4B Movement?! ANGRY Feminist?! She LIES About VlRGlNlTY To Men?! She HIT Her BF?! | Dating Talk #211

Date: 2024-11-11
Duration: 7h 47m

Identified Speakers

SPEAKER_01Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_02Melody(guest)
SPEAKER_03Leah(guest)
SPEAKER_04Christine(guest)
SPEAKER_05Bri / Diana(guest)
SPEAKER_06Barbie(guest)
SPEAKER_07TTS Reader(audience)
SPEAKER_09Andrew Wilson(guest)
SPEAKER_11Ana(guest)
SPEAKER_12Shelby(guest)
SPEAKER_13Rachel Wilson(audience)
SPEAKER_14MJ (Melons)(guest)

Key Moments

00:02:12
IntroBri's introduction: 23, Atlanta, preschool teacher, ex-OnlyFans creator

my name is Bri I'm 23 location Atlanta Atlanta Georgia all right and I'm a preschool teacher

00:03:01
IntroBarbie's introduction: 21, LA, former stripper

my name's Barbie I'm 21 okay um I'm from La all right and I was a stripper a dancer

00:03:28
IntroChristine Wang's introduction: 27, model/content creator, LA

hi my name is Christine Wang I'm 27 and I'm a model and content creator

00:04:28
IntroLeah's introduction: 21, originally from Ukraine, LA, theater student

hi my name is Leah I'm originally from Ukraine I live in LA my occupation is theater I'm graduating with my bachelor's degree next semester

00:04:40
IntroMJ 'Melons' introduction: healthcare worker, Florida, OnlyFans, plus-size influencer

hi my name is MJ official melons with the Z on Instagram I work in healthcare and I'm from Florida

00:05:56
IntroMelody's introduction: 32, Westchester NY, travel nurse RN

I'm Melody I'm 32 I'm from New York Westchester um travel nurse RN

00:07:17
IntroShelby's introduction: 18, LA, SBCC student, unemployed

my name is Shelby I'm 18 from Los Angeles and I'm currently unemployed I'm a college student at Santa Barbara City College

00:07:24
IntroAndrew Wilson's introduction as co-host of The Crucible

my name is Andre Wilson I'm the host of The Crucible it's a popular entertainment Channel on YouTube I'm a political analyst a political satirist

00:07:31
IntroAna's introduction: 19, UCSB student, Bay Area

I'm Ana I'm 19 I'm a UCSB student and I'm from the Bay Area

00:28:10
QuoteBri's baptism story: 'The last time I had sex I closed my eyes and begged God to end it forever'

last time I had sex I closed my eyes and begged God to end it forever he gave me another chance at life

00:39:35
Key MomentAndrew challenges Bri on authenticity: 'If everything you said before today was a lie, why should we believe you now?' — 3 weeks into Christianity

why should we then assume that just uh you know after devoting your life to Christ for a whopping 3 weeks that you're not lying now

00:46:47
IntroDiana's late introduction: 34, from Hawaii, just moved to Long Beach, salon owner

Diana I'm 34 I'm from Hawaii I just moved back to Long Beach and you say what else occupation uh business owner

00:49:39
QuoteDiana describes catching her cheating military husband: a woman's leg was hanging out the window trying to escape

her leg was hanging out the window door like the window like trying to come out cuz she's trying to hop out the window and run off

01:25:42
ControversyBarbie reveals she broke her boyfriend's nose; he hit her back and gave her a concussion

a year ago I hit my man I broke his nose... did he hit you he hit me back and gave me a concussion

02:02:51
Key MomentAndrew argues 4B movement plays into conservatives' hands: women refusing to have sex to 'punish' men for abortion restrictions is exactly what conservatives wanted

the radical feminist response to this is oh yeah we'll teach you a lesson by not having sex I don't see how this is like hurting the other side since that's what they wanted to begin with

02:32:00
ControversyShelby admits she would lie to a guy about being a virgin to make him more comfortable, despite not being a virgin

if I want them to think I'm a virgin then I'll tell them that I am... I would if it came down to it

02:41:00
QuoteBarbie pulls out a thick stack of hundreds (estimated $10K+) from her purse, causing chaos at the table

never say that to a guy by the way... that's all hundreds holy shit

03:12:00
QuoteBarbie claims to have made approximately $1 million by age 21 from sugar daddies

total total from all the men how much have you made... a million dollar at 21 yes

04:42:20
QuoteMJ's tweet about dating standards: 'Where are the men that don't mind paying for a girlfriend? Just curious, hit me up'

where are the men that don't mind playing for paying for a girlfriend just curious cuz yeah hit me up

05:25:26
QuoteAndrew celebrates 100K subscribers on The Crucible, asks panel to congratulate him in unison

congratulations to The Crucible on 100K

06:52:12
Key MomentAndrew departs the show (~6:42 mark), thanks the panel, says he enjoyed the conversations despite arguments

I'm going to send a raid over your way girls it was very nice to meet you I'm on the East Coast so I'm three hours ahead

Topics Discussed

00:00:04
Guest Introductions

Brian introduces all 8 initial guests: Bri (23, Atlanta, ex-OF/ex-stripper, recently baptized), Barbie (21, LA, former stripper), Christine Wang (27, LA, model/content creator), Leah (21, Ukraine→LA, theater student), MJ 'Melons' (27, FL, healthcare/OF), Melody (32, NY, travel nurse, was on Farmer Wants a Wife), Shelby (18, LA, SBCC student), Ana (19, Bay Area, UCSB). Also Andrew Wilson (co-host). Discussion of their relationship statuses.

00:10:20
Bri's Religious Transformation (Quitting OF/Stripping/Baptism)

Bri's story of hitting rock bottom doing OnlyFans and stripping, doing drugs and drinking daily, having the Holy Spirit come to her, getting baptized on Nov 3, and driving 5 days from LA to Atlanta to return to family. Andrew challenges her on whether this is authentic or a grift (like other women who leave sex work and 'sell Jesus'). The panel debates whether people can genuinely change. Andrew notes she lied about being a virgin on Fresh & Fit previously for clout. Dark secrets of OnlyFans revealed: most big accounts use Indian chatters (management companies), AI voices, etc.

00:46:00
Diana Joins (Military Veteran / Salon Owner / 5 Kids Story)

Diana (34, Hawaii→Long Beach, Army veteran 92A Logistics) joins the panel. She was active duty Army and came home from AIT (Fort Lee) to surprise her husband who was cheating — he closed the door on her, she saw a bra, found a woman hiding and trying to escape out the window. Her ex-husband (black and Mexican) was a 'dependa' signing $3K checks from her military pay. She caught him cheating with a girl from high school who had been calling throughout their relationship. They stayed together, had 5 kids, divorced in 2016. She bought homes at 20 and 22 while in the military.

01:14:30
Women Hitting Men / Domestic Violence Debate

Barbie reveals she hit her boyfriend a year ago, broke his nose, and he hit her back giving her a concussion. Andrew and Melody argue extensively about whether men can hit back if a woman attacks them. Andrew's logical framework: if a weaker man attacking a stronger man can be defended against, why can't a man defend against a woman of equal strength? Melody argues a real man should walk away. Diana's story of mutual DV in a post-divorce relationship. Discussion of Duluth model, DV laws, and how men often get arrested even if innocent.

01:48:32
Self-Ratings Round

Brian asks guests to rate their looks 1-10. Results: Bri 8-8.5, Christine 9, Barbie 9, Leah 7.5 (then said solid 8), Melody 7.88→8, MJ 6-7.5, Shelby 6, Ana (few lines). Brian rated himself 6. Andrew jokingly said 10. Brian gives Barbie 6.5 with makeup. Andrew says Barbie is a 5 (average). Brian explains the scale: 1=butt ugly, 5=average, 6=above average, 7=pretty, 8=beautiful, 9=gorgeous, 10=stunning. Discussion of whether they'll be better-looking in 10/20/30 years. The average exceeded 8, triggering a roast session.

02:02:00
4B Movement (Post-Trump Election)

Trump won the 2024 election a few days before this episode. Brian pulls up the 4B movement (Korean feminist movement: no sex, no marriage, no dating, no babies with men). Andrew argues the movement ironically plays into conservatives' hands — if feminists stop having promiscuous sex, there will be fewer abortions, which is exactly what conservatives wanted. Panel votes: Christine (Trump), Melody (Kamala), most others didn't vote. Barbie neutral. Brief discussion of chivalry being dead and whether it's linked to feminist arguments about DV.

02:44:00
Virginity Lies Discussion

After Shelby reveals she would tell a guy she's a virgin if it helped, Andrew brings up that Bri lied about being a virgin on Fresh & Fit for money/clout. The panel debates whether lying about virginity/body count is 'insecure.' Andrew does a show of hands: no one would believe a woman who said everything she said was a lie but now she'll tell the truth.

03:06:00
Barbie's Sugar Daddy Finesse Operation

Barbie reveals she has accumulated ~$1 million by age 21 through sugar daddies. Pulls out a thick stack of hundreds from her purse ($10K+). She takes money from men and doesn't necessarily sleep with them. Got $20K three times from different guys. Had one guy fly her out, gave her $13K to shop for 3 days, but she flew home the same day. Andrew and Brian try to give her a $2 bill for one of her hundreds. Discussion of the Japanese phenomenon of female sex workers giving money to male hosts.

03:32:00
OnlyFans Dark Secrets

Bri (having left OF) reveals: most successful OF girls don't respond to their own messages — Indian chatters from management companies do it; models take 20-50% cut; AI voice messaging is now being used; management contracts are hard to escape. Most girls are depressed and don't know how to get out.

04:40:24
Body Count Discussion

Andrew asks the panel if men are insecure for caring about body counts. Melody refuses to share her exact count but gives range (under 30). Christine admits 32. Shelby: 8. Bri checks her phone list (~20). MJ won't specify (implies high from escorting context but personally ~6-7). Andrew asks the panel if they'd lie about body count to get a better man — no one raises their hand, but Andrew and Brian point out Shelby already said she would tell guys she's a virgin.

06:47:00
Age Gap Relationships

Panel discusses age gap relationships. MJ says her 19/28 relationship was her first love but she wouldn't now date someone under 24 at 27. Melody agrees there are issues with big gaps. Brian's cut-off: if they don't remember 9/11 they're too young (making cutoff ~25-26). Christine thinks her current boyfriend might be 'the one'. Shelby would only date 4 years older max. General consensus: 30/20 is questionable but not illegal; 7 years is the soft limit for most panel members.

07:04:00
Roast Session (TTS $20 tier)

Because the panel's average self-rating exceeded 8, Brian triggers a $20 TTS roast session. Various chat members roast the panelists. Notable: one roast says Barbie looks like Lola from Shark Tale. Viewers comment on the diversity of takes on the panel. Andrew's wife Rachel briefly appears and comments that Brian needs a drink for dealing with the panel.

Transcript

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05:35:29
MJ (Melons)like beautiful I mean I'm beautiful like I'm I am my I'm conventionally beautiful like that's why I rated myself a seven because well by by whose convention though by
05:35:40
MJ (Melons)let's talk about the convention by face being my face being proportionate and even my face being old so I I agree that a proportional face with angular features would be considered would be
05:35:51
Andrew Wilsonconsidered highly attractive I agree that angular features proportionality is highly attractive I don't disagree with that so that's what I but there is a glaring flaw here in my skin as well is
05:36:03
MJ (Melons)very it's even throughout my face so like I'm beautiful that that just kind of but there is a glaring other thing right which could
05:36:13
Brian Atlasdefinitely lead a lot of people to go not for me mhm and that's okay all I'm trying beautiful all I'm trying to say is small boobs are kind of elegant but
05:36:24
MJ (Melons)I'm debunking what you said of big girls with big melons can't be beautiful and I'm right here no you can still be hot attractive sexy all that with some giant titties but like there's like a
05:36:36
MJ (Melons)different you know there's like an Elegance to like a b cup an A cup I agree elegant yeah elegant no no I agree okay on in that
05:36:48
MJ (Melons)point I agree because majority of things that I wear um I can wear a top that she's wearing but because my chest is bigger I'm I look sex I look more sexual
05:36:59
MJ (Melons)so I so I therefore don't look I therefore don't look elegant like if I wore boot like if I wore this shirt basically I would eventually look more
05:37:08
MJ (Melons)sexier which would take away from my elegance and so I understand
05:37:18
MJ (Melons)that girl what
05:37:26
MJ (Melons)happened so I get what you mean so yeah no for sure like like if I walk in with a red dress yeah [ __ ] she looks sexy I mean I'd prefer youa but right but if I walk in with a red dress I'm like okay
05:37:38
MJ (Melons)damn she looks sexy look at her chest and the same girl with maybe smaller chest would come in with that same red dress she'll look beautiful compared to
05:37:48
MJ (Melons)beautiful and sexy compared to elegant and you know uh you know Lush Lush Lush field lust field so I get that so I
05:37:58
Brian Atlasagree with you yeah I agree too yeah what were you talking about before all this I don't know how we been talking about titties for like 20 minutes
05:38:08
Brian Atlasyeah cuz you got really hyper fixated on it it was you I'm I'm a labia guy I'm a laia guy what you brought it up Ukraine Ukraine brought it up and then you played off Ukraine that's what happened
05:38:19
TTS ReaderUK Ukraine oh wait sorry hia hold on my bad bro modest hikima donated $200 I gave a nony compliment to a woman on the panel and the one most likely to
05:38:31
MJ (Melons)die early of heart disease decided it was race based I am interested to hear why she it was racist they're talking about me about the heart disease but go ahead I mean I don't I don't really
05:38:42
MJ (Melons)remember the the pervy comment honestly but neither do I yeah um but I I try not to make anything raced based like when he said the whole Master thing I didn't immediately think of race I thought of
05:38:54
Andrew Wilsonthe kinky and freakiness so you must have Mis um wait in Bryan's defense I don't I don't think he was thinking in those terms either I brought
05:39:05
Andrew Wilsonit up because I thought it would be really fun to mess with him to like see some moral outrage on the panel I just thought it would be funny but I I definitely don't think I definitely don't think in any way the guy was
05:39:17
Andrew Wilsontargeting anybody I just I just thought it would be hilarious and it was objectively and I know that because you were laughing your ass off that's that's how I do that I don't yeah I don't find everything race oriented for sure as
05:39:29
MJ (Melons)being a woman of you know A different race and ethnicity I don't I don't mesh everything with race unless it's necessary so good talk okay uh we're going to get through the the notes
05:39:40
Brian Atlasreally quick I do want to play the bow video because it's important it is it is important it is important it is important so guys um I'm going to show you video of my
05:39:50
Andrew Wilsonex-girlfriend okay can I just ask again chair one you're dressed modestly really again it's kind of that's modesty there's flowers on it Andrew it's kind
05:40:01
Bri / Dianaof how she said like if another girl were to wear the same thing and she didn't have we was it' be super modest and be considered cute but since I'm wearing it's considered more like okay
05:40:13
Brian Atlaslike have you ever considered baking a cake in that dress I could got a big I'm trying to cover my shoulders I've been covering this can I wear the sh can I wear it for a bit I'd like to wear it I
05:40:24
Brian Atlasfeel a little bit I'll wear put over your head I feel a little revealing right now you need a hoodie these Brian you do look a little chilly you look beautiful thank you Bri that's very
05:40:35
MJ (Melons)chorous of you all right very chivalrous God damn bro a little a little a little titty girly couldn't rock that the way you are rocking that dress that's I
05:40:45
Bri / Dianadon't want the focus to be on my boobs that's why I had the sh can I keep this we can't help it literally can't look like what you were saying you can't even before I got my boobs done I still have
05:40:57
Brian Atlasboobs and people would just sexualize everything on more damn if you do damn if you don't so uh we we're going to pull up the bow video this is my ex-girlfriend this is my
05:41:08
Brian Atlasexgirlfriend uh what's her name her name is Becky what okay that's right yeah Becky that's Becky uh go ahead play
05:41:19
Brian Atlasit boom huge bow did you guys see that huge what a bow did you see the bow did you miss it I saw the we'll play it again but do the bow again do the bow again wait just
05:41:29
Brian Atlaswe we we we'll get it after so look I this was actually I filmed this after a long podcast day and she had dinner ready for me she she was a sweetheart but um I actually dumped her like 2 days
05:41:41
Andrew Wilsonlater but after she had well it wasn't just dinner she had Soju ready for you she had side dishes she Serv your noodles she really went all out she bow
05:41:48
Brian AtlasI see yeah and then played again and boom huge bow um so this is my expectation like from a girlfriend uh she has to hit good luck with that good
05:42:01
MJ (Melons)luck yeah it's possible I think you'll find it especially if he's m in another country that need a no I can do sherica the fixation on this master thing can do
05:42:13
MJ (Melons)that [ __ ] in America son it's like high status why do ukra why do Ukraine bring this up again what the [ __ ] look cuz that's what he is you are what you say you are and you're bow for what sir for though for what using your notes I mean
05:42:25
Brian Atlaswhat you said if she won't find someone who will stop reading my [ __ ] bro you freaking stop [ __ ] reading my [ __ ] Bro cover this [ __ ] I have a privacy screen on this for a reason right
05:42:37
MJ (Melons)if she won't if she won't find someone who will find someone w't bow if she wanted to she would she would I need a girl to make me a quilt absolutely yeah SP 10 hours yeah you buy
05:42:49
Brian Atlasthe'll on the first she got knit a cardigan yeah some ear she got make me a Shaw on a first right make you whatever hoodie yeah everything you [ __ ] dir
05:43:00
Brian Atlascuz if she wants to she shoulder off like the closer she is to being Amish the better at her
05:43:09
Brian Atlasokay if she won't [ __ ] churn butter I it's a d it's a [ __ ] deal breaker but I don't know I don't think an Amish girl would wear your um whatup also like a lot of girls really
05:43:22
Brian Atlasobject to this like on the first date like I'll have a girl come over to my place and I'll have her do the my laundry like what do you guys think going around the table like would you do that for a guy Bri I wouldn't go to a
05:43:32
Bri / Dianaguy's house if he's not my husband becauseit back in your ho days back in my you you know 3 weeks ago yeah like weeks ago we ago don't do that
05:43:43
Andrew Wilsonhe paid me for sure no no no pay no pay no he paid you in this is like the first thing look we have to go we have to go
05:43:52
Andrew Wilsonbackways here Bri so like let's think let's think in terms of like 30 days ago days you have done this yeah that's what I'm saying if he paid me sure I'll come right I'm not going to give an answer uh
05:44:04
Brian Atlasuh would you do a guy's laundry on first aid if you at his place yeah based I mean if I really like to be
05:44:15
Leahprobably not wait wait hold on sorry repeat it probably not okay I would never go to his place for the first day that's not true that's [ __ ] true have you ever had a one night stand
05:44:26
Leahabsolutely not oh stop the cap is it the stop the cap you're so predictable you're so [ __ ] predictable unbelievable uh uh
05:44:37
Andrew Wilsonwould you do a guy's laundry on the first date yes depending and do the bow yes depending on the date and then bowing no what the [ __ ] why did ukra why is
05:44:50
Andrew WilsonUkraine shaking her head like she would just never do it it's like imp an impossibility you wouldn't do a cuz you projecting I never did any one night
05:44:59
Andrew Wilsonstand [ __ ] I didn't say hang how does the laundry equate to a one night stand ask [ __ ] Brian cuz I have no idea because he said you
05:45:10
MJ (Melons)wouldn't go to someone's house on the first day h no absolutely not I'm hungry no I'm starving even even for like what if it was just for a nice dinner if he was like he just want to come over and
05:45:20
Andrew Wilsonhave a nice dinner this is delusional who goes to someone's apartment as a first why does be an apartment why they you know people do own houses for hang so hang on what if it
05:45:33
Andrew Wilsonwas like this hang on what if it was like this he was like listen what I like to do is I like to get like a group of of people over we have a big bonfire and I slow cook fish all day long or slow
05:45:45
Andrew Wilsoncook steak all day long right it takes me from 8:00 in the morning until 12: at night and then that's when we eat and it's the most delicious slow cooked meal you've ever tasted why don't you come on
05:45:57
Andrew Wilsonover right and we'll we'll do the bonfire we'll do the slow cooked steak you know you can even bring you can even bring a pow with you so that you feel more comfortable you wouldn't go do that
05:46:07
Leahreally you're changing the circumstances no I know I know because because I want to know the answer I want to know the I want to know the answer giving it are you sensing the difference between the
05:46:18
Leahintimate date between like two people and me going to their place don't cut me off don't cut me off don't cut me off you don't like when people cut you off you don't like when people cut you off
05:46:30
Leahdon't cut me you off it's not going to work this Stu I'm not trying to just clarify I just want to clarify and then I'll let you talk let me you cutting people off you cutting people off it's okay yeah because because because I want
05:46:42
Andrew Wilsonto make sure you're not staing the position and we're not wasting time really super well you're definitely wasting time back you are please all the okay so let me tell you I'm going to tell you exactly what's going to happen we're going to walk through your
05:46:54
Andrew Wilsonscenario right this second and then I'm just going to have to go back and repeat what I just said because you're going to straw man it go ahead thank you so much all right there's a difference between
05:47:04
Leahthe first date at someone's place when there's only a man and a woman and he's for some reason for some very dumb reason is inviting her to his place and
05:47:16
Andrew Wilsonwhat you just described when it's a group event it's it's a major difference it doesn't matter what you thinkway so back to what I was saying before you strawman the position I gave you which
05:47:27
Leahis would you go over to a man's house under those circumstances do we even call this a date one it's more than yeah sure he's
05:47:39
Andrew Wilsonhe's clearly interested in you right and he tells you he's interested in you he's inviting you over he's going to have a party where he slow slow Cooks steak all day long he says come over about 10:00 that's when the bonfire starts and we're
05:47:52
Andrew Wilsongoing to eat you can even bring a female friend with you would you go it still a date yes would you go does it matter would you go or not go yeah definitely I would go it's just not
05:48:04
Andrew Wilsonreally a date to me so so here's the so let's hang on let's expand on this so you're with this guy you like him you're over at his house you're all drinking you're having a great time right and
05:48:15
Andrew Wilsonthen voila you accidentally stumbled a little bit and you spilled your strawberry margarita your Ukrainian strawberry margarita all over his shirt like a dick like a [ __ ] you spilled
05:48:28
Andrew Wilsonit all over him he's kind of embarrassed but he shrugs it off he's like you know what don't worry about it I got a washer inside you wouldn't just offer to and be like look why don't I take it I'll throw
05:48:38
Leahit in the washer for you yeah but that's different that's like let her answer let her answer um you know what distracted me a lot is the way you're using like
05:48:50
Andrew WilsonUkrainian thing what's the background of it is it like kind of hilarious sh literally irrelevant Lally irrelevant totally irrelevant means [ __ ] nothing forget all everything I've ever said
05:49:03
Andrew Wilsonabout Ukraine which has always been tongue and cheek you're there with this guy you accidentally spill your strawberry dackery all over his shirt it was an accident you stumbled in the dark
05:49:15
Andrew Wilsonand he's like you know what don't worry about it I got a washing machine it's right over there and you know you wouldn't you wouldn't go you know what let me go throw it in the washer for you as a way of saying I'm
05:49:26
Andrew Wilsonsorry would I do that yeah yeah of course I would of course you would so you're saying on the first date under many circumstances you would actually do a man's laundry thank you Ukraine thank
05:49:39
Leahyou wait let's get the answer from everybody Andrew you're too much like really this is like it's my God this is [ __ ] up it's okay Brian everybody this
05:49:49
Andrew Wilsonwhy Putin's gonna win uh oh uh okay going around the table I forgot where we left off would you okay I had I had to I had to it was funny child this is this
05:50:00
MJ (Melons)was childish andw I said oh you asked me the bow as well the bow would you hit the bow so yes unless they treated me like that and would you do so would you do a bow would
05:50:11
Melodyyou do laundry for the guy I'm hitting a bow only if the sex is Bomb no it's like I'm doing laundry only if he's Daddy and that's it
05:50:22
Bri / DianaDaddy you said on first date so that's absolutely no for both for me on a first date have you ever had a one night stand no never be honest being
05:50:34
Brian Atlashonest okay and and uh but would you how about uh down the line a month down the line you going to hit a bow no never with a bow laundry laundry yeah not the
05:50:47
Bri / Dianabow I love laundry cook what no bow okay I can cook but I'm not bound to anybody I don't care who you are you want bow no absolutely not really yes it's a culture thing culture thing could be I mean like I see that the
05:51:00
Brian Atlasother lady that you show he's a white guy no my culture thing that's like a no no my head's not going down wouldn't it be like if you're Asian wouldn't it be more types different types of Asian I'm not I
05:51:13
Brian Atlasknow there's different you want me to tell you how many differentes you've got Tai you've got Vietnamese you've got Cambodian you've got uh La you've got Mongolian
05:51:24
Bri / Dianayou've got did I say Japanese you got Korean you've got Chinese yeah but every like specific Indonesian everybody's different though like a culture thing like my culture will say absolutely not happening we're not bowing
05:51:37
Brian Atlaswhere's the place that there's a civil war currently just Burma wait no that it's not even called Burma anymore Myanmar thank you Philippines the Philippines
05:51:48
Shelbythank you Singapore boom Taiwan Taiwanese yeah good um okay uh would you bow SL do guys laundry on um
05:51:58
Shelbythe first dat I mean I guess you guess like would it be like a joke to bow or would would it be like for real like
05:52:08
Shelbyhalfway between the joke and serus yeah I would do it okay and the laundry you do the laundry yeah I find a relief in folding clothes relaxing see I'm a nice
05:52:19
Brian Atlasguy on the first date I'll I'll have it just it just needs to be folded it's already gone through the wash gone through the dryer I just have it ready to go to be folded that's my big thing would you do a girls laundry on the
05:52:30
Brian Atlasfirst date oh exactly why not why in fact sometimes if I want to really challenge throwing in the challenge there I have a washboard and a clothes
05:52:40
Brian Atlasline so I'll have her turning butter and then yes turning butter yeah if if she won't find someone who
05:52:52
Christinewill period you know what I mean yeah but wait so you won't do it no you wouldn't do a bow or the laundry not on the first date no second third date if
05:53:03
Brian Atlasthey were doing it with me nope then no okay I would sit there and watch okay so a couple questions for you couple questions for you then I'll get back to the notes here so wait so okay uh when you go on the first date
05:53:16
Brian Atlaswith a guy would you you want him to pay for the first date yeah okay and then just to be clear though uh you wouldn't the perfect guy your perfect guy MH you wouldn't do it for him I
05:53:28
Christinewould but I wouldn't do it on first the first date but how would I know he's perfect I wouldn't know anything you know he's perfect no no no like you are thirsty for this dude damnn you're
05:53:40
Christinethirsting um okay if I thought he was like the perfect person he's Rich he's tall doesn't matter
05:53:49
Brian Atlashe voted for Obama Obama Hillary Biden Harris okay um if I thought he was the perfect person for me perfect Perfect
05:54:00
Christineguy more perfect than your current boyfriend maybe it would really depend on the situation if it was like that situation where like I spiled a drink on him yeah I would do wash his clothes and
05:54:11
ChristineFold It him but if it was just like a laundry was like laying around in his house no it was in hamper cuz he's it was okay it was like dried in the hamper and he was like hey do you mind just
05:54:22
Brian Atlasfolding my laundry no it needed to be washed and okay fine fine it's already it's in the dryer it's already dry you just have to fold the [ __ ] would you do it I would for the
05:54:34
Christineperfect eye maybe I don't know I you ask a lot of questions have you ever had a one night stand yeah probably have you ever slept with it your boyfriend how quickly did you guys you know first dat uh three months three months yeah we were friends
05:54:50
Brian Atlasfirst yeah oh I don't I he was like in the friend zone he was yeah I guess so how long was he in the friend zone for three months wait how do you guys meet friendsgiving like Thanksgiving last
05:55:01
Brian Atlasyear social thing like being official until like yeah April okay who asked did you ask him out or did he ask you out he asked me out he asked you out yeah
05:55:15
Brian Atlasokay wait but okay so you guys were friends for 3 months but like okay hold on hold on hold so he he asked you out yeah and then you guys went on got food
05:55:27
Christineor something what did you do for your first date uh we went skydiving for New Year's on your first date on our first like damn bro these guys doing way too much extra [ __ ] normal dating I wanted
05:55:38
Christineto go skydiving and he has his license so he was like let's go well I still had to be tandem like I had to be tied to someone but it was like our we were friends when we did that but that was
05:55:48
Brian Atlaslike our first like what do you mean you were friends but you it was a date yeah like our first like us just us hanging out oh so you weren't it wasn't a date then yeah I guess it wouldn't wasn't well it was a date for him but not for
05:56:00
Brian Atlasyou I don't know it was like neither of us I guess did you guys smash that night no okay so then he was like well um Christine I think you're very swell and
05:56:11
Brian AtlasI'd like to this is exactly how went like I think you're very swell I'd like to take you out to dinner yeah he took me out to dinner and that was the that was the first dat Like official official
05:56:24
Christinelike date date and did you guys that night I don't think so Christine I don't think so I think we hooked up before that but like oh we were you know
05:56:34
Brian Atlasfriends it was it was like a really complicated start of our relationship uh so okay so your perfect guy you wouldn't do it for your perfect guy
05:56:45
Brian Atlasmaybe I don't know it would really do you want a guy to pay for I forgot do you want a guy to pay for the first date yeah yes M you do MH okay so here's what's interesting to me like a lot of
05:56:56
Brian Atlaswomen's standard is I want a guy to pay for the first date so what does that entail so let's say you're dating a guy who works construction and he $20 right and
05:57:08
Brian Atlaslet's say the total for the date is for the both of you is 100 I don't think that's unreasonable for a nice dinner with some drinks and a tip it could even be more I'm sure you you've all of you
05:57:19
Brian Atlashave been on a first date where the guy paid more than 100 bucks that's $50 for you $50 for him he works $20 an hour
05:57:27
Brian Atlasthat's two and a half hours of work mhm so y'all women want a man to labor for two and a half
05:57:36
Brian Atlashours but if he asks you to to do a bow that cost you 3 seconds and is effortless literally effortless it takes
05:57:46
Brian Atlasthree seconds to do a bow you won't do it but you can demand a man to using his resources and let's again let's say he works a construction job and he's getting $20 an hour and he takes you out
05:57:59
Brian Atlasto $100 dinner that's five hours of work I mean obviously he's paying for himself so but that's 5 hours of work y'all can't hit a
05:58:10
Bri / Dianabow I mean majority of of us said we would I'm not my own I don't need anybody pay for money that is on him really I usually bring my own money if I'm on a date and say the guy that want to pay no no no he
05:58:23
Bri / Dianawants to pay but you would there be a second date if the guy didn't pay it doesn't matter just depend on the energy and the vibe if the vibe wasn't good there's no second date let's say the vibe's good okay the vibe's good but he's like two checks is it is there no
05:58:35
Melodysecond date what a turn off what a turn off for a guy no that's crazy it dep on the communication a what's a turn off that's a turn off for a guy to pay $100 and expect anything from $100 for you to
05:58:46
Melodydo back that's a big turn off what about if I get din so the same way the same way that you were how you were saying for like 2 hours right it takes him two hours of work to to give you to give you
05:58:56
MJ (Melons)dinner to afford it yeah right so with me with my money what is it for me then the same thing no what are you talking about she why you flipping up the scenario her hours that she makes at her job is being spent on you cuz she's
05:59:09
Brian Atlaspaying half as well well that's the the scenario presented was the guy's paying for the dinner and then expects me to Bow CU if I was paying for his dinner I wouldn't
05:59:20
Brian Atlasexpect him to Bow so who's more of a man no you don't expect him to Bow but if you're going on a date with a [ __ ] construction worker that gets paid $20 an hour he's literally physically
05:59:31
Brian Atlaslaboring so that he can for hours so that he can take you on said date okay and y'all are not willing to literally no so as a nurse I'm paying
05:59:43
Melodyhis for his first dinner I'm doing the same thing it's labor I'm it's the same body labor do you pay for first AIDS sometimes I have I have before not not not mostly but if
05:59:54
Andrew WilsonI talk turn he beautiful Brian sha is it's a very beautiful sh she said it's a turn off if he expects something back and for
06:00:05
Brian Atlasknow is not that simple yo Eugene thank you for the gifted hold on Boom Eugene thank you for the gifted 20 50 50 excuse me
06:00:15
MJ (Melons)memberships what she said it was a turn off if he expects something after paying for the date I'm not that's what she said I paid for your dinner it's it's
06:00:25
Brian AtlasI'm trying to articulate a point women can have this expectation of men that the man should pay for the first date well what does that actually entail what are we offering no no no that's not the
06:00:36
Brian Atlaspoint the okay I got the point though if a guy if you expect a guy to pay for the first date that's your expectation on him what is required for him to take you
06:00:46
Brian Atlasto a $100 the the to the total for the date is $100 if he works $20 makes $20 an hour he has to work five hours if he's working a construction job he's
06:00:58
Brian Atlasphysically laboring so he can take you on a date for five hour well I'll just even being charitable if we cut in half it's 2 and 1/2 hours of work for him mhm
06:01:10
Brian Atlasright 2 and 1 half hours of physical labor that's your expectation for men to take you on the first date but y'all are oh I would
06:01:19
Brian Atlasnot do a 3 second bow that was his expectations everybody's different no it's not it's not a transactional thing like I'm taking you on a date so you have to bow it's not
06:01:31
Brian Atlasthat it's just like you guys have this expectation on men that they should pay for States but if a guy is like I want you to be submissive I want you to bow for me you won't do it that but that's
06:01:42
Brian Atlasexpectation you here I'll take it even a step further y'all not I know what y'all's sexual history
06:01:50
Brian Atlasis probably some of you at this table have met a guy and within minutes hours have [ __ ] him same night you have sucked his
06:02:01
Brian Atlasdick gave him the [ __ ] gave him the [ __ ] you'll you'll L the D you'll L the D but you won't hit a bow you won you won't do
06:02:12
Andrew Wilsona laundry well well you all said you all said no but I think Brian phrased this poorly I said yes he said within a few minutes to a few hours he's really
06:02:22
Andrew Wilsonsaying within the same day that you met this person you slept with him the same day that you met him so I'm just going to ask this question uh to the entire panel if you've ever met a man and
06:02:34
Andrew Wilsonwithin the same day or night of meeting him you've slept with him raise your hand and it doesn't imply one night stand you could have continued dating yeah you could have yeah show of
06:02:46
Andrew Wilsonhands if you've bro y'all are full of [ __ ] wait he could you please could you please repeat sorry I zoned out okay okay pay very close attent the whole
06:02:58
Andrew Wilsonpanel pay attention to what I'm actually pay attention don't like look at the W's on the whatever on the wall and get distract Ed by the pretty floaty things just to actually listen to what's being
06:03:09
Andrew Wilsonsaid same day you met a guy or same night you met the guy in the same day or same night that you met this guy you slept with this guy or did some type of
06:03:19
Brian Atlassexual thing with this guy show of hands damn bro there's a lot of liars at the table totally totally [ __ ] liar you're a [ __ ]
06:03:30
Christineliar wait hold on Christine you said your body counts 30 too yeah there wasn't one like college hookup not that like the first time I met them you know what I'm saying not the first day I met
06:03:42
Andrew Wilsonthem that first day like never oh wait are we okay well then let me rephrase I'll rephrase this a different way rephrase guy who you met within the
06:03:52
Andrew Wilsonfirst five days five days you've slept with him or done some sexual thing with him show of hands
06:04:06
Brian AtlasI bro I'm not even joking like I literally have to like talk my I mean Christine come on I need college did you give her the Sha
06:04:18
Bri / Dianaback or else the world could she I need your Shaw because I'm cold no I need it for real please I have no I feel uncomfortable I don't I don't want to not wear Shaw I feel uncomfortable
06:04:30
Andrew Wilsonplease give me my Shaw back what about what about Christian ethics Brian's cold and you're you're not going to give your Shaw to a old person listen this is he has a whole hoodie on her
06:04:41
Brian Atlasproperty you know what because you're such a gentleman I will he is not a gentleman I had to ask him 10 times Hey listen okay why don't you
06:04:52
Brian Atlassteal the why don't you get some warmth from the hikma okay why don't you why don't you [ __ ] peel that [ __ ] peel the skin and use that as a Shaw use the hicka
06:05:04
Bri / Dianashaw I tried to eat it Brian she's trying to dress conservatively you jerk please let me not my I'm sorry this is can you just
06:05:12
Brian Atlasthrow it okay you okay throw it it here don't throw it like that he's such a boy I'll pass it to her just a boy you know that was that was gentle okay that was
06:05:24
Brian Atlasgentle all right calm down okay we have a chat here from Brian you're you're such a jerk I'm such a a practicing gentlemen if a woman can expect a free meal on a date and sus out if a man can provide for for her why can't a man have
06:05:37
Brian Atlasa woman do his laundry or clean some floors to Su out if she can take care of a home it's a great argument gentlemen like now in the first date on the first dat she wants why do I got to be a provider on the first date why do I got
06:05:48
Brian Atlasto pay why do you feel uncomfortable about it just dinner it's just a bowang I will do the bow show us do the B show us the bow I'm not no us you even take
06:05:58
Andrew Wilsonme to dinner wait you have a boyfriend no bow for you the chatter is making a very good point here the chatter is making good point let me let me let me give you the point real quick methany
06:06:09
Andrew Wilsoncalm down have you guys ever been on a date with a man and it's the first date and you ask him what he does for a living and essentially you're prying into how much he makes not for you yeah but they're also asking us the same
06:06:21
Andrew Wilsonquestion I agree they're also asking you the same question yeah I agree with that I'm not disputing itg Mama but on a first date you would agree with me that it's very common that men and women kind
06:06:33
Andrew Wilsonof pry into what the other person does and how much they make that's pretty common right you would agree with that wouldn't you sure yeah so I mean if that's the case if a man is looking for
06:06:44
Andrew Wilsona woman who would be a good kind of housewife let's say uh if you're interested in his money and his occupation because you want to see if he's a good provider doesn't it seem
06:06:56
Andrew Wilsonreasonable that he test to see if you're a good Homemaker on the first date yeah but if on the first date you're trying to see if he's a good provider I don't see why you have the moral High Ground here but
06:07:08
Andrew WilsonI'm not telling him go make the money in front of me so I will make sure that this is exact but it's inferred it's inferred that you're asking him how much he makes so that you can determine if
06:07:20
Andrew Wilsonhe's a good provider like that's inferred yeah absolutely idea yeah so so so I mean if you're like hey right he's paying for the meal and this and that that's a demonstration that he makes the
06:07:33
Leahmoney he's saying he makes why couldn't you demonstrate the same thing in opposition okay so the reverse thing would be would you would you do the laundry and the relationship yes I would
06:07:45
Andrew Wilsonwhat's your job this one how much you do you understand that this is the same thing I'll tell you why that I'll tell you why that's wrong I understand what you're saying so here I'll I'll be maximum charitable back I understand
06:07:56
Andrew Wilsonwhat you're saying you're saying look if I'm just asking this guy what he makes I'm not literally saying let me come to your job and make sure you make that amount right
06:08:06
Andrew Wilsonthat's totally fair but you are saying pay for the meal right pay for the gas pay for all that that is a demonstration
06:08:15
Andrew Wilsonokay provider so if that is the case and he's demonstrating that for you well how are you demonstrating back you're a good Homemaker okay so is this your standard
06:08:27
Andrew Wilsonbecause most of the men that's not my question it has nothing to [ __ ] do with what my standard is how does question apply to me assume for a second that I don't care that I'm asexual and
06:08:39
Andrew Wilsondon't give a [ __ ] about women and they mean nothing to me and I'll spend the rest of my life alone has zero to do with the question literally nothing to do with the question so so can he answer
06:08:50
Andrew Wilsonthe question I asked you don't even remember it do I think because you were so busy going off on a tangent about do you apply the standard to yourself which has nothing
06:09:01
Leahto do with Andrew I'm just wondering remember what I asked I'm just at what point of your life did you even start asking yourself this question like oh if
06:09:10
LeahI'm if I'm responsible are you cutting me off again oh you really oh my gosh check this out check yeah yeah yeah okay this out don't cut me off hang on hang
06:09:20
Andrew Wilsonon hang on why should I you have to hang on because I started talking yeah go ahead yeah thank you so much I last time which is ask unrelated okay okay Andrew
06:09:32
Leahso since when did you even start having this concern okay if I'm responsible for paying for a dinner for the first date why shouldn't she show me that she would do my laundry like since when did this
06:09:44
Andrew Wilsoneven happen in your head I'm wondering who cares who cares who cares look I'm going to show you I'm going to show you how flawed this this line of logic is right uh if there was a big body of
06:09:56
Leahwater and there was a bridge would you use the bridge to cross the big body of water yeah it's such
06:10:07
Andrew Wilsona rethorical question of course yeah yeah of course well I would use a boat what does that have to [ __ ] do with
06:10:16
Andrew Wilsonanything so whether or not I apply the standard you have to the standard I have it has nothing to do with what I'm asking so instead of deferring and
06:10:27
Andrew Wilsonsaying Andrew when exactly did you apply X Y and Z to your life it has nothing to do with what I'm asking what I'm asking is why would it be unreasonable for a
06:10:38
Andrew Wilsonman to say to you if you want to know how much I make because you're trying to pry into whether or not I'd be a good provider why is it unreasonable for me
06:10:48
Leahto ask you if you can wash some [ __ ] socks on the first date okay this is just out of my it really is so out of my worldview that I can't even picture some
06:11:01
Leahman asking me that why wouldn't it be reasonable that's a good question maybe for someone like you especially it it is very reasonable for me it's just [ __ ] weird it's really
06:11:13
Leahweird I don't not know what's the problem about just discussing it and making sure that okay if we get into the relationship I can do that I mean for me
06:11:22
Andrew Wilsonyou going across the bridge instead of a boat it's just [ __ ] weird okay okay I mean does that make any sense right but it doesn't it doesn't make any sense when you think about it it doesn't
06:11:34
Andrew Wilsonmatter if I take the boat and you take the bridge across the B that has no bearing on anything me saying it's weird you take the bridge it means nothing so the question here is like if this guy if
06:11:48
Andrew Wilsonyou're asking him this question because you want him to provide and he's making the demonstration he can provide by paying for the date and he wants you to be a homemaker what the [ __ ] is wrong with him asking you if you can clean
06:12:00
Leahsome socks and you demonstrating it like he's demonstrating for you that he can provide the first reason why it's weird because I can't go to someone's private space on
06:12:12
Andrew Wilsonthe first date I'm not going to your place we've already established that's not true I've already shown you how that's not true you'll go to a person's space on the first every time you get invited to dinner you got his laundry depending on what the [ __ ] is wrong with
06:12:25
Melodyyou every time you get invited to dinner you have to cook and clean the whole house wait can I can I just take care of absolutely ridic wa wait cuz we were talking before I really want to that would be ridiculous which why that's not
06:12:38
Leahso getting back to what you said about the different example um I'm not even calling this a date um when there's a bunch of people hanging out in the you
06:12:47
Leahknow private like spot of a man that wants a date with me so he's inviting me but there's there are other people there for me it's not even a date it's a group
06:12:57
Leahevent it's not two of us so I'm I understand completely are you I agree hang on I even I'm even going to give you the ol branch that I agree with you
06:13:07
Andrew Wilsonwhat I'm saying is that what if you set all of that up specifically so that you would have a spill on his shirt so that he could see if you could wash his
06:13:18
Andrew Wilson[ __ ] shirt competently and you did it's a [ __ ] test just like the him paying for a date is a [ __ ] test right so like what's the problem with that
06:13:28
Leahexactly oh in this kind of circumstances there's no problem about it an easy of course that's what I'm saying there's no problem yeah of course cuz you gave the exactly perfect circumstances for that
06:13:41
Leahif we were having a dinner at the restaurant two of us and then all of a sudden he's like can you m i want to make sure I want to make sure that you um this is [ __ ] weird you know but exactly the conditions that
06:13:53
Andrew Wilsonyou provided us with of course it makes sense you know that it makes sense so like what's let us assume let us assume for a moment you know the hats that men
06:14:04
Andrew Wilsonwear they have a forward brim right like a baseball cap mhm you've seen men in baseball caps right yeah okay you do realized that 100 years ago that they
06:14:15
Andrew Wilsonwore uh like cowboy style hats and top hats right all right yeah yeah yeah so is it would it be weird to watch a guy walk down the street with a big top hat
06:14:26
Unknownon that would be kind of strange right a little bit unusual yeah a little bit be a little it would be a little weird probably be a little weird because it's cult it's culturally
06:14:37
Andrew Wilsonrelative yeah so so in this case when you say I want a demonstration you can make me money and and provide for me and you demonstrate that by paying for my dinner and he says well
06:14:49
Andrew Wilsonthen I would like a demonstration you can do [ __ ] laundry and the things that I want the only reason you find it weird is because of cultural relativism you're saying because this doesn't
06:15:00
Andrew Wilsonhappen much right it's weird to me but is it really weird when you think about it logically doesn't it kind of make sense that if a man wanted a housewife he would test a woman so he didn't have
06:15:10
Leahto waste his time yeah I see your perspective uh very very clearly but at the same time okay if you see as um a paying okay hold on how should I even
06:15:21
Leahput this if a man is paying for the dinner if he's taking care of the whole date and if we take it as the proof that he is going to provide in the future well isn't that really the
06:15:34
Leahpurpose of him paying for the date in the first one see he could lend the money from his [ __ ] friend this is the problem uh this first dat I mean that's true good but that really doesn't negate
06:15:45
Andrew Wilsonthe point as to why it is he's paying for the date the whole idea here is I'm taking you out I'm taking you out why it's a demonstration I can take care of
06:15:55
Leahyou all right what if he landed money from his friend his grandpa his dad he's paying for the whole thing and then he's like can you do my laundry I say yes yes of course I'm going to do all your laundry and then they get into the
06:16:08
Leahrelationship he's broke and she never does laundry and because they just lied to each other on the first dat hang onang hang on I'm totally going to give you the Olive Branch back he totally
06:16:18
Andrew Wilsoncould borrow money from some like random he knows or some family member he knows and completely catfish you under those circumstances but you could do the same
06:16:28
Andrew Wilsonright you could laundry room and you could call your mom and be like hey Mom how the [ __ ] do I out of these white socks I have no idea and she's like honey you have to use the
06:16:40
Andrew Wilsonbleach right or whatever it is so it's like it's the same thing both ways right it's like just saying because you can't be tricked doesn't mean that the purpose
06:16:49
Andrew Wilsonhere is that uh he's supposed to pay for the DAT to prove he can provide and if he wants to provide for what's going to be a housewife it seems reasonable that he would ask for demonstration that
06:17:01
Leahyou're a good housewife that's all I'm saying okay does that make sense that makes a perfect sense and it does it makes sense yeah I you're really smart you're really smart
06:17:13
Andrew Wilsonguy amen amen why are you shaking your head what am I saying that's wrong what am I saying that's wrong you just like you just shake your head you get upset but you never tell me what I'm saying
06:17:23
Andrew Wilsonthat's incorrect I have a question that'd be chair chair six chair six what you got M did you pay for the first date with your wife of course did she your so
06:17:33
Andrew Wilsonwhy are you arguing did she do your laundry what hang on hang on listen I I need you to understand something it wouldn't matter if every
06:17:44
Andrew Wilsonsingle night I went out to a prostitution house and grabbed eight different hookers and gang bang him it would have no [ __ ] bearing whatsoever
06:17:55
Andrew Wilsonas to the point of the argument the argument is whether or not this is appropriate not whether or not I would do it has nothing to do with anything
06:18:05
Andrew Wilsonyou understand that right it's it's the idea that you can entertain a thought whether or not you would do the thing is irrelevant it's it's totally
06:18:15
Brian Atlasirrelevant I uh we're going to try to get through the notes here real quick so we got a few more let's do uh Diana really quick and we'll do Melody uh
06:18:26
Brian AtlasDiana you said not a date experience but someone that falls you on social media told you you're never going to get the guy that you want because of how you look how you are shaped mhm these guys
06:18:37
Brian Atlasjust want to smash and pass and the only way someone would be serious and loyal to me he has to be a average below average and short or super old yeah
06:18:46
Bri / Dianasomeone told you that yep damn wow that is not [ __ ] true and I'm like but I'm not even looking though you what I said I'm not even looking cuz I'm so busy like with my business I don't really
06:18:59
Brian Atlashave time but if I'm dating I'm making time because I want to and the five kids too yeah you got to juggle that schedule that's okay uh you said you don't understand this part when it comes
06:19:10
Brian Atlasto dating why is it when the guy is all over you and you're non me nonchalant about it he's putting in showing more effort that he's interested serious about you but the moment you decide to
06:19:21
Brian Atlasreciprocate the attention infection because you're genuinely falling longing the guy more falling like falling in like like you like him like yeah start
06:19:31
Bri / Dianaliking him yeah he ghost you yeah I just thought that was weird like like so like after he get sex no no not not that it's like the fact that like they're showing interest they're chasing
06:19:43
Bri / Dianaafter you making time and showing that like you know you're you're the priority right yeah and then you're like kind of me like cuz you're not really feeling just like whatever and then the moment
06:19:54
Bri / Dianayou start noticing his um effort you appreciate it and then you wanted to reciprocate but then it ends up like they just kind of drops you like are you supposed to be more nonchalant and let
06:20:06
Bri / Dianathem chase so they can keep going or are you just I don't know just thought it was weird like what is it that you want do you want a girl that don't really care and you're here
06:20:18
Bri / Dianaputting more effort into her or you actually want to seriously be in a relationship with this person okay uh H so the question is why after
06:20:28
Brian Atlasdating for a period of time uh and you start showing more interest in the guy they end up ghosting you basically yeah like communicating like you know like consistency as far as like texting or
06:20:40
Bri / Dianatalking whatever and then the moment when you kind of like trying to show them that you actually want more than like just dating you want to move to the next level it it just kind of gone uh
06:20:52
Brian Atlaswell I I want to ask the the other female panelists here have you guys had this experience where the guy starts I mean like for the record I've
06:21:03
Bri / Diananever been on a dating app or website like throughout this year until no until this year I signed up my first year ever signing up after my 34th birthday is there an issue with the audio by the way uh Damien just you got to be keeping an
06:21:14
Brian Atlaseye on the chat because some people are reporting that the there's some audio issu there's been some audio issues on R end um chat one in the chat is the audio
06:21:25
Brian Atlasokay two in the chat audio is not okay tune the chat if the audio is is not okay one in the chat the audio is
06:21:36
Brian Atlasokay I I I think the audio is okay right little pops and clicks damn bro I don't know oh you know what it could be wait I'm GNA do CH test chat
06:21:52
Brian Atlasuh do you guys hear that Daman do you hear hear anything no you I don't it's it's their audio I wonder how for how long that's weird I'm not sure what's going on sor sorry guys
06:22:05
Brian Atlassome something bugging with the [ __ ] audio maybe it's these I don't know all right well okay uh keep an eye on it so okay
06:22:17
Brian Atlasuh you said the dating pool is trash in this day and age people are feeding you what they think you want to hear is bait yeah like a lot of times I guess
06:22:28
Bri / Dianaum like well I'm speaking for myself I guess um I'm if I'm going on a date like my ultimate goal is obviously being in a relationship and be married to eventually um so most of the time the guys would like put on their profile
06:22:41
Bri / Dianalike oh they're looking for a serious relationship they want to have a family or get married whatever but then when you actually go on a date with them and you're hearing what they're saying it doesn't add up it's just like n you're just wasting my time at this point so
06:22:53
Andrew Wilsonit's like a bait to get a date at least okay well what are what are these things that they're baiting you with um try to have um similar um uh goals I
06:23:05
Bri / Dianaguess as far as like relationship wise like they want to find someone to get married to to tie down or to have more kids or whatever the case maybe like something more permanent not just like oh this is I'm just outdating or looking
06:23:16
Andrew Wilsonfor a one night stand whatever so they're yeah so they're they're catfishing you in with the idea that they want a long-term relationship when they really don't pretty much okay well
06:23:28
Andrew Wilsonlet me ask you another question since we're on this topic um so a woman challenged me recently recently this was just a few weeks ago and she's like listen Andrew you're a smart guy you give you give a lot of [ __ ] and I agree
06:23:41
Andrew Wilsonwith a lot of the [ __ ] that you give but um this one thing you're wrong men's profiles dating profiles are way off base basically all of them are the same they all just talk about how they love
06:23:53
Andrew Wilsonthe outdoors and I was like no it can't be it can't be like that right and she's like look I'll show you take a look yourself and I went through and looked and she was right right it was pretty it
06:24:05
Andrew Wilsonwas pretty Universal like basically all the men were like I just love the out that was it holy [ __ ] some go ahead go ahead my phone went off yeah am I am I
06:24:18
MJ (Melons)way off base there uh you lost me with the whole outdoor stuff okay never mind for Sor I'll just let you go I mean the if I could say something the only thing I
06:24:29
MJ (Melons)think of when I heard you say that is when you talk a good game on dating sides and you're like meeting a guy and you actually meet them in person their appearance or how they
06:24:40
MJ (Melons)carry themselves makes you think oh okay well they were more interesting online but actually seeing them I probably just Smash and go about my business so it depends on how what you wear to the date
06:24:53
MJ (Melons)how you present yourself a guy who's probably telling you he wants to he wants a girlfriend he wants a wife and he meets you like oh she has her chest out her dress is short I'm probably just gonna one night stand her and then not
06:25:04
Bri / Dianatalk to her again compared I dress accordingly so I'll ask they'll arrange the date like where they picking like say what restaurant or what our activities doing I dress accordingly so say we're going to a five star or like a
06:25:16
Bri / DianaMichelin rating restaurant I dress accordingly mhm and if we're going to bowling dress accordingly I'm I in the gym so ma majority of my tires gym
06:25:26
Brian Atlasclothing anyway but if I do go out on a day to actually try and dress the part all right we have Melody here
06:25:35
Melodyyou're a travel nurse correct uh it does not matter how you dress though either it really doesn't matter like it's up to the guy if the guy wants to be a [ __ ] and [ __ ] you that's what he's going to do or if he
06:25:47
Melodywants to be a husband and like come into a serious relationship then he's going to do that you could dress like a hooker and the guy might want to have you be his wife you could it doesn't matter how you dress I mean for the record I have
06:26:00
Melodyzero experience with the dating app this is my first time ever signing up so I don't even know how it works I agree what I mean it doesn't matter how you're dressing it's it's up to you guys to decide that do you want are you in the
06:26:10
Melodyrelationship to only screw her or to actually try to have something serious that shouldn't matter on how you're dressing so then why not just take naked
06:26:21
Melodyprofile picks cuz you you'll get account man let her answer let her answer why would you only just take naked profile picks would I want to do that would I want to have my body allos like that hang on if it
06:26:34
Andrew Wilsondoesn't matter how you're dressed then why dress at all Andrew is a nudist I should just want you like I mean it's a serious question if it doesn't matter how you're dressed
06:26:47
Andrew Wilsonif that's not a presentation of you and who you are then why dress at all why dress at all yeah do you wear clothes every day cuz it's like I'm talking about on your dating app I'm
06:26:58
Andrew Wilsontalking about on the dating app if on the dating app if the idea here is hey shouldn't matter how you dress who cares right some guys are going to like it if you dress or skimpy because they just
06:27:10
Andrew Wilsonyou know they want to wife you up anyway some guys don't care blah blah blah blah blah well then if you want to appeal to the most amount of men possible that I could think of to grab the most amount of attention why put any clothes on I'm
06:27:22
Melodyappealing to myself so for me if I'm on a dating site it's going to be what I want to show these guys so if there's one picture I want to be sexy if there's one picture I want to be smart if there's one picture I want to be cute
06:27:32
Andrew Wilsonand dorky it's up to me to do that it's not why would you ask that question oh just like just take your clothes off the idea on the dating site to net the certain type of man that you're a the
06:27:43
Melodymost attracted to and B has all the other criteria of the things you want I'm not going to find that out on a dating site I'm going to find that probably 3 months in when he stops giving me all his [ __ ] and shows me
06:27:55
Andrew Wilsonthe real person meet that person on a dating site right sorry you could meet that person on a dating site yeah you can so you would put up the criteria that that would weed out the people you
06:28:05
Andrew Wilsondon't want right sometimes there's catfishes on those da I'll give you some like basic criteria you're going to put in an age range you're going to say I don't want an 85-year-old right you're going to say I
06:28:17
Andrew Wilsondon't want a guy who only makes $5,000 a year you're going to say those types of things on your dating profile you'll do what on your dating profile do you say
06:28:28
Andrew Wilsonthose things about girls she has to make this amount of money to date you yeah I think I think yeah for men with dating profiles they'll say um you know I don't
06:28:38
Andrew Wilsonwant a woman who's 85 I want a woman between the ages of like 25 and 35 or 35 and 45 or they'll say I want a woman who's not plus-sized or they they'll put in all sorts of criteria to rule out
06:28:51
Andrew Wilsonwomen they don't want just like women will put in criteria to rule out men they don't want right correct yeah I agree yeah so I mean if that's the case
06:29:01
Andrew Wilsonthen when you say well I have cr for a man I want they have to meet ex criteria correct I think everyone's criteria is different yeah I agree but but for your
06:29:12
Andrew Wilsoncriteria if you're looking for like a husband who's I don't know faithful and Christian and this and that you clearly would not want to dress provocatively
06:29:21
Andrew Wilsonbecause those men would not respond to those kinds of women right am I dressed provocatively right now that it it I'm just asking a question you've asked me many today I think I should get
06:29:34
Andrew Wilsonget this one you want to take your makeup off I am I am I'm ready for b no you don't want to answer that question it doesn't matter I don't normally okay
06:29:45
Andrew Wilsonlet here let me let me show you let me show you why this is frustrating for me if I say yes it doesn't matter and if I say no it doesn't matter neither thing applies to anything I'm saying right now
06:29:55
Melodyso here so here I'll show you I'll I'll actually demonstrate this for you yes you're dressed provocatively what does that have to do with what I just said okay so in my profile picture if I put
06:30:06
Andrew Wilsonthis on my profile picture that's that's making a man think that I'm not well suited to be great sure now we'll hold that thought no you're not dressed
06:30:20
Andrew Wilsonprovocatively you just said that I was yeah I know but now I'm saying you're not can you apply how that has anything to do with what I just said either way am I not speaking English out I
06:30:33
Andrew Wilsondon't know is it second language you look exotic so thank you it could you because because regardless of what my answer is as to you dressing
06:30:43
Andrew Wilsonprovocatively has zero to do with the idea that if a woman wanted to net a man who had the criteria of doesn't want a [ __ ] for instance they would not dress
06:30:56
Andrew Wilsonprovocatively because they would be giving the illusion that they were a [ __ ] or if they if the opposite could be true where they're trying to just net a guy for the same night to [ __ ] they
06:31:08
Andrew Wilsonmight dress horish that makes sense right y that's that's why whether or not you personally are dressed provocatively has literally nothing to do with what we're talking
06:31:19
Andrew Wilsonabout yep okay all right you want to take the I I still I I don't I don't even think you understood what I just said I'm just at this point I I just kind of throw in the towel well I got
06:31:30
Brian Atlassome questions here so moving over to Melody who just St do you want to take your makeup off by the way no I'm okay thanks okay by the way what are you you speak Spanish or what's your no I'm
06:31:40
MelodyDominican my parents are from Dr but I was raised here born in the Bronx what do they speak in did they speak a different language in the no um when I was growing up we were near a lot of