05:36:12Molly Littleand safer when someone shows up to the first or second date showing their flaws rather than acting super perfect because I would start to wonder what's what's going to switch what's what's up with
05:36:23Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)you what's wrong right and that's all that's the whole part of dating like do you feel like um if you met the right person and you guys dated and you really like her you can really see her being
05:36:35Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)your wife having your kids like being your like she's literally your soulmate like you know I mean I've had enough long-term relationships that I I'm like I've gone through like lots of heartbreak and you're like this was my person and then you just meet a new one
05:36:48Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)of your person and then that's your person it just keeps going so it's happened enough times where like you realized like hey there's uh there's always another person out there that you could fall in love with and that you could develop different feelings for
05:37:00Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)based on different personality traits and all that stuff um so and why is that like why do you feel like it's been hard for you to find someone it's not hard I could find do you just prefer right now
05:37:11Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)you don't want to be married no I have I have two kids I was married uh like I did that I didn't know that about you yeah I did that part of my life so I'm good and like afterwards I just decided
05:37:22LaurenI'm going to just chill for a bit you know right yeah okay yeah that's I think going back to what you said like how you kind of go for the guys that are more like kind of like I I like I like a guy that outd draws me in a sense where
05:37:35Laurensometimes I think that like oh I I I can handle and all of a sudden I see a guy go just do something I'm like oh he can that's hot what you're saying is exactly what Brian and I talked about on
05:37:45Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)Sunday you can do anything to a woman except bore her and that's completely except bore her what does that mean bore being boring you can do anything to a woman except bore her and maybe this guy
05:37:56Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)like for you you're like all these check boxes are great but you weren't excited because there was nothing to fix or maybe it just wasn't you know like there's none of that edge that you want and like and guys that are listening
05:38:08Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)like I'm not saying to artificially manufacture like toxic traits but don't be boring keep things exciting and like especially when you're first dating yeah and not like hey set like
05:38:20Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)false precedents for future stuff but like you know women are going to leave when you just have the same routine all the time even after things are comfortable when it's so safe and
05:38:31TTS / Chat Readerroutine it's boring and that's why 70 80% of relationships end from the woman Michael donated $100 Lauren so given what you said on letting him secure paternity postm marriage
05:38:42TTS / Chat Readerwhile supporting you would you date someone younger than you 28 who makes 300 k/ Year good shape and great family are you shooting your shot Michael 28
05:38:54UnknownI've dated I've dated younger guys before and yeah I mean if he was good to me and and he yeah I don't see why not okay do you have a specific 28-year-old in mind Michael
05:39:08Brian AtlasI mean so your advice I think it'll be effective for men albe it a bit mocky of vellan in in that you're kind of advising men
05:39:20Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)to well I don't know if you're explicitly saying okay we'll ramp up the toxicity but I I think that there's a version of what she little male confidence ego insulting and
05:39:33Laureneverything there's a version of that where you give them the same feelings without being a piece of yeah it's like imagine if we were at like a a game center and I threw that and then a guy was like that was cute but watch this and he he Nails every well you
05:39:45Brian Atlasdon't know what you want let's just be honest that's wait or if I can come in with I think the most base take uhuh how about women address their clearly
05:39:55Brian Atlasdysfunctional attraction to toxicity how about you guys address uh I think it's dysfunctional mhm and I think you need to like you women have agency you can like look at something and realize this
05:40:08Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)isn't good for me take some accountability have agency don't go after those men MH can we discuss this for a sec sure okay what do you think if you said the same exact thing but about
05:40:20Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)like uh gay man about wanting to be straight like what if they literally can't help it this is something what I mean what I mean is let's say you like don't be attracted to let's say you have a gay man and uh he's like I just want to you know I know that I don't want to
05:40:34Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)do this I want to be with women but I just can't help it like I believe that maybe inherently women cannot help this attraction level they can't manufacture themselves to be not attracted to that
05:40:46Brian Atlaswell okay the first I would say is they while they might not be able to not like stop feeling attracted you can like hold
05:40:55Brian AtlasOno step back they have choice they have they have agency okay yes he's really hot but he's also going to be abusive maybe I shouldn't date this guy I
05:41:08Brian Atlashave self respect to not date like guys abusing you can still find them attractive although I still think it's dysfunctional but when it comes to the
05:41:17Unknownchoice that you have I would say don't date don't choose to date these men I'm I'm choosing not to date right now I wonder if it triggers oh sorry I didn't interrupt you well I'm almost I'm I mean
05:41:31Brian Atlasnot to like confine you to fate but I suspect probably the next guy you date you're he's probably not going to be the standup guy he's probably going to be
05:41:41Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)toxic because that's what you like also your career choice does sort of eliminate a lot of men that might not be and it probably it also attracts toxic
05:41:52Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)eyeses yeah I'm saying out of dating for what like for all those reasons like I would disagree with that cuz like I know girls that don't do or like what our job have normal like go to school and stuff
05:42:03Brian Atlasand they still attract toxic men well of course but men the men who are going to be okay with you other men on camera are probably
05:42:14Brian Atlasprobably not that well adjusted and whether that reveals itself immediately or 3 months or 6 months into the relationship you'll find out eventually personally for me with my
05:42:26Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)content it's nothing like it's nothing harmful it when the guy that I actually know like what I do on my page and how the market Works um
05:42:37Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)and how I run my business and how I have a team and like just like helping meh I don't think there's anything wrong with my job um personally so I will
05:42:50Brian Atlasattract I know I will attract guys that will respect me and you know I don't think it's like the job it's definitely the job it's definitely the job sorry Cindy Checkmate you lose it's just that
05:43:02Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)it's such a I don't think so you're not going to you're not going to get a guy that wants to share like where you know the girl a guy that wants to a guy that's willing to share you is okay but there's okay I mean the
05:43:15Brian Atlasproblems you're dealing with are exactly why no yeah I mean there there are problems but honestly there's possibility Cindy there's possibility and then there's probability could you end up in a
05:43:26Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)healthy good relationship sure it's less probable because of the work that you do it's possible but it's less probable I I think they are a
05:43:37Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)confident man that like knows themselves and like is supportive do you sleep with other guy like do you sleep with guys for your only fans not not the moment no you used to though okay I mean I agree that there's a line to be drawn but if
05:43:51Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)you're if you're like sleeping with other guys I don't I think it's kind of a cop out for you to say that like he's got to be ultra confident to be cool with that I I not like be confident like
05:44:02Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)confident be as confident confident with yourself like like be physically like you know you know in tune with that mentally everything you know like be close with
05:44:13Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)your friends and family you know like I think um what there is a pool of guy out there just like how there's a pool you know of talk men whatever but I want to
05:44:24Brian Atlasattract yeah you'll still look even if you do or porn you'll still you can still find a guy we're not going to we're not saying it's impossible it just is going to close the door for a lot of
05:44:34Brian Atlasmen and this idea that the guy has to be confident in order to date you it's not clear if it's confident or if it's well
05:44:44Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)I don't want to insecure guy like you know I think it's hot when insec reason wait wait hold on I've got it figured out it's not that men have to be
05:44:53Brian Atlasconfident to date you it's that they have to make concessions to date you can you elaborate what do you mean concessions I would argue if you gave a guy two options so you and and then
05:45:07Brian Atlasanother you one who does only fans and another who doesn't do only fans I don't think there's any Universe where the where guys will ever pick them preferring you
05:45:18Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)doing only fans like if they had the option of you not having the only fans which one do you think they'd prefer well if they're they're okay with it there are guys that are okay with
05:45:31Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)generally speaking that's not the question like you think the average guy would prefer the average guy probably not I'm not going for I guess is having an
05:45:41Brian Atlasonly fans ever again I'm you may very well find find men I'm not making that argument is having an only fans ever a positive thing from the guy's
05:45:51Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)perspective in terms of wanting to date you some men are coolers some men um you don't share your resources on what kind
05:46:00Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)of Lifestyle like what their job is and stuff like that and like if he knows like what only fans really is in the business behind it um then yeah I think
05:46:13Brian Atlashe would be accepting of it that's not I'm not asking if you would be accepting would it be in is it ever a positive to have an only fans I think so
05:46:25Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)it could be a neutral I think so it's either neutral if you if you are a content creator influencer why are you not like monetizing the um your brand
05:46:36Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)how does that benefit him because you're you're that's your business being a social media presence don't you want to
05:46:44Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)Capital last time you dat you dated a guy when's the last guy um last year okay you said you've never been in a
05:46:54Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)serious relationship though it was short it was a long you pay for First Dates do I pay for First Dates no did you pay for second dates have you ever paid for a date um I think I've gone half and half
05:47:05Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)half half and half just you know dating as friends andu have you ever like provided for a guy
05:47:13Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)um I have tried to like you know pay for things because I'm just a sugar baby sometimes I'm just generous and like
05:47:24Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)don't mind Sugar Mama or what is it sugar mama okay what tell tell us okay what what did you spend on the guy how much did you spend on the guy um I think it was just food I don't
05:47:36Brian Atlasthink like I've ever really how much did you so you would pay for him for the food or you'd split it yeah for the food like I've like would you ever pay for
05:47:47Brian Atlasthe whole thing I've bought like a $300 dinner like it's not really that int for like a boyfriend like as a okay um for a group of people I like paying stuff for my friends sometimes oh my God how are you why are you making this argument a
05:48:00Brian Atlasgroup of people so you went out with a group of friends mhm including a guy you were interested in yeah I like to give back okay so how much was his
05:48:09Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)meal don't remember I think we just grabbed tacos or like bucks yeah was so the benefit so your AR your argument your argument when it comes to you doing
05:48:20Brian Atlasonly fans and it being a positive for the man is that one time you paid 20 bucks for some tacos that's the tradeoff like she'll buy me tacos once and save me 20 bucks
05:48:30Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)no I'm not saying that like that's just like me being friend like I want to do that because perhaps a woman might do that even if she didn't that's not that's a friend like I'm talking about
05:48:43Brian Atlasdating do with this is have nothing to do with like then why did you provide it as an example of course I want the guy to provide for me you know I want okay so you said that the only fans makes you
05:48:54Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)money so what benefit is the guy receiving because you said well I think guys would probably prefer a girl that's like also well o is
05:49:06Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)my job and that's my passion that you know that's what drives me um don't care so like for some other people like you know
05:49:18Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)you have to recognize it's like suboptimal for a guy right for for I mean if you took a hundred of the guys that you would be interested in you think the majority of those guys would prefer that you're doing only fans no
05:49:30Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)like the average guy probably not what about a guy just take a group of guys you would date right you think maity of them are like yep I'm glad she they they want to get money like you're not giving
05:49:42Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)them your money you're buying t i but they want they're in their career yeah they like to work and make money what does have to do with you working that's the caliber of men that I want I know but I'm saying why would they want you
05:49:54Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)to do only fans why would that be a positive for them not that want that's my that's my job you know I don't want you get the point right no I get what you're saying like that's my job and if
05:50:05Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)he thinks if I'm in love with him and if my job bothers him that much um and yeah was saying basically
05:50:16Laurenit's either a neutral I will guess you know slowly drift away and stuff what you got what do you have my question is this okay there's always this thing where it's like okay woman's past will come back if she did Sex work this and
05:50:28Laurenthat what if a woman's like look I love you and I'm GNA go missing and then they're like wait what drive into the desert park my car there disappear like Howard
05:50:40LaurenHughes every no more Lauren roses she's gone I change my name get a little different haircut different nose there something not even too much different but all of a sudden where'd she go she's gone and and it's
05:50:54Laurenlike now would would they now that the past won't even be an issue because now people go oh is that you oh people always say that I look like her guys don't look at your past only because you might show up on the internet it's
05:51:06Brian Atlasbecause it's a predictor of future Behavior as well that's what I was curious to yeah wait so you okay so what but what is so the question is it was about in this hypothetical scenario
05:51:17Brian Atlaswhere you get plastic surgery change your name change your appearance you lie to your future partner about your past no you tell them you tell them like they know about your past already you oh so other people can't know yeah yeah so to
05:51:29Brian Atlassh save them still bad yeah still bad still bad okay okay I was curious about that though still bad curious I mean you've mitigated one of the things I guess there one one
05:51:41Bristep for there's still so many other concerns I have another I have a question um you said you don't want to date average men but like do you think like a man that's like high value would
05:51:52Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)actually want to date someone that does yeah like if he's high value and he's okay with like me doing my own
05:52:02Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)business because I need to pay you know whatever I need to pay to live right um then that's the type of guy like I
05:52:12Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)want to date if he is going to provide for me then um yeah like and my job like is such a big
05:52:23Brian Atlasconcern then I would slowly drift away and start a different business Avenue stuff our issue with what you're saying is that you're saying it's going to take
05:52:32Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)a guy with confidence to have to date me maybe think like what I was trying to say is like a guy who takes care of
05:52:42Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)himself and like feels confident being confident is not a bad thing I like um it's not confidence it's not confidence
05:52:51Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)yeah how is it not like someone who's you know like secure with like where they are in their life
05:53:00Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)and have ambition and goals can make me laugh um and we anal but I would probably be in the bucket that you would
05:53:11TTS / Chat Readerconsider higher value most of my friends are as well and none of them im a captain you all leftenant donated
05:53:19TTS / Chat Reader$100 Brian dot they cannot engage with the question it's always one relative I.E it depends on a guy or two anecdotal
05:53:30Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)i e me me me I'm different or three extreme I'm going to disappear in the in the desert she's going to disappear in the desert guys that group of guys thank you they don't seek that out for
05:53:42Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)long-term relationships or marriage we'll hook up with girls like that we'll casually date you're not going to lock them down though and maybe in the rare circumstance you get the guy who is like
05:53:54Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)this one's special and I will if she gives up her career do you know what I mean like that's rare it might happen but like it's not ideal it's not what you're looking for long term do you feel like you're a little bit conserv like you like you want your girl to dress
05:54:06Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)more proper and no I don't want her to just other guys right and and that's not what I would do if I was in a relationship I would never do that um I was with a
05:54:18Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)guy um I don't know if are you ENT entrepreneur you make content online no uh you don't make content online make content but you do entrepreneurship
05:54:28Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)other ways okay um I actually have talked to like a lot of guys who are I don't know if you like a lot of people do Shopify and stuff like that or like crypto you talking
05:54:40Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)like drop ship Bros yeah drop shiing or like crypto those guys I actually talk to me yeah they'll try to bang you and maybe they're like 24 I wouldn't say that are you dating any of them no but
05:54:52Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)I'm not dating them but I'm not saying like they're attract I literally asked this guy I was like who's your celebrity crush and then she and then he names like a only fans girl to though
05:55:05Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)look you got to understand like like most guys if given the option between a girl who has o and girl doesn't mean that it's always like oh I'm like sex that like Timothy Shel I would give he's
05:55:17Brian Atlaslike another human I would if he wants to take me out on a day I would be more than happy to go on a date no she was just saying like because it's it's like a cele I'm move I'm going to move on so I have a couple more questions hopefully
05:55:30Briwe can wrap up soon I don't think a high valume man would do a girl with f you have you literally you have like I just those kind of things on it it's just the fact that and
05:55:42Brieven I know that even just me having one even just me having one affects a lot what kind of guys will date me and it's just the truth like whether you want to accept it or not it's just the truth it's not about their confidence or
05:55:53Brian Atlasanything it's just how they respect themselves like I'm more likely to track guys that are more L the mushroom Brian love the show I'm a truck driver and love listening to the show as I drive
05:56:05Brian Atlassome of these girls need to get off the pedestal and join the real world hey dude thank you so much man appreciate I think this is your first time sending a
05:56:14Brian Atlasuh a uh message really appreciate it truck truck drivers keep Society Running you guys are transporting all kinds of
05:56:23Brian Atlasimportant what's your load that sounded kind of sus never mind all right thank you man appreciate it wait so okay I got a couple I'm going to do some
05:56:33Brian Atlasrapid fire questions here so the last tweet oh last tweet okay last tweet really quick from
05:56:41UnknownDei can you read it I don't even remember saying
05:56:51Unknown[Laughter] [Applause] this oh I went away okay what it said oh there it is not usually in the mood but
05:57:02Unknownkind of want to make a man lick my shoe and then thank me for it what the like the little angel Emoji I like that have you ever done that yeah yeah yeah
05:57:13Unknownthat would lick it that would not be cool say thank you
05:57:21TTS / Chat ReaderMommy it's like so I don't know what the term is there's this like uh loose energy donated $100 Brian and Max don't waste your time
05:57:32TTS / Chat Readertrying to save these hoes they don't want to be saved too far gone there's a guy named Abdel that can change their
05:57:40TTS / Chat Readerlives # get the Rocks # delusional # get food get the Rocks yeah Abdul yeah get the Rocks get the Rocks yo LP good to see you in the chat man thank you thank
05:57:51Brian Atlasyou man appreciate the TTS uh we can't save them that's right although we did save Nala and then we saved another girl
05:58:00Brian AtlasI think we can maybe save she's too far gone too far gone I think I think Cindy maybe we can save her too far gone too far gone what do
05:58:12Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)you mean about me Cindy wipe that off I'll give you a $100 to wipe it off your neck right now 100 cash um I have announcement yeah yes it's real I'm
05:58:23Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)lying oh look at that I would seen that coming but I am known for being the God girl like I was you know so you were 5
05:58:33Brian Atlashours or sorry 1 hour late for oh no I I told you it was for like it was because of traffic yeah but you like had to put it on your neck and then you took a bunch of photos and wait can you pull
05:58:45Brian Atlasout the photo I sent it to you yeah you you took you took an Instagram story and like had you not done that you could have been on time no sorry fail I I it was come
05:58:55Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)on a for effort oh she's going to okay here it is she's going just kid do it do it do it do it no it's actually not going to that's not going to rub it off this is like an actual tattoo like like
05:59:05Brian Atlasthe it's like the warm towel it's an actual tattoo like I know okay all right going to make my neck red whatever okay uh going
05:59:16Brian Atlasaround the table on average who uh or well who's physically stronger men or women men men into the mics guys men
05:59:28Brian Atlasmen scoot the mic closer to you and Center It Center it down the line down the line there you go we got this line just for you Cindy a thank you I appreciate it
05:59:40Brian Atlasyeah man you're special oh thank you so much I'm so proud of all of you by the way okay let's see what other uh can you be sexist towards
05:59:53Unknownmen yes yes me uh like no just in general can can people be sexist towards yes yes yeah absolutely yes yes can you
06:00:06Unknownbe racist towards white people yes yes yes yeah no yes really Cindy coming in with the heat you don't
06:00:17Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)actually know well I just think that like black people usually typically get more of that we didn't mention black people yeah that wasn't the question um can like a white person be the subject
06:00:27Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)of a racial crime yeah in that case yeah I'm just I'm just saying typically in the US the gears return around the world black
06:00:39Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)people are more dominated plus Asians and Hispanic people oh like for your kids you mean yeah like uh CRT California fa state wild failed
06:00:49Brian AtlasSociety Maddie what the question Oh I said yeah white CRI oh yeah okay what um white people have
06:01:06Brian Atlasyeah yeah yes okay uh let's see what else here do I have um H I'm trying to
06:01:16Brian Atlasjust find one that I can get you guys all bent out of shape about just talk about women's accountability no no such thing as male privilege no such thing as male wait
06:01:29Brian Atlasactually here hold on let me do an easier one female privilege is greater than male privilege how about that so I won't outright deny that there's male priv but females are more privileged how
06:01:42Brian Atlasso well if you look at all the ways that men and women are negatively impacted in society whether just socially or by you
06:01:52Brian Atlasknow government or by law I would argue in a wide myad of ways that men have it worse give me some examples not a wide Mia give me an example sure so for
06:02:04Brian Atlasexample men are more lik to be homeless men are more likely to delete themselves there's a great discrepancy in prison sentences so women are much less likely to get off they're much less like or
06:02:16Brian Atlasexcuse me they're they're more likely to just get off or get a simple sentence like probation or community service men typ I think the the discrepancy is like
06:02:26Brian Atlas60% longer prison sentences for the exact same crime and similar circumstances uh there's uh G there's uh
06:02:36Brian Atlascircumcision of boys when they're born men are more likely to be killed by police do you think circumcision is yeah I think it's wrong wrong absolutely what
06:02:47Brian Atlasabout when it's like like the like in the Jewish religion yeah also wrong yeah I'm against it whether it's for religious
06:02:58Brian Atlasreasons or secular Reasons I'm crazy right yeah I'm I'm against it it's those are it's probably traumatic those are boys they're getting their penises
06:03:08Brian Atlasmutilated upon birth there's pain involved I think it's barbaric it's not medically indicated and if it is that's something that that they can address
06:03:19Brian Atlaswhen they're 18 when they have the choice to address it it's a bodily autonomy thing let's see what else um forced military conscription did I
06:03:29Brian Atlasmention men are more likely to delete themselves uh there's a bias in the court system both criminally and civy did I say home men are more likely to be homeless I think I mentioned
06:03:42Brian Atlasthat that's a good amount did you guys know all of that yeah yeah I did yeah okay so I mean those were a few I could give you more if you want but uh I think the
06:03:53Unknownpatriarchy disadvantages men just as much as it disadvantages women but I don't think it's like oh women are oppressing I didn't say that yeah okay
06:04:03Unknownso I mean I wouldn't say that like women have more privileges in society I I mean just because men have some disadvantages at the hands of the
06:04:16Brian Atlaspatriarchy doesn't mean that women are more privileged I just reject well because what are the what are the that that create I reject your framework entirely let's just say Society okay
06:04:28Brian AtlasSociety because what you're trying to do so would you be willing to concede that men have it worse than women no okay so let's just remove the patriarchy
06:04:39Brian Atlasframework from this let's just call when have it bad it's at the hands of other men how so how does that matter like let me just concede that let's just say
06:04:48Brian Atlasthere is a patriarchy okay there is let's say okay let's say there is a patriarchy and under this patriarchy men have it worse why would it matter if men
06:05:00Brian Atlasdon't have it worse but let's say they did why would it matter if it was men okay well then it it I guess it wouldn't but like that's not the question that's not
06:05:11Unknownthe reality let me ask you what is the patriarchy it is the power structure like that we have in our society where a lot of things are male doin dominated a lot of things that are feminine are seen
06:05:23Unknownas weak and punishable and that affects men too that is part of why like men have higher so the patriarchy is men haveing themselves because it's subtle it's you
06:05:36Adrienrun like a girl is insulting rather than neutral why is that how much more women empowerment can we have at this point I this is what I've been bringing up like I've been trying to bring this up this entire podcast I don't know where we're
06:05:47Adriengoing to draw the line where women take more accountability it seems like high level non-traditional women want traditional men women want men to provide uh be financially stable lead
06:05:59Adrienthe family be financially fit or be physically fit also be emotionally in tune enough to not only manage their own emotion but their wom's emotions be able to guide like I don't know how much more
06:06:09Unknownwe can ask from them very basic things I do and I think that's like something that men ask of all those things I would ask my man to be
06:06:20Unknownemotionally attentive like what attractive like to pull their weight financially and I think like a high value man like that's the term you use right would want like would want their
06:06:32Brian Atlasgirlfriend to also be emotionally attentive attractive pull their weight financially like okay you said so you said we currently live in a patriarchy correct
06:06:43Unknownand what so again what is the patriarchy what is the patriarchy honestly at this point it's very nuanced like Molly said it's a system that's been set up to
06:06:54Unknownhistorically like give men these advantages like what men make more money on average how when where in America not in porn but in in
06:07:05Adrienpretty much every I don't see it I don't see you don't see it look it up you haven't heard of the wage G 31 years old you never heard of it's not true women
06:07:15Adrienwork Less hours they take more time off men work harder than women it is what it is if women and men ask for the same amount of money let let her finish her Point stop
06:07:27Adrienstop with your yapping let her finish her Point instead of just looking up a ridiculous data set that doesn't exist you might want to look into maybe psychological reasons why men and
06:07:38Adrienwomen ask for raises how often they work how hard they work why they take time off if it's totally equal on the on the time that people are putting in there is no wage Gap at all you believe men are
06:07:50Unknownworse off in society than women you believe have more advantages okay tell me tell me these advantages women have disadvantages I feel disadvantaged okay so so what what's your female privilege
06:08:02Brian Atlaswhat do you affirmative affirmative action okay affirmative action that's one universities in employment and so racism doesn't exist you you aren't
06:08:13Brian Atlassubject you aren't subject to military conscription that's another one when it comes to your interactions with police you're far less likely to be killed or
06:08:24Brian Atlasthe victim of police brutality or police misconduct let's see when it comes hold on I've got some more when it comes to for example the court system you're viewed much more favorably both civil
06:08:35Brian Atlasand criminally you're far less likely to be uh prosecuted for a crime and you're far less if you do get prosecuted you're likely to more likely to get community
06:08:44Brian Atlasservice or probation men will typically get I think it's 60% longer prison sentences compared to their male uh female counterparts who are uh who are
06:08:56Bridoing the exact same crime so that's a few and in my personal experience like I can kind of get away with anything I want like people literally just kind of
06:09:07Brian Atlasgive me whatever I want or like like let me get away with whatever also socially you just just by mere virtue of existing an 18 19 20-year-old woman can just
06:09:18Unknownsiphon thousands of dollars of money from men via these Arrangement type relationships Arrangement type
06:09:27Unknownrelationship to men like I think that that's one way societ that is getting what they want privilege right to just exist and have men sending you money but
06:09:38Unknownit's not just existing yeah every girl every girl at home who is just getting sent thousands of dollars every day if they seek it out they can get it yeah if they seek it out I mean that's a portion
06:09:49Brian Atlasof girls but there's also girls that work hard make their own money do you think that men can do that do you think the average 19-year-old guy can just get
06:09:58Molly Littlemoney sent to them from women he can he targets older wom can if large amounts of money why do you think that is it's
06:10:07Molly Littlebecause they're like overly sexualizing these 19-year-old girls okay totally derailing the conversation for men as well because these girls who you are saying have the
06:10:20Molly Littleprivilege to be making this amount of money but you object to adult women being sexualized but no my point are we back to the age Gap discussion my point is what's your point you're thinking that now you're saying that it's an
06:10:31Molly Littleadvantage for young women to be able to be doing that but before you're saying that it is like what is the word I'm looking for disadvantages us but that's not the word I'm looking for puts us down if we do only fans but you're
06:10:42Brian Atlascalling that an advantage okay so from a dating perspective from a dating perspective yes it makes you less appealing if you're engaged in sex work but you
06:10:53Brian Atlashave negative that it makes us less appealing for romantically speaking but if for for like she mentioned survival reasons if like a dude's out of
06:11:03Brian Atlasluck homeless has to resort to Crime if he's like that desperate as a woman if totally hits the fan you
06:11:12Adriencould always sell no yeah can always you guys already agreed to that because you said you could still be doing in let me let me make it less
06:11:22Brian Atlasextreme let me make it less extreme you can just if if doesn't work out for you financially you could just pursue a guy who's prepared to provide for you but that's also putting you at a
06:11:33Molly Littledisadvantage because then prepared to do that then you're also prepared to let go of the emotional intimacy the the safety
06:11:43Brian Atlasuh but is a privilege it is a privilege you don't even have to do sex work you get well in terms of like being nude you could just go on seeking and like get
06:11:54Brian Atlasthese men to send you money D that is physically dangerous not if you meet them dangerous if you meet no I'm saying if you don't if you don't meet them but they don't send you money without
06:12:05Brian Atlasmeeting unless you're like doing sexual things the point is that we had girls come on the show who get paid money just for having conversations with us and I do that too I do Skype calls where nonex
06:12:17Unknownbut it's because I have this sexual platform I couldn't get that to spread your butthole for like gay fans oh no not even gay but you're getting it from
06:12:27Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)the opposite sex there's a differential here like let's say why literally what's different money is money pool where the money is coming from is also much smaller do you agree there's there's
06:12:39Molly Littlefewer game makes so much more money than straight porn makes more money than gay porn and what you're saying is gay porn stars make more right gay porn makes more
06:12:49Brian Atlasmoney not than not not not straight gay wait question gay hold on okay cool do gay men do gay men earn
06:13:00Brian Atlasmore than straight women in porn I think so yes they do from what I've heard Co cool the industry is smaller okay I want to quickly address the wage Gap thing
06:13:13Brian AtlasI'm going to I'm going to address the wage Gap thing I've got I I found a couple notes here so men work harder and longer in tougher jobs men stay in the workforce longer in those tougher jobs
06:13:24Brian Atlasmen gravitate to tougher and harder but higher paying jobs and stay in them longer women leave the workforce voluntarily to have and raise children women have options they can work part time Flex time full-time they job share
06:13:37TTS / Chat Readermen have two options their options are workers donated $100 men have material power if they stay in their gender role women have social power if they stay in their
06:13:48TTS / Chat Readergender role nobody likes argumentative women and men are not competitive it's sequel i' agree word
06:13:59Brian Atlasword no not yet I hold on thank you fors I appreciate it man uh wait okay so look moving off of the a uh the the wage Gap
06:14:09Brian Atlasso you say we currently live in a a patriarchy so under patriarchy are women oppressed I think we're all oppressed we
06:14:19Unknownall suffer under patriarchy even men yes okay who's the oppressors then are men Society are men the oppressors it's a very like it's a very complicated and
06:14:32Unknownlike issue but it's at the point that it's like we are all doing it to each other and to our so how are are you oppressed I am oppressed I'm probably oppressing other you know like the whole like how are you
06:14:45Unknownoppressed everybody is in some ways everybody has like their own advantages and disadvantages how are you oppressed by the patriarchy under the patriarchy I could not make the kind of
06:14:57Unknownmoney that I did if I didn't make the career choice that I did and because I made the career choice that I did Society objectifies me vilifies me and sells me I'm undatable so I can either
06:15:08Unknownmake money or can or I can you made a choice opportunity cost everything and everything is an opportunity cost and everything you're going to get as a woman you're going to get looked at a certain way no matter what industry you're in people are going to sexualize
06:15:21Brian Atlasyou people are going to treat you a certain way you literally sexualize yourself how much does your only fans cost where you're getting I'm not saying I'm not sexualizing I you're sexualizing yourself okay so I don't think the example you provideed is
06:15:34Unknownevidence of being oppressed so how are you oppressed I I'm too on the spot I can't think of an example right now so you win you you get that
06:15:44Brian Atlasround okay Checkmate I guess um okay
06:15:54Bricool lawyer okay let's see you could start no I was just saying like cuz you said like I I wouldn't be making this kind of money you could have like
06:16:04Bristarted a business you could have started a business or like okay that would make that would make the same kind of money as fast yeah yeah yeah well you
06:16:15Briknow that's that's good for you a girl who made 100K in her first two months yeah like like you didn't even try right didn't you do that right when you turned 18 so you want to you want to like put that in my face like scoot your mic to
06:16:27Brithe end that's what I'm saying I took the easy route cuz I was young and dumb now I want to move on to like starting businesses and doing that kind of stuff what business are you going to what are
06:16:38Unknownyou addicted to I do and I I didn't get into it just for the money like it's easyy out survival you entered it out of you desired to
06:16:48Unknowndo are you are you proud of the item that you're selling I'm so proud of it I'm so proud and and unlike you I didn't come into it just for the money and actually hate having sex and hate
06:17:01Unknownshowing my body like that and hate living this like I love it it she was saying that she didn't like it it wasn't for her she didn't like showing her body like that and that's totally fine girl I respect that like Nutella think I think
06:17:13Unknownthat if that's how you feel about sex and sexuality in your body you should not do porn you should not do anything like this I'm talking about you were saying
06:17:22TTS / Chat Readerearlier how you were oppressed because they sexualize you for and how you niod donated $100 women used to cry when their nudes
06:17:32TTS / Chat Readergot leaked now am I understand why they didn't get the $3 they thought it was worth that's that is a good point actually I think that's a really interesting point because there's a lot
06:17:44Molly Littleof girls I know that have started only fans because their nudes got leaked as a form of taking control back I agree with their body is taking control they were exposed UNC consensually so now these girls are
06:17:57Laurentaking photos in a light that they're comfortable understand the logic but it's that's sad that that happened to them though I started uh sex work because uh I people thought I was a lesbian and I was angry about it there you
06:18:08Laurengo conf that was at least the one of the reason wait you started prostitution because I started dancing at first it started with dancing but people thought to prove that you weren't a lesbian yeah cuz people were like Oh I thought you
06:18:21Unknownwere gay or lesbian and I'm just like I'm not you showed them I showed them I showed them you showed them but but then as I got older and you know I was like
06:18:31Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)okay I actually like this and do you look at uh Playboy like from the 90s the same as you would look at only fans I have a Playboy account me like a Playboy model do you think that that was the only fans of the 90s different because
06:18:43Brian Atlasthey're not interacting with the guys yeah there is like this certain uh there's definitely a different component because like the what the guy pays what 10 bucks for a Playboy magazine but some
06:18:56Brian Atlasof these girls are like siphoning these dudes money there's definitely like this um potential I'm not saying all girls who do only fans are like kind of playing this game with some of these men
06:19:07Brian Atlaswho are just sending obscene obscene amount of money but it's definitely different it's I mean it's still pornographic content but there's like this the lay the other
06:19:20Brian Atlaslayer of it is women who are selling the girlfriend experience and I do question if some of these men have a genuine or genuinely pursuing you
06:19:30Brian Atlasromantically and you're using that leverage that you have over them to siphon money I'm not saying all all of the girls do this but it certainly has
06:19:41Brian Atlasoccurred to me that that is something that these guys find you attractive they start wanting to date you and that's a very powerful position where you can
06:19:52Laurenkind of start siphoning their money without any intention of ever ever romantically pursuing them yeah that does happen and and a lot of it it involves boundaries in a sense where
06:20:04Laurenit's like hey like you know this is the experience but if if there I've known you know women we all probably have um that didn't have boundaries with the financial for the men and the men were
06:20:14Laurenlike oh my gosh I'm broke now and it it took their their sovereignty away I feel like with price I always like to agree on price like hey are you you comfortable with this this is my prices
06:20:25Laurenbut are you comfortable with this is this good they say yes if it's not a heaven yes it's a hell no and that is their sovereignty and I want to honor that because if I keep pushing about
06:20:36Laurenmoney it starts to become wondering is this consensual to them am I just acting upon like you said their emotions and playing upon that I want to know for sure if it's they're 100 in this that's why it's like no more conversations
06:20:49Laurenabout money once we're in that room no more conversations about money no me asking you for a tip nothing if you want to do it do it you know it's almost different though because you're actually like sleeping with the guys and on only
06:20:59Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)fans it's just like they're being sold a dream through a messaging platform AG they'll pay for it continually I do not believe in the um like the companies
06:21:10Laurenthat do that I think it's wrong I really do I I don't like that um where they're Auto messaging people pretending to be somebody I don't like that I have an interesting uh question on this uh do we think that let's just say that the
06:21:24Adriensituation that we just chatted about women could be baiting men to get more money through a variety of reasons do we think that there's any correlation between that effort and potentially bad men that are could be essentially baiting women to sleep with them with
06:21:37Laurenthe promise that they'll eventually change them and get into a relationship I'm saying I'm just when you guys were talking I'm like I could kind of see they can there there's guys that you can tell you can kind of sniff them out a little bit in a sense where they'll they'll try to change you by like oh
06:21:50Laurenwhen you're going to get out of this and then you tell them hey I'm not looking to get out soon but some girls they want to keep them there and try to keep the income coming in so they say I don't know maybe one day when I meet somebody but that's not okay I think and Brian
06:22:02Adrienthis might be towards you if if one of men's most powerful tools is their financial stability and uh ability and females perhaps it's their purity and lower body counts aren't we kind of bartering with the two most important
06:22:14Brian Atlasthings and is the baiting the same just from man perspective I don't I mean I think if you're a guy and you're the girl is desirous of a
06:22:25Brian Atlaslong-term relationship and she's made that clear to you and you're kind of not being upfront with your intentions and
06:22:33Brian Atlasyou her and then dump her I think that's scummy it's different than the dynamic on only fans I'm not saying it's good
06:22:43Brian Atlasbut it's it's somewhat comparable but I mean we all make kind of these promises to each other right in relationship so for example I'll love
06:22:54Brian Atlasyou forever and then whether a woman or a man says that and then you end up you break up with them well you just broke your promise you promis to love me
06:23:05Brian Atlasforever MH and then so if if a a woman sleeps with a man under those terms he said oh well he said he would love me forever but then they break up nine
06:23:17Laurenmonths later is that wrong did he like bait her into having sex with him I'm not sure people I think people are allowed to if he meant it in the moment yeah the intention he at the moment if he meant at the moment then
06:23:31Adrienthat was the moment that they they shared and and so is your is your example oh sorry did you want to continue sorry my no you you answered it I I think that they're they could be comparable in a few senses but they are different I was just curious because the
06:23:43Brian Atlasthe question came to my mind as you guys were I do think like if a guy is like lying to the girl about his intentions and says he wants to get have a long-term relationship with her and then
06:23:53Brian Atlashe her and then dips I think that's objectionable I don't think that's cool um no it could it could there could also be a scenario where uh a guy does have the intention of
06:24:06Brian Atlashaving a long-term relationship and then they have sex and then something afterwards happens within a very short period of time and then he's like well I've changed my mind mhm I think that
06:24:18Brian Atlasthat could happen but if he's just being a scumbag and just trying to and lying about it I think that's scummy and I would not encourage men do that um I think men are allowed to change their minds though but maybe just let them know like let maybe ask him like Hey why
06:24:31Laurenwhy did you change your mind he's like you know I I just I send this but you know I really appreciated that and I want too they at the retreat they said if if you are not planning to have sex with someone again just you have a
06:24:42Brian Atlasclosing like hey like you know this is our closure right now and you know um thank you for honoring yourself and I had that moment with you yeah so yes I do think it's scummy if a guy is lying
06:24:54Brian Atlasabout his intentions in order to have sex with a girl I do think that's scummy and I don't think men should make it a an effort to just like sleep with a bunch of women I'm not in favor of male
06:25:06Brian Atlaspromiscuity I me personally I don't have an interest in like having sex with a girl once having a one night stand if I have sex with a girl I want there to be a continuity and I want to continue uh
06:25:16Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)seeing her I know maybe that standard's rare but at least that's my standard so yeah Brian didn't you say that when you start talking to the girl you want her
06:25:26Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)to be loyal to you and like date only you remember sure yeah what's your question no I just remember you saying saying that oh yeah from the gecko boom
06:25:37Brian Atlasonly me I feel like preferably no other most girls would date around a little bit just to see she ain't for me then back to the streets you go you can you can around between a couple guys
06:25:48Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)and they'll be dating like going for lunch and stuff not doing anything like crazy like you know like after how many dates do you want to like lock a girl in to be your girlfriend well
06:25:59Unknownpreferably before I even meet her she's properly single well yeah yeah but sheing to be like oh you're my girlfriend like I love how does she know that you like her like in a sense like cuz what if she's like oh he doesn't
06:26:11Brian Atlaslike me so I'm going to go with somebody and be like e like we didn't really connect it's not for me you know what I mean well I'm not saying if she doesn't like me or I don't like her that she needs to continue being loyal with me well yes so then after how many dates
06:26:23Laurenlike after how many she know that you like girl oh or do you not you like quickly does she have to be loyal yeah yes after the first date okay so so so that would pertain to people that like
06:26:35Laurenyou would ask out and then immediately after you asked her out you'd be like hey only eyes for me as opposed to like if let's say like the girl was around and and then she had sex with another guy and then and then you're like oh
06:26:47Cindy Zang / Demi Hawks (mixed)it's only for me but it was only if you asked her out first have you talked to her prior like have you guys hanged out with cuz she needs to know that she you like her have you hanged out with her before look there's a lot of scenarios
06:27:00Brian Atlashere I'll say this yeah if I go on the first date with her and she wants to go on a second date with me it has to be a rap with the other dudes got okay it has to be a rap sense that's it and if if
06:27:11Brian Atlasyou're still on the fence about me there doesn't have to be a second date that's fine you want to around with other guys see other guys I'm not the one for you then mhm
06:27:22Brisimple yeah simple I have a comment what's your
06:27:28Bricomment I don't think that guys are biologically um set to be with one girl I think men biologically and just in the
06:27:41Brian Atlaslike since the beginning of time they're meant to have multiple women and multiple children here here's the beautiful thing about humans though we are not beholden to our our Base Animal
06:27:52Briinstincts and we have actually you are no you have your animal instincts no matter how bad you want to change it I have I have there's there's something
06:28:02Brian Atlascalled discipline MH right right so there's discipline so perhaps I have a desire it's like this if you're in a monogamous relationship okay there's another
06:28:14Brian Atlasattractive woman but I've given a promise to somebody to be faithful to them I'm not going to go her because I've made this promise here I
06:28:23Brian Atlasdon't think men are supposed to be with one ah but see we as humans we have we have the greatest Intelligence on the planet and through that intelligence we
06:28:33Brian Atlashave agency and we can make we can uh make decisions and we have self-control and through that self-control we can fight these sort of Base Animal urges
06:28:45BriMH I feel like that's still like what we were set to do like right so what do you think about laws so women were meant to
06:28:53Brian Atlaslike you have something I want you have something I want say say like you have you have a uh I'm trying to think of an
06:29:03Brian Atlasexample here you have um a wallet with $5,000 in it I would love to have that $5,000 my perhaps my base animal urge is
06:29:13Brian Atlasto take it from you by force MH but because of laws because of agency because of self-control I choose not to do
06:29:23Briit okay but that's stuff that we made up I feel like at the core men they're they're instinct is to have
06:29:35Bribabies with as many women as possible and spread their seed as much as they can to become Alpha really evos pych I
06:29:45Briget it yeah so so you're saying men don't have the self-control to not cheat on their Partners is that what you're saying I think that it just makes sense on why cuz people are like well why did
06:29:58Briyou cheat she was perfect like blah blah blah like maybe men men cheat out of physical desire they don't cheat out of emotional usually they don't cheat out out of
06:30:09Briemotion women cheat out of emotion wom cheat because there's something wrong in her relationship um for men you could have the perfect relationship but still cheat because of that physical desire
06:30:22Briyou had in that moment cuz that's just what you're biologically programmed to do okay sure I acknowledge that there are men who cheat yeah no there and
06:30:31Brithere are men who can also be loyal mhm most men are cheaters are going to have that desire to spr there's a difference between having a desire and acting on the
06:30:43Adriendesire Bri I I have to ask just a quick question so uh when you said men are you know programmed to spread their seed for a real life example today someone like Nick Hannon right yeah would you say
06:30:54Adrienthat he is respected by men or by women or or society as a whole because technically he's spreading his seed a lot but I'm just saying per your logic I I just don't think that it Garners the
06:31:05Brirespect that maybe could I think women well honestly that because we have changed the ways we look at life now how we look at relationships now now it's
06:31:17Brinot about who has the most wom it's about actually it kind of is about who has the most woman so yeah cuz it is about who has the most woman men are doing all the stuff they do to attract
06:31:29Brias most women as possible because they want other men to say oh he has all the like that's really what they want what are you even arguing about you want to date three men at the same time
06:31:40Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)I know because back to my thing monogamy monogamy isn't a human like it isn't normal for women it definitely is you have a point about guys for women they are not
06:31:53Matthew / Demi Hawks (mixed)pre-programmed to go and spread their eggs like you know it's not an option for them they were they in their DNA more meant to parir bond with one man I