am crazy oh sweet she's so so uh so so then what's what's your body count I don't feel comfortable sharing that I thought you just said in the video it
02:48:22Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)didn't [Music] matter it doesn't matter but I'm talking more like if me and a man are getting to know each other and he wants to know that information which he could ask me that and I'll be honest with him so then
02:48:34Andrew Wilsonit does matter if he if we want to have a conversation about it then I could tell him well I mean it either does matter or it doesn't matter if it doesn't matter why wouldn't you share it I'm not saying
02:48:47Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)you have to I'm just testing the logic of understanding if it doesn't matter then why don't you share what yours is it doesn't matter but I feel like I get to keep personal details to myself and
02:48:58Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)if my man wants to know I'll let him know but I understand it doesn't matter though I'm saying in a scenario
02:49:07Andrew Wilsonof me and a man deciding to be with one another so then outside of those scenarios it does matter
02:49:19Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)no I do feel like your body count is your personal story so you get to share that with who
02:49:30Andrew Wilsonyou want to yeah I get that you can share it with who you want to but why wouldn't you share it with everybody if it doesn't matter because I'm more private on a public it sounds like it matters to
02:49:44Brooklynyou would you believe her if she even told you what it was if she said my body count is two would you believe that multiply it by three and that's the real number so um let us assume for a second
02:49:55Andrew WilsonI wouldn't don't you think that it's rather suspicious if a person says that body count does not matter but then when asked they say I don't feel comfortable sharing it it sure sounds like they
02:50:08Andrew Wilsonthink it matters right yeah or maybe it doesn't matter so much that they don't care to share it well then if it didn't matter so much they didn't care to share it it would matter so little that they wouldn't care to not share it either because doesn't matter that's what
02:50:21Andrew Wilsondoesn't matter means if it doesn't matter then that means it doesn't matter exactly two things could be true at once yeah yeah so we're just assume both things are true at the same time but if