Andrew Wilson vs. Anti-Whatever E-GIRLS?! Super Mega Feminist HEATED Debate?! | Dating Talk #174

Date: 2024-07-01
Duration: 7h 52m

Identified Speakers

SPEAKER_00TTS / noise(audience)
SPEAKER_01TTS / donation reader(audience)
SPEAKER_02Alicia(guest)
SPEAKER_03Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)(guest)
SPEAKER_04UCSB guest (unnamed)(guest)
SPEAKER_05Brooklyn(guest)
SPEAKER_06Background(audience)
SPEAKER_07Andrew Wilson(guest)
SPEAKER_08Background(audience)
SPEAKER_09Background(audience)
SPEAKER_10Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_11Background(audience)
SPEAKER_12Background(audience)
SPEAKER_13Lizzy(guest)
SPEAKER_14Kelsey(guest)

Key Moments

00:04:41
IntroBrooklyn introduces herself: 25yo, Inland Empire, cannabis production, co-hosts podcast "Something for That Ass" with sister.

25 um from the IE Brooklyn 25 from the IE Inland Empire yes and I work in a cannabis production okay

00:05:13
IntroKelsey introduces herself: 29yo, Bay Area, structural design engineer (intro segment misattributed to Brian by diarizer).

name is Kelsey I'm 29 I'm from the Bay Area and I do structural design structural design

00:05:23
IntroLena introduces herself: 25yo, Inland Empire, cannabis production. Fraternal twin of Brooklyn (born minutes apart).

name is Lena I'm 25 and I'm also from the Inland Empire what do you do for work cannabis production

00:07:14
IntroDestiny introduces herself: 22yo (turning 23), hip-hop/R&B artist, dancer, OnlyFans. Performs acapella freestyle.

my name is Destiny suz... and I'm an artist um I do music hip hop and R&B and I also do only fans on the side age oh I'm 22

00:09:41
IntroLizzy introduces herself: 35yo, Santa Clara (Bay Area), receptionist.

hello uh I'm Lizzy I'm 35 I'm from the um the bay as well Santa Clara to be specific and I am a receptionist

00:10:25
IntroUCSB guest introduces herself: 22yo, Santa Barbara, UCSB student (Environmental Studies + dance, already graduated).

22 I live in Santa Barbara right now and and my full-time occupation is I'm a full-time student at UCSB right now

00:11:42
IntroStie introduces herself: 21yo, special needs paraprofessional educator (SNP) for school district.

I'm stie I'm 21 and I'm an SNP for school district special needs paraprofessional educator

00:12:05
IntroAlicia introduces herself: 36yo, Los Angeles, stay-at-home mom.

hi am Alicia um I am 36 years old I'm live in LA uh I'm a stay-at-home mom

00:13:32
IntroAndrew Wilson introduced remotely. Describes himself as host of The Crucible, fastest-growing debate channel online (his claim), political analyst.

I'm the host of The Crucible it's uh to my knowledge the fastest growing debate Channel anywhere online I'm a political analyst

00:34:22
ControversyBrooklyn's viral clip played: she demands her partner get a face tattoo on his stomach as a "push present" (body-for-body). Andrew Wilson immediately presses the logical entailment — if body-for-body is the standard, what about abortion? Extended debate on bodily sacrifice, abortion ethics, and what "body for a body" logically implies.

you're going to get a tattoo of my face on your body cuz it's a body for a body my body's going to change forever

02:14:00
ControversyAndrew tells Kelsey (and Brooklyn): "I know when people are pressed. This is possibly the first time in your entire life you've been pressed on a position." Escalates the age-gap debate significantly.

I know when people are pressed I know this possibly the first time in your entire life you've been pressed on a position it's very

02:46:17
Key MomentLizzy discloses body count of approximately 100-120. Andrew responds: "crazy if you're not." Lizzy asks if she would still have value to a man with an extremely high body count. Lena/Destiny (SPEAKER_03) argues body count doesn't matter but refuses to share their own.

extremely high body count would still have the same value to you so if I say that my body count is about between 100 and 12

04:13:20
Key MomentLooks ratings round. Numbers called out by panel: 10, five, 10, nine, 2, six, six. Brian self-rates 5; Andrew rates himself 4. Debate immediately erupts over Brooklyn's 10 self-rating.

their looks on a scale of 1 to 10 10 five 10 nine 2 six six uh six okay so we got two t and the nine

04:20:40
ControversyAndrew presses Brooklyn: if she's a 10 and admits her sister (Lena) is prettier, how can both be a 10? Extended back-and-forth on objective vs subjective beauty, logical consistency of self-rating, and whether calling yourself a 10 is confidence or narcissism. Brooklyn eventually concedes "we can all be nines" then walks it back.

a Confident Woman to rate yourself as less than how you feel like you are which is a 10 which is everything

07:13:50
OtherAt end of show Brian accidentally calls Lena "lizo" (mispronunciation), then corrects to Lena. Plans announced: Lena and Madison to co-stream future IRL content.

Brooke and my homegirl lizo Lizette I mean Le Len Lena Lena she's how am I lizo now

Topics Discussed

00:00:00
Show intro and guest introductions

Brian opens with standard announcements (Streamlabs, Twitch, Discord, Patreon, merch, Spotify/Apple review-bombing mention). Guests introduce themselves in order: Brooklyn (25, IE, cannabis production/podcast), Kelsey (29, Bay Area, structural design), Lena (25, IE, cannabis/podcast, twin of Brooklyn), Destiny (22, hip-hop singer/OnlyFans), Lizzy (35, Santa Clara, receptionist), UCSB guest (22, Santa Barbara, Environmental Studies/dance), Stie (21, SNP educator), Alicia (36, LA, stay-at-home mom, Eastern Orthodox). Andrew Wilson joins remotely at [13:32].

00:16:00
Relationship status round

Brian goes around the table asking current relationship status and history. Brooklyn: single 3 years, celibate 2+, longest 8-year HS relationship (she ended it). Kelsey: in relationship 4.5 years, met in HS, reconnected via Tinder. Lena: single 5 years, HS sweetheart relationship, recently broke celibacy (guy had a GF). Lizzy: in relationship, 3-year anniversary that Thursday. UCSB guest: talking stage ~1 month, guy in Europe (6'6"), not exclusive. Alicia: together 16 years, legally married, 2 kids. Andrew: married decade+. Alicia revealed conversion from Catholic to Eastern Orthodox; Andrew recognized her from prior episode.

00:27:00
Trump vs Biden: who would you date

Lighthearted question: if you had to date either Joe Biden or Donald Trump in their current state, who would you choose and why? Panel mostly split (some chose Biden for memory lapses to exploit, some chose Trump for curiosity). Andrew deflected to Tulsi Gabbard / Melania.

00:34:20
Push present / body-for-body viral clip reaction

Brian plays Brooklyn's viral podcast clip where she demands a face tattoo on the man's stomach as a "push present" after childbirth — framed as "body for a body." Andrew Wilson presses the logical entailment: if body-for-body is the standard, what happens if the woman gets an abortion? The discussion extends to abortion ethics, death penalty logic, and whether a man's willingness to "take a bullet" constitutes sufficient bodily sacrifice. Brooklyn maintains her position; Andrew and others probe inconsistencies.

00:49:00
Men taking bullets / protective roles

Brian asks whether a man should be willing to take a bullet for his wife/girlfriend. Panel broadly agrees yes; Alicia explains she would rather take the bullet because her husband is better equipped to raise their children. Discussion on how this relates to the body-for-body push-present logic Brooklyn articulated.

01:01:00
Grooming / body hair preferences and double standards

Conversation about genital grooming preferences. Brian references a video/podcast clip of women saying men should be groomed. Andrew argues that preference for groomed partners is not a double standard regardless of gender. Brooklyn defends her position on personal requirements. Debate on whether women's physical preferences for men are applied consistently with what they expect men to be allowed to prefer in women.

01:30:00
Virginity preference and male double standards

Extended debate: is it acceptable for men to prefer virgins or low body count partners? Can a man with a high body count reasonably prefer a low-count woman? Brooklyn and Kelsey argue this is hypocritical. Andrew and Brian argue male sexual history and female sexual history have different reproductive/pair-bonding implications. Discussion of whether women who are sexually active but demand men with low body counts are applying a double standard. Brian references prior celibacy advocacy messaging.

01:43:00
Age gap relationships debate

Is it acceptable / predatory for a 40-year-old man to date an 18-year-old woman? Kelsey argues 18-year-olds aren't thinking clearly enough for such relationships (experience gap). Andrew counters: if 18-year-olds are smart enough to vote, why not to choose partners? Brian asks Kelsey to be consistent. Andrew argues that restricting age-based preference is essentially calling 18-year-olds incompetent. Panel divided; debate runs across multiple segments with Andrew pressing Kelsey, who eventually acknowledges some inconsistency.

02:14:00
Andrew Wilson confronts Kelsey / Brooklyn on feminist framing

Andrew tells guests "this is possibly the first time in your entire life you've been pressed on a position." Kelsey and Brooklyn debate Andrew on whether society conditions men to tie self-worth to number of sexual conquests. Andrew argues this is evolutionarily advantageous and rational given reproduction as the primary edict. Kelsey argues the emphasis is exploitative/harmful. Extended back-and-forth on societal conditioning vs biology.

02:45:00
Body count round

Andrew asks guests about body counts. Lizzy discloses ~100-120. Lena/Destiny (SPEAKER_03) refuses to share number publicly; says body count is a personal story shared on need-to-know basis. Andrew argues refusing to share proves it matters. Brooklyn says she would multiply any woman's stated number to get the real one. Extended logical debate on whether "body count doesn't matter" is a coherent position.

03:05:00
Roster round

Brian asks each guest whether they have or have ever had a "roster" (multiple people they are talking to / seeing simultaneously). Brooklyn: talked to about 3 guys at once once. Kelsey: never, always one at a time. Lena/Destiny (mixed): yes, up to 7 (talking stage); only ever slept with one at a time. Lizzy: typically 3-4 at a time, all sexual. UCSB guest: once via Hinge (~4-5). Alicia: no.

03:20:00
Feminist identity round

Brian asks who considers themselves a feminist. Kelsey: "recovered feminist." Alicia: not feminist (former feminist, describes how feminist circles shamed women for being playful with men). Lena: no clear answer. Discussion of whether one can be feminist and still value family, monogamy, and having children. Andrew argues feminism dismantled traditional family structures.

04:13:20
Looks ratings round

TTS donation asks guests to rate their looks 1-10 (no 7s). Numbers called out: 10, 5, 10, 9, 2, 6, 6. Brian self-rated 5; Andrew self-rated 4. Brooklyn claimed 10 consistently. Andrew challenged her at length: if her sister (Lena) is also a 10 and is prettier, how can Brooklyn be a 10? Brooklyn eventually said they're all 9s. Lena admitted she would rate herself 9 but didn't want to go lower than she felt. Brian expressed he'd pick Brooklyn over Lizzy in a binary choice "objectively."

04:25:00
Sex ethics: lying about intentions, consent, manipulation

Kelsey argues men lying about wanting a long-term relationship to get sex constitutes sexual assault by deception. Brian asks: is women using cosmetics to attract men also deception? Is manipulating men financially online equally wrong? Kelsey concedes some equivalences. Discussion extends to women lying under marriage vows ("I'll love you forever") then leaving.

04:48:20
Cosmetic procedures / natural vs enhanced looks

Brian asks whether guests have had cosmetic procedures. Brooklyn denies lip filler (Brian suspects some based on appearance; she says she overlining). Brooklyn mentions she previously wanted a BBL and veneers but no longer does. Discussion of whether cosmetic enhancements improve or cap attractiveness. General debate on natural beauty vs enhanced appearance.

07:45:00
Closing: raid and wrap-up

Brian announces Twitch raid to another streamer. Final plugs for Patreon, Discord, Spotify, Apple Podcasts. Brian accidentally calls Lena "lizo" (referring to Lena, corrects himself). Episode ends.

Transcript

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00:56:23
Brooklyncombo go ahead I would say if you want to make a baby I would like you to get a tattoo in my face once the baby is already here wait that's that's how you
00:56:33
Andrew Wilsonwould say it mhm it wouldn't be like hey babe how you doing no can you tattoo me on your stomach well but I mean isn't this kind of perfect though because like
00:56:45
Andrew Wilsonif I was in that situation you said yeah after the baby's here you need to get a tattoo I'd be like yeah sure baby I'll get the tattoo and then you'd have the baby and I'd be like I ain't [ __ ] doing that [ __ ] you're out of your mind so then so then what happens like what
00:56:57
Andrew Wilsonwhat happens then then if it's like um if okay now the baby's here right and I'm like well I know I said that I was going to do that but I'm not doing that [ __ ] what happens then I would say you're not a man of your word [ __ ] and I
00:57:10
Andrew Wilsoncan't respect the man that's not a man of his word yeah so so so then if it loses all respect because I fibbed about getting a tattoo of your face on me we
00:57:19
Brooklynalready have a child is it time to go these are I mean I wouldn't Pro I probably would not end a marriage over someone wanting not wanting to get a tattoo but if a man was like yeah I'm
00:57:32
Brooklyngoing to get a tattoo and then he was like just kidding I would be kind of probably not wanting to lay down with him and definitely not giving him a second baby I got I got some last thing on this Andrew unless you wanted to uh
00:57:44
Andrew Wilsonyou have no no I was just uh I was just curious I mean it just seems like it's a really easy thing to kind of thwart the preference right you just be like well okay baby no problem I'll get that tattoo and then you get and then the
00:57:56
Brooklynbaby comes and you're like nah it's just [ __ ] you know you are absolutely right and you just um change my requirement to the tattoo has to be before
00:58:06
Brian Atlaswe first date first date he's got to get the tattoo not first date but you know before a raw sex do you ra like you don't think they're bad luck you haven't heard that really I think I believe it's
00:58:19
BrooklynI think whatever you believe in is what you believe in and whatever you put emphasis on is what's going to I feel like if like people like when you see see matching tattoos like people are praying on their downfall because that's just like a ridiculous like no she's not
00:58:32
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)going to get a tattoo I have no tattoos she do no not even matching tattoos like if I got a someone I would hope that somebody would almost like pray on my downfall that's like CRA like if I did it for you if I prayed on your downfall cuz wait you would hope someone would
00:58:45
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)pray on your downfall no I'm saying like if I prayed on your downfall because you had your husband get a tattoo of your face on his stomach like don't you think wait why would you that you could you
00:58:58
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)could return energy back to sender and you don't have to would she would you would you return energy back to me I just don't know I don't even think about people praying on my downfall I don't really have those thoughts how do you not think it's like bad luck to get your
00:59:10
Brooklynface not something that consumes my mind I just think about other things that's crazy just see it as beautiful art and
00:59:22
Brian Atlasdedication okay so final question on this then we're going to move it off of the uh tattoo thing or whatever for the body for body thing uh do you want to be like stay-at-home wife like you kind of
00:59:33
Brooklynwant the man to work you stay at home uh no I still want to work uh maybe remotely but I would like to I think it's important for women to work just
00:59:43
Brian Atlashave a sense of their own identity and have other stuff going on well okay so what about like when you're pregnant and then the early years of having the kids first couple years would you want to be
00:59:54
Brian Atlasworking then uh if I yeah remotely like if I I would work from home for sure so like okay um but I wouldn't leave well you want your husband to preferably be
01:00:06
Brooklynthe bread winner uh I mean I plan to make a lot of money but I would like us to both make good money okay all right what I want
01:00:16
Brian Atlashim to provide yes would you be willing to date a bluecar worker yeah okay so like say a guy who a
01:00:25
Brian Atlasroofer a plumber yes someone who uh uh concreting yes construction worker electrician mhm okay would you agree that these jobs tend to be very physical
01:00:37
Brian Atlasuh physically laborious and can actually over the course of uh someone's uh career cause damage to their body bad
01:00:45
Brian Atlasknees bad back Etc would that would that count towards your body for a body thing so you said you do like remote
01:00:56
Brian Atlaswork in the house I'm assuming your house would be nice and air conditioned but if you were dating a guy who's out there doing back breaking labor in order to support you and your children would
01:01:06
Brooklynthat be body for body um I mean it is but I would still want still the tattoo still want the tattoo
01:01:19
Aliciayou know that I don't think anyone can change my mind on it can I just ask one question yeah what exactly do you think happens to your body like that you think it's like ruined do you I don't think it's ruined I think there you can look better after pregnancy I know women that
01:01:32
Alicialook even better after pregnancy you have a friend she's on her third kid she looks the best I've ever seen her so if he doesn't think it's aesthetically pleasing to have a tattoo on his stomach and you admit that your body isn't
01:01:43
Brooklynnecessarily going to be like ruined what what would be the trade then it's not about it being ruined it's just changed right it's like your body you're a mom you know your body has changed it's not
01:01:53
Aliciathat it's ruined no but it changed right yeah it changed so but you originally phrased it like uh you were sacrificing your body and you could potentially die
01:02:04
Alicialike the way you described pregnancy I was just like oh my God like I was not on the verge of almost dying or feeling like I went N9 months my life was completely normal and nothing happened
01:02:17
Alicialike well that's amazing for you but that's just not everyone's experience but that's I would say the way you're describing it like sacrificing your body and all of that that seems like more of the outlier I would say my experience
01:02:29
Aliciawould probably more be more sort of the general experience and I had my kids kind of old so if I had my kids even younger my body would have bounced back better and it would have been probably
01:02:39
Aliciaeven 10 times easier so I just think my I'm not like necessarily um upset at the way you're talking it's just kind of when I hear you I'm just like wow I
01:02:49
Brooklynwonder what she thinks exactly happens like well I think every woman has their own individual experience when it comes to pregnancies I've heard some great stories like you're saying you know you
01:02:59
Brooklyndid you got through your pregnancies fairly well and easy not everyone has the same experience so how do I know I'm not going to have an easygoing experience I think I'm just I'm maybe
01:03:11
Aliciahyper focused on the word like sacrifice you're sacrificing your body I didn't see it that way I felt like I'm lucky enough to actually be G like bringing uh
01:03:21
Alicialife into this world I was in like oh my God this is such a sacrifice well you're giving up your life essentially to why so that's an that's also a kind of an interesting way that you're phrasing it
01:03:33
Aliciahow did I give up my life well your life is now your children's life no yeah so that's not just your life anymore it's say no and so I would actually say my life really began when I became a mom
01:03:45
Aliciabecause I never even experienced all the amazing things that I experienced until I had a kid um and they I mean I'm not going to get like all crazy with it but it's amazing you'll never know until you have your own kid and you realize in
01:03:58
Aliciathat very moment after you have the most incredible pain you have are followed by the most euphoric feeling of your entire life and you look at this like little tiny baby and you realize that you would do anything in the world for them you
01:04:10
Brian Atlaswould give up your life like that it wouldn't even be a question and that's your mindset totally changes in that very second but again that's an individual experience not every woman feels like Andrew can you hear us oh
01:04:21
Brian Atlaswait okay I think we're getting Nick can you show me the Stream stream or the chat we lost you guys for a second uh chat one in the chat if the
01:04:32
Brian Atlasstream's okay uh how long did that last chat 10 seconds 20 seconds 30 seconds Nick just keep an eye on that please um I just managed to catch it it's like
01:04:45
Brian Atlasmaybe maybe two seconds 10 seconds okay it's fine uh I'm going to move things along we have a lot of Clips to get through so for the sake of time we are going to try to get through these clips quickly because I
01:04:55
Brian Atlasyou guys got a lot of Clips I watched almost all the time oh it's more of ours oh yeah there's like 20 20 of your Clips we'll split it up into segments but 20
01:05:07
Brian Atlasyeah oh wow there were 20 clips that I found interesting Nick pull pull up the next oh uh well pull up the hold on pull it
01:05:18
Brian Atlasup this is the second one oh yeah so this is the one that went viral like half a million likes and actually was interesting like a lot of girls I don't know if you saw this one
01:05:28
Brian Atlasin specific a lot of the comments were uh co-signing so so brave perfectly logical she knows her worth hundreds of thousands of likes on the comments bare
01:05:40
Brian Atlasminimum for caring a child the the whole house car tattoo thing bare minimum um this one seems to disagree the licensing for podcast I disagree with that because then we would also be subject to the
01:05:52
Brooklynwhole licensing thing she's right though why men are crying Makes Sense anyways anyways yeah I think a lot of people are upset because uh women start asking and
01:06:01
Brooklynexpecting more out of men mhm before they just decide to bring in life what I I have a question but like maybe what if there was a counter
01:06:12
Brooklynproposal what if the man said listen I will definitely get the tattoo but only on my ass cheek and only if you kiss it what the honestly that's uh that's
01:06:23
Brian Atlaspretty kinky and I'm into that so there you go boom sign her up all right Nick next clip please all right uh go ahead men have virgin
01:06:35
Brooklynfetishes and there's only two reasons why one you suck in bed and a virgin wouldn't know that you suck in bed because they don't know anything two you're a [ __ ] pedophile to be hyper
01:06:46
Brooklynfixated on a woman being a virgin is the same thing as a man being hyperfixated on Bald coochie if I ever hear a man say y'all don't want no coochie if it's Harry you're [ __ ] weird you like little girls don't be coming up in my
01:06:58
Brooklyncomments talking about oh if you're not a virgin then you're not you hold no value it's it's creepy you pushing p and it's pedophile baby you
01:07:09
Andrew Wilsonerroneous okay wow damn all right there's a lot there so okay uh what in the name of made up a bunch of [ __ ] was that what in the name of just made up a bunch of [ __ ] was that garbage
01:07:21
Brian AtlasI I got to hear an explanation for this why is it garbage well if if we can before we get into that let's just bring the whole panel in on
01:07:30
Brian Atlasthis so uh going around the table agree disagree with what the clip that just okay so if you're a man and you have a
01:07:41
Brian Atlaspreference for women who are virgins uh you suck in bed you're a pedophile and those were the two main
01:07:51
Andrew Wilsonpoints I would a disagree disagree also even though even though we did play it if you guys could avoid the use of the p word and instead um use different
01:08:02
Brian Atlaslanguage that'd be great yeah uh so instead of that we'll just say uh what what p word pushing P let's just
01:08:13
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)do p word okay yeah that works all right I'll agree you agree okay what about you agree or disagree I agree but I know it's more to
01:08:24
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)that too so there there's more to it yeah like I think I agree but it's definitely more than just those two reasons oh there's other reasons I mean I feel like there is more reasons but um okay it is kind of weird
01:08:36
UCSB guest (unnamed)that I don't know I guess it's preference thing but okay if you're a grown man and you want somebody to be a virgin what about you no disagree disagree yeah I also disagree but I do
01:08:49
UCSB guest (unnamed)agree with the fact that if it's you should not require it to be bald it it it should be hairy or not you should like either either way MH like fullon 7s Bush they should like it however you
01:09:00
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)have it if they love you they like it however you have it okay I see what Lily means but I think that preference isn't
01:09:08
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)a p word thing it's just preference so okay I disagree disagree okay so really uh really quick on the bald
01:09:21
Brian Atlascoochie thing and then we'll come back to the whole virgin thing really quick so it also p word if he prefers a woman to shave I was just
01:09:31
Brooklyntrying to give like an example I it's not I understand why someone would want it bald I could understand that but to
01:09:41
Brooklynthere's some men that they come off almost as not to me but just cuz you guys have to remember I'm going based off this clip that was made we do our podcast in segments so
01:09:53
Brooklynevery fourth episode is a recap and roast and we go based off the comments that we get M so most comments from that segment were talking about Virgin I can
01:10:04
Brooklynokay yeah virgins and all that and I just think a man being hyperfixated on a virgin or someone being completely bald down there is that's a little off to me it's a little off-putting cuz what where
01:10:17
Brooklyndoes that stem from wait I just want to make sure I get this right it gives you the ick right it gives you the it gives me it it's concern it's alarming to me it's not an ick it's alarming why it why
01:10:29
Brian Atlasis alarming can I ask you a question on this so do you prefer a man clean shaven or with a beard I prefer beard you prefer beard yes okay would you object
01:10:40
Brian Atlasif I were to say that women who don't like beards are definitely PWS because that's not your private parts it's preference it's all preference I think that's what Brian's
01:10:51
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)trying to make is like it is a preference to have it bald and I do agree with like even what Lily was saying that it is just whatever kind of like what you want to have but I don't
01:11:02
Brooklynthink a preference is wrong if you prefer men without beards why are you a p word you're not it's just a preference I think for some
01:11:12
Andrew Wilsonit's a preference and some it's a demand I think that goes for everything but I'm just curious though I I would like to kind of get into this if you don't mind um what the hell is wrong with having
01:11:23
Andrew Wilsonthat demand like so let's say let's say that we have a 35-year-old man and he just demands to have a virgin he's not going to date unless you're a virgin and
01:11:35
Andrew Wilsonunless you're shaved down there that's what he likes can you tell me hang on hang on hang on let me finish the question can you actually tell me one reason why that would be immoral in any
01:11:47
Andrew Wilsonway shape or form why that would actually be immoral not and now here's what I'm not looking for what I'm not looking for is well it gives me the ick I'm I'm actually looking for a it's immoral
01:12:00
Brooklynbecause I just think that unless a man is a virgin himself he shouldn't be requesting for a woman to be a virgin if he's a virgin himself because what's what's the uh
01:12:11
Andrew Wilsonobsession with a virgin cuz he just wants one what's wrong with that why reason always a reason CU wait wait cuz cuz he does what's wrong with that so he woke up one morning and he so
01:12:24
Andrew Wilsonhere's you give you the whole scenario right I won't leave anything to the imagination he wakes up one morning and he stretches and he
01:12:34
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)goes I want a virgin what is the problem with that like I actually want to know after already like what if he's like his thing
01:12:45
Andrew Wilsonis for virgins so yeah he woke up that slam he slammed half a la he has banged half of La twice and he had a good time doing it and he wakes up on a Thursday
01:12:56
Andrew Wilsonand he stretches he yds and he says I just want myself a virgin I always wanted one and that's what I'm going for cuz that's my preference what the hell is wrong I I
01:13:08
Andrew Wilsonactually want to know what's wrong with that what's the problem I think as other other than icky hang I'm just looking for anything other than it's icky anything other than
01:13:20
Brooklynthat I don't I just know that's not a man I would uh surround myself with to split what you're fine you're fine oh I I don't really have anything to say I just think it's weird that men are
01:13:33
Andrew Wilsonhyperfixated you have to remember I'm going based off my comment section so when yeah I think it's weird that you're hyper fixated on men who have that preference that's really weird it giv me the weird that they always comment stuff like that that's yeah I know because it
01:13:45
Brian Atlasseems like they have the preference that you guys are virgins and you're not right that's the point well I and I I actually have a bit of a followup on this so you said you've been selib bit for two years right over two years yeah
01:13:56
Brian Atlasover two years and you said your previous relationship was uh s wait 8 years eight years I mean I'm I'm imagining you're not a
01:14:08
Brian Atlasvirgin but I'm imagining it sounds like in given we haven't got to your other videos yet from what you've disclosed in your other videos it actually sounds like you at least what you're putting
01:14:19
Brian Atlasout there that you have a low body count mhm so I'm just curious why would you object to men having a preference that actually leans more towards how you are that's what I what
01:14:31
Brooklynthat's what confuses me well I'm not a virgin I my body count is low I mean it's fine to you know I think it's fine
01:14:40
Brooklynif you want a woman that hasn't slept with a bunch of people that's if that's your preference that's fine but for a virgin that's kind of and my only the only thing I can say for that unless
01:14:51
Brian Atlasyou're a virgin yourself I just for like religious reason or whatever I don't think it's appropriate well so wouldn't the ultimate manifestation of kind of the way that
01:15:02
Brian Atlasyou choose to move which is celibacy it sounds like and my understanding is and I think we'll see this in some of your future videos is you you're saying you're waiting until marriage for your
01:15:14
Brooklynnext partner is that correct to have sex and I said abstaining from I'm not waiting till marage but I wouldn't just lay down with anyone okay but so wouldn't a virgin be the ultimate
01:15:25
Brooklynmanifestation of essentially what you're doing which is celibacy and sexual Purity I just think that when men my whole reasoning for the video is that
01:15:37
Brooklynmen's argument is that you hold no value unless you're a virgin that's what all the comments are you hold no value if you're if you have no if you're not a virgin you don't hold value so I don't
01:15:47
Brian Atlasknow where that comes from and I think I think men tell on themselves in their comments well it's not clear to me if if large swaths like large populations of
01:15:59
Brian Atlasmen would refuse to date a woman if she had for example a body count of one as opposed to being a virgin it might be more preferable that she's a virgin it's not clear to me if it would immediately
01:16:10
Brian Atlasbe a deal Breer unless they were like devoutly religious or something but I think it's a general preference that men do prefer women with lower body counts and the ultimate manifestation of
01:16:22
Brian Atlasthat would be a woman who's a virgin but I don't think men are like oh she has a body count of one I'm refusing to date her especially if they're not virgins themselves but you think it's the case
01:16:33
Brian Atlasthat like like what percentage of men would you say will exclusively only date virgin women I mean has to be well sorry I go ahead I really I don't know I well you
01:16:44
Brooklynsaid a lot of men say I I said not that they date them I think that's what they want you know they because wouldn't a lot of women want to date a billionaire
01:16:56
Brooklynhonestly who what women wouldn't want to date a billionaire if if they had access billionaires can be kind of scary yet I wouldn't want to date a billionaire you really I wouldn't you mean like
01:17:08
Brian Atlasliterally hundreds of generations of your children would be financially oh no that's a lot of generations like you would be financially set you never have to work a day in your life everything in your life would be taken care of
01:17:20
Brooklyneverything you wouldn't dat a billionaire a billionaire I mean I'm not saying I never say never but I just think a lot of billionaires are probably not the type of people that I would want to date you
01:17:32
Brian Atlaswouldn't secure your bloodline for like dozens of generations financially I'd rather be happy well what if you could be happy with a billionaire I'm guaranteed happiness
01:17:44
Brian Atlaslet's assume here let's assume let's assume the guy who's making $440,000 a year is a good guy and the billionaire who's making a billion dollars a year is
01:17:54
Brooklynalso a good guy guy which one do you pick the so we're saying that I'm totally into this guy okay obviously if I'm into this guy that's why I Say Never Say Never but I mean yeah you would
01:18:06
Brian Atlasprefer for your man to have money and to be able to provide so if we're looking at that as a spectrum like on the extreme end you have a billionaire but then like okay you have a guy who makes 100K which is still very good right so
01:18:19
Brian Atlascan you like view it in that lens of perhaps on the extreme end you have a virgin but then like still very uh solid life partner would be a woman who has a
01:18:30
Brian Atlassub five body count one two three four five something like that
01:18:36
Brian Atlasmhm the ultimate preference would be a billionaire or a woman who's a virgin but most people would be totally fine partnering with somebody who uh does have a low body count or who makes less
01:18:49
Brooklynthan a billion dollars but that would be if the men were commenting oh my preference would be this this these are comments saying you hold no value if you're not a virgin if you're a virgin then you don't have a say like that's
01:19:01
Brian Atlaswhy this video was made seems a bit of like a straw men though I don't hear a lot of men saying well I would refuse to date a woman if she had a body count of
01:19:12
Brooklynone well people are not commenting that so I wasn't responding to people that so you're saying people are people are saying what that they prefer to data virgin they weren't saying I prefer to dat what are they saying that non
01:19:23
Brian Atlasvirgins have no no value no value that's what I was respond to I don't hear this frequently even in like dating spaces I think a lot of people say things on the internet they would never say in real
01:19:33
Brian Atlaslife sure that's fair so um people feel very bold on the internet let's get back to the two actual original claims though I I wonder if I can if I can dive in just briefly Brian if that's right uh Andrew let me just make one more point
01:19:46
Brian Atlasand then I'll have you come in real quick so uh just really quick on your double standards thing so you said well it's only it would be okay for a virgin man to want a virgin woman otherwise if you have a body count as a man wrong for
01:19:57
Brooklynyou to desire uh a virgin that's your position on that I don't it's not I mean that's your preference but to shame a woman for not being a virgin when you're far from it is concerning to me well I
01:20:09
Brian Atlasdon't know if that was your original argument but it did sound like only your position was only men who are virgins either deserve or should prefer virgin women yeah I feel yeah okay so hold on
01:20:21
Brian Atlashold on um so let me ask you a question in order for you to want to be with someone need you be exactly the same like so in order for you desire a trait and a partner need you also possess said
01:20:39
Brian Atlastrait so you're saying based on my low body count so you're saying as a guy if you want to date a virgin you should be a virgin too that's essentially what
01:20:51
Brian Atlasyou're saying so my question is in order for you to desire a trait in a partner need you also possess that trait in order for you
01:21:01
Brooklynto desire it I mean this is the thing it fits a pref okay you're PR preference you're just like oh I'm just a guy I'm I'm saying that if it's just a
01:21:11
Brooklynpreference right let's say it's a strong very strong preference yeah I mean I'm still taking my stance on it should be maybe if a guy slept with one or two
01:21:21
Brian Atlasgirls maybe that's more fair but just no let's say he's got a body count of 100 he but he still wants to date a woman who's a virgin because he he's made some sort of analysis or assessment and he's
01:21:32
Brian Atlasdetermined well I think when it comes to having a girlfriend life partner a woman who has a lower a low body count or in fact who's has no body count would make for the best partner for me he's just
01:21:44
Brian Atlasmade that assessment then if that's his requirement that's his requirement I don't know well you might acknowledge that he's he he can have it but you would object to it is that correct
01:21:55
Brooklynyeah I just think there's just a lot of weirdos and creeps out there and that's what the video was made those that's who the video was made for you would object to that okay so I guess let me ask you a
01:22:07
Brian Atlasquestion a woman who's not funny but she desires a guy who's funny and can make her laugh do you object to that because she doesn't possess the trait in which she Desires in a
01:22:20
Andrew Wilsonpartner no you don't object would you object would you object to a woman who had brown eyes who wanted to partner with blue eyes
01:22:33
Andrew Wilsonno so I well I so I don't understand here um if if I can give you a physical characteristic which I would say virginity is a physical characteristic the physical characteristic of you have
01:22:44
Andrew Wilsonbrown eyes you only desire people who have blue eyes does that then is that then alarming to you no well how come that's not alarming to you but the idea that a man who's not a virgin would
01:22:56
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)desire a virgin is cu one one is a physical attribute the other one is a vulnerable act why I don't understand they're both physical attributes no because the color of your hair the color of your eyes is
01:23:09
Andrew Wilsondifferent than popping your cherry having sex for the first time that is but they're both but hang on there that both of those would be physical attributes virginity would be a physical attribute but you could look at someone and say oh you have blue eyes they're
01:23:22
Andrew Wilsonpretty you can't look at someone and say oh you're a virgin or not no no no but let's assume you will only date men who have blue eyes that's it your preference is I have brown eyes and I will only
01:23:33
Andrew Wilsondate men who have blue eyes is that is that alarming to you no okay but I don't understand why why is it that if uh you have the preference I'll only date men
01:23:44
Andrew Wilsonwho have blue eyes uh that that's not not alarming but I will only date virgins is alarming like can maybe you can square this for me and Brian because that's what he's getting after he's
01:23:54
Brooklynwondering it just screams the p word I just not I I can't personally wrap my head around the idea of someone being so so hyperfixated on wanting a woman to be
01:24:06
Andrew Wilsonwhy well wait wait wait hang on I'm I'm sorry I I'm do you associate uh desire of virginity with the p word that's your
01:24:17
BrooklynAssociation I think uh there's some correlation to that yes yeah what's the correlate um the same thing as the example I give
01:24:28
Brooklynwant having uh only wanting it to be bald I just think that what does that resemble a little girl well wait does it
01:24:39
Andrew Wilsonnot being a virgin and and being completely bald down there so then I assume that you would be against 6'8 men dating 4ot 10
01:24:48
Brooklynwomen no well I don't understand what do they resemble what is a 4ot t woman resembl to a 6'8 man I think you could tell if a even if based on someone's high I think you
01:25:01
Andrew Wilsoncould still tell if they're of age oh so and could you maybe tell that with other parts of their body too well oh I got a qu I got question hang on I just want to know can you tell that with other parts of the body
01:25:16
Brooklyntoo maybe if uh maybe if the girl you were sleeping with had only had some really really small pen small what peen
01:25:25
BrooklynP PP yeah the the guy has a small maybe if maybe if he had a micro pen then it still adults can have small PPS yeah what are you talking about that's bizarre what do you mean that's like
01:25:38
Andrew Wilsonthat that doesn't even make any sense like what do what do you mean so I'm I'm really curious here if the association in your mind is you must be the p word or in some way associated with the p
01:25:49
Andrew Wilsonword because you prefer virginity and guess what guess what else are virgins out there uh you know underage people those are virgins as well so you make that Association okay but there's all sorts
01:26:01
Andrew Wilsonof things that you can then associate with that which would just include things like I prefer youthful looking women who aren't virgins let's say well that's still associated with with with
01:26:12
Andrew Wilsonthe same thing or short women that's associated with the same thing right or women who only eat macaroni and cheese I guess or that's their favorite dish I could associate that with a kind of
01:26:24
Andrew Wilsonprepubescent mentality so why is it that you make only this Association that's really weird it makes me think that you have a screw loose and that you are making an association that other people
01:26:35
Andrew Wilsonwould not uh attribute to children that's not what when you think child that is not what people attribute to child why do you attribute that to
01:26:45
Brooklynchild I don't think I'm uh this genius that's like came up with this idea that being ball down there or being a virgin
01:26:56
Brian Atlaskind of correlates I'm saying only wanting that wait really quick if I can jump in here really quick Andrew and I'll pass it right back on the bald thing on the bald thing you said well how would you know so let me ask you a
01:27:07
Brian Atlasquestion let's say it's a a 30-year-old woman and she's she's told you she's 30 on her dating app it says 30 and but she's bald down there and she's down
01:27:16
Brian Atlasthere and right next to the like on the bed is a uh driver's license a photo ID her birth certificate and a sworn statement with
01:27:26
Brian AtlasWitnesses under penalty of perjury that she is in fact 30 years old but she also has is you know shaved she's bald down
01:27:34
Brooklynthere is that still p p word stuff I'm not saying that if you doed every month like I'm not I I'm
01:27:45
Brooklynsaying if wait you get waxed yes I'm not saying I'm against I'm saying for a man to be like uh like hay coochie is just uh like I can't I can't I just kind of
01:27:56
Brooklynfeel like one you're ungrateful and two it's kind of we it's kind of offputting wait so you don't have any grooming preferences for men like you're fine with full
01:28:06
Brian Atlas70s I prefer hair but I mean like full B like never groomed a day in their life full Bush jungle status yes they braid that [ __ ] too I would help them you're
01:28:17
Andrew Wilsonfine with the braids you will I I will save a a cube souvenir so to to kind of uh explore the rest of this and I think Brian makes a good point here this actually where I was going to go with it
01:28:28
Andrew Wilsonnext because I'm just as curious as he is would you associate uh hair on a man with with being a man right that is definitely a trait of of uh you know
01:28:40
Andrew Wilsonbeing an adult male would be hair right mhm and you would also associate then that a male who has very little hair you
01:28:49
Andrew Wilsonwould associate with a boy right uh um I don't see my thing is it would be like me so so well here so here's the thing let me just show you
01:29:02
Andrew Wilsonwhere I'm going with this I'll land the plane as they say really quickly if a woman's preference is to only have men who you know have no body hair because they get rid of it by shaving it or
01:29:12
Andrew Wilsonwhatever you know however they do it um are they the p word are those women alarming to you are they disgusting pews because they want a man who removes all
01:29:25
Andrew Wilsonof their body hair and that's what they want no well I don't understand the association then well I'm sorry you can't understand and I don't know if you want to hear I'm sorry that you can't explain but try to explain I'm trying to
01:29:37
Brooklynunderstand this is just my stance on it I think it's weird when you know hundreds and hundreds of comments are uh all they can think talk and speak about is a virgin I think it's is their
01:29:49
Andrew Wilsonpreference that's weird that all that they talk about is their preferences I do think it's it's weird to take time out of your day and type some weird comments like that well it's really weird to me that you think it's weird
01:30:01
Andrew Wilsonthat you would put your opinion out there and say Here's my opinion on X thing now don't say anything about it that's really weird isn't the whole point of engaging in a dialogue or putting your opinion out there is
01:30:13
Andrew Wilsonbecause you want feedback from the audience and the people who are watching so that they can express what their opinion is and they express theirs and then I expressed back right but if they're all expressing or a good number
01:30:25
Andrew Wilsonof them are expressing that this is a preference why do you immediately associate that with the p word when we when we hold you to the same standard Apparently that is not p-word like
01:30:35
Andrew WilsonBehavior if a woman wants a hairless man why that's just fine but if a man wants a hairless woman he's a p word can you make that make sense for me I don't think I can I'm sorry I don't think you
01:30:47
Brooklyncan either but I appreciate it do you think more women prefer to be groomed versus men who have that preference I would say yes more women do I mean
01:30:58
Brooklynjust even for myself I get wax um monthly and I've been up stating from sex it's no one for it's not for anyone but myself yeah cuz I was just thinking like I see girls at the beach there's no way they're trying to go around the
01:31:09
Aliciabeach with like a full-on bush um because they want their bathing suit as small as possible and then my second point I was thinking when you were saying some of this is It's only relatively recently that women would
01:31:22
Alicialeave uh High School without their virginity intact so when men would prefer a virgin they would still be wanting somebody who is an adult like
01:31:34
Aliciathis is somewhat of a new thing that girls lose their virginity before the age of 18 and historically right wouldn't you agree to that it's not like women were being highly promiscuous even
01:31:45
Alicialike 50 years ago I I mean if you just had to guess like when did the sexual Revolution happen I don't know what women do on I mean if you had to guess though do you
01:31:58
Aliciathink women were more promiscuous or less promiscuous after the sexual Revolution I think they're more promiscuous now I guess so right so then it's a fairly new thing for men to have or it's not a new thing that men want
01:32:11
Aliciavirgins but it's a fairly new thing that men are now encountering a dating Market where most women are now not virgins when they graduate high school so it's probably not necessarily affiliated with
01:32:22
Aliciabeing attracted to minors it's probably just part of their hardwiring that that's what they want right mhm yes I got a question let's say there's a woman who's
01:32:34
Brian Atlas30 who's a virgin and then there's a woman who's just she's she just turned 18 but she's slept with a hundred
01:32:45
Brian Atlasmen if a man has a preference for dating the 30-year-old virgin over dating the hold on wait let me think here yeah the 30 prefer he prefers dating the
01:32:56
Brian Atlas30-year-old virgin over the now granted she is legally an adult so I wouldn't consider either to be p word but which which one do you think like if if if a
01:33:08
Brian Atlasman was inclined to date one or the other which one would be more pord the 30-year-old virgin or the 18-year-old with 100 bodies how is the man
01:33:18
Brooklyn40 I mean yeah it's legal to date an 18-year-old but I still don't think a man that 40 years old should be dating an 18-year-old mhm but you I think he should go for the 30-year-old virgin
01:33:30
Brian Atlasthen why not but look at all what but look at all the sexual experience that she's had cuz you said it comes down you know sexual the Virgin would suck in bed
01:33:40
Brian Atlasit's giving p word mhm but she's a 30-year-old virgin whereas the 18-year-old has had 100 sexual partners but your question is what that
01:33:51
Brooklynwho should he which one is more PE wordy I mean both both they're both of age but I do think a 40-year-old man
01:34:03
Brooklynshould he be dating an 18-year-old I mean to each its own but I just don't think yeah they should what's wrong with it I
01:34:15
Brooklynmean I don't would you do you do you have a daughter or yeah Andrew has daughters you have daughters so you yeah have four daughters yeah you would be okay with your 18-year-old daughter dating a 40-year old man well what would
01:34:27
Andrew Wilsonme being okay with it let's just assume I'm not okay with my daughter dating anybody because I'm a good dad right and that's all good Fathers everywhere hate the fact that their daughters date anybody at any time for any reason but the thing is is I've been trying I've
01:34:40
Andrew Wilsonbeen thinking about this because I hear women say this a lot right and I only hear it exclusively from women that it's gross or in some way icky if a 40-year-old man dates an 18-year-old
01:34:51
Andrew Wilsonwoman are you saying that an 18 year old woman is too stupid to date a 40-year-old man um I don't think you are thinking clearly at
01:35:00
Andrew Wilson18 okay well then why can you vote [ __ ] I don't know good do you think that 18-year-old women shouldn't be able to vote I
01:35:12
Andrew Wilsonthink hang on remember the question answer to the actual question are you saying 18-year-old women are smart enough to vote but too stupid to handle their personal affairs when it comes to a relation relationship I just want to make sure I get this
01:35:28
Brooklynclear I think uh voting I just don't I can't really say the two correlate because getting involved with a
01:35:38
Brooklyn40-year-old man dating a man that has much more experience and could use that to his advantage in many ways is different so that 40-year-old man if
01:35:50
Andrew Wilsonhe's has a lot more experience he's way smarter in this type of thing clearly he should be able to vote why should the 18-year-old who's too stupid to date the 40-year-old man be able to vote that's
01:36:01
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)what I don't understand stupid doesn't equal inexperienced you could just then what's the problem with them having a relationship not stupid dealing with okay sure they so they they're so if
01:36:14
Brooklynthat's true then what would be the problem with them dating well I want to go back to the question that I have for you and I i' oh I I want to go back to the question I have for you you said you have four daughters do you think it
01:36:27
Brooklynwould be a good idea for your 18-year-old daughter to date a 40-year-old man yes or no would advise my 18-year-old daughter not to date any man no which the that can't be a I'm saying if your 18-year-old daughter how
01:36:38
Andrew Wilsonhow can it not be do you know any would include all 40-year-old men I just I think so any would include all 20-year-old men 30-y old men 40y old men 50y old men
01:36:52
Andrew Wilsonand include all of them not just some of them but in this case we're talking about a 40-year-old man and an 18-year-old woman and I'm just curious
01:37:03
Andrew Wilsonif you think an 18-year-old woman is so [ __ ] stupid that she can't handle her personal affairs when it comes to dating why do we let them vote she never called them stupid yeah I
01:37:14
Brooklynnever called them stupid and that's you I'm just how just just how you made a comparison to I had to adjust I'm going to back wait what did you change uh we're we're
01:37:26
Brian Atlasgetting it we got it Andrew here I'll just I don't know if he can understand sign language uh was there what happened Nick just the normal audio thing that happens happened okay
01:37:38
Brian Atlasum that's fine so going around the table I'm just going to get everybody's take on this do you object to age Gap relationships let's say the age let's put it at um 30 and
01:37:49
Brooklyn20 do you do you object to that age Gap a 20-y old and a 30-year-old uh 30-y old man 20-y old woman yeah yeah that's fine you're fine with that okay wait we were
01:38:00
Brian Atlastalking about 18 and 40 so can we stick to 18 and 40 we could I be more fair it is bigger yeah let's let's but I think a 3020 is a bit more likely to happen but
01:38:13
Andrew Wilsonlet's stick to what we were talking about cuz I'm sure I'm fine with that4 18-year-old in yeah yeah well if you don't mind I'd like to get back to this um before the audio cut out can you explain why it is again that you want
01:38:26
Andrew Wilson18-year-old girls to be able to vote if they're too dumb to manage their personal affairs when it comes to their relationship I said she never called them stupid or dumb that was your own words well then what would your
01:38:35
Brooklynobjection be to it then I think that men that are 40 years old uhhuh could manipulate you could do a lot of things
01:38:46
Andrew Wilsonand assume that this assumes that the 18-year-olds must be stupid then I'm sorry are you manipulated by people who are smarter than you you're just not going to be as experienced when
01:38:58
Andrew Wilsonyou're 18 you're not going to be as experienced as you would be at 40 years old if you're in experience as they get if you're so then this well this goes to my point hang on let us finish our our exchange here real quick if you don't
01:39:09
Andrew Wilsonmind this so This goes back to my argument then if you're if you're too inexperienced in the world to even manage your own personal affairs when it comes to a relationship why would you be experienced enough to vote on the issues
01:39:21
Brooklynthat would affect me and the nation you want to do you want to explain that to me I don't talk politics so I'm we're not talking politics we're talking about voting okay so I just think I just how
01:39:33
Brooklynyour argument against uh virginity preferring a virgin as preferring someone with blue or brown eyes I just don't think your argument is as strong as you think it is I don't really see
01:39:46
Andrew Wilsonthe comparison what I mean what a fantastic counter argument I don't think your argument's very good it's not an argument involv when you're dealing with a man day in and day out that is a lot
01:39:58
Andrew Wilsondifferent than sending in a boat yeah yeah okay so I realize that everything on Earth that we could possibly imagine that we make an analogy to are going to be different no matter
01:40:10
Andrew Wilsonwhat right so I can say for instance oh this tastes like chicken but it's not actually a chicken the reason that we're making the analogy that it tastes like chicken so that you have some reference in your mind to what the thing tastes
01:40:21
Andrew Wilsonlike we're not actually saying it's the thing itself so knowing that what I'm asking you here is if a man who is 40 wants to date a woman who's 18 and the
01:40:32
Andrew Wilsonwoman who is 18 goes to you and says I love him I'm going to marry him because I love him are you saying that that shouldn't be allow I mean people could do whatever
01:40:43
Andrew Wilsonthey want do I think it's appropriate no yeah what's inappropriate about it the age Gap is what's inappropriate about it what like what's actually problematic
01:40:53
Andrew Wilsonshe loves him he loves her there's a big Power struggle there well hang on there's a power struggle in every relationship regardless and more so with a 40 and an 18-year-old than someone
01:41:06
Andrew Wilsonthat's no that's not that's not true for every relationship one there's no way you could ever demonstrate that that's true you could say maybe the likelihood of it increases but so what the likelihood would also increase if he was
01:41:17
Andrew Wilsona 21-year-old millionaire and she was a 21-year-old who worked at Starbucks there would be a massive power IM balance would you say then that they shouldn't date well you're saying if
01:41:27
Brooklynthey were to get married right would you are you married mhm you are can you tell me the age you got married um I'd actually have to calculate but uh
01:41:40
Andrew Wilsonbut around around time like were you in your 20s 30s yeah I was in I was in my 20s yeah late 20s late 20s okay so do you think
01:41:49
Brooklynthat your relationship or or your your marriage with your wife would have survived if you got together when you
01:41:58
Andrew Wilsonwere 18 yeah okay well good for but let us assume but let us assume for a second that I'm wrong and it would know okay so
01:42:09
Andrew Wilsonwhat what would that have to do with anything I just don't think you are going to make the best relationship decisions at 18 years old that's my answer no I hang on I get it I
01:42:22
Andrew Wilsonunderstand but this is kind of this has kind of become circular right so let's let's move back for a second you're saying that the reason for this is because there's a power Dynamic
01:42:34
Andrew Wilsonproblem she loves him he loves hers not enough because there's a power issue isn't isn't that what your objection is I just think that if you had a I feel
01:42:46
Brooklynlike our conversation I could get a better uh I I could give you something better if you could give me what you would really truly honestly think about your daughter at 18 dating a 40-year-old why
01:42:58
Brooklynwould you need my position to know your position because I think you could why do you need my position to know what you think about an issue I think because you would be able to understand where I'm
01:43:11
Andrew Wilsoncoming from if you were actually honest okay I'll give you my position again okay I don't want my daughter to date a man her age or older than her or younger
01:43:20
Andrew Wilsonthan her that's just not going to happen happen though yeah I okay great but now you know my position so back to your position here uh I'm just curious is it
01:43:32
Kelseyis it the power Dynamic issue is that what the problem is all things equal you have to choose sorry totally I say all things equal you have to choose between the 20-year-old
01:43:43
Andrew Wilsonand The 40-Year-Old for your daughter all things equal well it would all things couldn't be equals an impossible and illogical hyp itical in a vacuum so
01:43:55
Andrew Wilsonif you were to just say on age alone by itself with no other contributing factors I would probably choose for the 20-year-old okay but so what what does that have to do with anything now let's
01:44:07
Andrew Wilsonadd in let's hang on now let's add in a single variable okay the uh 20-year-old is a broke destitute idiot and The 40-Year-Old is not then I might choose differently right because it's not in a
01:44:18
Andrew Wilsonvacuum so understanding that that is true I can still explain to you that I would probably have the preference for this to youth sure but so what that doesn't mean I see any in moral arrangement with a 40-year-old dating an
01:44:30
Andrew Wilson18-year-old that's what I don't understand and need demonstrated that's what I want to hear the actual problem with it is what I think how you see it Brooklyn is kind of how I see it where it's just
01:44:42
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)like what does an 18 and a 40-year-old have in common at all you're not in the same Walk of Life at all um well I can tell you I can tell you what I think what I think the I can tell you what I think I I can tell you what the
01:44:54
Andrew Wilsondistinction is he really wants to have sex with her a lot all the time and she wants his money that's what it is right that's I mean that's generally speaking what I think this Arrangement would be is that she would go for him because she thinks he's sophisticated and has
01:45:07
Andrew Wilsonresources and he's with her cuz he really wants to [ __ ] her and if he doesn't have the resources and she's just with a 40-year-old man then what because she because she loves him you think that I'm going to tell my
01:45:20
Andrew Wilsondaughter that she can't marry somebody that she loves and who loves her best well you can't weird you can't really tell her anything at the end of the day she's going to make her own that's right I really can't tell her anything at the end of the day so that's why we're just
01:45:31
Andrew Wilsonmoving into why this is actually in some way some kind of problem well can you why is this actually a problem for me I just I think that we're
01:45:42
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)thinking the same in the in the same way of just I don't think I have anything involved my mom's 40 I don't have really anything in common with my mom other than she's my mom cuz we're just different walks of life and do I think
01:45:56
Brian Atlasit's the worst thing on a planet no because I they're both legal but wait hold on wait wait on this whole commonality thing though on this commonality thing though really quick
01:46:06
Brian Atlasfor anybody here do you think like it's high on the totem pole that like the major thing you're looking for when it comes to a partner is things in
01:46:17
Brian Atlascommon yes like if you don't like I've never seen like a really attractive girl and been like ah she doesn't like the same music as me guess I'm not going to [ __ ] her ah she's never going to play
01:46:29
Andrew WilsonDungeons and Dragons with me damn it you know I don't you know what you were you're super hot and I thought that you were gorgeous and the woman of my dreams till I found out you don't play D and D that that's a deal breaker I think
01:46:42
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)people connect on having things in common and I don't know how you necessarily connect at 18 with a 40-year-old so I do agree with Brooklyn in that sense I mean hang on hang on I'm I'm just I'm just really
01:46:54
Andrew Wilsoncurious right why wouldn't there be tons of overlaping connections so for instance name a connection you would have with a 21-year-old that you couldn't have with a 40-year-old I'd like to know a single
01:47:05
Andrew Wilsonone um most 40y old I would feel like have a wife and kids okay okay yeah but this I mean that's not necessar know you're this one doesn't have a wife and
01:47:17
Andrew Wilsonkids so can you name a single connection you can have with a 21-year-old that you can't have with a 4y old go ahead the floor is open name one a 20e high school reunion A what that's about it or like
01:47:30
Andrew Wilsonyou know like a high school reunion I haven't had one yet I'm 21 that's a con I'm just trying to like you know I guess so you think that would be a basis for disqualifying do you think that be you give me a single emotional or or
01:47:43
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)interest connection that you can have with a 21-year-old man you can't have with 20 years I have a lot more experience and knowledge than I do
01:47:52
Kelseyyou're not answering years old right now not same age or stage of life exactly that's what I just said then I'll just ask you the same question perhaps you'll answer can you
01:48:04
Andrew Wilsoncan you name a single emotional connection or interest connection that you can have with a 21-year old man you can't have with a 40-year-old man I'd actually like to know the answer to this question have form an emotional connection by being in the same stage of
01:48:16
Andrew WilsonLife experiencing adulthood for the first time and you can also form emotional connections uh to the opposite of that you can form emotional connections with people who are outside of your experiences you've heard perhaps
01:48:27
Andrew WilsonOpposites Attract you've heard perhaps that people enjoy traits in other people that they themselves don't have there's all sorts of these types of emotional yeah so so I'm just asking specifically
01:48:38
Andrew Wilsonthen what is that thing that emotional connection you're talking about what specifically there could you have with a 21-year-old you couldn't have with a 40-year-old
01:48:49
Lena / Destiny / Stie (mixed)neither one of your guys' brain is fully developed when you're 18 and 21 when you're 40 you're a full grown man your brain is developed you've already no your brain is fully developed at 18 I
01:49:00
Andrew Wilsondon't know what you're talking about 25 actually what you've done is you've taken one study which is talking about the prefrontal cortex and you've misread
01:49:10
Andrew Wilsonit like most people do oh oh really how many studies is it I couldn't tell you sorry I didn't write it down yeah I know and and can you name the study no I can't name no you can't name
01:49:23
Andrew Wilsonit so the thing is is like you're talking about the prefrontal cortex and the thing is the prefrontal cortex begins to degrade after the age 26 people forget that part it degrades so if it degrades then wouldn't that mean
01:49:35
Andrew Wilsonif you're a 40-year-old man that you have a degraded prefrontal cortex whereas a 25-year-old woman would be have a prefrontal cortex in her prime so wouldn't that make you equal don't things start to degrade after they've
01:49:46
Andrew Wilsonreached like their Prime right so if it reaches its prime and it begins to degrade but let's let's let's take a look at this attribute right so you can have a fully developed prefrontal cortex
01:49:57
Andrew Wilsoneven before the age of 26 you can have that it's not it's not even a problem to have and you can have such minute differences what if it only works at a half a percent better or a quarter of a
01:50:08
Andrew Wilsonquarter of a quarter of half a percent that's why you can't extrapolate from studies like this you can't take this and extrapolate that we can only consider you an adult at 26 because
01:50:19
Andrew Wilsoneverybody's mind develops differently so the question becomes this and by the way if that's the case wouldn't only 26-year old women be able to vote wouldn't only 26y old women be able to buy cars shouldn't only 26- year old women be
01:50:32
Andrew Wilsonable to go out and enter into contracts with other people I don't think anyone's saying that it should be illegal to date someone that's 40 years old right okay great then let's get back to this then
01:50:43
Andrew Wilsonwhat emotional connection can you only have with a person in your age bracket you couldn't have age bracket of a person who's 20 years older than you I think I already
01:50:53
Aliciastated my answer to that wait can I ask what to this idea of commonality couldn't you also argue though that there might be too much commonality between two 20-year-olds because they're
01:51:04
Aliciaboth maybe emotionally immature but if you had somebody younger girl they might be a little bit more uh able to be like okay she's acting like this but he has more emotional maturity cuz he has that
01:51:16
Aliciaexperience that you guys are talking about so he'd be able to be in a way more nurturing or at least more aware of how to deal with her I think when you're with somebody that's your age you're getting to learn
01:51:28
Brian Atlasand figure it out together I have a question mistakes that you can learn so so I have a question for you do you think that all older women are super mature and always conduct themselves
01:51:39
Brian Atlasproperly in relationships and all younger women are just these like chaotic can't conduct themselves in a relationship is that your position no because I can tell you from experience
01:51:50
Brian AtlasI've had a lot of experience dating women in their 30s and 40s and they're just as if not more Troublesome than women in their 20s from my own personal
01:52:02
Brian Atlasexperience my own anecdotal experience in fact women we've had on the show who tend to be in their 30s and 40s post show create more issues for us by [ __ ] trying to do reputation
01:52:14
Brian Atlasdestruction I'm dealing with it right now 40-year-old women are the ones that are like trying to do reputation destruction doing malicious [ __ ] than like some 20-year-old chick or whatever
01:52:26
Brian Atlasshe got owned in an argument I mean I think are the these single women for the most part how's how's that relevant bitterness so okay so they get more
01:52:37
Kelseybitter as time goes on so they're less they would be less good matches for a partnership CU they're bitter yeah I would think so in general but say the same thing about men and that's from my experience older men that go for younger women they are also embittered by life
01:52:51
Kelseyand they're jaded and they're looking for something that's easier okay sure let's assume let's assume that's true are are they still selecting for what would be best for them yeah but I think it's kind of
01:53:02
Andrew Wilsonselfish to do something for your own self-interest at somebody else's disadvantage well that's really weird because uh if that's the case and you've kind of destroyed your own argument because you're say the phon I like yeah
01:53:15
Andrew Wilsonif you're saying you shouldn't do this thing act based out of your own self-interest in this particular case uh would you be telling any of these women to operate against their own
01:53:27
Andrew Wilsonself-interest by telling them not to date an older man yeah if they wanted to date an older man and this older man had resources could take care of him and they loved him I don't understand how it's not in their best interest to Mariam I mean if all those things are