$500,000 MINIMUM To Date 47 Year Old Single Mom?! INSANE Girlfriend Revenge Story? | Dating Talk 284
Date: 2026-03-02
Duration: 8h 12m
Brian AtlasIdentified Speakers
SPEAKER_01Priyanka(guest)
SPEAKER_02Samantha(guest)
SPEAKER_04Lisa(guest)
SPEAKER_05Gigi(guest)
SPEAKER_06Sarah(guest)
SPEAKER_08Mandy(guest)
SPEAKER_09Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_10Nicole Blade(guest)
SPEAKER_12Aaron(guest)
SPEAKER_13Camila(guest)
Key Moments
00:00:45
IntroAll 10 guests introduce themselves
00:32:31
QuoteSamantha's infamous revenge story: had boyfriend perform oral with his friend's semen still inside her
“He then ate me out with his friend's semen in me the same day.”
00:39:43
Key MomentPriyanka used software engineering skills to track down her cheating boyfriend's wife in India
“I applied all my software engineering mind, found his wife, called his wife there.”
01:00:28
Key MomentBrian tells Nicole her Venn diagram for compatible men has 'very little overlap or perhaps none'
01:16:34
AgreementSamantha agrees to shave her head on the podcast for charity donation
02:55:24
Key MomentMandy's husband told her to lose weight after seeing fit firefighter at restaurant
“If I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with you, you're gonna have to give me something to look at.”
03:00:04
Key MomentBrian discovers Mandy met husband playing Splatoon on Discord
04:16:00
Key MomentMandy challenges Priyanka: 'Do you think a man that makes 500K is going to want a 47yo single mom?'
04:26:00
ControversyMandy calls Priyanka's AI chatbot 'plain sabotage to women' - says women should depend on husbands
06:47:01
OtherLisa's hilarious trivia failure - can't identify France as Statue of Liberty gifter despite extensive hints
“Oh, it's America... the United States gifted the Statue of Liberty itself.”
07:02:00
OtherLisa cannot identify the sun as closest star despite hints including 'three letters' and 'You Are My Sunshine'
“North Star... A rising star... Moonrise... Sunrise!”
07:51:08
OtherHead shave postponed - Brian consults ChatGPT about legal liability of cutting hair after alcohol
Topics Discussed
00:00:45
Guest Introductions
Diverse panel: ages 19-47. Gigi (19, student), Camila (27, OF/car model), Samantha (21, TikTok), Nicole (33, church/massage), Sarah (42, married sales), Priyanka (47, software eng/model), Aaron (42, comedian), Lisa (26, esthetician), Mandy (39, tractor sales).
00:05:52
Abortion Debate
Sparked by baby monkey story. Brian compares empathy for animals vs abortion stance. Camila defends pro-choice.
00:28:00
Relationship Status Round
Gigi: 2.5yr LDR. Camila: situationship. Samantha: single 1.5yr. Nicole: single 7yr (1 boyfriend ever). Sarah: married 20yr. Priyanka: divorced twice. Aaron: single 4yr.
00:32:31
Samantha's Revenge Story
At 17, after boyfriend cheated, she had sex with his friend then had cheating boyfriend perform oral with the friend's semen still inside her.
00:38:43
Priyanka's Revenge on Cheating BF
Used software engineering skills to track down married girlfriend's wife in India and told his entire family.
01:00:28
Nicole's Waiting Until Marriage
33yo, 6ft, tattoos, shaved head, waiting until marriage. Brian says the Venn diagram of compatible men has 'very little overlap.'
02:01:03
Self-Rating Looks
Priyanka rates herself 9/10. Camila rates Priyanka 10. Brian rates himself 4.5. Discussion of beauty metrics.
02:55:24
Mandy's Weight Loss Ultimatum
Husband told her at 240 lbs to lose weight or he'd leave. She lost 100 lbs. Met on Discord playing Splatoon.
03:52:12
Stay-at-Home Mom vs Working Mom
Mandy argues working is worst thing for children. Gigi says her stay-at-home mom was miserable.
04:12:58
Minimum Income Requirements
Gigi: $150K. Camila: $65-70K. Samantha: $250K. Nicole: $65-75K. Priyanka: $500K. Aaron: $80K. Lisa: $100K. Mandy: $60K.
04:26:00
Priyanka's AI Chatbot Debate
Mandy strongly opposes AI chatbot for women's financial independence as 'sabotage to women.'
05:07:03
The Bow Video
Brian shows ex bowing when he gets home. Almost all women say they would bow for their husband.
05:33:10
Body Count Reveal
Gigi: 1. Camila: 9. Samantha: 11. Nicole: 9. Sarah: 5. Priyanka: 14. Aaron: 4. Mandy: below 5.
06:38:01
Rapid Fire Trivia
Lisa's hilarious failures: Statue of Liberty from France (she said America), closest star is the Sun (couldn't get it despite extensive hints), said she'd be 16 if born 10 years ago.
08:09:15
Show Wrap-Up
Head shave postponed due to intoxication concerns. Indie donates $4000+. Brian signs off.
Transcript
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01:57:26
Aaronor something, they would tell me about it and I would like talk to them for it. But if >> someone who studied psychology, you don't feel it would be much healthier for them to not have this outlet and actually seek companionship with someone
01:57:38
Camilawho will give them a real relationship in their personal and private life. >> Well, but my thing is is that I'm not stopping them from that. If there were like there are times where they'll be like, "Oh, I'm going to go on a date with this person." And I'm like, "Oh,
01:57:51
Aaronokay." Like, "Good luck. I hope that go well." >> I guess I'll ask the other girls on the table. Do any of you feel like that might be stopping these men from pursuing another woman, a woman in actual life?
01:58:01
Sarah>> Yeah. No, I can 100% see like somebody being so like um you know immersed in you and your relationship with them that they're coming to you with their problems when maybe they they should
01:58:13
Sarahhave like she was saying someone in their lives that that they can actually sit down with and they don't have to pay. I mean, I'm not trying to be mean or disrespectful or anything, but like, you know, like my husband, I sit down with him and I can talk to him and and
01:58:26
Sarahshare the things that are going on with me and, you know, I know that he genuinely cares for me. And I'm not saying you don't generally care for any of these people, but I do think that it is important to have to be able to sit down with someone that is like your person, I think, is what I'm trying to
01:58:39
Aaronget to. >> Yeah. I just I I think that that's my real issue with the concept of only fans rather than pornography, which has its own issues, is that even if this is not
01:58:50
Aaronwhat you're encouraging, they're putting that into you. You're you're a beautiful woman. You're absolutely beautiful and you definitely seem like a cool person. So, a guy that especially a guy that doesn't socialize naturally, he's going
01:59:02
Aaronto be so excited to talk to you, especially when you're you're willing to give him the sexual part. You're a beautiful woman. You're a young woman. You're willing to, as far as he knows, give him time and be there for him in
01:59:14
Aaronhis low days and his low moments. So why would he seek anything outside of that? So really, that is stopping him from finding that. And there is something heartbreaking about that because while
01:59:25
Aaronmen do have more time than we do, nobody has an infinite amount of time in this world. God comes for all of us at some point. So you're so you really are stopping them from being able to find that in a real way with someone like the
01:59:38
Aaronbeautiful thing she has with her husband and the beautiful thing that she has with her husband. You're stopping these men from doing that. And social skills are like a bicep. You have to work them for them to be strong. So, if you're
01:59:50
Aarondoing your socializing with an O of girl who's not being honest, who's being the spoiled brat or whatever persona, this is stopping them from getting those social skills to go to their church or
02:00:01
Camilago to like a salsa class or something and find a woman in life. >> Again, I think I want to clarify that the spoiled brat is for within the content I'm making for Instagram. Now, within the relationship that I like talk
02:00:14
Camilawith with my subscribers, that's completely different and they fully know within my own life. Yes. >> And like with like I'm honest to them. >> Sorry, got to move it on. Richard, >> thank you for the hundred. Uh Gigi, can I have you read this?
02:00:26
Gigi>> Hey guys, love the show. Have you considered having Levi Nicks on your podcast? I think that would be a great mashup. >> Uh thank you, Richard, for the message. I'm actually not uh the name it's not striking about.
02:00:40
Brian AtlasIt's funny, >> but uh thank you for the message, man. I do very much appreciate it. Uh let's just, you know what, jump right into this. Uh okay, so the question is fix
02:00:51
Brian Atlassplit, please. Uh on a scale of 0 to 10, can't pick seven. Rate your looks. So, and do it like this. Uh so, face body
02:01:03
Gigitotal. So, my face is a 10, body a 10, total 10. Um, I would overall six. I think it kind of depends on everyone's preference. >> Okay.
02:01:14
Gigi>> Um, yeah. >> Uh, but so say face >> face, body, six, every Yeah, overall six. >> Sure. >> Six. >> Okay. What? Uh, what about you?
02:01:26
Brian Atlas>> Overall six. >> It It's just everything. Okay. What about you? >> Six across the board. >> Wow. >> Same. >> What? Okay. Nine across. >> Nine across the board.
02:01:42
Aaron>> Oh, yeah. Yeah. You sorry. >> Uh I'm going to say eight face, three body. So about a five. >> Eight face, three body. Okay. Five
02:01:51
Lisatotal. >> Um I would say body is 5.5. Um face maybe um six. >> Okay. What about you?
02:02:03
Brian Atlasbase three, body five. >> Okay. I give myself 4.5 4.5 4.5 across the board. Um,
02:02:14
Brian Atlaspretty reasonable panel tonight with the exception of two of you. Now, let's explore this, shall we? Uh, all right. Nine across the board, you
02:02:28
Brian Atlassaid. >> Yeah. I love myself. I'm a selfobsessed person. question [clears throat] for you. Uh I sometimes you can have your own rating. If a 100,000 men were to rate you, what
02:02:41
Brian Atlasdo you think they would rate you? [laughter] >> Oh, well, >> I don't know. [laughter] >> Do you think they would rate you a nine?
02:02:52
Brian AtlasUh face. >> Some of them. Maybe they lie, but they don't [laughter] say. Well, I understand like some of them might rate you that, but I'm asking the average.
02:03:04
Priyanka>> See, before marriage, they say I'm 10. After marriage or after the relationship, I don't know, you know. So, they lie. So, I cannot trust uh guys on rating me because when they want to
02:03:16
Priyankaimpress you, they will say like you're the most beautiful girl in the world, but when they get what they want, you might not be as good, you know? So, it's
02:03:27
Priyankalike uh I say I'm beautiful because my heart is way bigger and beautiful and I'm a giver and that reflects on my face
02:03:36
Priyankaand I just love myself, you know, and I'm I'm doing everything to be in shape at this age, you know, diet, exercise,
02:03:47
Priyankaeverything. But the missing point one is my height. >> Men don't really care about height to be honest. I think you're beautiful. >> Do you? [sighs]
02:03:59
Brian Atlas>> Yeah, I think she is. And also, she's very educated. It's very smart. >> Honestly, in my opinion, I would do her looks though. You give her a 10. >> Yeah. >> Thank you. >> You give her a 10 and you rate yourself a six.
02:04:11
Brian Atlas>> Uh, since you have an interesting rating outlook, rate each of the women. >> I think Gigi's a nine. >> And then repeat your rating.
02:04:23
Camila>> I think I'm a six. I think she's an eight. I think you are an seven. Seven. 10. >> Thank you.
02:04:35
Brian Atlas>> 6.5. I think you're a 10. Um I think six. >> And then me. >> I think you're a six. I think you're too mean on yourself. >> Yeah, >> I'm too mean. Okay. [laughter] >> Uh
02:04:48
Camila>> I think all of them are. >> Wait. So you're you're a six and she's a nine. >> He's a 10. >> Oh, sorry. 10. Excuse me. Is she the only one you gave a 10 to? >> No, you gave >> Oh, also her, too. >> You gave her a 10?
02:05:02
Brian Atlas>> You gave her a >> Oh, yeah. >> She looks very like angelic to me. >> Thank you. [laughter] >> So, you rate yourself lower in attractiveness in terms of looks than her.
02:05:16
Priyanka>> I think you're always harder on yourself. No. I'm just suppose that you're so I think also like you have an insane like educational record.
02:05:29
Camila>> What would that have to do with her looks though? >> I for me I see attractiveness as in within everything. So I think >> but the question is about looks. >> Okay. Well, even looks aside like she has really nice teeth. She has really
02:05:42
Camilabig nice eyes. >> That is looks >> but I'm saying you're saying what if it's just looks still. >> Yeah. looks, eyes, looks. >> I'm saying if it's just looks still, I still think she's very beautiful.
02:05:53
Brian Atlas>> Thank you. >> Okay. Um, and uh, here's what uh, you're a nine. You gave yourself a eight face. Uh, can you tell me a celebrity that a
02:06:06
Brian Atlasfemale celebrity that you think is a nine in look? >> Ashwaria. >> Huh? >> Ashwaria. Missworld from India. Can you give us an American? >> Oh my god. >> Wait, sorry, I didn't mean to impress
02:06:20
Brian Atlasthat. >> Uh, Nathan, get ready to Google these. Um, is there like a like a American like a an Indian American that we could look up? >> Priyanka Chopra.
02:06:33
Aaron>> Okay, Google it. >> Stunning. >> Uh, a woman who's in Nate. >> Like I said, face. So, face alone. I This won't be shocking. Christina Hendris.
02:06:42
Brian Atlas>> Okay, Google those two. Uh, first show us Priyanka or whatever. Whatever. >> Um, that's going to be really easy for my producer to >> my white producer [laughter]
02:06:54
Priyanka>> and Priyanka Chopra. Yeah. >> She was Miss World too. >> Mhm. >> They both were Miss World. >> Okay. So, you Priyanka Chopra. >> Okay. Uh, and then what was >> Christina Hendricks?
02:07:08
Brian Atlas>> Can you Google Christina Hendrickx, please? Uh, okay. All right. Uh, Brain, thank you for the super chat.
02:07:20
Brian AtlasChristina Hendris, can you uh go to the images tab? Oh, the thick girl from Mad Men. Okay, >> we're talking face, not body, >> right? So, I mean,
02:07:31
Brian Atlasbut you would say face equivalent. Um, and keep it there for a sec, Nathan. I'm going to uh F11 again for me. Can you uh control mouse wheel up on this page?
02:07:43
Brian Atlasuh control like scroll the mouse wheel so it makes it bigger other way. Yeah, perfect. Okay, so this is your face looks equivalent.
02:07:59
Aaron>> So also part of how I base my scale is part of how I base my scale is on prior episodes and how you've described how the scale works. Mhm.
02:08:10
Aaron>> And one of the things that stood out to me is um when you had Andrew on and he described how many times you get a second glance on the street. And while I
02:08:18
Aaronknow that the body is wrecked, I in LA just yesterday and in New York constantly. I get second glances on the street. It even surprises me at the rate
02:08:29
Aaronthat it happens. So if we're basing it off of that skill that was described on a prior episode, I'll give it to myself. >> Well, that's a skill Andrew used.
02:08:38
Brian Atlas>> Fair. And I did, if you recall, um, much love and respect to Andrew. I I think that is not the correct way to frame it.
02:08:49
Brian Atlas>> Okay. >> Um, I rebuked him. No. Um, no, I just think it was not the right way to frame it because the reality is even average or even way below average looking women,
02:09:02
Brian Atlasuh, there's no shortage of supply who of men who, uh, would have sex with them.
02:09:09
Brian AtlasUh so this idea that you would rank your attractiveness based on the lust or
02:09:17
Brian Atlassexual attraction of men is erroneous because a man could look at a supermodel and look at
02:09:26
Brian Atlasan average woman and experience to some degree somewhat similar levels of lust for both of them. Thus, it would not be a reasonable metric
02:09:37
Aaronuh to use I I think in the assessment. >> Okay. >> Uh so, >> so for looks, if we're not talking about
02:09:48
Aaronmen lusting, what would you say is a better way to sum up looks? And I would have actually said a seven if I was allowed for the record. But if how would we sum up the looks if it's not lusting?
02:10:00
Brian AtlasAre are you talking more like symmetry, like age on the face? that sort of stuff too. >> Yeah. So, >> okay. >> Well, so beauty um beauty is subjective. However, there are objective measurements that we can take of the
02:10:14
Brian Atlasface. >> So, while beauty in the strict philosophical sense is subjective, uh it is grounded like there's universal
02:10:23
Brian Atlasprinciples, it is grounded in um objective measurements. So that would be facial symmetry, facial harmony, interpupilary distance, you know,
02:10:34
Brian Atlasvarious other facial thirds, um certain other things that that are measurable like so that would be the objective
02:10:42
Brian Atlascomponents of beauty. Um and so uh in this case, yes, it would be those measurements. >> Yeah. I mean, I would if you want an
02:10:52
Brian Atlasassessment on the like if I had to put a descriptor to the number, I would say five average, six cute, seven pretty, eight beautiful, nine elite, 10 perfect.
02:11:04
AaronThere's no women who are tens. >> Fair. >> Nobody's per There's no men who are tens either, by the way. >> Then I would definitely air myself on cute more so than beautiful. I don't think I'd say beautiful. >> Reassess to six. >> Sure, uh, rate me.
02:11:18
Brian Atlas>> Me? >> Yeah, rate me. Uh, I would go with the six and the six. Yeah, I think you're above average. I think just like everybody else here, you're hard on yourself.
02:11:27
Aaron>> But are is your rating still uh eight or does that change with my new metric? >> Uh, with how you just described it, especially with the word descriptors, I would say a six. Then we'll drop it down to a six. Yeah.
02:11:41
Brian Atlas>> Okay. So, from your perspective, we would be a looks match. >> Yes. >> Okay. Going around the table, do you think me and her are looks match? No.
02:11:51
Brian Atlas>> What do you think? Whoa, wait. In which direction? Like, is she out of my league? Like, I'd be lucky to [laughter] get her. >> No, it's okay. No, >> I'm not going to blush.
02:12:03
Brian Atlas>> I'm putting them on the spot. [laughter] Hey, it's okay. It's a whatever podcast. >> No. >> Uh, qualify the statement, though.
02:12:14
Brian Atlas>> I'm sorry. So, >> is she out of my league? >> Oh, no. >> I'm out of hers. >> Again, I did put body at a three. So, we're lower on the body. >> Well, you can just judge it off of uh face, I guess, but what do you think? >> Out of your league,
02:12:28
Nicole Blade>> huh? >> Out of your league. >> She's out of my league. >> No, you're out of her league. >> Oh, okay. I see. All right. Go ahead. >> Can you explain the question again? I'm sorry. >> Go ahead. >> No, you're an out. >> What do you think?
02:12:40
Lisa>> I think if just face. Yes. >> Okay. If we ignore age and everything. Yeah. >> Um I would um agree with the face probably. Yes. With the body probably
02:12:52
Brian Atlasnot. >> Wait, what do you mean? [clears throat] >> So um >> she's Hold on. [laughter] >> Hold on. Look. Hey, look. I'm the first. I'm not I'm not offended by it. I'm a little chubby. I could stand to lose a
02:13:05
Lisabit of weight. >> Yeah. I'm not >> You think her >> No, I was saying you >> you're out of my league body weight. Yeah. Yeah, [laughter]
02:13:16
Brian Atlas>> but she moss me face in the face. She moss. >> Yeah, I feel like the face. >> No. >> Okay. Uh, what do you think?
02:13:27
Brian Atlas>> It's fine. It doesn't bother me. I'm not It doesn't bother me, babe. >> It's a brutal convo, I guess. >> No, it's fine. Yeah, Brian is out of your league. >> Okay. >> Okay. Um, and then I'm gonna address
02:13:39
Brian Atlasthat though. Do you want to rape me? >> Or did she already rape me? Give me an Okay, that's an o that's overrating, but um I'm not an eight, but okay. Uh and you gave yourself a nine, but so
02:13:51
Brian Atlasyou're still settling for me. Okay. [laughter] Um now, now you guys might be wondering, Brian, why do you ask this? It's kind of insensitive. How dare you? Like duh. But I think it is an interesting temperature check a little
02:14:04
Brian Atlasbit. Look, I don't think I'm anything special. I give myself below average ratings. 4.5 4.5. Maybe if I lost a little bit of weight, we could get five, 5.5, maybe six if I'm lucky, you know,
02:14:16
Brian Atlasum, you know, thinned out in the face a little bit and the body. But, uh, the reason I bring it up is because I do think there is a tendency, not with all women, because you got, most of you are pretty reasonable. I'm not really going to challenge much of the six six stuff,
02:14:30
Brian Atlaseven if I think there might have been some, I could actually give you guys ratings. Maybe we'll do that. But uh I do think that there is when it comes to dating and men can be guilty of this too where men are delusional and think
02:14:41
Brian Atlasthey're more attractive than they actually are. I do think this phenomenon is a little bit perhaps a little bit is an understatement. This phenomenon is a
02:14:52
Brian Atlasbit more common in women where they assess themselves as more attractive than they actually are. And this can extend beyond just looks, even better personality, funnier than they actually
02:15:03
Brian Atlasare. No offense to you, the comedian. Um, more likable, whatever, whatever other characteristics. I do think there's a tendency for women to assess themselves
02:15:15
Brian Atlasas a little bit higher than where they actually are in actuality. And so, it is worth discussing because I do think that, and look, men can do this too. You can have a guy who's like, "What's he
02:15:28
Brian Atlasbringing to the table?" But he wants to date a supermodel. He needs to reassess his standards and the the type of woman he can realistically get. Likewise, women who think that they're more
02:15:39
Brian Atlasattractive than they actually are. They're going to be uh aiming for a certain caliber of guy that and this is well this is actually a difference between men and women. You might be able to sleep with that guy, never get
02:15:50
Brian Atlascommitment from him. So sometimes women can get what I limited sexual access to a guy and then that that in and of itself will
02:15:59
Brian Atlasbe a bolster to their erroneous self assessment. Uh but I do think it's important to know where you stand. Otherwise, like I said earlier,
02:16:10
Brian Atlasyou know, if I'm with if me [ __ ] pasty below like average below average looking
02:16:21
Brian Atlasguy, 36, if I'm trying to, oh, I deserve a 10 out of 10 elite supermodel,
02:16:31
Brian Atlaslike it's not going to [ __ ] happen. Uh, so I don't know. Somebody had specific disagreements to me on the rating thing. Was it you or I'm trying to remember? >> I don't think I'll put that in. >> Somebody had actual disagreements though.
02:16:45
Brian Atlas>> No, that wasn't me. >> Anybody want to >> It was might be me. >> I think it was >> in the form that I filled. I guess. >> Yeah. Yeah. On the questionnaires like
02:16:55
Brian Atlasin the DMs or whatever. Um, it was you who disagreed with the looks rating or >> No, it wasn't in your notes, but it was uh >> in the form I just filled. >> Yeah, Lisa, you said you don't always
02:17:08
Lisaagree >> with the rating on scale of 1 to 10. >> Um, agree because I think uh some people are really harsh on themselves and I feel like you're being harsh on
02:17:18
Brian Atlasyourselves as everybody here has said. So, >> I I don't really think I'm being particularly harsh, but um on myself anyways. Uh but can you
02:17:32
Lisacan you further explain your disagreement? >> Um my disagreement like sometimes I think like like yes, looks matter and like yes, you should be like attracted
02:17:42
Lisato someone, but I also feel like uh personality sometimes like weighs that out a lot more. Like >> you can make someone more attractive or less attractive. >> Yeah. Like >> but that's not what we're saying.
02:17:54
Aaron>> Personality. Like if if a guy is like funny, I tend to be more attractive to >> But the rating is specifically about looks. I mean, yeah, we can have a separate conversation about how personality fits in, especially with
02:18:05
Aaronwomen's attractiveness to men or like qualifiers like power or whatever. But we're just talking looks right now. So, it's a different conversation. And men aren't like when they first see her not they're not saying like wow I wonder
02:18:17
Mandywhat her personality is right like right they're going is she hot well look at her face look at her butt look at you know what I mean they're not going [laughter] >> I wonder if she know I wonder if she likes kids like no man is thinking that
02:18:31
Brian Atlas>> would you date a disabled person >> I think you know what I I think about that though I I look at a woman and I'm like does she want to bear me seven children >> what >> that's a factor or 10 even you know what was your question. >> Would you date a disabled person?
02:18:44
Samantha>> What do you mean by disabled? >> Um, my last ex had one arm. >> You're disabled? Tell me. >> No, I'm not disabled. I just dated a disable. Yeah. >> Okay. Just checking. >> Yeah, I'm good. That's actually a good topic to get into.
02:18:57
Brian Atlas>> Well, we won't shift quite yet. I want to finish up the thing on the rating, but >> uh would I would I date a disabled? >> Yeah. Like would that make the rating go down is what I'm saying.
02:19:08
Brian Atlas>> Like if she's missing a limb. >> Yeah. Like it's a fair question. Um, look, I mean, I'll answer truthfully. Uh, it's not a dealbreaker. However,
02:19:20
Brian Atlaswould it like practically speaking, would it be more optimal to date a woman who has two arms? Yeah, >> she's giving you seven kids. It' be hard to carry him with one arm. >> Yeah. I mean, >> okay. Well, he he had a nub in Sophie,
02:19:33
Brian Atlas[laughter] >> a little something, so he could >> Yeah. I mean I don't think I mean look if she otherwise if she's otherwise attractive and meets my other metrics yeah if she was like missing an arm
02:19:43
Brian Atlasthat's like very small portion of the population but uh yeah I I would it wouldn't be a deal breaker but um
02:19:54
Brian Atlasuh I could see it presenting uh like possible problems I guess I don't know like >> but but no it wouldn't be a dealbreaker
02:20:05
Brian Atlasbut Guess realistically if if you're dating somebody who is disabled as you put Is someone missing an arm disabled? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> You're not able to use
02:20:17
Samantha>> Yeah. It's you know like if you're ableist you know you're >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> If you're missing a pinky are you disabled? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> I don't you're not disabled. I don't think you're >> because if you look at the opposite of
02:20:29
Aaronthe of the disabled definition, it's someone who's fully able-bodied. If you're missing even any part of your body, you're not fully able-bodied. >> Well, that's not true. I think if you
02:20:39
Brian Atlaswere missing a like one singular toe or like a can throw you off I >> I don't think that that would be like even if you were a woodworker. I
02:20:51
Brian Atlasdon't Well, look, I'm not Maybe you need the [laughter] the pinky to you need the pinky to rest. I don't know. >> I had an uncle that was missing three toes and it really messed him up. It messes up your equilibrium. You can't walk right.
02:21:03
Brian Atlas>> Sure. Sure. Well, in any case, uh not a dealbreaker, but back to the looks rating thing. Um your disagreement >> Yeah. I think sometimes people can be too harsh on themselves and like also other people.
02:21:16
Brian Atlas>> I think it's the opposite. I think people are too delusional. They think they're more attractive than they actually are. Um, but I agree with you that so men, for example, they can
02:21:28
Brian Atlasbring other things to the table to make themselves appealing or attractive to women. I'm not suggesting that looks are the only thing that matter, the beall
02:21:39
Brian Atlasend all. Uh, plenty of women date-looking men. Plenty of average-looking men date-looking women. Um, some people date up, some people
02:21:49
Brian Atlasdate down. Some people are with their mostly looks equivalent, but I think to ignore the power that looks does have is
02:22:00
Brian Atlaskind of a bit of a disservice. Uh, I think if you're exceptionally good-looking, whether you're a man or woman, you move through the world in a very different
02:22:12
Brian Atlasway than an averagel looking person. Uh, both for men and for women. Although perhaps the benefits are somewhat different. Uh and certainly when it comes to dating and uh one's romantic
02:22:24
Brian Atlasprospects, it certainly helps to be good-looking. >> May I ask a question? >> Well, I would like her to respond and then you can ask. Do you disagree?
02:22:36
Brian AtlasLike, do you think do you think an averagel looking guy is going to have the same optionality as like a 10 out of
02:22:44
Brian Atlas10 [ __ ] gigachad male? >> Um, maybe not, but maybe not. I think um >> Okay,
02:22:57
Lisa>> I uh >> not definitively. It's it's a maybe. Okay, go ahead. Continue. like um I do think that more attractive person might have
02:23:07
Lisalike more chances that with um a person that's like also like the same attraction level as them cuz usually people are geared toward like when
02:23:18
Lisathey're like kind of just as attractive as each other. Like that's kind of how it goes. >> So they would be able to date more attractive people
02:23:29
Brian Atlas>> maybe or >> maybe Okay. So, an average guy who lives in Idaho who works at Walmart,
02:23:41
Brian Atlashe's maybe on par with like a male supermodel in terms of his ability to uh pull
02:23:50
Lisaattraction from women, >> then probably not in that case. But it also it always depends on the situation too cuz
02:24:01
Brian Atlas>> Okay. Put the male super attractive people wait. Put the male supermodel in that Walmart in Idaho. Do the women in that Walmart, do you think they would like in terms of
02:24:13
Brian Atlastheir attraction to these two men, the average versus the the average looking guy who's just an employee there? Uh you think they're going to be like there's going to be an equal distribution of attraction?
02:24:24
Brian Atlas>> Well, no. >> Okay. Um,
02:24:32
Brian Atlasso
02:24:36
Lisado you agree? I'm just or so I agree, but I would say there's also
02:24:44
Lisasituations where it like depends a lot of the time because some people date um some people are really really attractive and they end up dating like really really average people.
02:24:56
Brian Atlas>> Sure. that that phenomenon does happen. But I'm not really interested in the depends. I'm interested in more general principles here. I acknowledge that there are uh people who can end up with
02:25:08
Brian Atlassomebody who's more physically attractive than them. Uh that definitely happens both in both directions. Men and women will will date up or down. But uh
02:25:19
Brian AtlasI guess I'm looking more for as a general principle
02:25:31
LisaBut yeah, I guess as a general principle like usually more attractive people will find like more attractive people like if you look at it only in that sense then yes.
02:25:43
Brian Atlas>> Well, it's not just more attractive people will get the more attractive people. If a really attractive man was so inclined,
02:25:53
Brian Atlashe could like basically have a herum of like 20 averagel looking women if he was inclined to date them. And they would be they would you you give an averagel
02:26:04
Brian Atlaslooking woman access to a top tier man. She will break all her [ __ ] rules. Not all women, just to be clear. She'll break her rules. She'll [ __ ] them immediately. She'll tolerate bad behavior. She'll tolerate abuse. She'll
02:26:16
Brian Atlastolerate mistreatment. Again, not all women to be with that guy who's just a better Frank truthfully genetic potential.
02:26:29
Brian Atlas>> Yeah. Yeah, that makes sense. I would say >> again, not all women though. I'm not saying all women are going to tolerate poor behavior from men. And and I'm also not even saying uh even if a guy is more attractive than the girl he's dating
02:26:42
Brian Atlasthat he's going to mistreat her. I'm not suggesting that. But I am saying that uh that in uh the dating marketplace is very competitive. So you could have and
02:26:54
Brian Atlasthis is what we actually see on dating apps. So you have basically 80% of the attention on dating apps uh from women. And so that's going to encompass the most attractive women, attractive women,
02:27:05
Brian Atlasaverage women, below average women. all their attention, regardless of their own standing, is still going up towards the most attractive men.
02:27:17
Brian AtlasAnd so if a man was so inclined, he could have like 20 girlfriends. Some of them could be as attractive as him. And so what you'd have happening is some really attractive guy. He's got 10 girlfriends. He's got a bunch of chicks
02:27:30
Brian Atlason the roster. They're happy. This average girl is just happy to be gang dick by some really hot dude. And then the guy who's actually her looks equivalent who's on uh on their
02:27:41
Brian Atlasequivalent league, he can't get her. He the average man no longer has access to the average woman because she's with she's getting limited
02:27:52
Brian Atlassexual access to a guy who's more attractive.
02:28:02
Priyanka>> I just think it's very very subjective. >> What do you mean subjective? For me um the intelligence level so that I can talk to some person brings a lot
02:28:11
Priyankaof attractiveness whether the face is not as attractive but yeah I do look for some physical for the first time like the hair and height >> for example and whether he's fit >> how tall you
02:28:24
Priyanka>> um 5'5. >> What's the minimum height you would date? >> 510 because I wear heels. >> Okay. Uh I mean
02:28:34
Priyanka>> so you know sometimes it's it's it's not like how symmetric the face and how good-looking or what's the color of the face. It's mostly I first exchange like the LinkedIn or like what's your
02:28:46
Priyankaeducation and job you know yeah I mean sometimes it's reflects in your personality like I'm talking I I should be talking with him. >> Have you ever heard of something called
02:28:56
Mandypretty privilege? >> No. So statistically women or generally people who are better looking do better in life
02:29:07
Mandy>> generally. So looks do matter right? >> So if you are uh unattractive the chances of you getting that job that you wanted over somebody that's really
02:29:18
Mandyreally pretty isn't going to happen. It's something called pretty privilege. So looks do matter >> no matter what you say. >> Yeah. >> Yep. Uh, really quick, I just need to shout
02:29:30
Brian Atlassome people out. Uh, Kenzie, thank for the 20. Curtis, thank you for the hundred on, I believe, Venmo. Skyler, thank for the 10. Thank you. Thank you guys. Appreciate it. Uh, MC Rocker, thank you for the 12 over on Cash App.
02:29:42
Brian AtlasAppreciate it. Um, so, uh, I mean, you mentioned intelligence. I think, and you guys feel free to weigh in, I think for women, I
02:29:54
Brian Atlasthink for women, it's really hard to date a guy who's stupider than you. Not sure if I can say the same thing about men. I don't think really men care. Well, hold on. Let me qualify my
02:30:04
Brian Atlasstatement. Men are okay with dating women who are less intelligent than them. I don't think men really look for that as a
02:30:14
Brian Atlaspriority in women. Now, I'm not saying it's not a positive. I I think it's good to if the woman is intelligent ideally she would have like a very high IQ because if your desires of having
02:30:27
Brian Atlaschildren you want to confer as many benefits to your children as possible if she's intelligent you're intelligent I think IQ has to some degree intelligence to perhaps a large degree can be genetic
02:30:38
Brian Atlasbased not to say that you know we are not completely beholden and slaves to our uh genetic destiny as you might say.
02:30:48
Brian AtlasBut uh yeah, like if you want to have intelligent kids, it's probably good that you don't get with like [laughter] a really Okay, hold on. I don't want to get I don't
02:31:00
Priyankaknow if I'll get cancelled, but um but I do think absent that, I don't think men care that much about a woman's intelligence.
02:31:09
Priyanka>> Actually, it's opposite. I mean, both of my ex-husbands, they don't like that I'm more educated than them because socially because socially >> they're your ex-husbands, right? >> Yeah.
02:31:22
Priyanka>> Yeah. I mean, >> so I mean, they feel so inferior like they try to just make some, oh, she is just part-time masters or like something to just pull me down in front of the society. So, it's >> Yeah.
02:31:35
Brian Atlas>> Yeah. >> Well, I think look, the a woman having intelligence is a plus. Although the I want to caveat it with I think sometimes people who are intelligent
02:31:48
Brian Atlasand I think they've actually done studies on this there's a higher they tend to be a little higher in trait neuroticism. >> So that's like uh susceptibility to negative emotion or
02:32:00
Brian Atlasyou have a higher you experience negative emotion more sensitive to having negative emotion. I think if you're kind of I don't want to say stupid, maybe stupid is the right word,
02:32:12
Brian Atlassimple. If you're simple, like intellectually simple, in some ways it's like ignorance is bliss. But if you're really intelligent, then you sometimes see things in the
02:32:23
Brian Atlasworld and you ponder things and you you philosophize and you're like >> I think sometimes being intelligent can be I don't know if I'm explaining this
02:32:33
Priyankathe right way. So like if my my mother-in-law say that having a girl or boy it's on me and if I am like innocently dumb or something I say oh
02:32:45
Priyankayes it's my problem you know and then I will be happily ever after you know just aborting all my girl childs and having a boy one day and everybody happy I'm
02:32:55
Priyankastill married to my first husband. Yes. So if I am uneducated, yes, I'm still married and I'm still whatever violence is happening, I will still be happy.
02:33:05
Mandy>> I I I completely agree with your point. >> I actually don't think education means you're smarter than everybody. Um I think men in general um they don't want
02:33:15
Mandyyou to be remedial, but I mean the not having a lot of experiences in the sense that they can teach you something, right? So, it's about them showing you experiences that like my husband I
02:33:27
Mandyconsider very very intelligent cuz he is. And there was a lot that I didn't know. There was a lot that like I was very misinformed about and I had my own opinions and this and that. And when he was able to show me and have these
02:33:39
Mandyconversations with me, I'm not as smart as him by any means, but I learned through him. So, I don't think like Brian said, I don't think it matters to a man how intelligent you are. I think
02:33:52
Mandyit just matters your willingness to learn through him and to be able to kind of embrace whatever he believes in at that point. So I don't think education really correlates to how smart you are. >> Mhm.
02:34:06
Brian Atlas>> That's true. That's definitely true. Like you can you can still be very intelligent >> and not ever go to college. So intelligence isn't necessarily linked to like your educ education does not mean wisdom.
02:34:18
Priyanka>> Yes. because a lot of people have their startups and they are so successful drop out from school and college. So, so intelligence is a different than education and I can I have like two
02:34:30
Priyankamaster's degree but I cannot say that I'm very intelligent person you know >> I feel like does is some of that like cultural though yes I mean whenever I talk it's my emotional
02:34:43
Priyankalike intelligence like my past experience >> uh okay um trying to think if there was anything else on the looks thing. >> Could I ask my question? >> Oh, yeah. Yeah, of course.
02:34:55
Aaron>> Thank you. Um, you had a resource on the whatever Discord that was awesome that was a chart of the ratings, the 10 to the one with a few photos of some celebrities. Do you I don't know if it's
02:35:07
Aaronstill available on there and I'm wondering if that's still available on there if you agree with it overall. >> Oh, I know what you're talking about. That's from like the looks rating thing, right? Where >> Yep. >> Yeah. I don't think we have to pull it
02:35:20
Aaronup, but I know what you're talking about. Um, yeah. >> I'm just curious because that was another thing that I used to base my decisions and when I saw like like you said you consider yourself a four 4.5 and you're saying you think I'm below
02:35:33
Aaronyou and when I saw like some of those threes and twos they were like genetic mishaps. [laughter] So I'm just curious. >> Uh I'd have to pull it up. >> Um
02:35:46
Brian Atlas>> that's fair. I don't mean to detract apologies. >> Yeah. No, I mean um Well, I think you're like talking about like 0.51 where it's
02:35:55
Brian AtlasYeah, I mean it's it's bad. Um but like 43 I mean it's I don't think you're getting into >> the twos and threes were pretty brutal.
02:36:07
Brian Atlas>> Yeah, I don't know. Um okay. Uh trying to think if there was anything else on the looks writing. By the way, uh Nathan, have you checked the re research
02:36:17
Brian Atlastab for the like the AI stuff? Yeah, we have it if you want to start pulling those. There's looks like there's two batches.
02:36:27
Brian AtlasYeah. Yeah, pull both batches if you can. Um and we'll do those momentarily. Uh Lisa, it looks like you had other disagreements, too. Uh well, you write, "You feel like there's more to dating
02:36:40
Brian Atlasthan just looks. A person can be attractive but is more about the personality than the looks. I mean personality obviously matters for both men and women but I think I think
02:36:52
Brian Atlaslooks is going to be kind of the first thing is going to be the first thing. >> Yeah. >> And uh yeah. Um you don't agree with the whole thing about asking people if
02:37:04
Lisathey're a virgin right away until you get to know the person more. Can you clarify? >> Yeah. So that um means that there has to
02:37:13
Lisabe like a sort of like level of dating where you um are able to open up to the
02:37:21
Lisaperson more about like um personal things like that. Um and then also like that's not something that um I would
02:37:32
Lisapersonally answer like on the first date. I think maybe like um maybe like more the third date. >> Um are you Christian? >> Yes.
02:37:44
Brian Atlas>> What denomination? >> Um Orthodox Christianity. >> Eastern Orthodox. >> Yes. >> Okay. Have you been baptized? >> Uh not yet. I'm a catechuman. >> Okay. But you go to like divine liturgy and
02:37:59
Brian Atlas>> Yes. >> Okay. Um,
02:38:05
Brian Atlaswhy do you object to being asked that question? I don't understand. >> Um, because >> like what's wrong with it?
02:38:15
Lisa>> It's not necessarily that it's wrong to ask that question. It's more so just um you have to be like in a comfortable spot like to answer that question. Um,
02:38:27
Lisait's not something that I personally would answer on a first date. I mean, if other people do, that's fine, but it's not something that I personally prefer. H
02:38:41
Brian AtlasWell, that's hinting at you not being a virgin. Is that fair to say? >> Um, I'm not going to get into that. >> Okay. Um,
02:38:52
Brian Atlaspeople are going to make some assumptions then. Uh, well, that seems a bit unfair. So, just to So, let me ask you this. Let's say you're on a date
02:39:00
Brian Atlaswith an Orthodox Christian man and he he asks you on the first date uh if you're a virgin.
02:39:10
LisaWould you refuse to answer the question? >> It would depend on the guy probably. like say the date goes well like um and then if he asked me that question like
02:39:22
Lisaby the way are you a virgin I would probably answer but if the date goes wrong and like if I'm not comfortable with like answering that I don't see why I would answer that.
02:39:34
Mandy>> Okay, I'll be I'm going to come right back to this conversation. It looks like you want to >> what's wrong with that question? Like why would you want them to ask that?
02:39:43
LisaLike what's the big deal? Um it's just um like not something that I'm comfortable with on the first date. So, >> but for them, if it's a requirement for
02:39:56
Mandythem and you really really like them, like you really like them, he's perfect in every way and it's a requirement for him to know that your body count isn't like 70, you know, or if he like if you're a virgin, this is the one thing
02:40:07
Mandythat is going to determine whether or not that you two go further. Why is he not allowed to know? Like why does that bother you? Um I mean if that's the only thing that
02:40:19
Sarahmatters then maybe I would answer it. >> Okay. >> It is important. >> It could be the way they ask. Maybe they could say like you know instead of going hey so like have you ever done it or hey are you a virgin? You know they can just be like hey like so what what are your
02:40:32
Aaronviews on this? >> Well if we could parallel an absolute deal breaker for her is do you want to have sex before marriage? Isn't it fair
02:40:41
Aaronfor her to ask that on a first date? Um, yes, that would be fair. >> So, it's a sexual question and it's a deal breaker and something that's really
02:40:51
Aaronimportant to her. So, if you're on a date with a man, the the virginity question is or body count question is a deal breakaker potentially for them and it's a sexually related question. So,
02:41:03
Lisawhy is there the double standard there? >> Um, it could be a deal breakaker. Um, but again, I would say like if you're not comfortable with a certain question,
02:41:15
LisaI don't think you have to answer it on the first date. Maybe they'll um be like, "Okay, um, that's really important to me." Then this doesn't work out. Um,
02:41:25
Lisaand then at that point, you would just have to like find um like what like works for you. Like that's why you go on dates to
02:41:36
SPEAKER_07>> find why is it like >> why is it bad to ask like >> really quick before you answer I'm going to let this TTS come. >> Thank you Justin_Justin69 donated $200.
02:41:50
SPEAKER_07>> Thank you ma'am. >> Intelligence sure an educated woman with degrees. Big red flag. Almost certainly an unmanageable and destructive level of feminist indoctrination that provides no upside for a family.
02:42:04
PriyankaOkay. >> Does a lot of Indian men thinks that way that a working woman who has who is educated is a red flag. But in my both
02:42:14
Brian Atlasof my marriage, I was a giver. I was like they said you have to wear sari and I wear sari whether I'm comfortable or not. >> Okay. >> I did not like um somebody donated uh looks like you bought a t-shirt and a
02:42:28
Brian Atlashoodie. Thank you very much, man. Appreciate it. Okay. Uh so back to the that thing. I But it seems like is it fair to say that for Christian
02:42:41
Brian Atlasyou're how old are you again? >> I'm 26. >> 26. Okay. Uh for Christian men perhaps even uh Orthodox Christian men that this could be something that's important to them. >> Yes.
02:42:53
Brian Atlas>> Like they wanted they're a virgin. They want a woman who's a virgin. >> Yes. >> Okay. So, I mean, the read here from the male perspective would be like they're just going to
02:43:05
Lisaassume your refusal to not answer the question, she's not a virgin. >> Mhm. Probably. And I feel like the they would assume that with other women in
02:43:15
Lisathe church who are also not virgins if they refuse to answer that question. Or it might just be like you have to feel more comfortable to answer that question like later on. Like maybe not the first
02:43:28
Sarahdate, but like >> Yeah, I feel like that's something like is not typical like first date questions. Usually it's like what's your favorite color? What kind of bands do you like? >> How many guys have you slept with? That's not really like something I see on like first dates, you know? So
02:43:42
Sarah>> I'm fine with it though. >> I'll accept it. >> So [laughter] So it's kind of like and you know if it's a first date like I'm not sure if I feel comfortable closer to the mic. I don't know if I would like feel comfortable sharing, you know, very intimate details about myself. Say for,
02:43:54
Sarahgod forbid, something happened to my husband and, you know, dated somebody. I don't think I would want on a first date to like give him my whole >> Well, oh, did you want to come in? >> Yeah. Um, I mean, like I agree. I don't
02:44:08
Gigithink like it's something that I'm going, hey, like I'm going to go on a first date and tell this guy my body count, but at the same time, I feel like it's unfair because like for example, you're waiting to be comfortable with them. What if you guys are like a month
02:44:19
Gigiin, you guys aren't dating, but you guys have been talking and all of a sudden you find out he has a body count of 70? Like, how are you going to feel about that? Don't you wish you would have known that sooner before you got deeper
02:44:31
Lisainto it? Um, well, it depends because in my like dating, I like to take things more slow rather than to like rush it. So, the way
02:44:43
Lisathat I date, I tell the guys straight up, hey, I just like to take things kind of slower. Um, and then, >> but I'm saying for you, like, what if you fell for someone in a time span of a month and you're a Christian? How would
02:44:56
Gigiyou feel if this person that you've created a relation somewhat of a relationship with all of a sudden tells you, "Hey, I have a 70 body count." Are you going to wish you knew that sooner before getting deeper in?
02:45:07
Lisa>> Probably. But at that point, I don't think it like would matter if it didn't work out. >> But if I can, let's change the body
02:45:19
Aaroncount to an the body count isn't just about the body count. It's an indicator of behavior. >> So it's the choices you make and the way you behave. So in the same sense, let's
02:45:30
Aaronsay that you get you ask a guy, do you have a criminal record? And he goes, I'm not comfortable discussing that with you. I'll be comfortable to discuss that maybe a month or two from now. There really isn't a difference there because
02:45:42
Aaronif it's something that matters and it's a personality indicator, it's critical to know that right off the bat because frankly, you don't want to waste time with someone who doesn't align with you.
02:45:52
Priyanka>> Mhm. >> If I like someone on the first date, like very impressive personality and maybe I I might share. But if I meet somebody on the first date and I say
02:46:05
Lisasomething looking fishy or something, I will not be comfortable sharing, you know. So it's very subject. >> Well, yeah. But you already don't like the guys. So >> yeah. So like it doesn't >> I mean it's like at that point >> it also depends on the guy too. If I'm
02:46:18
Brian Atlasreally comfortable on the first date, then yeah, I might share that. So >> like physical appearance. I think what we're getting at here is it seem I'm curious if if
02:46:29
Lisathey ask the question, are you going to feel upset that they asked it? >> Offended. >> I'm not necessarily going to feel offended. I would just I might feel a
02:46:40
Lisalittle uncomfortable. Um but I would probably answer it like if it if that was a deal breaker for him and if that was uh serious then yeah, I would answer that. I think he just wants
02:46:52
Brian Atlasevidence of your self-control. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> But you, it wasn't just like that you
02:47:03
Brian Atlaswould feel discomfort with it. You you specifically wrote you don't agree with asking people if they're a virgin right away. So, you had a specific disagreement.
02:47:13
LisaYou have an actual issue with the question itself being asked. Um, it's not necessarily um like an issue asking it. I think
02:47:26
Brian Atlasmaybe more the way it's being asked. >> Is it wrong for a guy to ask the question? >> No. >> Okay. But you disagree with them asking
02:47:35
Brian Atlasit. I mean, you pointed out that uh it perhaps is a bit not normal. Like just the timing. >> Most men don't do that. >> But actually, I mean, I can't actually see any objection. And look, if if
02:47:48
Brian Atlasyou're dating intentionally and you're like, I'm trying to see if you're going to be a future girlfriend. I understand like, you know, to be fair though, I mean, just thinking about in my head,
02:48:00
Nicole Bladeyou know, maybe there's not there's certain questions you're not going to immediately just ask. I guess >> I would say important and hard questions right up front. >> Yeah, I agree. I feel like it's better
02:48:12
Brian Atlasto not waste your time. If it's something that's important to you and it's potentially a dealbreaker, like for example, how about this? >> Uh you want to have kids, you want to get married
02:48:23
Brian Atlason a first date, you're not probably not planning to have kids like anytime soon, but I think it's do you want to have kids? And if they say no, that's a complete misalignment. >> You probably want to
02:48:36
Brian Atlas>> Yeah. >> Why would you continue dating them? >> So like for um in in this case, it's like they're perhaps asking the question because if it's important to them, uh
02:48:48
Brian Atlasthey I mean it's maybe you want to date them and this revelation to them might change their mind, but wouldn't you want to get out sooner rather than later? Like if there's something about me uh
02:49:00
Brian Atlasthat would be a problem for a woman. I'd rather she just know sooner that way I'm not wasting time. She's not wasting time. >> Yep. Yeah. >> So for me, I just kind of want to
02:49:09
Brian Atlas>> get I want to know the details. [ __ ] I got a girlfriend application. They got a It's a [ __ ] questionnaire. 100 questions. Not Not a hundred. They got
02:49:20
Brian Atlasit. [ __ ] There's a lot. Have you been to therapy? I should show it one day. I'm going to One day I'm going to show my >> That would be >> my girlfriend application. It's intense.
02:49:31
Brian AtlasIt's [ __ ] gnarly, you know. I'm asking I think I'm asking way more invasive questions. Do you take any medications? It's a good one. >> Yeah, that's a really good one. [laughter]
02:49:44
Brian Atlas>> Therapy. I don't know. [ __ ] She's on [ __ ] psycho. Whatever the what? Psycho. >> What it? >> Um, no. >> Or psychedelic.
02:49:55
Brian Atlas>> No, not not psychedelic. Uh, [laughter] >> like if you ask that, too. >> Like for example, if a woman has schizophrenia, I think I'd rather know. >> Yes. >> Up front. But like I feel like if you don't ask that, maybe you can tell, I
02:50:08
Brian Atlasguess. But if they're medicated, h not really. Anybody here have schizophrenia? You. Oh, you made a face. I don't know [laughter] who's bipolar. Anybody bipolar here at the BPD? Anything? Any personality
02:50:20
Brian Atlasdisorders here? We have a very mentally healthy panel, I guess. >> Uh, we have a Hold on. Uh, TTS here coming in right away from Brian. >> Brian donated $200.
02:50:31
SPEAKER_07Do you value honesty and people being upfront with you? Yes or no? If yes, don't waste people's tome. Ask and dance the hard questions on the first date.
02:50:43
Brian Atlas>> Look, I get that it can feel a bit like interrogation or interviewy or autistic to like ask some of these questions >> on the first date. I get that like the vibe or whatever, you know, the vibe
02:50:55
Brian Atlas>> that's your potential spouse. >> Yeah. If it's important and look, people are busy. Who wants to waste time? Like what? I'm going to take a girl on four dates, pay for the By the way, it's an interesting position. Should the guy pay for the
02:51:08
Brian Atlasfirst date? >> No. >> Well, that's right. >> I would say yes. >> Second date. Should should the guys pay for the dates? >> Yes. >> Okay. Now, so now it's like both of you are investing your time. But from the
02:51:20
Brian Atlasmale perspective, it's not Look, I mean, depends on what kind of expectations, what kind of lifestyle you're living. But from the guy's perspective, it's like it's not just his time. Now he's
02:51:33
Brian Atlasspending money. Now it's like, okay, give me the intel. Give me the intel. But even just from time perspective, like I'd rather a red flag or a dealbreaker surface immediately
02:51:44
Brian Atlasthan it surface 6 months into a relationship. Great. I [ __ ] wasted 6 months. And women can feel that way, too. Oh my god, I spent I gave this guy
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Brian Atlasthree years from I gave him my best years and oh, deal breaker two years in. Didn't think to ask about it. You know, >> he didn't want kids. It's like, okay,
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Priyankawell [ __ ] So in an arranged marriage setup like Indian arranged marriage, you have >> this applies to like 0.001% of the population. >> I know but they have like a biodata.
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PriyankaThat's what I'm like to the Yeah. The bio of a girl and biodata of a boy. >> Bio data. Yes. >> I'm [ __ ] adding that to my She has to [laughter] She's got to take a genetic test.
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Brian Atlas>> She's got to take I'm going to In fact, I'm adding IQ test. >> Oh god. >> Fertility. I'm >> She's got to do the water level test. all the girls. I printed this on the back of the questionnaires, guys. I
02:52:41
Brian Atlasdon't know if you guys are familiar with the water level test. Uh I I made all the women at the table do it. Uh I think I'm going to have my, you know, girlfriend prospects do that. IQ test,
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Priyankagenetic testing, fertility testing. Anyways, whatever that I like that though. >> And then astrological match.
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Priyanka>> Well, that's >> your charts. So you know like uh then I realized yes is in India we use all the before even the girls and and the boy meet
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Priyanka>> we check okay what's the color of the girl is she fair it's too too fair if sheish that's also a criteria >> like skin color >> damn what the [ __ ] India
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Aaron>> [ __ ] racist >> the [ __ ] the cast is it the cast system or is that something else >> that's like your position >> Asia >> but you're saying how great the system is and you have two arranged marriages
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Priyankathat were failures. >> No, I [laughter] I don't I don't say that's a good system, you know, like I I like American system to be honest. >> Do you think I would kill it in India? >> Do you think I would do good? [laughter] Like do you think I'd crush
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Brian Atlas>> Oh, you are like 10 out of 10. >> Would I crush it in India? You know what's crazy to think about? There's 1.4 million billion, excuse me, 1.4 billion people in India and then also in China. See,
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Brian Atlas>> I think India is a little bit ahead in population and we only have what like 300 400 mil mill >> in between there in the US. What's the number? >> Can you what's the exact population number?
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Brian Atlas>> Maybe the chat >> have more babies Americans. >> How how much? >> 340. >> 340. Damn. >> So, >> so China has like 4x
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Aaron>> four times. And I wonder if that 340 is factoring in legal immigrants as well. >> I don't know. Pro maybe. But [ __ ] >> Damn, that's crazy. That's a lot of
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Mandypeople. >> So, one of my husbands like my I hit above my like he's way better than me in
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Mandyevery way. Like I did well. Um but one of his things when he told me and a lot of girls are going to come for me for this or come for him for this. Um was
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Mandyone of his requirements was that I had to lose weight. I was 240 lbs. And he dead ass looked at me and said I if you want to if I have to spend the rest of my life with you, you're going to have